Who else trains alone?

**Carlos_E** · 11-15-2005, 09:41 PM

Another thing you guys probably don't experience... In NYC, most gyms are pretty gay. If you walk up to a guy and ask for a spot they think you're hitting on them. They get all friendly and won't go away or even ask for a phone number. I get to the point where I say LOOK I JUST WANTED A SPOT!!!

**Red Ketchup** · 11-15-2005, 10:05 PM

I also train alone... there is nothing I hate more than someone talking to me while I'm in my "groove" (for lack of a better term), and when training with a partner chatting is almost inevitable.

Soooo I am sure I could make better gains if I trained with someone else who could spot me and stuff, but I enjoy my solitude... I'm a loner

Red

**Lavinco** · 11-15-2005, 10:09 PM

i train alone mainly because I cant find someone with the same dedication as me.

I also hate meeting people at the gym because pretty soon everyone just wants to talk to you and then you don't get shit done.

If you talk to 6 people for 5 minutes that's 1/2 hour that i can be working on my goals.

I use the smith machine for a spot on certain excercises.

**J.S.N.** · 11-15-2005, 10:27 PM

i don't see what's so wrong with the guys that basically want you to train them for free.

when i go with a partner, i try to be fair and do shit that they wanna do even if it's something i hate doing like cable flyes or something. if you could find a lackey you'd be teaching him alot of stuff, and you'd have your spotter and someone who will likely follow the trainign you want to do.

**Carlos_E** · 11-15-2005, 11:13 PM

Originally Posted by J.S.N.

i don't see what's so wrong with the guys that basically want you to train them for free.

when i go with a partner, i try to be fair and do shit that they wanna do even if it's something i hate doing like cable flyes or something. if you could find a lackey you'd be teaching him alot of stuff, and you'd have your spotter and someone who will likely follow the trainign you want to do.

Part of the problem I see is their experience level. Either they spot to little or they spot to much or they're staring off into space when the weight is coming down on you. Have you ever gotten a bad spot on squats? I have. The guy almost pushed me over. I don't know what he was doing.

**anaBROLIC** · 11-15-2005, 11:25 PM

Originally Posted by J.S.N.

i don't see what's so wrong with the guys that basically want you to train them for free.

when i go with a partner, i try to be fair and do shit that they wanna do even if it's something i hate doing like cable flyes or something. if you could find a lackey you'd be teaching him alot of stuff, and you'd have your spotter and someone who will likely follow the trainign you want to do.

i have a friend who is new and im training him. he is well motivated into learning. training him as my partner is nice because it keeps me motivated as well. the problem for most people is like carlos said in his first post. if someone isnt 100 percent motivated they will not continue to train, they will be the ones saying "u train to hard" or "u push me to much". no1 is going to want to keep starting over and over with newbs

**Carlos_E** · 11-16-2005, 11:11 AM

Well, it looks like I "may" have found a training partner. I have 2 potentials. One guy who competes nationally. He is doing nationals so I doubt he will be back in the gym for a few weeks. I took 3 weeks off after my show. The other guy is a trainer and his training partner just decided to move to FL. I would have to join a new gym to train with either of them.

**Anna Bollick** · 11-16-2005, 11:29 AM

I train alone. I used to have a pretty good training partner, but she has gone on to bigger and better things, I guess. I also train at home. When I want to squat or bench press or similar to failure, I use the smith machine for the failure set or sets. I find that my sessions are much more efficient and businesslike when I train alone. True, sometimes having someone else egging you on will help with the intensity, but I just ask myself "What would Arnold do?" and that gets my motor running. My current lover is more into pilates and yoga and stuff, and I probably curl in one hand more than she would ever want to squat, so she would be useless as a TP, and actually, now she gets bored when I ask her to watch.

Training has very erotic overtones for me, and I would probably not want a training partner who was not also a lover. Since I find myself more interested in females these days, that option isn't going to work well for me. I like training alone anyway. Training partners? Hah. Who needs them?

Love
Anna

**NevrSayNevr** · 11-16-2005, 11:38 AM

Good Luck Carlos E, I am training by myself at the moment also. I have had 2 really good training partners so far out of problably the last 8, you have to find someone who will be at every workout and be able to work around each others schedule which is very hard if you both work different hours. I find that sometimes I do workout better on my own, I know what I am capable of and push myself. But nothing compares to having someone there especially if they are bigger than you, I seem to lift heavier and harder than I would normally, kinda like "I will show you what I can do". I have found most of my partners through people I work with, since there are like 400 people at my workplace, it is a little easier for me. I hope you find someone with the same goals, and maybe even willing to do the same program, that really helps. Hope all works for you. Later. Ernog

**J.S.N.** · 11-16-2005, 12:41 PM

Originally Posted by Carlos_E

Part of the problem I see is their experience level. Either they spot to little or they spot to much or they're staring off into space when the weight is coming down on you. Have you ever gotten a bad spot on squats? I have. The guy almost pushed me over. I don't know what he was doing.

yeah i hear ya on that,; you are definitely gonna have to teach them how to properly spot you. good luck on these next 2 recruits, i hope they work out.

**DNoMac** · 11-16-2005, 01:12 PM

I train alone as well. I see the gym as my time alone where I can crank up the ipod and do my thing. Having somebody is nice when they know what they are doing, but I find besides having a spotter, they aren't beneficial. It would be better if I was at my old gym where it was more hardcore and we would get crazy, but the gym I'm at now is colorful and has balloons...My solution is switching up the workouts so that you don't need a spotter all the time i.e. Dumbells, machines, ect. every other workout. Best of Luck

**punk_bbuilder** · 11-16-2005, 01:29 PM

I train alone just cause i cant handle most lifting partners, im very picky about them..

**majorpecs** · 11-16-2005, 02:55 PM

I train alone also. I've tried to pick up partners, but I've found that it's VERY annoying getting someone to be the partner that you NEED them to be. I do know for a fact though, that the few times I had a partner worth a shit, I seemed to get better gains for that period of time.

**Mike Dura** · 12-31-2005, 04:27 PM

I train alone. Yeahhh....with nobody else. You know when I train alone.....I prefer to be by myself!!!! That's my version of the song. I used to have a training partner and it was great because we were both just as commited. I love doing forced reps, particularly with legs so that one drawback to training alone. I train with volume so I'm in the gym for hours - I don't see many people training like that especially at Bally's. I like to keep to myself when I train too. I find being social interupts the flow of training and who wants to be social when you're feeling "keyed up." You know? Yet on the other hand, people seem to find my asocial mode weird and it almost seems like it's threatening....watch out for those quiet ones right?

**cfiler** · 12-31-2005, 04:44 PM

I work out alone... but I'm gonna get my GF to train with me hopefully in the new year.

**Booz** · 12-31-2005, 04:54 PM

carlos i know wat you mean,my trainin partner stopped trainin three years ago,so i have been trainin alone,could not find anyone who would train as intense as i,the bods that tried have always pulled out of the next session coz they "hurt"!!pusseys!any way my old trainin partner picked his belt up again 3 months ago and i feel i am gainin again!!this years gonna be great!
hope you get it sorted bro and have a good new year!

**Bigpup101** · 12-31-2005, 05:10 PM

YO CARLOS!! I go through the same shyt, i live in westchester about 45 mins from the city..i might be getting a job at new york life in manhattan..i'll know in a week or so i'll hit you up with a pm..unless you wanna meet me in white plains to train

**Panzerfaust** · 12-31-2005, 05:54 PM

I feel you bro...i train alone as i find i can stay focused and am in an out.

The day that i would like to have a partner would be on chest day, but yesterday was chest day and for some reason like the clouds and heavens aligned and i was having one hell of a chest workout..i was pushing up some good weight..i was like "6...7...i wont get this one...8....9....10...11...12...wtf?"

Chest is my worst body part and if i can keep it up like i did yesterday then i will be fine working out alone.

Like said if you do find a partner..then you have the stress and BS of them not showing up or them messing around during training etc..

**Big** · 12-31-2005, 05:58 PM

I train alone just so I can go at my own pace, as soon as my body says it's time for another set I jump in, don't want to have to wait for my turn.

**Carlos_E** · 12-31-2005, 06:18 PM

Originally Posted by Bigpup101

YO CARLOS!! I go through the same shyt, i live in westchester about 45 mins from the city..i might be getting a job at new york life in manhattan..i'll know in a week or so i'll hit you up with a pm..unless you wanna meet me in white plains to train

I'm still training on my own so it sounds great. I don't have a car so we'd have to train in the city. Keep in touch.

**Sage** · 12-31-2005, 07:52 PM

i'm a loaner....i mean i train ALONE and always have been for number of years at the same gym. there are regulars who i train with in the evenings and are dedicated close to the samle level as i am.
no BS talk from me, just give a spot, let him know it was a good set, and i move on. Bros responding the same way to me when i ask for a spot as well. I prefer it that way.

**guest589745** · 12-31-2005, 09:06 PM

I train alone but, definately don't prefer it that way. everyone is lazy pussies basically.

**Testsubject** · 12-31-2005, 09:17 PM

I train alone, most of the time, any time I have off from work I train with my two friends. Workin out with these two guys is just insane, they both have 4 years experience on me so they really push me. its hard to make any big jumps without a training partner IMO. Asking for a spot when you need one isnt that easy seeing as though 99% of people in the gym dont know how to give a proper spot.

**TinTin78** · 12-31-2005, 11:22 PM

I train alone, and the most annoying thing to see is 2 people training together and the only thing they have that opportunity for is talk shit. I have tried to say it to them but they don't use it, they just stand and watch the other benchpress until he is done and switch, maybe some laughter and a little karate between exercies.

My best time of training was when I had a partner, but he thought I was to serious and it took to long time in the gym. I just say bullshit, you have to rip those muscles apart and it takes the time it takes.