Cant get my F'n wife in the gym.

**Dobie-BOY** · 05-24-2007, 12:10 AM

Pisses me off to no end. I told her she could quit her job so she could finish up her school without so much stress. So she goes to school MAYBE 15 hours a week and has no homework or tests to study for. I go out of town for my job and Im usually gone about 36 hours at a time. Way too often I call to talk to her and ask, "so did you work out"? Man you should hear the excuses roll. I feel like she is kinda being selfish. Ya know I bust my ass in the gym try to eat good, and all that to look good. I used to do it to get *****, now Im cool with just one good girl, but I feel like why should I try so hard to look good for someone who will not do the same for me? I mean she is beautiful now, but I guess what also bothers me is her acceptance of mediocrity. I just dont get how some people are content with average. I dont know, just needed to get this out to someone. One final question, is it just me or do very few women have a real passion or hobby of any sort?

**taiboxa** · 05-24-2007, 12:40 AM

i have found an electric collar works great.. they dont go.. u push a button and give em a lil jolt of GET YOUR ASS UP

**sci muscle** · 05-24-2007, 01:22 AM

Its not all women bro. Some women love to workout and try to look hot. Some women are very ambitious, some are not. My wife works alot, makes a bunch of money, has hobbies, works out and still manages to bang me like 10 times/week....6 years and still good as new!

**Titleist** · 05-24-2007, 01:29 AM

Originally Posted by sci muscle

Its not all women bro. Some women love to workout and try to look hot. Some women are very ambitious, some are not. My wife works alot, makes a bunch of money, has hobbies, works out and still manages to bang me like 10 times/week....6 years and still good as new!

Sounds like you got a keeper.

**sci muscle** · 05-24-2007, 01:38 AM

Yeah, but we'll see if it lasts if we have kids!

**NotSmall** · 05-24-2007, 02:12 AM

Originally Posted by taiboxa

i have found an electric collar works great.. they dont go.. u push a button and give em a lil jolt of GET YOUR ASS UP

LMAO!

**Dobie-BOY** · 05-24-2007, 03:41 AM

Originally Posted by taiboxa

i have found an electric collar works great.. they dont go.. u push a button and give em a lil jolt of GET YOUR ASS UP

OH HELL YES!!!! I never thought of that!!! I already got one for my dog, I'll just pad lock it on her in her sleep. Hell, even if she doesnt go to the gym I bet if I hit the button enough it will give her a hell of a workout. EXCELLENT, she can sit on the couch and get a full body workout. Not only that I could have my buddies over and we could have a group ab class from lau***ng our asses off watching her flop around like a fish outta water. GENIOUS!!

**Dobie-BOY** · 05-24-2007, 03:44 AM

Originally Posted by sci muscle

Its not all women bro. Some women love to workout and try to look hot. Some women are very ambitious, some are not. My wife works alot, makes a bunch of money, has hobbies, works out and still manages to bang me like 10 times/week....6 years and still good as new!

congratulations bro, those are hard to come by. Wanna swap? hehe

Ok, now I feel bad for bashin my wife. I love her and Im sure she's good for something.

**wascaptain5214** · 05-24-2007, 03:48 AM

mine is a school teacher. she comes to the gym with me during holiday breaks and the summer. a week left of school and we will be together every minute of the day.......

j/k we have fun together

**DSM4Life** · 05-24-2007, 04:39 AM

Originally Posted by Dobie-BOY

Pisses me off to no end. I told her she could quit her job so she could finish up her school without so much stress. So she goes to school MAYBE 15 hours a week and has no homework or tests to study for. I go out of town for my job and Im usually gone about 36 hours at a time. Way too often I call to talk to her and ask, "so did you work out"? Man you should hear the excuses roll. I feel like she is kinda being selfish. Ya know I bust my ass in the gym try to eat good, and all that to look good. I used to do it to get *****, now Im cool with just one good girl, but I feel like why should I try so hard to look good for someone who will not do the same for me? I mean she is beautiful now, but I guess what also bothers me is her acceptance of mediocrity. I just dont get how some people are content with average. I dont know, just needed to get this out to someone. One final question, is it just me or do very few women have a real passion or hobby of any sort?

Someone sounds jealous.

You told her she could stop working but now you expect her to do what you want with her free time? I can understand how you are upset that you work more but you gave her the option and now you must live with it.

**Dobie-BOY** · 05-24-2007, 04:50 AM

Originally Posted by wascaptain5214

mine is a school teacher. she comes to the gym with me during holiday breaks and the summer. a week left of school and we will be together every minute of the day.......

j/k we have fun together

congrats bro.

**Dobie-BOY** · 05-24-2007, 04:56 AM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

Someone sounds jealous.

You told her she could stop working but now you expect her to do what you want with her free time? I can understand how you are upset that you work more but you gave her the option and now you must live with it.

Hell yes Im jealous. I wish I could work for 15 hours a week and have someone buy all my shiit. Ya, I gave her the option, But Im no fool. I control the money, seems fair since I make it all, she will either pick it up to MY liking or go get her ass a jobby job. If Im gonna have a trophy wife, she better keep my trophy polished REAL GOOD!!!

**nalbano34** · 05-24-2007, 05:02 AM

I would take my girl to the gym and like 15 mins. in she would just sit around and act exhausted........I would make her ass wait!!!

**johnmacdan** · 05-24-2007, 06:51 AM

Originally Posted by Dobie-BOY

Hell yes Im jealous. I wish I could work for 15 hours a week and have someone buy all my shiit. Ya, I gave her the option, But Im no fool. I control the money, seems fair since I make it all, she will either pick it up to MY liking or go get her ass a jobby job. If Im gonna have a trophy wife, she better keep my trophy polished REAL GOOD!!!

Hahahahahahahahahhahaha

If you controlled anything she would have her ass at the gym. I'm still paying for my wife's membership and she has been twice in 6 months.

**mavsluva** · 05-24-2007, 06:59 AM

Originally Posted by Dobie-BOY

Pisses me off to no end. I told her she could quit her job so she could finish up her school without so much stress. So she goes to school MAYBE 15 hours a week and has no homework or tests to study for. I go out of town for my job and Im usually gone about 36 hours at a time. Way too often I call to talk to her and ask, "so did you work out"? Man you should hear the excuses roll. I feel like she is kinda being selfish. Ya know I bust my ass in the gym try to eat good, and all that to look good. I used to do it to get *****, now Im cool with just one good girl, but I feel like why should I try so hard to look good for someone who will not do the same for me? I mean she is beautiful now, but I guess what also bothers me is her acceptance of mediocrity. I just dont get how some people are content with average. I dont know, just needed to get this out to someone. One final question, is it just me or do very few women have a real passion or hobby of any sort?

Working out is your pride and your passion. It's very likely that her pride and passion lie's in something else. And honestly, her pride and passion could reside in you being her husband, so you might want to give her at least some credit.

If you expect her to workout, then you're probably sending the wrong message to her. That'll leave her thinking that you're not satisfied with her current physical appearance. Most, if not all, women do want to improve their appearance in some form or fashion. But since their passion and pride often falls in something else, their sense of urgency is not quite as high as you'd like it to be.

Question: Has your wife ever really wanted you to do something with her (either once or on a regular basis) that you have refused? Why did you refuse it? Did it possibly conflict with your pride and your passion (working out)?

Mavs

**K.Biz** · 05-24-2007, 07:49 AM

Originally Posted by mavsluva

Working out is your pride and your passion. It's very likely that her pride and passion lie's in something else. And honestly, her pride and passion could reside in you being her husband, so you might want to give her at least some credit.

If you expect her to workout, then you're probably sending the wrong message to her. That'll leave her thinking that you're not satisfied with her current physical appearance. Most, if not all, women do want to improve their appearance in some form or fashion. But since their passion and pride often falls in something else, their sense of urgency is not quite as high as you'd like it to be.

Question: Has your wife ever really wanted you to do something with her (either once or on a regular basis) that you have refused? Why did you refuse it? Did it possibly conflict with your pride and your passion (working out)?

Mavs

Mav could you ever have a bad response to a question ever?

I agree with mav though. We all have our passions, yours, mine and im sure pretty much everyone on this board that is dedicated, is lifting. Your wifes may be, Gardening? Reading? Cooking? There may be many things your wife does for you and her on a regular basis that you never notice.

Also try and spice things up a lil bit. There are ways to get her to do some simple cardio that will really work on her tightening her body if you try hard enough. Try a dance class? somthing like salsa thats fast. This will be a good hour class, you will both be doing a form of cardio, and im sure your wife would be thrilled. And Im sure you would get some heafty brownie points if you brought up, "hey, I think we should take a dance class, somthing like salsa, i like the fast dancing"

Perhaps go on a walk with her, mabye a mile or two, mabye not a high high fat burner, but once again im sure your wife will apreciate it and shes getting excersise.

Think about it man! theres so many things you can do to get your wife active without asking her to "workout"

**gixxerboy1** · 05-24-2007, 07:57 AM

Originally Posted by mavsluva

Working out is your pride and your passion. It's very likely that her pride and passion lie's in something else. And honestly, her pride and passion could reside in you being her husband, so you might want to give her at least some credit.

If you expect her to workout, then you're probably sending the wrong message to her. That'll leave her thinking that you're not satisfied with her current physical appearance. Most, if not all, women do want to improve their appearance in some form or fashion. But since their passion and pride often falls in something else, their sense of urgency is not quite as high as you'd like it to be.

Question: Has your wife ever really wanted you to do something with her (either once or on a regular basis) that you have refused? Why did you refuse it? Did it possibly conflict with your pride and your passion (working out)?

Mavs

Great post.

Not everyone enjoys going to the gym. Just because you love it you cant force it on her. And I'm sure she does things to look good for you. She gets her hair done? Nails and facials? You don't think she does that stuff to look good for herself and you?

**Dobie-BOY** · 05-24-2007, 11:04 AM

Ya, I have been thinkin about it and I kinda came up with these same ideas. I guess I will just give up till she starts gettin fat. Just went and bought her $200 worth of workout stuff. What a waste!!

**Dobie-BOY** · 05-24-2007, 11:08 AM

Originally Posted by mavsluva

Working out is your pride and your passion. It's very likely that her pride and passion lie's in something else. And honestly, her pride and passion could reside in you being her husband, so you might want to give her at least some credit.

If you expect her to workout, then you're probably sending the wrong message to her. That'll leave her thinking that you're not satisfied with her current physical appearance. Most, if not all, women do want to improve their appearance in some form or fashion. But since their passion and pride often falls in something else, their sense of urgency is not quite as high as you'd like it to be.

Question: Has your wife ever really wanted you to do something with her (either once or on a regular basis) that you have refused? Why did you refuse it? Did it possibly conflict with your pride and your passion (working out)?

Mavs

Good point my man, very insightful. Got me thinkin. Thanks bro

**SubmissionGrappler** · 05-24-2007, 01:19 PM

My wife and i have been working out together for 12yrs.I got her into it by going and doing my workout before or after her.if it means that much to you then appropriate 30 or 45 minutes to train her one on one as a personal trainer would do until she develops her own drive and ambition to workout regularly.Alot of women go to the gym and feel lost and overwhelmed by the atmosphere of free weights..once she gets the feel for things she will more than likely take a liking to it.

**crazycrab** · 05-24-2007, 01:49 PM

I called my wife fat and she was in the gym the next day

**number twelve** · 05-24-2007, 03:07 PM

mavs, that was a great response. your the man! lol

**DSM4Life** · 05-24-2007, 03:37 PM

Originally Posted by Dobie-BOY

Hell yes Im jealous. I wish I could work for 15 hours a week and have someone buy all my shiit. Ya, I gave her the option, But Im no fool. I control the money, seems fair since I make it all, she will either pick it up to MY liking or go get her ass a jobby job. If Im gonna have a trophy wife, she better keep my trophy polished REAL GOOD!!!

Sounds like you have a very loving relationship

**Dobie-BOY** · 05-24-2007, 04:51 PM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

Sounds like you have a very loving relationship

No, we have a great relationship. Just gotta work out a few things. I have been real stressed at work lately and having some health problems that are really f'n with my life right now which adds to the stress. Some of my comments were made jokingly (IE."im sure shes good for something"). I really just needed to vent for a minute and hopefully get some constructive thoughts. I really wasnt looking for smart ass remarks. Thanks BRO, you have been a real contribution.

**spywizard** · 05-24-2007, 04:56 PM

it's a power struggle now man..

tell her that's cool, she feels safe in the relationship, she can let her self go to hell, after all you aren't approached in the gym by women that are there and asked advice... right??

just makes a point..

her father couldn't make her do anything you sure as hell aren't either..

it's not pretty, but it's the truth..

**Dobie-BOY** · 05-24-2007, 05:03 PM

Originally Posted by spywizard

it's a power struggle now man..

tell her that's cool, she feels safe in the relationship, she can let her self go to hell, after all you aren't approached in the gym by women that are there and asked advice... right??

just makes a point..

her father couldn't make her do anything you sure as hell aren't either..

it's not pretty, but it's the truth..

Ya, I just think Im gonna sit tight for a while and see what happens. My usual bitchin and griping works, but it wears me out. Im just gonna relax and see what happens. Im gonna plan lots of trips to float the river and go boatin. Maybe if she see's me all ripped and all the women checkin me out she will feel inadequate and get her act together. I still feel like its kinda selfish on her part not to want to look her best for me. Oh well, all I can do is all I can do.

**taiboxa** · 05-24-2007, 05:13 PM

i still support the shock collar.

**spywizard** · 05-24-2007, 05:16 PM

Originally Posted by Dobie-BOY

Ya, I just think Im gonna sit tight for a while and see what happens. My usual bitchin and griping works, but it wears me out. Im just gonna relax and see what happens. Im gonna plan lots of trips to float the river and go boatin. Maybe if she see's me all ripped and all the women checkin me out she will feel inadequate and get her act together. I still feel like its kinda selfish on her part not to want to look her best for me. Oh well, all I can do is all I can do.

that's what works for me..

And i too support the shock collar, but my wife said she'd do it, but i would have to wear it while i was on cycle, so if she didn't want sex, she could put me off..

so that's not a good idea for me..

**taiboxa** · 05-24-2007, 05:18 PM

Originally Posted by spywizard

that's what works for me..

And i too support the shock collar, but my wife said she'd do it, but i would have to wear it while i was on cycle, so if she didn't want sex, she could put me off..

so that's not a good idea for me..

ROFL oh wow... DEFINETLY gonna be a Test Free Cycle eh?

**spywizard** · 05-24-2007, 05:21 PM

naw, it's a game, she, like all women like to be taken...

**notanormalgent** · 05-25-2007, 03:07 AM

Communicate with her that it bothers you that she isn't taking care of herself. Tell her you want her to live a long and healthy life and that it is also nice to have a companion with similar PRODUCTIVE interests. She's obviously comfortable, but she has to understand that you see this as a weak link in her, and it only takes one link to break the chain.