How do you guys deal with breakups??

**Lavinco** · 10-06-2005, 09:05 PM

I am 27 too and just went through the same thing. I know it seems like the end of the world but really it's not.

Hang in there. You will see.

**chest6** · 10-06-2005, 11:11 PM

I have a gf very similar to this. Just when I was over her she was always so sweet to me and would get all depressed and I ended up getting back with her when college started up. Our relationship wasnt too good, sure we were in love with each other a lot, but too many negative things in this one. Its starting to turn into that again. Best advice I can give is what bigen said..hang around your friends it really helps

**xtinaunasty** · 10-06-2005, 11:31 PM

Originally Posted by chest6

I have a gf very similar to this. Just when I was over her she was always so sweet to me and would get all depressed and I ended up getting back with her when college started up. Our relationship wasnt too good, sure we were in love with each other a lot, but too many negative things in this one. Its starting to turn into that again. Best advice I can give is what bigen said..hang around your friends it really helps

what if you cant have friends because they all want to sleep with you...?

**chest6** · 10-06-2005, 11:43 PM

Originally Posted by xtinaunasty

what if you cant have friends because they all want to sleep with you...?

haha. Hmm that might be a problem, unless Im allowed to watch.

**Prol** · 10-06-2005, 11:44 PM

Like most of the guys here ...i been there and bleed throw that .....when i broke up with my G/F I was so f##ked up that i did the drink,sleeping with anygirl i could screw(i said that i could screw cuase i with so depressed that i couldn't even get a hardon,now thats f##kedup ) did the drugs ,left my work ,and just felt sorry for myself.so one day i said f@@ked all bought a ticket to new jersey ,once there i decided to study something so i'm a US certified Medical Assistant,came back home landed a big ass contract with an asphalt company as heasd of production . Felt so f@2king positive went out for to a club saw my x got back together and know i have a beautiful daughter .....................my point is if you turn into sh$t you are not going to get her back nor get on with your life........ so just do something to occupy yourself take another job or do something to build up yourself esteem ,,,sorry for all the typos

**Evil Predator** · 10-07-2005, 03:44 AM

Originally Posted by xtinaunasty

i agree...

hey, you changed your avatar and made me sound like a fag

----->me

<----xtinaunasty

**spywizard** · 10-07-2005, 05:01 AM

wow.. don't know if you know it or not, but this same type of story has been posted here.. on more than one occasion..

that is it seems you are not alone..

the reality of it is, you have to stop the insanity.. your actions are hurting her, if she thinks you are available to her, she will continue to not respect herself..

you cannot fix her.. all you can do is protect yourself..

sorry for your loss..

**GQ-Bouncer** · 10-07-2005, 05:29 AM

trust me big fella, we've all been their

your best bet is to strangle that b!tch and throw the cold ravaged body off the bridge

the alternative, however, would be to dig out a (dried) well in your basement, beat her up, and stick her down there, occaisionally sending buckets of skin lotion down...
..." It puts the lotion on it's skin or else it gets the hose again! "

there is also the classic "disfigurement" option, which will guarntee her never being able to date anyone who isn't blind -

anyways, i hoped this helped
keep it real
-peace

**Pinkvelvet** · 10-07-2005, 06:55 AM

Originally Posted by xtinaunasty

what if you cant have friends because they all want to sleep with you...?

Oh, I so agree with you!!! LMAO! I guess it's different for woman. As soon as I was single again...the friends who I thought were good friends...didn't take anytime before hitting on me. Talk about a little freaked out. Yet, they did it behind my ex's back...mmmm...wonder if guys think thats cool....I know I wouldn't.

**decadbal** · 10-07-2005, 07:05 AM

you women forget, that with even a small amount of alcohol, we will lower our standerds.. so pretty much every woman can do the conceited thing, and be like oh all my guy friends are tryin to fuck me... like they are he only one..ahahaha

**Pinkvelvet** · 10-07-2005, 07:07 AM

Originally Posted by Decadbal

you women forget, that with even a small amount of alcohol, we will lower our standerds.. so pretty much every woman can do the conceited thing, and be like oh all my guy friends are tryin to fuck me... like they are he only one..ahahaha

You saying I'm the one guys choose once there standards are lowered?

**decadbal** · 10-07-2005, 07:08 AM

i dont know what you look like.. but if you are defensive you prolly do..

**Pinkvelvet** · 10-07-2005, 07:15 AM

Originally Posted by Decadbal

i dont know what you look like.. but if you are defensive you prolly do..

LOL

http://forums.steroid.com/showthread.php?t=197971

Let me venture...I probably don't!

And, I think you misunderstood my statement.....think about it in reverse...than You'll see what I mean!

**xtinaunasty** · 10-07-2005, 08:49 AM

Originally Posted by Decadbal

you women forget, that with even a small amount of alcohol, we will lower our standerds.. so pretty much every woman can do the conceited thing, and be like oh all my guy friends are tryin to fuck me... like they are he only one..ahahaha

ya but the guys that hit on me arent intoxicated...neither are the girls. hehe.

**Pinkvelvet** · 10-07-2005, 08:51 AM

Originally Posted by xtinaunasty

ya but the guys that hit on me arent intoxicated...neither are the girls. hehe.

LOL

**mustang331** · 10-13-2005, 05:39 PM

Well guys, I really messed up

I was doing so damn good and to be honest 80% of it came from this post. Knowing I wasn't alone and other people have been there before and coming from people I trust ( Weird being it's an ineternet site )
But like I was saying a whole week went by and I was ontop of my game ( game being just being happy ) I went to sleep last Sun. night and for the first time I really didn't think of her. Sure enough I get a phone call at 3am, it was her, she was crying a little and told me she got back from Jersey and had no ride home, that her friend must of passed out and never woke up, She begged me to please pick her up as she had no where to sleep ( her keys were at the person's house who was supposed to pick her up )
I was stuck in a corner, I had no choice really. I picked her up and we headed towards my house when her phone rang, it was her friend. She pleaded to pick it up or not, and told me she wanted to sleep over. I told her "NO" and we went to her friends house and I dropped her off.
She called me after I dropper her off, now about 4am and thanked me 100x, She asked and begged to come over that next day to watch a movie with me. Part of me knew it was a bad Idea the other part wanted to love again, I knew it was only going to be temporary and agree'd. I said to myself that I am going to strong and to good that I can't be pulled back in anyway..
Well sure enough I kinda was. We are no longer talking again, and I just hope this whole situation did not set me back to square #1.

I really need to change my number

**chest6** · 10-13-2005, 09:28 PM

Originally Posted by mustang331

Well guys, I really messed up

I was doing so damn good and to be honest 80% of it came from this post. Knowing I wasn't alone and other people have been there before and coming from people I trust ( Weird being it's an ineternet site )
But like I was saying a whole week went by and I was ontop of my game ( game being just being happy ) I went to sleep last Sun. night and for the first time I really didn't think of her. Sure enough I get a phone call at 3am, it was her, she was crying a little and told me she got back from Jersey and had no ride home, that her friend must of passed out and never woke up, She begged me to please pick her up as she had no where to sleep ( her keys were at the person's house who was supposed to pick her up )
I was stuck in a corner, I had no choice really. I picked her up and we headed towards my house when her phone rang, it was her friend. She pleaded to pick it up or not, and told me she wanted to sleep over. I told her "NO" and we went to her friends house and I dropped her off.
She called me after I dropper her off, now about 4am and thanked me 100x, She asked and begged to come over that next day to watch a movie with me. Part of me knew it was a bad Idea the other part wanted to love again, I knew it was only going to be temporary and agree'd. I said to myself that I am going to strong and to good that I can't be pulled back in anyway..
Well sure enough I kinda was. We are no longer talking again, and I just hope this whole situation did not set me back to square #1.

I really need to change my number

shit man..you are a strong person. When my gf gets all cute and starts begging i cant resist. Honestly, we have a terrible relationship i need to break it off. Shes flying to NY to see her ex in 2 weeks

**Prol** · 10-17-2005, 11:05 PM

Originally Posted by mustang331

Well guys, I really messed up

I was doing so damn good and to be honest 80% of it came from this post. Knowing I wasn't alone and other people have been there before and coming from people I trust ( Weird being it's an ineternet site )
But like I was saying a whole week went by and I was ontop of my game ( game being just being happy ) I went to sleep last Sun. night and for the first time I really didn't think of her. Sure enough I get a phone call at 3am, it was her, she was crying a little and told me she got back from Jersey and had no ride home, that her friend must of passed out and never woke up, She begged me to please pick her up as she had no where to sleep ( her keys were at the person's house who was supposed to pick her up )
I was stuck in a corner, I had no choice really. I picked her up and we headed towards my house when her phone rang, it was her friend. She pleaded to pick it up or not, and told me she wanted to sleep over. I told her "NO" and we went to her friends house and I dropped her off.
She called me after I dropper her off, now about 4am and thanked me 100x, She asked and begged to come over that next day to watch a movie with me. Part of me knew it was a bad Idea the other part wanted to love again, I knew it was only going to be temporary and agree'd. I said to myself that I am going to strong and to good that I can't be pulled back in anyway..
Well sure enough I kinda was. We are no longer talking again, and I just hope this whole situation did not set me back to square #1.

I really need to change my number

Just wonering how are things going ..........keep your head up bro .....you got a whole army behind you ..

**mustang331** · 10-19-2005, 12:30 PM

Originally Posted by Prol

Just wonering how are things going ..........keep your head up bro .....you got a whole army behind you ..

Thanks.. things are going pretty good actually.. She's tried calling me a good couple times but I was very short with her and she got the hint.. She hasn't tried to call back since Sat.

Funny though, I found out through the grapevines that she is FLYING to go meet someone she met online ( myspace.com )

Some people have some serious issue's.. this girl though is a nightmare when it comes to being insecure.. Always ALWAYS looking for a rebound..

She is a hot girl too, and I have no idea why she needs to go to another state, but her friend who is 38 years old LOL is doing the same thing, so she thinks it will work for her.. who knows maybe it will..

**edmen2** · 10-19-2005, 02:37 PM

i didnt feel like reading this wnole thread so if someone already said this my bad. but i deal with breakups by asking her best friend if we could talk over dinner even if she's ugly. then let the alcohol take effect chicks are suckers for emotional men especially while buzzing.

**decadbal** · 10-19-2005, 02:38 PM

my motto is, nothing makes you forget the last one, like the next one

**Hackamaniac** · 10-19-2005, 02:40 PM

I use to always punch walls and all that immature stuff break shit and finally came to my sense as I got older but I just don't like to be alone cause then you relive everything in your mind so for me my good friends were always my savior but good luck in whatever happens.

**Hackamaniac** · 10-19-2005, 02:41 PM

Originally Posted by Decadbal

my motto is, nothing makes you forget the last one, like the next one

that's also a quick fix but not permanent atleast with me.

**CAUSASIAN** · 10-19-2005, 02:50 PM

I went throught he same exact thing.

As soon as you forget about her, I bet she will call, and there is no way you can say no to the "favours" she needs.

All she is doing right now is keeping you around, as backup, just incase something goes wrong with other guys. Trust me dont let yourself be treated that way. Get respect for yourself, because if you look back you will feel you made great mistakes.

Sad part is you wont forget about her and it will hurt until you get another girlfriend. And what sucks is, even if you can get another girlfriend right now, you wont, because you still like the girl that is treating you like crap. Its a cycle.

Try to move on, get another girl, alteast to get over this girl. And you cant go wrong.

Because once she sees you with another girl, she will get jealous. And making a girl jealous is the best thing to do for revenge, and she will want you back.

Girls want what they cant have, and dont want what they can have.

And I bet she hurts you alot mentally and emotionally, and you go out of your way, not to hurt her. That is a mistake also. Hurt her the same way she hurts you. Dont be afraid to say no.

**Evil Predator** · 10-19-2005, 05:49 PM

Ill never get how you guys can be such emotional wrecks with women. It doesnt take me two years of fighting and breaking up to figure out it aint gonna work

When you leave a relationship, your goal should be to be a little better off in life everytime you see that person again. Then its like revenge.

Losers go home, winners go home with the prom queen.

**Prol** · 10-19-2005, 06:26 PM

i personally don't believe in getting together with another girl if you still inlove with the old one ........a nail doesn't take another nail out ........Take time for yourself .......sleep with other girls but don't get emotional or anything take a break from having to respond to someone just do what you want ......when you realize that you we're born alone and will die alone ....and that you don't need a woman in your life to feel complete .....then you try another relationship ............it will be the best...you will feel independent and confedent ....

**mustang331** · 10-19-2005, 07:44 PM

Originally Posted by Prol

i personally don't believe in getting together with another girl if you still inlove with the old one ........a nail doesn't take another nail out ........Take time for yourself .......sleep with other girls but don't get emotional or anything take a break from having to respond to someone just do what you want ......when you realize that you we're born alone and will die alone ....and that you don't need a woman in your life to feel complete .....then you try another relationship ............it will be the best...you will feel independent and confedent ....

VERY VERY well said....

god I think some of you guys should make a relationship break up CD