agree with you. as I age, I'm learning that there are other options than to go "as heavy as possible". More importantly, imho, is to go slow with your rep, get the FULL contraction, hold for a fraction of a second, and to slowly return to the starting point. Then, do this with as much weight as you can, while still maintaining good form, for three sets of 5/10/15 reps or whatever works best with your body.
Once I started doing this, I began to use a lot less weight, and with less weight, the risk of injury decreases as well.
this is what I do