Need some advice from the bro's...Girl problems!!!

**Unknown$$** · 11-24-2004, 10:34 PM

This is a long Dramatic story but im confused and need some help! K well about 3 years ago I went out with this girl (for about 3 months, which is short but just listen), she just wasnt ANY girl to me, she was the girl that I had wanted for a llooonngg time and was just completely perfect for me. Well that didnt last obviously and i was basically shot down when she broke up with me and tried to get her back for over a year. Anyway she had a few boyfriends since them, for about a year a piece, (one of them being my ex friend). Well she is now in college and so am i. I go to school down south she goes to school up north.
Well i have recently been in a relationship for about 10 months until about 2 weeks ago. Everything was great with this girl but she started getting REALLY jealous. She lived about 90 miles from me and i drove home EVERY weekend to go see her and she still was jealous about the world. Anyway, My ex(from a long time ago) broke up with her last bf about 4 months ago, and hasnt hooked up with anyone since, even tho all these guy want her at her school. Well she was down at my school for a vb game, we hung out, we hooked up. Then that next weekend i was already going up north to visit my buddies, but I ended up hanging out with the old old ex a lot of the time, and things were PERFECT...it was the craziest thing. ANd now my feelings are completely out of whack and i dont know what to do. She told me she has feelings for me again but doesnt want a bf. BUt its still weird, she wants me to go back up there as soon as a can, and i told her im going to transfer from my school to a smaller one and she wants me to transfer there blah blah...WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?! this girl is the girl that i would marry in a heartbeat, even tho we went out over 2 years ago...thats how strong i felt about her

**SwoleCat** · 11-24-2004, 10:42 PM

Nah, not worth losing the girl you have now IMO.

She left you before w/out caring it seems, and she may very well do it again.

Then you'll feel far worse! Not only for getting dogged twice, but for ruining a relationship with your current lady.

Then again, you'll probably just have to feel it out for yourself bro!

~SC~

**Polska** · 11-24-2004, 10:44 PM

The more you let on to this girl how bad you want her, the less she'll want you. It's a game..... human nature is you want what you can't have. So my advice would be if you want this girl, pretend you don't. Blow her off and let her see you with other girls. She'll come crawling to you in no time

**Unknown$$** · 11-24-2004, 10:44 PM

well i mean everything that has happened with me and my latest girl isnt all cuz the one of the past. The one i was recently with is SO JEALOUS about EVERYTHING. I mean i dont go to strip clubs, dont drink when shes not around, dont really go out and party unless shes with me, EVERYTHING. and she still got mad cuz i said i wanted to start stayin down at my school more to meet more people

**MASStermind** · 11-24-2004, 10:56 PM

am i the only one confused reading that story? I have up half way.

**Scooby1** · 11-24-2004, 10:56 PM

Okay.... here is my advice. If you don't KNOW that you want to be with the the chic you are with right now- I mean be with her every minute, and not spend any time with your friends(cuz that is what will happen) then stay wit her- If you are not ready for the comitment then seriously get out! As for transfering school to up north where she is- I wouldn't keep it some distance between you and her, and if she really wants to be with you, then she will eventually come to you. Don't take overthink stuff and make her be proactive-NOT you.

**Unknown$$** · 11-25-2004, 12:32 AM

upppp

**Soldier of Misfortune** · 11-25-2004, 12:57 AM

Polska's right, ignore her and let her see you w/ other chicks. It worked on my ex gf. Now I have her wanting me back and my new girl who took a break after a week to become good friends before dating. (I know, wtf) So I have no clue what to do with both of them.

Just play the game dude, thats all we can do. I tried not playing but it got me in a crazy mess that Im in now.

**KGBnine** · 11-25-2004, 01:43 AM

All good advice. Speaking from experience, I'd go with what SC said, it's not worth it. Chances are she'll do it again. Not worth getting strung along again, and playing games is for high-schoolers.

**SwoleCat** · 11-25-2004, 07:35 AM

Originally Posted by MASStermind

am i the only one confused reading that story? I have up half way.

Judging by your other offerings here, your 3rd grade reasoning, your inability to utilize impeccable spelling/punctuation, that really doesn't surprise me.

Your "black guy" comments put it over the top.

~SC~

**needmorestrength** · 11-25-2004, 07:45 AM

Man I agree with ignoring her.. It's amazing how bad a girl wants you when you act like you don't care anymore! Especially if they know that at one point they could have had you. As for her saying she doesn't want a bf but still wants to hang with you, in my experience that means that she likes you but still isnt sure! in the words of Snoop "drop her like she's hot" for now, she'll come around beggin soon enough

**needmorestrength** · 11-25-2004, 07:48 AM

Originally Posted by SwoleCat

Judging by your other offerings here, your 3rd grade reasoning, your inability to utilize impeccable spelling/punctuation, that really doesn't surprise me.

Your "black guy" comments put it over the top.

~SC~

ummm wow burned lol

**jonnytour** · 11-25-2004, 08:08 AM

I woudn't waste my time on her, bro. Don;t just act like tou don't want her....mean it. Like SC said...if she left you before she will prolly do it again! And as for the chick you are with now....Jealousy is ugly. I have dropped bitches for being less jealous than that before. drop 'em both and work on you. I found that it is when you are NIOT looking for a girl then they all come running after you. If though you want to get with the old gf I would say get rid of the current gf and discuss it with the proir gf. Let her know that you have feelings for her and that you were hurt....what the hell am I saying???? F & C brudda!!! F&C!

P.S. For all those who do not know what F & C means....Fvck & Chuck!

**goodtobeapimp** · 11-25-2004, 10:07 AM

Remember you never know what a woman is actually thinking. Not to hijack,but my best friend acted like he was gay for the past 6 years and I let him hang around my wife. Well I came home one day and they were scrogging.

I couldn't believe my wife would do that. No not really,but it could happen. Plus I bet it made you reconsider your situation,which is a plus.

If a chick dicks me over. I make sure to make her jealous. That's all I care. One thing I've found productive is to be around some of her girlfriends,so they more then likely are going to develop feelings for you they have to sit around and talk about you to her.

If she can drop you once,she can drop you twice. My best advice is live and let die,when it comes to relationships. When it goes bad,make the most of it,and let her believe what she wants. She screws you once. I feel sorry for you bud. She dicks you twice,it's your fault.

Everyone has been screwed over by a chick. You said you tried to get her back for over a year. If she "cared" about you then I'd say by now she'd have figured out who and what you are to her. To put it bluntly. You've been considered and your chance,and to me that means forget about her.

**Unknown$$** · 11-25-2004, 12:56 PM

Word...i like the advice, i think i am just going to ignore her and see what happens. Because I know she is the type of chick that when she thinks ur mad at her or dont care she gets all bummed out and stuff. So yea we'll see how this works. Thanks everyone

**P Rock** · 11-25-2004, 01:07 PM

I must of missed the other half of the story, the part about a "black guy"? 3rd grade reasoning, spelling, punctuation? what the bajesus was that about SC? i didnt read that in the post

**KeyMastur** · 11-25-2004, 07:12 PM

Originally Posted by SwoleCat

Judging by your other offerings here, your 3rd grade reasoning, your inability to utilize impeccable spelling/punctuation, that really doesn't surprise me.

Your "black guy" comments put it over the top.

~SC~

is this necessary ??

**rambo** · 11-25-2004, 08:15 PM

Originally Posted by KeyMastur

is this necessary ??

It might be. I've heard several members voice their concern about his posts. Maybe instead of deleting people's posts whenever you please, you could spend some time looking at things that actually matter.

Here comes my banning, or perhaps you'll just delete the post because you don't want to "deal" with it.

**KeyMastur** · 11-25-2004, 08:24 PM

And where have I deleted posts ?? I guess you watch my every move ? I let a lot of **** slide, so don't even go there with me.

**needmorestrength** · 11-25-2004, 08:30 PM

uh oh....cat fight
lol

**rambo** · 11-25-2004, 08:30 PM

Originally Posted by KeyMastur

And where have I deleted posts ?? I guess you watch my every move ? I let a lot of **** slide, so don't even go there with me.

yankee fans are bitches

You forgot about this one? It seems like I'm always taking a lot of **** from you. There were several times before you were even modded you've taken potshots at me for no particular reason. If you've got a hardon for me for whatever reason, fine. But it seems like you are the only mod around here who goes out of his way to start things for no reason.

Instead of airing out your problem with me via PM, you just deleted my post in that thread. How professional is that? I got an entire thread deleted about a week or two ago, started a two page thread to find out what happened, and still no one fessed up to deleting it. What, the server just gobbles things now?

**KeyMastur** · 11-25-2004, 08:38 PM

and did i not explain & apologize for my actions b/c i didn't understand it's relevance to my thread ???

hardon for you ?? ok, so now you can take a break for a while until my cialis wears off.

i go out of my way to start **** ?? like i said, i let a lot of **** slide. i don't delete threads unless they pertain to source posting and stuff of that nature. i even let all teh stupid bull**** threads in the lounge go that just waste space.

**needmorestrength** · 11-25-2004, 08:40 PM

Can't we all just get along

**Carlos_E** · 11-25-2004, 08:45 PM

Originally Posted by KeyMastur

hardon for you ?? ok, so now you can take a break for a while until my cialis wears off..

Rambo, suspended

Is that really necessary?

**KeyMastur** · 11-25-2004, 08:49 PM

Originally Posted by Carlos_E

Rambo, suspended

Is that really necessary?

yeah cause i got a hard on. so if he's not here for a week then i won't be tempted to use it on him.

**SwoleCat** · 11-26-2004, 09:21 AM

Originally Posted by KeyMastur

is this necessary ??

Indeed.

You've an important p.m.

~SC~

**Elliot** · 11-26-2004, 08:15 PM

Originally Posted by KeyMastur

yeah cause i got a hard on. so if he's not here for a week then i won't be tempted to use it on him.

I've rarely had a problem with any mods here. Then again, I'm not a huge contributor nor am I involved in the other behind-closed-door things that go on, so I'm truly a nobody. I don’t have a dog in this race but I do think Rambo's banning is unjust. Threads I've made have been deleted before with no explanation or warning and when I PM a mod no one ever gets back to me. So there is no way that you can find out what has happened to the thread? It does aggravate the author of the thread when it is unjustly deleted. As far as Rambos vacation goes, why don’t you try to resolve the problem instead of banning him and once more ignoring the problem? Do we not get that much? Is it that when a higher up has a problem with a member they are just "taken care of" with out a proper explanation? Cause if that’s the case this board really has gone down the drain. That is just my two cents take it for what its worth...

**KeyMastur** · 11-27-2004, 01:20 AM

Did i ban him ? No. Merely suspended him for a week, and even that has been lifted 6 days early.

I wasn't about to get in a pissing contest, but when something is directed towards myself, then I feel the necessity to step in.