OMG please help me out!!!

**AnabolicAndre** · 04-04-2006, 10:40 PM

another girl problem

Let me give you some background on this situation...

first the girl who I am dating. She's smart beautiful, driven, fit, sexy, classy, sexually satisfying, a christian, really everything you could ask for.

Last year I went to VA BEACH with 7 of closest my friends three of which were girls. we hung out, partied, surfed, sat on the beach, walked the boards, you named it we did it we had so much fun. (I was not seeing the girl, I am now, at this time.)

This year we're planning on going back same crew, do prettty much of the same things.

SO my problem is this girl, we'll call her JAYNE... Jayne doesnt want me to go bc shes says its something i wouldve done before I ment her. The whole party scene, and while I have matured A LOT over the past year, I still dont see how a week WITH MY CLOSEEST FRIENDS is that big of a deal.

She says ohhh if youre in such a commited relationship you dont need to go down there and get drunk and party for a week....Her main issue is the three girls going... Now 1. IS FAT and I wouldnt touch it with a 10ft pole GIRL#2. is effing my best friend and GIRL#3 has a serious boyfriend

I just got off the Phone with her and told her i will try and replace the three girls but if I cant I'm stilll going, and she was like well the andre i dont want to be you...

WHAT DO I DO?!?!

**SwoleCat** · 04-04-2006, 10:42 PM

Have fun w/your friends.

After all, blood is thicker than water and even if friends aren't your true blood, that water is rather dirty.

~SC~

**SwoleCat** · 04-04-2006, 10:44 PM

Tell her that you are sorry but if she can't understand they are your friends from long ago, then that's just tough titties.

Or, she can go w/you but I get the impression that's not an option.

I mean, u guys aren't married, and that being the case don't let anyone control you or change things like this unless you feel you want to marry and give another that respect. (to change your life essentially)

~SC~

**AnabolicAndre** · 04-04-2006, 10:50 PM

Yea she is the one I thought I would marry but I cant stand being controlled or threatened

**Mizfit** · 04-04-2006, 10:51 PM

U ultimately have to decide....

What's more important to you?

Hey why can't she come along?

**AnabolicAndre** · 04-04-2006, 10:51 PM

thats why I dont do GF'S Because I hate when women try and tie you down

**AnabolicAndre** · 04-04-2006, 10:52 PM

Originally Posted by Mizfit

U ultimately have to decide....

What's more important to you?

Hey why can't she come along?

Shes from a strict christian fam. they'd never let her tag along...

**BigRandy** · 04-04-2006, 11:06 PM

Originally Posted by AnabolicAndre

Shes from a strict christian fam. they'd never let her tag along...

...how old is she?

**AnabolicAndre** · 04-04-2006, 11:26 PM

21, but they bought pay for her car her insurance and her college tuition so if she wants that she has to do what they say.

**Prol** · 04-04-2006, 11:30 PM

Your not Married.............Go if you feel like it..........

**steve0** · 04-04-2006, 11:36 PM

bro u only live on once sand takeing a vacation with your best buddies for one solid week of cuttin loose and haveing fun is the best thing you could ask for when your young if you dont go you will look back and regreat it

**BARLOW** · 04-04-2006, 11:40 PM

tell her they were also ur friends before she came along and you need to go chill with them....if she cant understand that , then shes selfish

**QuieTSToRM33** · 04-05-2006, 01:02 AM

fvck her ........ go have fun man

if she's so narrow-minded to somethin like this .... just imagine what could become in the future

ditch the girl ....... be with ur friends

**chest6** · 04-05-2006, 01:08 AM

sounds like she doesnt trust you..

**juiceboxxx** · 04-05-2006, 01:15 AM

STAY friends come and go. FINDING A PROPER GIRL TAKES 10000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000 YEARS (WELL ATLEAST FOR ME AND EVERYONE I KNOW)

On a serious note: I would stay because if you go, you will lose your gf (which you describe as being almost perfect) and you dont want to risk that.Also if you stay yes your friends will be mad at you, you wont have the fun you were hoping for but I doubt you would lose them.

**chest6** · 04-05-2006, 01:30 AM

bring up the trust thing.. and be like if you dont trust me there is no relationship

**AnabolicAndre** · 04-05-2006, 02:52 AM

ahHHHHHH so its 4am Im pretty sure the neighbors are pissed at all the yelling I had done, we resolved it she basically was like go, Ill get over it.. but I cant loose you I wont ever find anyone like you blah blah blahhhhh, whatev man.

She effing menstral, I blame it on that.

its bedtime thanks guys for all your advice.

**chest6** · 04-05-2006, 03:29 AM

well thats good..better than her not caring at all I guess?

**RuhlFreak55** · 04-05-2006, 05:33 AM

Originally Posted by Mizfit

Hey why can't she come along?

that was my question as well

**RuhlFreak55** · 04-05-2006, 05:34 AM

Originally Posted by AnabolicAndre

Shes from a strict christian fam. they'd never let her tag along...

weird........that's why i stay away from religious whackos for the most part

**Teabagger** · 04-05-2006, 05:47 AM

The main issue is her insecurity. She thinks you'll be banging everything. If thats true...well...no need to worry about the relationship. If it is not true, you need to find a way to help her feel more secure...get real serious with her, talk and try to understand her point of view. How would you really feel if she were busting out to party for a week without you...with tons of single guys around and going with a party that included 3 other guys....hell I think most of us here would feel abit insecure about that. But as Mizfit said, ultimately it you that has to decide what is more important to you...her...or a week of killing brain cells and raising you liver enzymes through the roof? JMO. Good luck in the decision making.

**thebison** · 04-05-2006, 06:09 AM

y not just invite her?

**slob** · 04-05-2006, 07:29 AM

WHAT DO I DO?!?!

tell her to take a hike.
don't ever sell yourself short for a female, doesn't matter what qualities they have.
trying to make you chose between your friends and her i sad and pathetic.
ditch the bitch

**Duck of Death** · 04-05-2006, 07:32 AM

Originally Posted by thebison

y not just invite her?

....You read my mind. If you invite her, then the onus is ON HER as to why she can't go. Hey, you invited her, if her parents are so strict, that's not your fault, is it? Another thing, if you expect this controlling behavior to improve once you are really committed (ex. married), then I have some nice swampland in Florida to sell you - cheap!

***D7M*** · 04-05-2006, 07:38 AM

she's not as perfect as you say, or she'd be cool with you going. how long have you been with her? and she's giving you crap about your friends, I wouldn't take it.

**cfiler** · 04-05-2006, 07:48 AM

Originally Posted by AnabolicAndre

ahHHHHHH so its 4am Im pretty sure the neighbors are pissed at all the yelling I had done, we resolved it she basically was like go, Ill get over it.. but I cant loose you I wont ever find anyone like you blah blah blahhhhh, whatev man.

She effing menstral, I blame it on that.

its bedtime thanks guys for all your advice.

Glad to hear you were able to get this all resolved. Have fun with your buddies!