6 year breakup.... anyone have any motivational speaker audio clips / videos ?

[_CrossroadS_]

Alot of guys sweat over what to say to girls. Half the time girls don't expect guys to just walk up to them randomly and start a conversation (outside of bars, social scene, drinking, etc).

Walk up to a cute girl in the grocery store and say hi and make conversation. All of a sudden the playing field is leveled and she's nervous because she probably rarely gets put in this situation. Don't try and get laid either. Just talk to her. And do this everywhere you go. You'll eventually see that girls are not looking at you all the time like you are some sex starved pervert, and you have to say the magic words to break into their world.


Stay in shape, hang out with your buddies in places where single girls congregate, and mingle. Like I said, if you talk to girls without the intention of getting laid, it'll happen.

[tripmachine]

Alot of guys sweat over what to say to girls. Half the time girls don't expect guys to just walk up to them randomly and start a conversation (outside of bars, social scene, drinking, etc).

Walk up to a cute girl in the grocery store and say hi and make conversation. All of a sudden the playing field is leveled and she's nervous because she probably rarely gets put in this situation. Don't try and get laid either. Just talk to her. And do this everywhere you go. You'll eventually see that girls are not looking at you all the time like you are some sex starved pervert, and you have to say the magic words to break into their world.


Stay in shape, hang out with your buddies in places where single girls congregate, and mingle. Like I said, if you talk to girls without the intention of getting laid, it'll happen.

cool man! thanks for taking the time to respond to my post.... all of that information is great... I'll take what you said and use it... i think that's true what you say about going in to talk without trying to get laid because it seems whenever I'm looking to get a girl as a g/f or to 'plow' it never happens.... usually always happens when i least expect it... thanks again!


Anyone else have anything to add? I'm also really looking to get a good audio book, any suggestions? Thanks!

[Kratos]

I'm also really looking to get a good audio book, any suggestions? Thanks!

Screw books and audio books. This is the only audio you need.
You start getting in books and picking away at your brain, it's just gonna jack you up. Be friendly to everone you meet, and have fun in everything you do. I've spent my 20's single more often then not. I have the best times when I'm single. Rather then try to scheme to get her to change her mind, change your mind about her. There is a sea of people out there.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xpgq8...eature=related

[tripmachine]

Screw books and audio books. This is the only audio you need.
You start getting in books and picking away at your brain, it's just gonna jack you up. Be friendly to everone you meet, and have fun in everything you do. I've spent my 20's single more often then not. I have the best times when I'm single. Rather then try to scheme to get her to change her mind, change your mind about her. There is a sea of people out there.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xpgq8...eature=related

yeah those books DO make me over analyze things which probably isn't the best.. lol. That rocky video is awesome! I loved the last part where he's up all the stairs overlooking the city with his fists in the air... I get the sense that he's just happy with where he has taken himself and nothing else really matters. added that to my youtube favs... great motivational video + song Thanks :]

[Dancer]

Alot of guys sweat over what to say to girls. Half the time girls don't expect guys to just walk up to them randomly and start a conversation (outside of bars, social scene, drinking, etc).

Walk up to a cute girl in the grocery store and say hi and make conversation. All of a sudden the playing field is leveled and she's nervous because she probably rarely gets put in this situation. Don't try and get laid either. Just talk to her. And do this everywhere you go. You'll eventually see that girls are not looking at you all the time like you are some sex starved pervert, and you have to say the magic words to break into their world.


Stay in shape, hang out with your buddies in places where single girls congregate, and mingle. Like I said, if you talk to girls without the intention of getting laid, it'll happen.

+++2

I do think to build your self up you do need to go out and get somethin strange... Go out with the friends you have and make friends with thier friends work your way around...

Sitting on your ass aint gonna do shit but make it worse...

go on son be a ho make me proud!

[IBuryyou]

Dont know of any videos but i was married for 7 years and got divorced. I was down in the dumps thinking whos going to want to date a 30 year old divorced man. What i learned was there are ALOT of women in your exact sistuation. I started getting phone calls from women that i knew that heard i was getting divorced that wanted me to go out for coffee with them. After dating different people for a couple of years i met the girl at the gym I always checked out that just ended her 2 year relationship with her man. Now im dating a 27 y/o highly educated women that has dedicated her life to working out like me. Life is very good now and I couldnt be happier about my divorce.
You dont have to try to be smooth. I met her cause she said to me at the gym one day "Dont you think its hot in here?" That started a stupid conversation about the gym. If I would have responded with "Yes its hot but thats because your in here" she would have ditched my @ss immediatley.

Right now theres no women because your still hanging out with your ex. No women is going to mess with a man whos hanging with his ex.

[tripmachine]

Use the time to really get to know yourself and what makes you happy. Often in relationships we tend to give of ourselves, and if you aren't careful you find years later that you've given yourself away. Find yourself first and you may be surprised how quickly you find someone after that. One day you will look at the pain you're feeling now as just a road that took you where you wanted to be.

WOW.... that's basically what happened it seems.... I gave myself away to her and now without her I feel like I'm nothing and don't know what to do with my time.... I don't even know what is fun anymore because I have trained myself to just hang out with her and that's what makes me 'happy'.... Very nice words... Thanks!

now i just have to figure out how to 'get to know myself' Avoiding a rebound relationship is probably step 1 I'd imagine.

I went through the exact same thing with my ex. 5 1/2 years and then we were broke up but basically still together for about a year after. From experience I can tell you it only gets better with time. Put yourself out there and the confidence will grow

Thanks for sharing what happened with you as well... How long did it take after you guys stopped hanging out that last unofficial year did it take for you to feel truly 'ok' with not being together? Who's choice was the breakup? Thanks again!

Dont know of any videos but i was married for 7 years and got divorced. I was down in the dumps thinking whos going to want to date a 30 year old divorced man. What i learned was there are ALOT of women in your exact sistuation. I started getting phone calls from women that i knew that heard i was getting divorced that wanted me to go out for coffee with them. After dating different people for a couple of years i met the girl at the gym I always checked out that just ended her 2 year relationship with her man. Now im dating a 27 y/o highly educated women that has dedicated her life to working out like me. Life is very good now and I couldnt be happier about my divorce.
You dont have to try to be smooth. I met her cause she said to me at the gym one day "Dont you think its hot in here?" That started a stupid conversation about the gym. If I would have responded with "Yes its hot but thats because your in here" she would have ditched my @ss immediatley.

Right now theres no women because your still hanging out with your ex. No women is going to mess with a man whos hanging with his ex.

awesome man! I love stories like this because obviously I'm in the 'sh!tty' part of the story that I am going to tell someone in the future.... This kind of stuff really helps me out so I certainly appreciate it. :] Thanks!