You guys are the best and i really need your help

[sonar1234]

I have been on this board for a while and you guys are the best bunch ever.

Sad news my father passed away after a long battle against colon cancer stage 4, passed away last week.

I took 2 weeks off from the job to care for him the last week and the 5 days allowed after is death.

My boss is an idiot and a fukking manipulator, i did not invite anyone from my job at the funeral cause this is a family matter.

My boss showed up and told me 3 times i know you didnt want me to come but i came anyways for support just to make me feel guilty of not inviting him and the rest of the work people. This is my father funeral for god sake who is he to say shit like that. He shooke my hand and told me i could take the time i wanted or needed to come back to the job.

Beleive it or not the next day he left a message on my cell phone asking me when i was coming back cause the workload was getting heavy..........

I am buying a house so i cant just quit my job but i am looking for something else i have 8 years of experience has a computer techicien and yet again have trouble finding something else.

I have a hard time being an hypocrite too, i just hate my boss and know i have to find a way to deal with this.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks everyone.

[sonar1234]

BTW when life smiles at me again and find something else he can stick is 2 weeks notice in is lying ass

[taiboxa]

First im sorry for your loss, but he is in a better place i asure you. Sometimes i wish i was there

anyways everything happens for a reason.

maybe he was really trying to show he cares?

work is work and u gotta do wat you gotta do to survive.. not to be hard but your fathers gone and in many cultures people rejoice when someone passes for they know they are in a better place, i suggest you do the same and press on w/ life knowing ur father is always w/ you.

anyways good luck and godspeed.

[sonar1234]

taiboxa thanks bro, yeah the priest that was at my father funeral gave a really good speech, he really made it clear that there is an afterlife.

I am praying my father and grand father for help on this situation and since i started to live a spiritual life back in 1998 i also beleive that there is a reason that thing happen, for me i guess that its time to look for a better job.

[Myka]

I wouldnt trust that guy...seems like his funeral appearance was just something he could hold over you...

Im sure youll be fine with 8 yrs experience with computers...just look around...

[steve0]

Bruh, im so sorry to hear about your fathers death, i myself cannot even imagein how i am going to handle my fathers death when that times comes, i give you support for haveing the balls to post this, and hands down for the way your de****g with this, I have never lost anyone close to m so i cannot understand what your going through.


But i can tell you to keep your head and dont stress about your boss and job, you are very well qualified in your feild and will find something soon that will suit you..

Its probally best for you to also return to work ASAP to stay busy and keep your mind off this dilima you are haveing, Just remeber bro to keep positive people around you good family and friends will keep you comfortable

[Alex2]

Sorry to hear about your father bro.

Have you tried searching on dice dot com and monster dot com? IT jobs are on high demand nowadays and you shouldn't have difficulty finding better job with your experience. Do you have any degrees?

[taiboxa]

taiboxa thanks bro, yeah the priest that was at my father funeral gave a really good speech, he really made it clear that there is an afterlife.

I am praying my father and grand father for help on this situation and since i started to live a spiritual life back in 1998 i also beleive that there is a reason that thing happen, for me i guess that its time to look for a better job.

if i was you.. i would become a ninja..

nothing is cooler than shooting a "HADOOKEN" at a party and people are like WOW he really is a ninja.. then people pay u to take people out.. or to perform at parties..

[Alex2]

if i was you.. i would become a ninja..

nothing is cooler than shooting a "HADOOKEN" at a party and people are like WOW he really is a ninja.. then people pay u to take people out.. or to perform at parties..

Yea but he doesn't have ninja yellow outfit

[sonar1234]

Thanks guys, you bet i did ,i have my cv posted on monster.ca, jobbom.

I have contacts at IBM and another branch called CGI but right now its low profile there is nothing.

I am not a programmer either but have some base knowlege in networking.

I know when i least expect it something will pop up.

[sonar1234]

Yea but he doesn't have ninja yellow outfit

You guys crack me out LOL, yeah i guess i could rip is throat out infront of the whole it department after all my boss is so good at mind games and scar tatics he even treatens people to fire them that piece of shit.

[taiboxa]

Yea but he doesn't have ninja yellow outfit

NONO it goes black then yellow then red!
black is where everyone starts at!

gahhhhhh... i have to explain everything?!

[alphaman]

if i was you.. i would become a ninja..

nothing is cooler than shooting a "HADOOKEN" at a party and people are like WOW he really is a ninja.. then people pay u to take people out.. or to perform at parties..

aahhyulegit!


Sorry for your loss.

[Alex2]

Try applying to consultants as well. They are not like full time positions but they pay very well.

[sonar1234]

Try applying to consultants as well. They are not like full time positions but they pay very well.

Upon my interview with IBM/LGS i have asked for anything, permanent, part time (get a foot in the company) and consultant.

I have contacted a few head hunters that work in consulting but they just dont have anything for a computer technicien.

Its quit discouraging.

Has for my father i dont feel bad at all, i was with him til then end cancer is the worst shit ever, he was skinny at the end and i add to feed him like a baby cause he was so damn weak. When the time came he could not swallow anymore, we add to give him morphine patches and injectible.

My father add one hell of a strong heart and that kept him alive even more.

I dont which this to anyone, morphine just fukks you up so much, you dont feel pain thats the good news but in the end my father didnt even knew who i was even my mother.

I told my father many times to get a damn check up, no he just waited til the last minute, and it was too late.

A check up take some time but it can save your life.

[alphaman]

I dont which this to anyone, morphine just fukks you up so much, you dont feel pain thats the good news but in the end my father didnt even knew who i was even my mother.

I know what you mean. My grandfather went through the same thing, and it was hard to see him like he was on the morphine, but I know it kept him out of pain, and I think it made him happy at times. He acted like a little kid! I felt really bad beacause I laughed at some of the stuff he said.

[sonar1234]

My fahter let himself go the last meal he add, he add an insure bottle drank one mouthful and some small fruits that he add trouble swallowing. Then he looked at my mother and said ( Am i gonna stay like this for long now).

Thats a hit in the heart right there. He always add hopes to win is battle and we always add hopes he would.

I miss him so much, each time i go to my mother house i go downstairs where he used to watch tv and i sort of look for him, i still cant beleive he is gone.

[SVTMuscle*]

im sorry about your father man, thats horrible, i cannot do anything to make you feel better except this, so im gonna go ahead and do it.

[hotstuff]

OMG....sweetie....
I am so sorry for your loss. Honestly if my father died right now I don't know how I would handle myself. I would be a complete basketcase. I wish you well at this hard time in your life.

As for your boss.....ya know I've had a boss before that had a very hard time showing compassion. I worked for him for 5 long years...but I got to know his "sides " during that time.
My boss would probably have done the same thing yours did....he cared and felt bad because you were an employee and he wanted to show his respects...so he would have come to the funeral(whether invited or not) and then the next day for him the remorse would have been over....it wasn't his dad right??? and then he would have been thinking about work again.
Hell. my old boss was the type that would say work would get you over personal experiences....hah

maybe we worked for the same guy? lol

i'm sorry for your loss sweetie. hang in there!

[Carlos_E]

Sorry for your loss. I know how it feels. I lost my Dad to. He suffered before he passed. I think you should talk to your boss and tell him to back off. Tell him straight up that him breathing down your back is hurting not helping.

I find lots of IT jobs on monster.com and hotjobs.com search both sites.

[sonar1234]

It is time for a change, i just hate my job, i hate my boss and i hate my co workers here is why.

The company i am at is growing they cell some dumb bath tubs over bath tubs and we have office people and plant people, i mix with both, and have friends in the plant. My co workers woulndt be cought dead talking to someone in the plant and its amazing to see how there is a big line seperating the office and the plant. I never ever worked with idiots that are so full of it in my life.

2006 is a new year i am buying a house with my girlfriend and might need a bit more then 32k a year to be comfortable, i know that elsewhere there are gonna be assholes but beleive me i have done many places and never seen assholes like where i work at.

[GQ-Bouncer]

sorry for your loss brutha