405, I am 42 with two girls 19, 15. She is probably about what I weigh 250ish, I am worried the surgery for one will cause other health problems, and two will take her natually beautiful facial features away. All the women I have seen look aged and haggered, any natural beauty is exchanged for a sickly look.

BG, I talked to her after one of the meetings we went to where they discussed diet do's and don't etc.. and asked her, if these people would just follow all the strict guidelines they have to follow after surgery and the diet limitations, without having the surgery itself, they would lose the weight. They need to fix the head, the body will follow. I do believe with some dedication and self control she could do it naturally, but it is a huge soul searching endeavor. I am not sure this path she takes wont ruin the marriage, nor am I sure not doing it will ruin the marriage, I just have to roll with it I guess.