Your girl dancing with another man? I snapped

[hocoathlete]

Another thing, when I used to club I would end up macking with the girl im dancing with. Then what is she going to say. It ok to kiss, Im still coming home with you. I dont know, call me old fashioned, but part of a girl being committed to, and respecting me means zero physical contact with other guys that is sexual in nature

buffgator im with you, now adays, guys are letting girls become the ones wearing the pants, i see it al lthe time, the guys jsut take a backseat and the girls do watever they want, and if the guy tries to confront, he'll get scared when she starts yelling back or feel bad when the ystart crying.


dudes need to put your foot down, and let these girls that it isnt ok to do that shit, and point it out to them and as kthem if they mind you doing that stuff with other girls.


thats how i got my gf(7 months today) to stop doing a bunch of disrepectful things.
like she used to go and hang with one of her girlfriends..but they would then go and hang out at a guys house, and shes starts complaining blah blah blah, ive known him longer than you..blah blah blah..

then i said im gonna go hang out wit (girls name) at her house...and watch movies with her(she did that at the guys house)

and the girl i told her i was ognna hang out with is notorious for giving head just casue shes bored, and dotn give a crap if the guys single or not... and my gf has a problem with her anyways.

so then shes starts apologizing and tells me shell never do anything to make me feel disrespected and then starts to take my pants off and give me one of the greatest Bjs in the world..liek an epic bj.


good times being alpha bros...

[Panzerfaust]

Sounds like a relationship worth saving.

By all means, if you like living like that. More power to you.

[Ajc330]

in my opinion man, you get to let your girl free, like letting a bird free from its cage, and if the bird flies back to its cage, its yours..

i never put a leash on my girlfriends, if they do anything dishonest to me even in the most seductive situations she isn't true, and i thank her for showing it to me

advice to all board members, don't get jealous if your girls go to clubs or parties, if they are true they will stay loyal

[J-Dogg]

Call me the odd duck here but I can understand your frustration.

On some of the reply’s I’ll call bullshit. I think some relationships out there really are good enough that you just have 100% trust, and I’m sure there are a few guys around that are just so confident they know the girl they want is going home with them. They may find it appropriate for there girl to dance or grind on what ever they want, I just don’t though.

I’ve been though some hard times with my girl and if a guy hits on a girl I’m with right in front of me I don’t like it. For one, I take it as him disrespecting me, I guess it would depend on the terms…if she knew him, yada yada. But if a guy just comes up and starts hitting on her…I’m not going to just sock him, but he’ll know I don’t like it. For 2, I think it is disrespectful to the girl also, the guy assumes she’s a whore and will take anything else.

I’ve never “beat” a girl, but I have reacted and slapped a girl. Lucky for me, it was just a slap and never broke anything or dislocated a jaw. If you love someone, you are in a heated argument and they hit you I think that is normal. If a random girl hit me, I would laugh. I’ve thrown a girl down; my Ex came in drunk and punched me right in the face when I was sleeping. I think it was not really out of line for me to thrown her on the ground and yell to her asking what the fvck is wrong with her.

If you are going though these things though, chances are you are never going to sustain a happy relationship. You may really love the person too, but you are always going to be fighting these things. She wants you to feel bad even though she attacked you as well. She should feel just as bad and seek anger management as well. As women get older they mature as do men, don’t depend on being with this 19yr old for the rest of your life at this point. Work on yourself…if things work out with her they do, if not…she’s just a girl friend.

[Doc.Sust]

as long as you learned you lesson, and it doesnt happen again you should be able to salvage things, i know i dont have to tell you that hitting a girl is wrong, but i do know how instinct can take over when you are drunk.it happens to good guys, it happens to bad guys. i made a mistake many years ago, not quite as severe, but bad enough that it made me feel like a piece of shite. i made damn sure that it never happened again to the girl i was with at that time or any girl after.

[ftony]

Send her a fruit basket then send her packing...Your to young to be hung up on one girl dude,sounds like she feels that way...

[Titleist]

I've slapped a girl. It was my natural reflex after she slapped the hell outta me. I regretted it, but she was a bitch. One time my girlfriend was slapping the hell outta me and I pinned her arms against the wall and kissed her...We had the best sex out of our entire relationship.

Anyway, you slapped her, you feel like shit, no big deal. Just don't make a habit of it.

As far as the relationship, it's all about trust. If that isn't there, it isn't going anywhere. Period.

[thetank]

ive grabbed a girl by the throat and slammed her against a wall very, very hard..she slid down to the floor and couldnt breath. did i mention she smashed a glass over the back of my head? well she did...so i didnt feel too bad about it, altho i thought it was a guy when grabbed her. ive also slapped a girl across the face with the dirty end of a mop, but thats a whoooole nother story.
as for hitting a girlfriend..no, i havent..and as much as im not going to agree with a man hitting a woman, im not going to agree with a woman hitting a man, either...if chicks want equality they shouldnt assume they have license to assault someone without a correlating response. sometimes passion gets the best of peoples judgement..but it sounds like it got the best of hers first..and i dont care how much i trust a girl...respect and trust are 2 different pieces of a relationship....if my girlfriend is going to grind some guy, after ive asked her not too??(which i would) she can go **** herself, or who-ever shes grinding, cause i would never put up with that kind of shit. sure, shes not getting penetrated, but grinding with someone else is a pretty intimate interaction between 2 people..and when its done in spite of what the other 1/2 of your relationship asks of you, thats flat out wrong..and breaks both trust and respect...

[QuieTSToRM33]

Dont know you man. But this sounds extremely immature.

Im guessing you are under 25. And if your girl was dancing with another guy while she was drunk in a bar/club, chances are that she just wanted to be a slut (Like most early 20 somethings).

Beat me to it .... my response was going to be along the same lines.

[QuieTSToRM33]

Who gives a fvck if she was dancing with someone else ? ... are you that insecure ???

High school bullshit if you ask me ... and the both of you need to learn to control yourselves when alcohol is involved.

She should've never hit you and vice versa.

[scaramouche]

just out of curiosity did u bust the guys chops too,what was he doing/saying while this slap exchange was going on

[perfectbeast2001]

If my girl wanted to be with another guy thats up to her. I would not be angry with him or her, just dissapointed. Hitting her back was a real bad move. Alcohol is crap mate, it makes us behave like idiots. Get a new girl and give up the booze.

[gixxerboy1]

Who gives a fvck if she was dancing with someone else ? ... are you that insecure ???

High school bullshit if you ask me ... and the both of you need to learn to control yourselves when alcohol is involved.

She should've never hit you and vice versa.

+1. I cant believe how most guys response is its disrespecting me. And it turned from dancing with a guy to grinding some dude. You don't get respect by keeping your girl on a leash. If you trust her then there shouldn't be an issue. Of course there can be a line but just dancing isn't it

[Doc.Sust]

truly there is alot worse that can happen than dancing. you made a "mountain out of a mole hill" it really isnt that big a deal. if you truly trust who you are with, you wouldnt care at all if she was dancing with brad pitt

[scaramouche]

ok,what does a battered wife do when she gets home from the hospital... the dishes if she knows whats good for her

not funny i know,just found it on the net

[buffgator]

+1. I cant believe how most guys response is its disrespecting me. And it turned from dancing with a guy to grinding some dude. You don't get respect by keeping your girl on a leash. If you trust her then there shouldn't be an issue. Of course there can be a line but just dancing isn't it

And you also dont get respect from a girl who does not know what it is, or how to give it. Why would it be putting her on a leash to ask her not to dance with other guys. Relationships need boundaries of what the two individuals think is right or wrong. That way they know what to do in a situation before the situation arrives.

[RA]

ok,what does a battered wife do when she gets home from the hospital... the dishes if she knows whats good for her

not funny i know,just found it on the net

[paulzane]

ok,what does a battered wife do when she gets home from the hospital... the dishes if she knows whats good for her

not funny i know,just found it on the net

Dear oh dear .....LMAO

[ReX357]

I just don't like the thought of my girlfriend having her body pressed against another man's. They were two stepping (country dancing). I don't know what to think... I trust her, and I know she wouldn't do anything else with the guy... But as I said, it's just idea of her body pressed against another man's, it's just not right with me. I feel dancing is a very intimate thing. I'm not trying to keep her on a leash, she does whatever she wants whenever she wants.

Girls of this forum, can I have your opinion?

[PEWN]

what do you tell a women with two black eyes....


nothing you already told that bitch twice..

[gixxerboy1]

And you also dont get respect from a girl who does not know what it is, or how to give it. Why would it be putting her on a leash to ask her not to dance with other guys. Relationships need boundaries of what the two individuals think is right or wrong. That way they know what to do in a situation before the situation arrives.

How is dancing disrespectful? Granted if they where dry humping each other on the dance floor that's a different story. Your afraid that the dance is going to lead to a kiss then or more. If she is going to cheat she is. Making her not dance isnt going to stop that. My girl gets asked for her number daily. What am i going to say don't walk down the street. Don't were a skirt and heels?

I agree that there should be normal boundaries but that's really over reacting

[customworksking]

it's a 2 way street ...I let my g/f dance w/my guy friends and well while dancing they would tell her she can do better than me etc....so not anymore
"good friends btw on my part"....bottom line if my or anyones g/f meets some joe-blow and ends up likeing him more than me it was never ment to be point blank...tell her to kick rocks and dance her lil heart out...and find someone who loves U... if u hit her she knows she has U/your heart and by her likeing the dancer guy u never had hers....IMO

[buffgator]

How is dancing disrespectful? Granted if they where dry humping each other on the dance floor that's a different story. Your afraid that the dance is going to lead to a kiss then or more. If she is going to cheat she is. Making her not dance isnt going to stop that. My girl gets asked for her number daily. What am i going to say don't walk down the street. Don't were a skirt and heels?

I agree that there should be normal boundaries but that's really over reacting

I think that that is what most everyone is assuming they are doing. You girl getting asked for her number when she is just living every day life is normal, and she does not give it out because she is committed to you. Getting asked to dance by a guy when your in a committed relationship and saying yes... thats giving the wrong signal. Its not fair to the boyfriend, and the guy dancing with her.

[gixxerboy1]

I think that that is what most everyone is assuming they are doing. You girl getting asked for her number when she is just living every day life is normal. Getting asked to dance by a guy when your in a committed relationship and saying yes... thats giving the wrong signal. Its not fair to the boyfriend, and the guy dancing with her.

I can see your point. I'm assuming they were just dancing and he did say they were country dancing the 2 step. To me that's just having fun. Her man wasnt there so it can just be innocent fun having a good time. Unless i was given a reason not to trust her i wouldn't have a problem.

[Swifto]

I'm sure you'll work things out Rex. It will work out as long as your both willing.

I've never hit a girl, pushed one in slef defence, but never raised a hand against any girl. I dont agree with that at all.

I dont think its the end of the world though. I know many couples who have been through worse than an accidental hit or self defense from the male.

[RA]

I had to call my lady and tell her this one...she laughed her ass off.

what do you tell a women with two black eyes....


nothing you already told that bitch twice..

[buffgator]

I can see your point. I'm assuming they were just dancing and he did say they were country dancing the 2 step. To me that's just having fun. Her man wasnt there so it can just be innocent fun having a good time. Unless i was given a reason not to trust her i wouldn't have a problem.

It was another guy in post #25 that talked about the country dancing. I can see your point also about the trust. However I feel that even the most trustworthy person can become untrustworthy with enough drinks. Also I have met plenty of pretty girls that believe that a guy just has the intentions of being freinds, but then talked to the guy and hes like hell no I want more. So from that point of view I can see how she could think that he is just inocently dancing with her.

[amstaf]

1.very jealous at bars but at weddings and sht i dont mind 2. never smaked my girl but she jaked me in the nose at the bar one night were getting married 6/7/08

[ReX357]

F*ck it, I'll just let her dance from now on... Whatever...

[helium3]

i maybe wrong but she sounds too young to settle down, i would move on.

she's young and wants to have fun, but if shes doing stuff like that now, she aint gonna stop over night.

secondly, never hit a women for any reason, my ex right hooked me twice in full view of a crowd of people, the embarassment stung more than her hand(we were splitting up), i just took it.
i got my own back by caining her best mate, worked like a charm.


all bitchs is hoes.

[scaramouche]

what do you tell a women with two black eyes....


nothing you already told that bitch twice..

hey why not move to saudi

[ottomaddox]

If my girlfriend/wife wanted to dance with another man, I'd say go right ahead. I'm mature and confident enough to realize at the end of the night, I'm the one she leaves with.


P.S. Hitting women is uncool.

[Panzerfaust]

One time my girlfriend was slapping the hell outta me and I pinned her arms against the wall and kissed her...We had the best sex out of our entire relationship.

**** this high school BS dancing story..we wanna know more about this.

[buffgator]

If my girlfriend/wife wanted to dance with another man, I'd say go right ahead. I'm mature and confident enough to realize at the end of the night, I'm the one she leaves with.


P.S. Hitting women is uncool.

See my point of view is that I have plenty of faith and trust in my wife, its the drunk guy that I dont know that I dont trust. So what if he grabbed her ass, or kissed her, would you still be cool with it because she is going home with you, or would you be like oh hell no this guy did not just do that. I had a guy come up and ask my wife to dance once, she said no thank you Im married. He grabbed her by the arm and called her a bitch. To bad he did not know that I was a bouncer at the bar and just in on a night off. I did not get in his face, just told a fellow co worker and they "escorted him out" the point is you never know what these drunk dudes might try, and I think my wife to be smarter to dance with some dude and put herself in a compromisable situation.

[ottomaddox]

I said a dance would be ok, but any type of ass grab would be inappropriate. I still would show maturity and address the issue at hand. What kind of dancing are we talking about? Dirty dancing?????
I think the issue at hand is really Alcohol. Would there have been a confrontation if alcohol was not involved in the situation. Maybe, maybe not.
On a personal note, I don't drink alcohol or hit women........

See my point of view is that I have plenty of faith and trust in my wife, its the drunk guy that I dont know that I dont trust. So what if he grabbed her ass, or kissed her, would you still be cool with it because she is going home with you, or would you be like oh hell no this guy did not just do that. I had a guy come up and ask my wife to dance once, she said no thank you Im married. He grabbed her by the arm and called her a bitch. To bad he did not know that I was a bouncer at the bar and just in on a night off. I did not get in his face, just told a fellow co worker and they "escorted him out" the point is you never know what these drunk dudes might try, and I think my wife to be smarter to dance with some dude and put herself in a compromisable situation.

[buffgator]

I said a dance would be ok, but any type of ass grab would be inappropriate. I still would show maturity and address the issue at hand. What kind of dancing are we talking about? Dirty dancing?????
I think the issue at hand is really Alcohol. Would there have been a confrontation if alcohol was not involved in the situation. Maybe, maybe not.
On a personal note, I don't drink alcohol or hit women........

Yes I agree 100% that the issue really is alcohol
Yes that is what I was thinking the kind of dancing would be.
My wife and I two years ago this new years decided we would not drink again. My mother was killed by a drunk driver, and we both came to realize that about 90% of the problems people have in their live stem from drugs and alchohol.

[Titleist]

**** this high school BS dancing story..we wanna know more about this.

Basically she was a freak and a half and she was crazy. She thought I was cheating on her(I wasn't) and started to go nuts. I was like "Fuck this, I'm out." I was walking away and she started slappin the shit outta me. I pinned her against the wall and held her arms. She looked so damn good, her face looked all innocent and sad, so I kissed her. She had on a skirt, I slid her panties to the side and whipped ole one eyed willy out. Rough sex man. She was slappin me during sex and shit. It was great.

[ottomaddox]

Sorry about you mom. That's tough.

Words to live by:

we both came to realize that about 90% of the problems people have in their live stem from drugs and alchohol.

[firmechicano831]

I've never hit a women. If she wanted to dance with someone else it's even better for me. Let the hoe dance and move on the next one.

[Amorphic]

This is why I dont drink. My ex was wasted and starting beating on me when i was driving and i had to pull over and get her to stop punching me. I didnt end up hitting her but i threw her pretty hard into the seat to get her under control.

Get with a girl that doesnt like to drink/party. Ive been with enough girls that like the party lifestyle and now I absolutely despise girls that drink a lot.