Relationship lulls

[PitMaster]

i haven't been i a relationship for that time period but i think maybe yall could use a break. see how much she really cares for you. you seem to be committed in the relationship. maybe try to take a trip somewhere to spice things up and if that doesn't work, then take some time apart and see what happens. i feel for ya man! women, such strange creatures!

If I do that she may do the same and want to see if I really care. I guess I'm not obvious enough.

Yup which i why i ditched the entire gender all together

I have mentioned therapy she said she would, but so far it's just been talk.
As for the gender thing I can't imagine kissing a gross hairy face..ewww sweaty big nasty...gross! Maybe I should just drink some beers and let another guy put it in his mouth, if he asks real nice that is. Wouldn't make me gay if I'm not touching him or looking at him. I'll just close my eyes and think happy thoughts. j/k
I dunno why but big girls and guys like me. 1/2 vietnamese 1/2 white assho*e.

[DSM4Life]

If I do that she may do the same and want to see if I really care. I guess I'm not obvious enough.



I have mentioned therapy she said she would, but so far it's just been talk.
As for the gender thing I can't imagine kissing a gross hairy face..ewww sweaty big nasty...gross! Maybe I should just drink some beers and let another guy put it in his mouth, if he asks real nice that is. Wouldn't make me gay if I'm not touching him or looking at him. I'll just close my eyes and think happy thoughts. j/k
I dunno why but big girls and guys like me. 1/2 vietnamese 1/2 white assho*e.

FACT: If your drunk it's not gay.

[PitMaster]

FACT: If your drunk it's not gay.

cool..I'm going out wearing some button flys, missing a few buttons. lol

Communication and compromise are key in a relationship and when these two things break down a relationship often starts to fall apart. A relationship is two sided and im guessing things broke down in your relationship because neither of you are being honest and open with each other? What you need to do is talk about what you both need from each other to make the relationship works...for you it could be more sex and cuddling and for her it could be doing the dishes more often or being more romantic ect ect...doesnt really matter you both need to compromise. Your goal in the relationship should be to try your hardest to make each other happy and bring each other up not down and its hard to do this if you dont know what shes thinking and she doesnt know what your thinking.

Also have some fun! have hobbies together and go on fun dates...somtimes when things become "normal" and have patern they get boring so change it up! try to things in the bedroom ect ect.

I have always been saying this to her about communication. She is so very closed off to everyone. I'm just not saying the right things. We don't fight all that much some bitchin here and there but no name calling...etc...

Dec 11 Took the words out of my mouth.Sorry Bro nothing like this is easy.But it sounds like the fire is out.Money rings cakes dinners.Wont change anything.The only thing that can help is talking.She maybe depressed.Only commuacation can help you.Good luck.

Thanx, I'm gonna mention therapy again and not just for her. Funny I was 14 when my parents had couple counseling, they divorced soon after. BUt that was cuz things surfaced...

Some of my best friends are Women...

Thats my problem, I really do love women.
Thanks guys for all the support, I think that's enough therapy for one day. I'll mention therapy to her...soon. If that's a no go I'll wait for her to get on her feet better(she is progessing) then I'll approach things from a different angle.

[gixxerboy1]

cool..I'm going out wearing some button flys, missing a few buttons. lol



I have always been saying this to her about communication. She is so very closed off to everyone. I'm just not saying the right things. We don't fight all that much some bitchin here and there but no name calling...etc...



Thanx, I'm gonna mention therapy again and not just for her. Funny I was 14 when my parents had couple counseling, they divorced soon after. BUt that was cuz things surfaced...



Thats my problem, I really do love women.
Thanks guys for all the support, I think that's enough therapy for one day. I'll mention therapy to her...soon. If that's a no go I'll wait for her to get on her feet better(she is progessing) then I'll approach things from a different angle.

bro i respect you wanting to stay around till she is better but you need to go now. There is never going to be a good time to leave. She may get better but then you will be afraid to leave cause she might bounce back, unfortunately it sounds like it is over. You need to take care of yourself.

[PitMaster]

bro i respect you wanting to stay around till she is better but you need to go now. There is never going to be a good time to leave. She may get better but then you will be afraid to leave cause she might bounce back, unfortunately it sounds like it is over. You need to take care of yourself.

The funny thing is I love her and it's hope. I can see her getting better. I know that as I have gotten better things around me look brighter. Hope is a dangerous thing, Hope can drive a man Insane. (shawshank) I can't make a crass decision yet, I'm absorbing all this and gonna play it by ear and try and talk it out. I once tried to will someone to live...didn't quite work. BUt I didn't stop trying. For now I'm gonna cling to hope and maybe see about some threesomes or something. I'll throw it out there in a joking way and see how she responds. lol

[gixxerboy1]

The funny thing is I love her and it's hope. I can see her getting better. I know that as I have gotten better things around me look brighter. Hope is a dangerous thing, Hope can drive a man Insane. (shawshank) I can't make a crass decision yet, I'm absorbing all this and gonna play it by ear and try and talk it out. I once tried to will someone to live...didn't quite work. BUt I didn't stop trying. For now I'm gonna cling to hope and maybe see about some threesomes or something. I'll throw it out there in a joking way and see how she responds. lol

i know bud. I left my wife about 10 months ago, I kept hoping things would get better but they didnt. Finally i said enough is enough and moved out. After i got settled in my new place i was like a new man. I looked back and couldn't believe how miserable i was for so long.

[PitMaster]

i know bud. I left my wife about 10 months ago, I kept hoping things would get better but they didnt. Finally i said enough is enough and moved out. After i got settled in my new place i was like a new man. I looked back and couldn't believe how miserable i was for so long.

Made my heart skip a beat...Man u got some balls. your killin me with that statement. AT some point was there no more humor in each of your lives? I still laugh here and there. I don't wanna maker her out to be the bad guy, I think it's most my fault. I don't even know what to say that statement, u got kids too? I have none.