Need advice on finding a gf

[laduem88]

ok so for the past year iv been messing around with the same 3 girls and i really just want to meet someone new that i actually like being around with. The only thing is that im shy and its kind of hard for me to meet girls. Im a good looking guy alot of girls say im hott so i should have the confidence to go up to girls and talk to them but i dont. I dont drink which is apparently why some girls dont want to go after me which IMO is messed up but w/e. Since im shy the only girls i get are the ones who come up to me, which im now starting to realize is the reason im always finding the crazy ones. Can someone give me some advice?!

[energizer bunny]

ok so for the past year iv been messing around with the same 3 girls and i really just want to meet someone new that i actually like being around with. The only thing is that im shy and its kind of hard for me to meet girls. Im a good looking guy alot of girls say im hott so i should have the confidence to go up to girls and talk to them but i dont. I dont drink which is apparently why some girls dont want to go after me which IMO is messed up but w/e. Since im shy the only girls i get are the ones who come up to me, which im now starting to realize is the reason im always finding the crazy ones. Can someone give me some advice?!

get them all together and film the action.....every girl for miles will come just for you..........

[PC650]

im the same way bro, im super shy i dont go and hit on chicks its really not my style. the girls i find that are just **** buddies are the ones you meet at bars or clubs. the ones i have always dated where girls who were friends of fiends. so they werent slutty h*res. i never date a girl unless i like hanging out with them, it almost should be as much as a friendship as well as a relationship

[Immortal Soldier]

Yeah if you don't party in college or drink all the time, Girls act like you have a sickness.

Meh, I don't care. I wouldn't want a gf who loves to party and drink all the time, so I just tap it and leave. I hate relationships to be honest because all the girls are so fake around here. (I live in florida)

[diamond]

well hello my names diamond

[energizer bunny]

well hello my names diamond

That Easy!!!!!

[PC650]

That Easy!!!!!

hahaha

[diamond]

hahaha

[laduem88]

Yeah if you don't party in college or drink all the time, Girls act like you have a sickness.

Meh, I don't care. I wouldn't want a gf who loves to party and drink all the time, so I just tap it and leave. I hate relationships to be honest because all the girls are so fake around here. (I live in florida)

yea, i still dont get why a girl wouldent want to be with me bc of that...it makes zero sense to me, if anything i would think it would be a plus....its not like im against it, who am i to judge i do steroids, that is my drug of choice...I just want to find a decent girl for once, i would really like to meet a girl at the gym, but i have no idea to go about that because im there to workout and so is everyone else it seems like

[Immortal Soldier]

yea, i still dont get why a girl wouldent want to be with me bc of that...it makes zero sense to me, if anything i would think it would be a plus....its not like im against it, who am i to judge i do steroids, that is my drug of choice...I just want to find a decent girl for once, i would really like to meet a girl at the gym, but i have no idea to go about that because im there to workout and so is everyone else it seems like

Girls like bad boys, guys they can't control.

Girls probably don't think you do steroids (maybe they do IDK)

When you don't drink or party alot you don't have that "uncertainity" to you, so they think you are boring to be with.

In college if you want girls you have to unpredictable, outrageous (in a good way), not looking for relationship, and high self-esteem

[PC650]

its so hard having a girl and them asking you about steroids. cuz when you tell them its hell from there. they always believe the negative sh*t from the media

[Flagg]

I think there are two types of girls, the ones to mess around with, who remarkably are single, and girls that are girlfriend material. Unfortunately, 9 times out of 10 the latter are always going to be in a relationship.

[energizer bunny]

Girls like bad boys, guys they can't control.Girls probably don't think you do steroids (maybe they do IDK)

When you don't drink or party alot you don't have that "uncertainity" to you, so they think you are boring to be with.

In college if you want girls you have to unpredictable, outrageous (in a good way), not looking for relationship, and high self-esteem

Agree 100%....

[energizer bunny]

I think there are two types of girls, the ones to mess around with, who remarkably are single, and girls that are girlfriend material. Unfortunately, 9 times out of 10 the latter are always going to be in a relationship.

Agree 100% with this statement aswell.......

[rockinred]

Here's the problem ladeum... you don't have to think about acting a certain way. Like you stated, "I don't know how to go about that"... there is no set way in picking up a girl. There is no miraculous punch line that works on every person.

What you need to do is be yourself and know that that is enough. You need to build your confidence up to. It is one thing to be a quiet or shy person and another thing to not have confidence. Just be sincere and talk... with a warm smile and not some lusty drooling person who can only think about getting in her pants. That will be the biggest turn off to a girl.

Just be yourself bro and relaxed. If you guys hit it off and click, then cool. If not then oh well, there is plenty of fish in the sea as they say. Also, I would just make small talk and not try and be a pick up line....

[laduem88]

Here's the problem ladeum... you don't have to think about acting a certain way. Like you stated, "I don't know how to go about that"... there is no set way in picking up a girl. There is no miraculous punch line that works on every person.

What you need to do is be yourself and know that that is enough. You need to build your confidence up to. It is one thing to be a quiet or shy person and another thing to not have confidence. Just be sincere and talk... with a warm smile and not some lusty drooling person who can only think about getting in her pants. That will be the biggest turn off to a girl.

Just be yourself bro and relaxed. If you guys hit it off and click, then cool. If not then oh well, there is plenty of fish in the sea as they say. Also, I would just make small talk and not try and be a pick up line....

yea i agree, i would never use a pick up line, im not dumb...i just have a fear of rejection. Which i think is from when i use to be fat

[doo928]

ok so for the past year iv been messing around with the same 3 girls and i really just want to meet someone new that i actually like being around with. The only thing is that im shy and its kind of hard for me to meet girls. Im a good looking guy alot of girls say im hott so i should have the confidence to go up to girls and talk to them but i dont. I dont drink which is apparently why some girls dont want to go after me which IMO is messed up but w/e. Since im shy the only girls i get are the ones who come up to me, which im now starting to realize is the reason im always finding the crazy ones. Can someone give me some advice?!

You sound like a good catch to me! Any girl that won't give you the time of day just because you don't drink is just plain ignorant! You need to meet a mature woman who is done playing all the bs drama games! Just have a little confidence & if she's not interested don't sweat it...you are worthy & deserving of love! Good luck

[ghettoboyd]

You sound like a good catch to me! Any girl that won't give you the time of day just because you don't drink is just plain ignorant! You need to meet a mature woman who is done playing all the bs drama games! Just have a little confidence & if she's not interested don't sweat it...you are worthy & deserving of love! Good luck

thats really good advise....well said...

[RuhlFreak55]

ok so for the past year iv been messing around with the same 3 girls and i really just want to meet someone new that i actually like being around with. The only thing is that im shy and its kind of hard for me to meet girls. Im a good looking guy alot of girls say im hott so i should have the confidence to go up to girls and talk to them but i dont. I dont drink which is apparently why some girls dont want to go after me which IMO is messed up but w/e. Since im shy the only girls i get are the ones who come up to me, which im now starting to realize is the reason im always finding the crazy ones. Can someone give me some advice?!

really.....uh oh.....i might always be stuck with crazy ones then

[RuhlFreak55]

Yeah if you don't party in college or drink all the time, Girls act like you have a sickness.

Meh, I don't care. I wouldn't want a gf who loves to party and drink all the time

amen too all this......not so much the last part.....
I don't party or drink either.....and they think i'm an alien

[RuhlFreak55]

yea, i still dont get why a girl wouldent want to be with me bc of that...it makes zero sense to me, if anything i would think it would be a plus....its not like im against it, who am i to judge i do steroids, that is my drug of choice...I just want to find a decent girl for once, i would really like to meet a girl at the gym, but i have no idea to go about that because im there to workout and so is everyone else it seems like

well you've got a leg up on me then.....i despise it

Ummm....do you not go to the same gym as me anymore?????? There's like no one there to actually workout....1 out of 10 maybe?

[RuhlFreak55]

Here's the problem ladeum... you don't have to think about acting a certain way. Like you stated, "I don't know how to go about that"... there is no set way in picking up a girl. There is no miraculous punch line that works on every person.

What you need to do is be yourself and know that that is enough. You need to build your confidence up to. It is one thing to be a quiet or shy person and another thing to not have confidence. Just be sincere and talk... with a warm smile and not some lusty drooling person who can only think about getting in her pants. That will be the biggest turn off to a girl.

Just be yourself bro and relaxed. If you guys hit it off and click, then cool. If not then oh well, there is plenty of fish in the sea as they say. Also, I would just make small talk and not try and be a pick up line....

rofl....i'm not gonna lie...i prolly do that

[RuhlFreak55]

You sound like a good catch to me! Any girl that won't give you the time of day just because you don't drink is just plain ignorant! You need to meet a mature woman who is done playing all the bs drama games! Just have a little confidence & if she's not interested don't sweat it...you are worthy & deserving of love! Good luck

that's why all the women i've ever been with have been at least 5 years older than me i think....(all being 2 lol)

[CHUCKYthentic]

i for one have always found that it is easiest and best to meet girls within your comfort zone. by that i mean place you enjoy being and ofcourse through people you already know. that way automatically you already have something in common with the girl

i like meeting girls through other friends personally. i agree 100% with u on how you said all the crazies are the ones that approach you! has happened to me a few times

my gf now, i met in class. haha same girl from an old thread of mine

but ya man, involve yourself in comfortable enovironments AND DEF DONT TRY AND FORCE IT OR GET IMPATIENT. the opportunity will come to you when the time is right bro

[higherdesire]

I used to be really shy too, so I started drinking. Try that. Gin and tonic isn't too bad on you, and one or two tops loosens up the tongue. Once I got a few luckies under my belt I didn't need the alcohol anymore!

If not then just stop trying to find someone and it will come to you. You can't miss when you aren't coming on to a hot chic. She will break the ice, and the you just have to take a dip in the cold water! Walk up to a bar, sit next to a hot chic and just say hey. No bullshit and no lines, BAM before you know it convo is on. I was kidding about the alcohol, but the not trying things is a keeper.

[laduem88]

well you've got a leg up on me then.....i despise it

Ummm....do you not go to the same gym as me anymore?????? There's like no one there to actually workout....1 out of 10 maybe?

haha true that, but im talking about the girls, there always doing cardio and i dont really want to disturb them while there working out, and i dont want to be that creepy guy who hits on girls at them gym because im bigger than 99% of the guys there

[fig]

ok so for the past year iv been messing around with the same 3 girls and i really just want to meet someone new that i actually like being around with. The only thing is that im shy and its kind of hard for me to meet girls. Im a good looking guy alot of girls say im hott so i should have the confidence to go up to girls and talk to them but i dont. I dont drink which is apparently why some girls dont want to go after me which IMO is messed up but w/e. Since im shy the only girls i get are the ones who come up to me, which im now starting to realize is the reason im always finding the crazy ones. Can someone give me some advice?!

I'm in the exact same boat. Not 100% sure if I want to meet someone though. But yea, I go out and have no confidence even though girls (dating at the time) tell me girls like me, I just don't know it; or like that girl was flirting with you; or that bitch likes you, I'm gonna kill her; etc.

And worst of all, like you, I wait and wait and wait, until one ballsy one comes along and asks me out. And I'm ohh shit, this one really wants me. So I go with it, she turns out to be crazy, and I stick around for too long. Hence, I'm not sure if I even want to meet someone anymore.

On the plus side, I just started talking to this HOT ass girl I used to mess around with in college. She's single and been flirt texting so...might have a fun weekend coming up!!

[laduem88]

I'm in the exact same boat. Not 100% sure if I want to meet someone though. But yea, I go out and have no confidence even though girls (dating at the time) tell me girls like me, I just don't know it; or like that girl was flirting with you; or that bitch likes you, I'm gonna kill her; etc.

And worst of all, like you, I wait and wait and wait, until one ballsy one comes along and asks me out. And I'm ohh shit, this one really wants me. So I go with it, she turns out to be crazy, and I stick around for too long. Hence, I'm not sure if I even want to meet someone anymore.

On the plus side, I just started talking to this HOT ass girl I used to mess around with in college. She's single and been flirt texting so...might have a fun weekend coming up!!

yup we are in the same boat...except most of the time they realize i dont get drunk every weekend and there not interested anymore...i thought i understood girls but as time goes on i feel like i dont even know what they want...I come from a family with money (not saying if you dont its a bad thing but it should be a plus to alot of girls), i am ambitious and want to make something of myself when i get out of school, i have a good body (very lean), i dress really well, im good looking and im nice...i honestly dont get it

[dangerous dan]

Girls like bad boys, guys they can't control.

Girls probably don't think you do steroids (maybe they do IDK)

When you don't drink or party alot you don't have that "uncertainity" to you, so they think you are boring to be with.

In college if you want girls you have to unpredictable, outrageous (in a good way), not looking for relationship, and high self-esteem

i think you will find girls who like ''badboys'' are usually the lil slutty ones, i think those types 99% of the time are very immature aswell. Be yourself and it will work out.

[Bojangles69]

Theres NO such thing as confidence.

Most people who say they have it are insecure bitches (truely confident people rarely verbalize it that way cause they DON'T see it as confidence in the first place) and most who say they don't have it are just underestimating themselves.
You simply don't have a skillset for seducing women.

You have no strategy, no method, you just go in blind and leave it up to faith like 90% of guys usually do. If you're shy it just makes it that much harder.

If you DO find a "good girl" right now I would be the LAST person to condone it cause you're relying on chance, and gonna grab the first annoying bitch that you just THINK is good for you. Chances are she will drive you crazy, the sex will suck, and you'll put up with it for 5 years till she fvcks your brother and you break up.

Thats how these situations usually end lol.

You need to forget about girls and starting thinking about yourself. And its a PROCESS never forget that. Day by day make effort to read and do things out of your comfort zone. Eventually words like "rejection" and "confidence" will have no room in your vocab.

Are you "confident" driving a car?
Wel yeh but WHO THE FVCK ever says "I'm a really confident driver". People get slaughtered on the roads everyday but you still get in your car and drive to work w/out a second thought.
How many people do you know have died asking a girl out? uhh.. I can't think of one.

Realize you're ALREADY doing things everyday that require more confidence, you simply feel insecure about this cause you never put the keys in the ignition. You sit there looking at the car, dreaming about taking it for a spin, and how nice it would be, and then you grab a box of kleenex and go jerk off.
(the car would be the girl above - figuratively lol)

So stop with the analysis paralysis shit. Thats all it is is mental masturbation, "what if, omg I would be that man if I banged her... but omg I cant shes soo hot".

Just shut the fvck up and SPEAK. Do it enough and it becomes like driving a car, you'll just stick the keys in the ignition and enjoy it, same way you stick you cock in a ____ and enjoy it. =]

[fig]

^^very true along with many other posts here.

*meaningless side story...there was this kid in a class of mine that was OVER confident. I remember thinking he was an asshole. Come end of semester, we have to do a presentation. Everyone else got up and did their thing; some nervous, some not, but even the nervous ones weren't that bad.

This kid gets up and starts shuddering and blushing and shaking voice, etc. etc. Def illustrates bojangles point...the ones that press it on you are the insecure ones. Its all an act.

[Bojangles69]

^^very true along with many other posts here.

*meaningless side story...there was this kid in a class of mine that was OVER confident. I remember thinking he was an asshole. Come end of semester, we have to do a presentation. Everyone else got up and did their thing; some nervous, some not, but even the nervous ones weren't that bad.

This kid gets up and starts shuddering and blushing and shaking voice, etc. etc. Def illustrates bojangles point...the ones that press it on you are the insecure ones. Its all an act.

THANK YOU.

The SAME EXACT thing happened last semester in my critical discourse class (speech). This short skinny good looking rich kid, who never shut his fvckn mouth and was always flirting with the girls.. on his FIRST presentation almost had a nervous break down.
So bad that I actually felt really bad for him, (cause I use to get like that years ago myself) and I actually started to like the kid a bit realizing he was just human and what not.

So meanwhile I'm a bit more reserved, and def do not come off like this kid at all. Go give my first speech, feel totally great (especially after this kid lol) COMPLETELY still and relaxed. After my speech I sat down and we had like a 15 min discussion about what I spoke about, very casual and cool. NOTHING like this kid at all.

But whats funny is 2 days later he comes back to class being the same arrogant fvck he usually is. I'd honestly admit this kid had A LOT of potential to bang the shit out of any girl he wanted, but he forgot theres an essential balance to everything in life.
Good guys don't get girls any more then bad guys do.
Confident guys dont get girls any more then unconfident guys.

Everything in life is about maintaining a balance. And believe it or not that balance is what becomes your PRESENCE. People can feel it and it draws them in, not trying to win them over like your gods gift to women..

[fig]

lol. Exact same outcome. I felt bad for the kid and the next day he was still a prick.

For once in my life, I'm giving up on relationships. We'll see. This is when love is supposed to find me...right? lol.

[DSM4Life]

Well don't go to Rulh's place cause there sure as hell ain't no chicks there !







Love you Rulh

[RuhlFreak55]

Well don't go to Rulh's place cause there sure as hell ain't no chicks there !







Love you Rulh

not my fault they can't handle this.....and there will be one here monday....and i think we're making porn (with a camera guy)

[DSM4Life]

not my fault they can't handle this.....and there will be one here monday....and i think we're making porn (with a camera guy)

If you need a camera man, im your guy !

[Bojangles69]

umm can someone please tell me how ruhl went from hopeless vaginaless borderline gay to shooting porn now?

has someone been eatn their pimp wheaties?

[RuhlFreak55]

umm can someone please tell me how ruhl went from hopeless vaginaless borderline gay to shooting porn now?

has someone been eatn their pimp wheaties?

no i just have a milf at my disposal that's going through that crazy kinda middle life sexual craze.

[RuhlFreak55]

a bodybuilder milf of course

[Bojangles69]

no i just have a milf at my disposal that's going through that crazy kinda middle life sexual craze.

good for you man your dicks seen more sand then death valley..