Why do people cheat?

[Flagg]

Cheating.

Not a nice word when you look at it and what it implies. Have any of you ever been cheated on? Have you been the cheater or have you been the other person (the one that the cheater is cheating with)?

Why do people do it?

There's a statement coined, "once a cheater, always a cheater". But I think that's an untrue statement. Well, it's not necessarily untrue, but it depends on the circumstances. There are basically two types of cheaters:

1) The Manipulative Cheater

2) The Unhappy Cheater

Once a cheater, always a cheater I think definitely applies to the first type. These are people that think they are clever and smart, and are totally apathetic to the people they are cheating on.

Then you have the second type, which are people that are desperately unhappy in their current situation. Prehaps they are in a abusive relationship, or there are kids involved, or they simply dont have the strength to end their bad relationship. So they seek out someone that will make them feel good again. These are people that are probably not repeat offenders.

Cheating isn't as black and white as people think.

[Dukkit]

I cheat because Im young, Im impulsive, I get bored easily.

If a girl annoys me, or gets me mad.... Ill go cheat.

If Im with someone for awhile and get bored, but still have feelings for them... Ill cheat.
That way I can keep the emotional connection with them, but find a new, exciting sexual connection.

There are many reasons to cheat.

[MACHINE5150]

I cheat because Im young, Im impulsive, I get bored easily.

If a girl annoys me, or gets me mad.... Ill go cheat.

If Im with someone for awhile and get bored, but still have feelings for them... Ill cheat.
That way I can keep the emotional connection with them, but find a new, exciting sexual connection.

There are many reasons to cheat.

I used to be exactly like this when i was younger, but i had been cheated on twice.. one girl ended up marrying the guy, the other was a sex machine (threesomes galore (: ) so when she cheated on me i wasn't to upset because technically i cheated on her with her and another woman several times so i couldn't bitch too much..

i cheated on the first one and told her because i felt guilty..

Now that i am older i feel that people should always be honest with eachother.. When you decide to become an adult you put away childish things..

[Stigmata101]

because they are life sucking, manipulative, lieing, pathetic, fake, low self esteem, dirty bitches

[Stigmata101]

except for my wife..............

[gym_junki]

except for my wife..............

lmao

[zimmy]

1 reason....they are cowardly

If they didn't want to settle...then they could just date around and it would be all open and woudln't hurt / toy with anybody... so if they are in a relationship to start we can rule that out and know that they want to be with someone exclusively.

So then the reason they cheat is simple...they are too damned cowardly to say "Hey i'm not really feeling this relationship anymore and think I need to break up" BEFORE THEY DO SOMEONE ELSE. I mean seriously how hard is it? People say "oh i was in the moment"...bullshit, call some one up when stuff is happening and say do it over the phone. But hey why do the honorable thing like that when you can sneak around like a little b*tch.

[gym_junki]

1 reason....they are cowardly

If they didn't want to settle...then they could just date around and it would be all open and woudln't hurt toy with anybody... so if they are in a relationship to start we can rule out that they want to be with someone exclusively.

So then the reason they cheat is simple...they are too damned cowardly to say "Hey i'm not really feeling this relationship anymore and think I need to break up" BEFORE THEY DO SOMEONE ELSE. I mean seriously how hard is it? People say "oh i was in the moment"...bullshit, call some one up when stuff is happening and say do it over the phone. But hey why do the honorable thing like that when you can sneak around like a little b*tch.

true

[gym_junki]

never cheated on a girl ever and i havent been cheated on well thats wat i kno. i wouldnt like to be cheated on so y should i cheat on her.

[Hazard]

I've been the cheater..... I've been cheated on..... and i've been the one someone cheated with lol.

Dukkit pretty much summed it up really..... It's NOT black and white at all. Sometimes you love the emotional connection that you have with someone and you don't want to let that go. However..... they aren't filling your sexual wants or need..... so you find it somewhere else without having to destroy the emotional connection.

Also, I saw a study where they linked cheating to a gene. I'll have to see if I can find it..... but guys who had a certain gene were vastly more prone to cheating than those without it.

~Haz~

[zimmy]

I've been the cheater..... I've been cheated on..... and i've been the one someone cheated with lol.

Dukkit pretty much summed it up really..... It's NOT black and white at all. Sometimes you love the emotional connection that you have with someone and you don't want to let that go. However..... they aren't filling your sexual wants or need..... so you find it somewhere else without having to destroy the emotional connection.

Also, I saw a study where they linked cheating to a gene. I'll have to see if I can find it..... but guys who had a certain gene were vastly more prone to cheating than those without it.

~Haz~

yah and fatties say over eating is a gene...and some people say criminal mentality is a gene...I mean hey, why try to do the right thing if we can just blame it on gene's.

[Knockout_Power]

yah and fatties say over eating is a gene...and some people say criminal mentality is a gene...I mean hey, why try to do the right thing if we can just blame it on gene's.

I have a not getting laid gene... its a perfectly legitmate claim...

[Hazard]

They linked being gay to lack of the FucM gene

~Haz~

[Shol'va]

They linked being gay to lack of the FucM gene

~Haz~

I'm gay and have plenty of FucM genes in me. If I had my way I'd FucM you too.

[Hazard]

I'm gay and have plenty of FucM genes in me. If I had my way I'd FucM you too.

LMFAO! I literally just laughed out loud hahaha

~Haz~

[Hazard]

If you don't believe it's true..... volunteer yourself for the human study in korea and allow them to remove the gene and see what happens

~Haz~

[Mr.Rose]

If you don't believe it's true..... volunteer yourself for the human study in korea and allow them to remove the gene and see what happens

~Haz~

You turn into cal?

[Mr.Rose]

I got cheated on three times in a row all with serious GF's. I gave up on love. Now I'm a whore.

[Knockout_Power]

I got cheated on three times in a row all with serious GF's. I gave up on love. Now I'm a whore.

definately a respectabel pursuit... I am jealous

[Shol'va]

Cheating.

Not a nice word when you look at it and what it implies. Have any of you ever been cheated on? Have you been the cheater or have you been the other person (the one that the cheater is cheating with)?

Why do people do it?

There's a statement coined, "once a cheater, always a cheater". But I think that's an untrue statement. Well, it's not necessarily untrue, but it depends on the circumstances. There are basically two types of cheaters:

1) The Manipulative Cheater

2) The Unhappy Cheater

Once a cheater, always a cheater I think definitely applies to the first type. These are people that think they are clever and smart, and are totally apathetic to the people they are cheating on.

Then you have the second type, which are people that are desperately unhappy in their current situation. Prehaps they are in a abusive relationship, or there are kids involved, or they simply dont have the strength to end their bad relationship. So they seek out someone that will make them feel good again. These are people that are probably not repeat offenders.

Cheating isn't as black and white as people think.

You can add one more to your list....The Revenge Cheater!

[DSM4Life]

If I followed my D*** I would stick it in anything. I love having sex just as much if not more than most men. Are there times where I might get a dry spell from sex because of work/stress/whatever? Sure. Does that give me a excuse to cheat ? No.

I have guys outright tell me "I know your in a relationship but I would fool around without telling anyone." When stuff like this happens I use my brain, unlike most simple men. Why risk a 4 year loving relationship for a one night stand. If your willing to take that chance you don't love your partner, no if and's or buts about it.

[zimmy]

If I followed my D*** I would stick it in anything. I love having sex just as much if not more than most men. Are there times where I might get a dry spell from sex because of work/stress/whatever? Sure. Does that give me a excuse to cheat ? No.

I have guys outright tell me "I know your in a relationship but I would fool around without telling anyone." When stuff like this happens I use my brain, unlike most simple men. Why risk a 4 year loving relationship for a one night stand. If your willing to take that chance you don't love your partner, no if and's or buts about it.

If you are having a dry spell...just use lube! DUH

[DSM4Life]

If you are having a dry spell...just use lube! DUH

Or spit.

[Shol'va]

If I followed my D*** I would stick it in anything. I love having sex just as much if not more than most men. Are there times where I might get a dry spell from sex because of work/stress/whatever? Sure. Does that give me a excuse to cheat ? No.

I have guys outright tell me "I know your in a relationship but I would fool around without telling anyone." When stuff like this happens I use my brain, unlike most simple men. Why risk a 4 year loving relationship for a one night stand. If your willing to take that chance you don't love your partner, no if and's or buts about it.

So profound.

[D3m3nt3d]

Well...if my wife did cheat, which physically I don't too much feel she did, emotionally, now that may be another story. But you never know. I would have pegged her as the unhappy cheater, which she made it obvious she was unhappy the last several months. Of course you were, school was almost out and you had no reason to use me anymore

Altho she would have been the Unhappy Cheater, it was definitely a repeat offense. She did the same thing with her first husband, if you want to call 2 months of being married a marriage.

[Diamond*K]

i cant sleep with 2 guys at the same time.... even if it wasnt serious....

i've been in the position b4 where i felt neglected in a relationship and possibly cheated on.. so i started to fall for another guy and we kissed. i wasnt havin problems for sexual reasons.. it was more about not feeling loved so getting it from sum1 who does. but its not in my trait to do so... i get bad nightmares and usually end both relationships....

[Knockout_Power]

i cant sleep with 2 guys at the same time.... even if it wasnt serious....

i've been in the position b4 where i felt neglected in a relationship and possibly cheated on.. so i started to fall for another guy and we kissed. i wasnt havin problems for sexual reasons.. it was more about not feeling loved so getting it from sum1 who does. but its not in my trait to do so... i get bad nightmares and usually end both relationships....

I hear ya on this one... even after 3 years with my ex of limited to no sex life and then the last 13 months of none at all I still couldnt bring myself to go find someone just for the sake of sex.

[Diamond*K]

kp... ur makin me feel bad for you.....lol

[Knockout_Power]

kp... ur makin me feel bad for you.....lol

right on, sympathey..... but try not to, we all make our own choices

[Diamond*K]

right on, sympathey..... but try not to, we all make our own choices

lol.. so ur choosing to not have sex??

[Knockout_Power]

lol.. so ur choosing to not have sex??

heh, no, I meant going so long in a bad situation and not cheating just for the sake of sex...

Im not sure if there are any rules about how long you should wait after a long relationship to get re-released back into the wild for a new and hopefully more adventurous endeavor

[Shol'va]

heh, no, I meant going so long in a bad situation and not cheating just for the sake of sex...

Im not sure if there are any rules about how long you should wait after a long relationship to get re-released back into the wild for a new and hopefully more adventurous endeavor

KP just give in and go Bi that way you'll have twice as many chances of picking up a date on friday and saturday nights.

[Knockout_Power]

he's going to make the drive from kitchener? I may not head that way, not sure yet... I need to find a good hotel in the TO area, somewhere thats easy to get around the city from.

[Standby]

he's going to make the drive from kitchener? I may not head that way, not sure yet... I need to find a good hotel in the TO area, somewhere thats easy to get around the city from.

if i can crash on the floor in your hotel room or something (completely no homo) ill come up to kitchener or toronto and party all night lmao

[Knockout_Power]

if i can crash on the floor in your hotel room or something (completely no homo) ill come up to kitchener or toronto and party all night lmao

wont be a problem, depending on how big the room is

[Standby]

wont be a problem, depending on how big the room is

alright as long as you keep me out of trouble lol the bouncers didnt like me saturday night. oh who am i kidding i dont care if theres trouble lmao

[Knockout_Power]

alright as long as you keep me out of trouble lol the bouncers didnt like me saturday night. oh who am i kidding i dont care if theres trouble lmao

my temper is not as bad as Cal makes it out to be... I just have a thing for inconsiderate people... I just happen to hit really fukken hard so it ends up bad.

[Older lifter]

I know i would cheat, thats why i have never married and don't have any long term relationships, i also make it very clear that i don't want either of those at the start. I like my life just how it is, whats mine is mine and i never get bored of looking at the same face...

Shallow i know but, i never want kids, i have got used to being like this with the work i did and not everyone is designed to be the married with 2.5 kids type

[Knockout_Power]

I cheated on my left hand with my right and we didnt talk or cuddle for almost a week.

[xlxBigSexyxlx]