Relationship lulls

[baseline_9]

My last relationship with my girlfriend went this way.. At first it was sex many times per week, always talked and did cute things together. Man I fell in love. She could be so ****ing cute and sexy. Knew she'd make a good wife and mom. Clean girl, not typical skank I usually roll with lol.

...but yea, the affection from her side just starting dying down. It wasnt like she was seeing another guy either..and I trusted her more than any girl ive been with. Just her feelings went away, I know the stress of her going back to school and her dad being a piece of shit (long story) had alot to do with it but still it was weird. As she lost feelings we werent on the same page and it started minor fights and arguments because of it. I got really hurt and still wish it never happened that way, I really put my heart into that relationship. I knew though she either needed time to miss me and sort things out and we would get back together down the road OR I'd find a girl that would love me the same or more and give me the affection and attention I need.

I say walk away, give her space like I did. Its gonna be hard. Her number is still in my phone and we promised to try to stay great friends forever. We text every few weeks a couple times but that's about it. I'll be there for her always [you said you dont wanna hurt this girl, you dont have to]. but damn do you wanna live the rest of your life like this? I didnt. I need affection and attention, wanna feel loved. Think we all do.

You big softy mike....

Do you think you will end up back together... I think it would be nice if you did... I cant imagine just being friends, that would tear me up even more

[powerliftmike]

You big softy mike....

Do you think you will end up back together... I think it would be nice if you did... I cant imagine just being friends, that would tear me up even more

I always hope for this, but I cant bank my life on hope. I gotta stay on the prowl talking to new women. It is very hard being just friends after being more...one party usually still has alot of feelings, in this case--me. She told me one time that she thought good idea to end things so that one day we might could have something really special again. At this point it looks like it's done, but like said Ill be there for her. I have no idea what will happen in my future.

Man Im not gonna be an internet badass and say I didnt cry for like weeks after most days. I did. Felt I lost something I worked so hard for. But I cannot make someone like me, and like said before if both parties arent on same page--it causes problems. I know I was the best boyfriend she ever had and will have. She was and is special to me, and I was in love. Not just being a bitch on clomid or something, I was on a tren cycle actually when broke up lol, so just goes to show you how much I felt for her.

I told her this shit at some point: no matter what happens, nobody can take those good memories away. But cant live in the past, I really believe that all good things come to an end. Hell, life comes to an end..

[PitMaster]

I always hope for this, but I cant bank my life on hope. I gotta stay on the prowl talking to new women. It is very hard being just friends after being more...one party usually still has alot of feelings, in this case--me. She told me one time that she thought good idea to end things so that one day we might could have something really special again. At this point it looks like it's done, but like said Ill be there for her. I have no idea what will happen in my future.

Man Im not gonna be an internet badass and say I didnt cry for like weeks after most days. I did. Felt I lost something I worked so hard for. But I cannot make someone like me, and like said before if both parties arent on same page--it causes problems. I know I was the best boyfriend she ever had and will have. She was and is special to me, and I was in love. Not just being a bitch on clomid or something, I was on a tren cycle actually when broke up lol, so just goes to show you how much I felt for her.

I told her this shit at some point: no matter what happens, nobody can take those good memories away. But cant live in the past, I really believe that all good things come to an end. Hell, life comes to an end..

o.k. after I read your post and gix's I had to get away. Opened up quite a can of worms here and guess I wasn't ready for the responses. Sounds like your girl broke it off with you and it crushed u. This is how it would make her feel. I'm gonna work on this.

PITMASTER....I was married for 6 years and it got to the point where I hadn't slept with her in 3 months. My wife and I went through some major ups and downs and thought of divorcing her broke me in half. You sound like your holding on to the memories and comfort of having had one another for so long. The memories never fade nor does the love for one another. It just changes......You would be doing yourself a favor which is most important and her as well. You will be able to take these experiences and lessons learned and apply it to a relationship that is not damaged. I can attest to life after a long meaningful relationship, I am happier now than I ever was in my marriage....Just did not see it till I was out Relationships are one of the most valuable things to me, I am a better man for having been in it and so will you. Take the time away, let her go as hard as it may seem to be...with in a month or two, you will be doing fine

I'm not worried about myself. I lost my last one to untimely death, messed me up for a bit, so this wouldn't be as bad, I don't think. I worry bout her being fine.
Wise words u have.
After reading all these posts I am so humble and drained. I think I'm just gonna try and crash early. Thanks again all for sharing, tough to talk about such things.