Opinion on this.... girl opinions are welcome/probably better lol.

[Dtrain17]

I don't post often here, I usually like doing this sort of thing my way but now i'm not sure lol.

So, I'm 22 almost 23, live at home (not uncommon where i'm at at my age - Canada), have a job and am going to do apprenticeship school in September.
I talked to a girl at the bank in December, she's hot as fuark and has to be low 30's. She was really nice, nothing came out of it. Last week went to get $ at same bank again, I saw her and we talked, ended up talking about a book I have, she said she wanted to read it and I said i'd bring it in. 3 days ago I brought it in lol, she's definately the quiet type, takes care of herself...I feel like this is going to end up being the storyline for Knocked Up 2.

She seems very interested, she said do you have a cell so I can call or txt you when I finish reading, "I read fast".....lol. The way she said it was like she wanted it more so we could meet. Now it will be SO awkward with my parents if she ever came over, it's honestly not a possibilty, my dad and mom aren't good with people, we'll just say.
So when (if) she txts, what do I say, I'm mostly interested in a relationship, not just banging her...tbh I can't even/could never stay hard, Idk why so while I try to get that fixed natually.. I'd like to see her.

Now she's quiet, i'm shy at first, so no restaurant!! Should I even bother, and what to do? - maybe a walk i'm thinking. Anyways again, i'm 23, Seth Rogen in knocked up and she's really cute, nice body, and she's really nice all the time and laughs at what I say (not at me lol) and I never attract good looking or in shape girls, even though i'm avg looking and in pretty good shape, muscular/abs.

Thx for the help boys, btw I don't think she knows i'm 23 but at least since she saw my bank account I know she's not in it for the money. I won't be able to reply soon, either.

*Edit, I honestly need to live at home for now too, I know 'go find an apartment' but I'm saving lots of $ and really need to be home when I work 45+ hrs a week plus gym plus schooling, it helps so I can get a house.

[austinite]

1. Living at home at your age should not be considered "common" anywhere, unless you're in the 3rd world.
2. Relationships are for suckers.
3. You're 22. You should be balls deep by now.
4. Broads like men. Men don't live at home with Mommy and Daddy.
5. You're welcome, Kiddo.

[Bert]

1. Living at home at your age should not be considered "common" anywhere, unless you're in the 3rd world.
2. Relationships are for suckers.
3. You're 22. You should be balls deep by now.
4. Broads like men. Men don't live at home with Mommy and Daddy.
5. You're welcome, Kiddo.

Ditto

[redz]

Dude just go bang her don't worry about a relationship at this stage if you live at home. I'm pretty reckless sometimes but the differences is I own a house and have a career so I'll be able to pay for the babies I make. What would you do?ask mommy and daddy?

[Lunk1]

Whatever you decide just please never consider relationship advice from Redz. Best of luck

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[Black]

Honestly, I bet she just wants to bang and not looking for a relationship.

So, ask her out to dinner and pick her up. Have a good steak and a drink to loosen up. Take her back home to drop her off. At first opportunity, make a move and seal the deal at her place.

Boom, parents aren't an issue.

[redz]

Whatever you decide just please never consider relationship advice from Redz. Best of luck

im telling him not to Be in a relationship not how to be in one. Being wreckless is fine if you're prepared to deal with the outcome and have the means to handle it.

[diesel101]

Dude just go bang her don't worry about a relationship at this stage if you live at home. I'm pretty reckless sometimes but the differences is I own a house and have a career so I'll be able to pay for the babies I make. What would you do?ask mommy and daddy?

Redz you reckless? No way but I will give you credit Redz you definitely know how to have fun and keep your life interesting!

[hawk14dl]

Honestly, I bet she just wants to bang and not looking for a relationship.

So, ask her out to dinner and pick her up. Have a good steak and a drink to loosen up. Take her back home to drop her off. At first opportunity, make a move and seal the deal at her place.

Boom, parents aren't an issue.

Perfect advice right here

[hawk14dl]

Also, schedule an appointment with your dr. at 22 there's no reason you shouldn't be a walking talking hard on. I was fking everything that looked like a vag at that age

[bikeral]

Only advise I can give is don't take relationship advice from me.

You're welcome

[redz]

Also, schedule an appointment with your dr. at 22 there's no reason you shouldn't be a walking talking hard on. I was fking everything that looked like a vag at that age
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Ive never been like this either it's about quality for me. My new rule now is that they have to be super hot and mentally sound which has lead me to younger woman that are less damaged.

[kelkel]

Redz you need to start a new thread:

"Dating advice by Redz"

I bet it'll explode.

[RaginCajun]

Don't listen to me, I have a smoothie

[redz]

Redz you need to start a new thread:

"Dating advice by Redz"

I bet it'll explode.

i think that could be a great idea.

[kelkel]

i think that could be a great idea.

I'm serious. Dating Q & A with Redz. It'll be a lot of fun!

[RaginCajun]

I'm serious. Dating Q & A with Redz. It'll be a lot of fun!

i concur!

[Hrothgar]

1. Living at home at your age should not be considered "common" anywhere, unless you're in the 3rd world.

It's surprisingly common with this generation. So many people from this generation went to college compared to the last generation and lo and behold all the people who majored in liberal arts programs can't get jobs in something related to their major and they think they are too good to work a trade because they went to college so they stay unemployed at home usually. At least that's the trend I've been noticing in the US, dunno about Canada.

[Dtrain17]

Okay thanks, well I'd bang her if I could. I guess i'll just tell her to keep the book lol. It's too bad because she's really hot. Now her self esteem may drop lol. Also for whoever said go to the dr, I did and she just said 'it's in my head' I get somewhat hard then less and less even while i'm in the middle of it, not really crazy hard during a bj which is not supposed to happen....
Also like I said I couldn't save enough $ while living on my own to be able to do things and I live well within my means, because I need to save for a house and still have to finish school for a trade.
Anyways thanks for the advice!

[Dtrain17]

Thanks Bikeral haha.

[dk94]

Dont go in looking for a relationship with her, be your self and hangout, try to bang her. If shes 30 something and single, her eggs are numbered and she knows it, she may latch on to you more than you would like.

[Dtrain17]

That's true, I just wanted to hangout and find out more. I met her at Christmas and I still remember her - which normally I wouldn't but she was super nice. Some guy shoulda gotten her by now lol. I'm not going in looking for a relationship, it's what I would ultimately want, i'd rather go in looking for that than to bang her and it be over. I think i'll just go with how I feel, I guess I just wanted you guys to make the decision for me lol but every case is different. Since she is shy and i'm not the best with first dates - i'm not bad but I think the dinner thing could get awkward, aka if she thought I was 30 and finds out i'm not which honestly I think is the case, happened last week at the gym with a 40 yr old and she wasn't bad lol... so maybe go for a walk ?!

[hawk14dl]

Also for whoever said go to the dr, I did and she just said 'it's in my head' I get somewhat hard then less and less even while i'm in the middle of it, not really crazy hard during a bj which is not supposed to happen....

Dude, go to a different dr. Seriously, it's not possible for a22 year old to not get hard because it's"in your head".

Your dr is a quack. Find a new one.

And Man, by all means get to know her. Be friends. Take it slow (at least till you figure out the e.d.). I have a lot of good female friends. Go for it don't let us decide what you should do

[Bigshotvictoria]

Canadian here, can confirm: Living with parents at 23 NOT the norm.

[MuscleInk]

Is she Asian!?!? Can I see pics??????

[Dtrain17]

Canadian here, can confirm: Living with parents at 23 NOT the norm.

Majority of Canadians aged 20 to 29 live with parents - Macleans.ca

What was that you said?

[mikey hulk]

That's interesting I moved out at 17
I may have one friend who still lives at home however 98% moved out at 20 or earlier
I live in Ontario Canada

[mikey hulk]

And to add to that my two loser brother in laws
Both on assistance both in government housing both with 2 or 3 kids moved out before 20

[Hoggage_54]

So, I'm 22 almost 23, live at home

[Bigshotvictoria]

Majority of Canadians aged 20 to 29 live with parents - Macleans.ca

What was that you said?

If you happened to read the actual study, you'd see that the sample size used to calculate these percentages was only 1500 people. That's hardly large enough for an accurate representation.

It also includes "... those who are temporarily away at school or for seasonal work. Anyone temporarily absent is coded as living in the household if he or she spends at least 30 days of the year at home. "
So anyone who goes home for summer break from UNI is also considered living at home in this study.

[Dtrain17]

There was also an article in our paper about it. I don't get how it's so bad... okay so I make 14$ an hour, I work full time and need to go to school still for apprenticeship and go to the gym and cook all my own food. I can rent an apartment and save maybe 50$ a month till i'm 30 and then have enough to put a downpayment on a house or I can save right now.
If I go on facebook and look at those who live on their own, which IS a good thing being independent but these people are the same ones that are also married already and have kids, which 50% of marriages end in divorce, and I bet that statistic goes up even more now with everyone having kids when they're 21.

[Dtrain17]

I asked the guys at work who I work with that make what I make, they said if they lived on their own they would just barely get by. I must be missing out on the fun.

[Bigshotvictoria]

There was also an article in our paper about it. I don't get how it's so bad... okay so I make 14$ an hour, I work full time and need to go to school still for apprenticeship and go to the gym and cook all my own food. I can rent an apartment and save maybe 50$ a month till i'm 30 and then have enough to put a downpayment on a house or I can save right now.
If I go on facebook and look at those who live on their own, which IS a good thing being independent but these people are the same ones that are also married already and have kids, which 50% of marriages end in divorce, and I bet that statistic goes up even more now with everyone having kids when they're 21.

Not passing judgement at all, just pointing out that Statistics Canada doesn't always give an accurate representation of reality. Shit, I get it. My wife and I are both healthcare professionals and we can barely get by. To say our student loans are massive would be an understatement.

[canesfan804]

If you happened to read the actual study, you'd see that the sample size used to calculate these percentages was only 1500 people. That's hardly large enough for an accurate representation.

It also includes "... those who are temporarily away at school or for seasonal work. Anyone temporarily absent is coded as living in the household if he or she spends at least 30 days of the year at home. "
So anyone who goes home for summer break from UNI is also considered living at home in this study.

In my opinion the kids who are at college on mommy and daddys dime SHOULD be counted as still living at home. As for OP there is nothing wrong with staying home and saving money as long as you save the money. I was 17 when I moved out and would have loved to actually been able to save some cash. Everyone has their own path as long as you are being a productive member of society its all good.

[Dtrain17]

Not passing judgement at all, just pointing out that Statistics Canada doesn't always give an accurate representation of reality. Shit, I get it. My wife and I are both healthcare professionals and we can barely get by. To say our student loans are massive would be an understatement.

People on this forum are quick to put you down I noticed. Does everyone make 40$ an hour here where they were loaded and could live off that from 21 yrs old? Everyone I know that is on their own like I said is POOR, they can't afford anything extra, and yes I'm saving everything I can, I work every overtime hour I can, I don't go downtown, went once in my life, I save probably 50-60% of my income towards a house/rrsp. And canesfan804, i'm sure everyone told you "stay at home as long as you can" that's all I hear from older guys or people my age at work that are on their own.
But then I wouldn't be "cool" - damn, what are people going to think about me????!!!!!!

[GirlyGymRat]

I'm serious. Dating Q & A with Redz. It'll be a lot of fun!

sense of humor you have there Kelkel??

[lovbyts]

If it's true what she says no going to dinner needed. If you want to get to know her better talking in bed or watching a movie is fine. No need to spend $$$$ Going to dinner is dating.

I hooked up with a couple girls back in my 20s who just wanted sex. One for a little over 6 months until I found someone I wanted to date. Mistake on my part. lol Another for almost a year. Only dating we did was going to the drive in movies. We always saw a double feature. One she would go down on me and the other I would spend going down on her.

[David LoPan]

People on this forum are quick to put you down I noticed. Does everyone make 40$ an hour here where they were loaded and could live off that from 21 yrs old? Everyone I know that is on their own like I said is POOR, they can't afford anything extra, and yes I'm saving everything I can, I work every overtime hour I can, I don't go downtown, went once in my life, I save probably 50-60% of my income towards a house/rrsp. And canesfan804, i'm sure everyone told you "stay at home as long as you can" that's all I hear from older guys or people my age at work that are on their own.
But then I wouldn't be "cool" - damn, what are people going to think about me????!!!!!!

Hey when I was young I had 3 jobs and went to school before having to go into the military. Its not bad you live at home if you can stand it. I moved out of my house my senior year in HS. I washed dishes, cleaned tables and worked at a fast food place. And I didn't have a car, just walked or rode my bike. Everyone has to start out somewhere. It may not be your responsibility for where you are but its your responsibility to get yourself somewhere better.

If a girl likes you they don't care if you live at home. Beware of the "friend zone" and make sure you get a kiss in early to see if there is chemistry. Good luck with the girl.

[David LoPan]

Oh if she is in her 30's then she has a place. Go there. Forget the parents. Girls like you for who you are. Always remember that. And dont wait for her to text you, if you have her number text or call her. If you dont have it, get it. She will like that . . . or get a protective order (thinking of redz on the PO)