I'm not sure i fully understand your question. Like he explains try touching the bar to your sternum and the amount of tuck you use will be dictated by keeping your elbow under your wrist. Then when you press up you'll flare in a j path like shown in the video.
Edit: This too. If you're experiencing pain with a close grip elbows tucked bench 2 inches off the chest then something is probably wrong. Seeing a professional preferably one with experience with weightlifters would be ideal. If you can do any other chest presses without pain and only bench causes it then it's your form.