How catabolic is stress?

**guest589745** · 04-14-2006, 05:29 PM

Cause I am stressed out kinda a lot. How do you deal with it effectively? I find it VERY hard to ignore how I feel or change how I think in order to not get stressed (aka put up with bullshit 90% of the time). Any supps anyone had success with?

**Temptation** · 04-14-2006, 05:34 PM

Have you thought of a spiritual seperation... meditation? I don't mean like... go find a religion but find an outlet to make peace with yourself... reading, sports, fishing, .... something to give a quiet self reflection... helps me.

And yes, stress CAN kill you. It leads to ulcers, high blood pressure - as well as other things.

I took an ecology course where we learned about waterfalls... as nice as they are if you lived near one where you could hear the water gushing 24-7 studies show you'd die approximately 20 years sooner than if you hadn't lived there... the constant noise creates your body to operate at an "active" rate 24-7... (hr is always up)... it's constant stress on the body.

**USfighterFC** · 04-14-2006, 05:35 PM

Stress is extremely catabolic. I have no idea what to take other than cut that stressful point out of your life.

**guest589745** · 04-14-2006, 05:38 PM

Basically Im stuck with my girl and I cant stand her most of the time. Long story but, I dont really see how I can get rid of her and have the outcome in my favor.

I lift whch makes me feel a lot better when Im done but, I need something else. I dont even know if Id have time to do it even if I knew it would help though.

**Temptation** · 04-14-2006, 05:40 PM

How are you stuck with her... married? Financial? Children?

**guest589745** · 04-14-2006, 05:46 PM

I have a kid with her.

I know that even if I got custody, or at least tried, she would do some crazy stupid shit.

If I dont get custody, I risk having my kid somewhat raised by another guy. **** that. I'd kill him and her. Literally. I want my kid close to me at all times.

We just havent been gettin along for a while now and, I am always stressed the **** out because of her attitude.

**guest589745** · 04-14-2006, 05:53 PM

I know Im gonna get responses like "Just leave her, thats what I'd do" but, I am in a situation that I cannot find a solution for even when I calm down, rationalize and concentrate on finding one. I feel trapped.

**GreenLantern12** · 04-14-2006, 05:54 PM

Originally Posted by Temptation

I took an ecology course where we learned about waterfalls... as nice as they are if you lived near one where you could hear the water gushing 24-7 studies show you'd die approximately 20 years sooner than if you hadn't lived there... the constant noise creates your body to operate at an "active" rate 24-7... (hr is always up)... it's constant stress on the body.

Wow make you think twice before you get one of those relaxing in home mini waterfalls, or playing the soothing sounds cd when you go to bed.

**Temptation** · 04-14-2006, 05:59 PM

Well legally you and she are both responsible until the child is 18 (some states 21) so... ask yourself -- do you want to put up with this until then? If not... then you do what you've gotta do. Reality... if you break up, unless she's a total mental case -- she'll get custody... courts are weird like that. You'll get holidays and every other weekend (sometimes more) guaranteed and she'll move on as will you -- so SOMEONE is going to be watching your child... it's almost inevitable. You have to trust that she makes a good relationship decision and keep a 3rd eye out on your child... bruises, abuse...etc. If ANYTHING happens you can be pretty sure you'll get custody (as long as you're stable) and she'll have her visitation rights... unless she is the abuser and then those rights are taken away and she will get limited visitation w/ supervision.

I guess you have to decide how much of your happiness will you put aside for your children -- and for how long.

Sometimes having multiple sets of parents can be a positive experience for a child.

**Temptation** · 04-14-2006, 06:00 PM

GreenLantern

I don't think those home-medic things are loud enough

**TheMudMan** · 04-14-2006, 08:37 PM

You also have to ask yourself...... how healthy is it for a child to grow up in a home where his/her parents don't love eachother and fight a lot. Don't be fooled if you think the kid doesn't sence a problem...... they are a lot smarter then a lot of people give them credit for.

I have a step-son so I'm the "other guy" helping raise another person's child. Youcan't look at it the way you are...... you need to ask your self what is best for all of us. Sometimes the best thing is to move on, and be in your childs life as much as possible.

**Pooks** · 04-14-2006, 09:34 PM

Meditation is some powerful stuff. it could actually save your relationship with her and make the kid happier..

but it takes serious commitment, and time.

**Temptation** · 04-15-2006, 06:04 AM

I, too am a step-parent -- it's just as difficult being eagle-eyed by the mother as it is trusting the child will be alright from the parental point of view.

It takes a strong and dedicated person to take on the task as the "step-parent" knowing you may go above and beyond the call of duty for a little person who's technically "not your own". You know what I'm saying?

**guest589745** · 04-15-2006, 07:32 AM

What do you guys mean specifically by meditation? Some kind of counseling? I want to make things better. I know it will be more healthy for all of us if we can do that. I have to stop my self from arguing when we are in front of my kid because I was brought up in a house like that and I dont want my child to go through what I did. Yea, real ironic huh. I can only hope that if we ever did split up, that she would get with a half decent human being but, I am not sure how likely that is. Thats why I have the outlook I do. I really just dont want to put up with even a little bit of anyones shit whether it be talking rudely to me or just being hypocrytical like she is at times. As soon as I get 1 bit of shit from anyone I just think in my head "Ok, I don't need this shit" and I try to defend my point of view and she just DOES NOT SEE ANYONE elses side but hers and its over stupid little shit, things that if we could just stop and think we'd be like "wait, this is ****in retarded". Alright, enough of this. I dont wanna get stressed out just writing this.