Thread: Ex update
09-10-2004, 04:13 PM #1
The abridged version:
Wed I get called by my ex's now current (was ex when we were together) girlfriend. She wants to know if we are still talking and seeing one another.
To back up a bit, on Monday I finally had enough of the bullchit and wrote him an email basically telling him to not write, call or stop by.
So....I tell her to ask her bf and she tells me she has tried and he won't tell her but he's been acting funny since the middle of Aug and the last two days he's been a jerk to her. She tells me .... she's pregnant and on top of that she has a terminal illness (hmm not sure if I believe her or not...it's Graves disease...and I don't know anything about it).
If you do the math...about the time he started coming around again was about the time she told him she "thinks" she might be pregnant. And...the time he started being a real ass to her was when I told him to pack sand.
It got a bit ugly for him that day but she told me a lot of things that I had always wondered. Some things she said I think was her trying to make sure that I wouldn't want to go back....she didn't need to worry there.
I confronted him with it all and of course he denied it.
So, what it boiled down to is that he was getting scared with her so he came back around me for "comfort" and when I told him that I couldn't be his friend because he was with her....he started treating her bad.
So.....I'm done. He's dead to me. I just wish this wasn't such a small place cause I can't avoid him. Saw him in the gym last nite and we passed one another when I came to work today. But....I didn't get that horrible aching feeling in my heart this time so I think Im moving on to OK with it.
Thanks everyone for giving me words of encouragement. Things are hard enough for me right now because of some possible issues with my health and I don't need him making it worse.
My AR family....there may be drama....but you guys are the greatest.
09-10-2004, 04:21 PM #2
men are pigs, i speak for all of us
09-10-2004, 04:26 PM #3
As long as you have moved on, stay moved on. No one needs any more drama in there lives. Plus you are just too HOT to worry about it. We have a saying in spanish....Un clavo quita el otro.....Or....One nail takes out the other...You will be fine...Good looking women always do well...lol....funny but true.
09-10-2004, 04:34 PM #4
Congrats CB for finally realizing he's a loser. Look what he's doing to this poor girl. Just think, that could be u...When u see him dont even acknowledge him and u'll be fine.
I hope everything will be ok with any health issues u maybe having. Even though we've never met i can tell u speak from the heart and deserve all the best! take care
09-10-2004, 04:35 PM #5
Looks like you have it together Lady.
09-10-2004, 04:44 PM #6
Girl, it must be going around....Mine asked if he could see me tonight. I was like are you kidding me? He said but I miss you, and want to spend some time with you. I said, Look you seem real happy where you are, so stay there. I dont want to see you that way, so don't try and call and don't ask what I am doing in my private life. I sure wanted to tell him that me and a friend took a guy I am talking to to a strip club and got crazy.....You should try it, you will forget about how much fun you have missed out on crying over him!!!!!!!
09-10-2004, 04:59 PM #7Originally Posted by RedBaron
09-10-2004, 05:28 PM #8
just tell em u love an atlanta ex pig..lol
09-10-2004, 05:48 PM #9Originally Posted by Decadbal
09-10-2004, 06:10 PM #10
Stick to your guns Barbi, and don't let him play with your emotions.
09-10-2004, 07:46 PM #11
Thanks all. You are so right and I saw reality all too clear the last few days. I am done with his **** drama. Gonna live life to the fullest from now on and not worry about relationships right now.
Tx you and I deserve better. I'll make you a deal. I'll never go back....if you don't
09-10-2004, 11:30 PM #12Female Member
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Barbie....thats a big step to ...get to ok with it......just stand your ground......you know you have been down that road and what it leads to....learn from that mistake and show the next man ..what a wonderful woman you are...
09-11-2004, 09:00 AM #13Originally Posted by Commando_Barbi
09-11-2004, 09:22 AM #14
Hey CB~glad you're finally feeling ok with everything. Stick to your guns. I've done it in the past and have been soooooo glad that I told the guy to stop all contact.
Hope your health concerns are better soon!
09-11-2004, 02:02 PM #15Originally Posted by Commando_Barbi
09-11-2004, 03:02 PM #16
More on the story...
I go out with a friend last night and guess who I run into in the local meat market??? but my ex with some little hoochie!
His girl, the one he dumped me for is home alone in Cali....just having gone through all the bull**** with him and me and they are supposed to be working on things. She's pregnant, etc. He doesn't have the respect to stay out of the clubs....atleast for a few weeks until things are settled. I wanted to kick his ass then and there.
Im so glad I'm done with him. I feel sorry for her.
09-11-2004, 03:03 PM #17Originally Posted by TexasFitnessGirl
09-11-2004, 03:57 PM #18Female Member
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Barbie sounds like the guy has issues of being alone...he doesn't know what to do with himself...he has to have a woman to ..complete him....
glad your moved on...hes gonna make a heck of a dad.......poor child...
09-11-2004, 04:43 PM #19
Once a cheat always a cheat
09-11-2004, 04:53 PM #20
"Your cheatin' heart
Will tell on you"
09-11-2004, 05:10 PM #21
Yep. Sad thing is I talked to her today and I think she's hanging on to him....dispite his lies. He told her he stayed home home and went to bed. When he got caught he used the I got called to be the designated driver line. What a creep.
She's welcome to him. Better things on my horizon
09-11-2004, 05:55 PM #22Originally Posted by Commando_Barbi
09-11-2004, 06:10 PM #23
I have a friend who is in the army. His wife got boobs put in and bought a bunch of jewlrey and stuff with is hard earned money whilst in Iraq. He comes back and she wants a divorce. They get divorced and all kinds of ugliness. Five months later now and they are back together. Some people don't learn.
09-11-2004, 07:13 PM #24
I know what you mean. I've been talking to her for a while...and she keeps forgiving him and taking him back. Told her that if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and sounds like a duck.....it's probably a duck. She can suffer with that.....if she's dumb enough to stay with him.
Originally Posted by pietro75
09-11-2004, 07:25 PM #25Originally Posted by TexasFitnessGirl
09-11-2004, 09:23 PM #26Originally Posted by pietro75
09-11-2004, 10:43 PM #27
Tex....girl you deserve better than that. Let him go. You got know it as well as I do. It's hard as hell to do, but it's better for you in the end.
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