Did any of you uys run into this problem growing up?

**dirtball_619** · 03-07-2008, 09:55 PM

to Start off ive been 18 for 4 months.

All my peers that are supposedly my "friends" all say ive changed and im boring and have no life now that i dont wanna go out and get drunk with them every weekend.

I used to be all for going out and getting shit faced drunk, starting shit with people me and my friends didnt like, doing beer runs(robbery), and being overall a reckless teen.

But since ive turned 18, and realized the consequences for my actions are greater now. ive calmed down yet all my friends call it being dull, boring, have no life etc etc.

i was once told to involve myself with bigger people,therefor i know i have the capability of being bigger. not only with bb'ing but in real life.

so where has this life decision landed me? sitting on my computer ranting about it and wondering if i really am being a loser. hmmm i just dont know what the fvck to make of this.

i hope im not the only one that has experienced/experiencing this loss of friends due to wanting to turn my life around. But really ALL my friends are still into the party scene. which leaves me with no friends.... i mean who would want to go hang out with abunch of drunk people if your not drunk yourself. thats no fun to me.

**Pooks** · 03-07-2008, 10:01 PM

like u got a choice...

didnt u say u have 2 jobs?

on the weekends tho.. u should have fun bro.. just do it on a budget

**dirtball_619** · 03-07-2008, 10:07 PM

Yup, 2 jobs that leave me drained when friday night rolls around. im pretty much useless on friday nights.

And its really kind of impossible to be social when you dont drink and virtually ALL of your friends are out getting shit faced/ doing stupid sh!t. Ive really found drinking to be a waste of everything. i used to be happy go lucky when id drink but lately ill try n' go out and have a few and i just get angry, bitter, and violent. so ive just dropped it all together.

Guess im just stuck for now until i find a better group of friends. Thanks for the suggestion though pooks

**naturalsux** · 03-07-2008, 10:15 PM

Originally Posted by dirtball_619

Yup, 2 jobs that leave me drained when friday night rolls around. im pretty much useless on friday nights.

And its really kind of impossible to be social when you dont drink and virtually ALL of your friends are out getting shit faced/ doing stupid sh!t. Ive really found drinking to be a waste of everything. i used to be happy go lucky when id drink but lately ill try n' go out and have a few and i just get angry, bitter, and violent. so ive just dropped it all together.

Guess im just stuck for now until i find a better group of friends. Thanks for the suggestion though pooks

at least your realizing this now. i didnt till i was 24 and been to jail a few times.

you dont have to go out to have fun. its a waste of $ IMO. i like my $ to go towards groceries and gear. do what makes you happy, who gives fcvk what your friends think. get new ones that make you wanna be a better person.

**AaronJM1984** · 03-07-2008, 10:24 PM

Bro, when I stopped doppin and drinking, no one called me boring, they just straight up stop calling me or stopping by the house. Me and my girlfriend at the time were living in a tight ass condo, throwing drug parties like 3or4 nights a week. Its been 4 months since I've touched any thing like drugs or alcohol, I look back at those guys I was hanging with, bunch of losers! They may say you have no life, but imagine them when their 30, living at their moms house, no job, always saying shit like "I was gonna do this thing one time, but someone messed it up for me, so I didn't do it"

When it comes down to it, you can only depend on yourself! If that means you have to entertain yourself for awhile till you meet some better people, then struggle thru it man, it will be worth it

**dirtball_619** · 03-07-2008, 10:41 PM

Glad to here im not the only one!

Sometime i feel im growing up too fast, but according to who? my immature peers? this is what society tries to force me to believe. maybe im just delusional?

This might sound gay but i guess you could say i need to "find myself" lol.

Thanks nattysux & aaronJM for your input. sounds like im gonna Let work,gym, eating, resting and of course Anabolic Review occupy my time for now.

**naturalsux** · 03-07-2008, 10:53 PM

Originally Posted by dirtball_619

Glad to here im not the only one!

Sometime i feel im growing up too fast, but according to who? my immature peers? this is what society tries to force me to believe. maybe im just delusional?

This might sound gay but i guess you could say i need to "find myself" lol.

Thanks nattysux & aaronJM for your input. sounds like im gonna Let work,gym, eating, resting and of course Anabolic Review occupy my time for now.

bro you have alot of life left. you ll have plenty of time to do stuff. work hard now so you wont have to later on in life or get your education.

i could go on on, but i dont think i need to your smart.

good luck!

**dirtball_619** · 03-07-2008, 11:00 PM

thanks nattysux for the reply. i catch what your sayin about saving the fun for when im on my feet.

i used to live for the moment, but watching were this world is going today, and watching the direction people my age are going in life i feel should reflect my decisions. No one gives a fvck anymore. bottom line.

we will see who has the last lauph

.....

**High-roller** · 03-07-2008, 11:11 PM

Well man I know what you are saying, I was always the guy to pull someone out of a fight or the one to get in the middle to pull my buddy out of a fight, When I was 18 I knocked up a girl and when I turned 19 I was a dad, Now I am 23 and have two kids, My freinds never Left me. But Alot of them are in Jail or are up 72hours, on drugs. So to me I have a good job, and always will, and the way I look at it I am 23 kids are 2 & 4, when I am 35 I will have my fun, Best time to have fun, Own house, Saving for trips and kids can take care of thiers self and I see the one out there party that may come to the fact that they need to smartin up will start at 35 and they will be done.

SO do what you are doing now man. get big and save your money!

**adam_05** · 03-07-2008, 11:34 PM

i know what u mean,when i was 16 i decided to start lifting and stop partying(i started young)and i had alot of friends leave me,not call anymore,etc......but fvck 'em.then i started getting bigger and bigger and put on 45lbs about a year because i happened to turn diabetic but since i started lifting at the same time,i got twice as big with little to no bf.it just got to be a pain,trying to go to a party and worry about when i had to eat next and when i was going to get to sleep,what i was gonna eat in the morning.etc....

you might think you have no life right now,but what ur doing now might be the smartest choice in your entire life.like the others said,all your other friends are gonna end up 35 and still doping and gettin locked up,when you'll be hittin the weights and have a girl in your arms and cash in your pocket! well,maybe not the cash part cuz it'll be spent on food and gear! but for real,stick with it and it will pay off.

and as far as "missing" the party,i went to the party when i was 22 and drove home after having a few drinks and now im in a wheelchair for the rest of my life,and im to blame for it.trust me,you'll miss out on years of things if you choose to join the party now.

**dirtball_619** · 03-07-2008, 11:39 PM

Wow adam, im very sorry to here that man. that right there is enouph to keep my head up. actually now i just feel like a whiney b!tch lol.

Thanks for the insight bro and stay up

**naturalsux** · 03-08-2008, 12:38 AM

Originally Posted by adam_05

i know what u mean,when i was 16 i decided to start lifting and stop partying(i started young)and i had alot of friends leave me,not call anymore,etc......but fvck 'em.then i started getting bigger and bigger and put on 45lbs about a year because i happened to turn diabetic but since i started lifting at the same time,i got twice as big with little to no bf.it just got to be a pain,trying to go to a party and worry about when i had to eat next and when i was going to get to sleep,what i was gonna eat in the morning.etc....

you might think you have no life right now,but what ur doing now might be the smartest choice in your entire life.like the others said,all your other friends are gonna end up 35 and still doping and gettin locked up,when you'll be hittin the weights and have a girl in your arms and cash in your pocket! well,maybe not the cash part cuz it'll be spent on food and gear! but for real,stick with it and it will pay off.

and as far as "missing" the party,i went to the party when i was 22 and drove home after having a few drinks and now im in a wheelchair for the rest of my life,and im to blame for it.trust me,you'll miss out on years of things if you choose to join the party now.

holy shit bro, i didnt even realize who was posting. i was just reading then bam, sorry bro!

glad your still thinking positive though.

**SaSqUaDgE** · 03-08-2008, 12:41 AM

im same way i used to be a party animal but now 100% lifting i just hang out with my gf but alot of my friends lift to so they in gym alot when i am so i still see them alot but all they do is get drunk every weekend thats what i consider being losers and have no life when thats all you do every week is get drunk

**tadpoleboyy** · 03-08-2008, 03:01 AM

its like that in college. There are the people who just get wasted and fvucked up all the time, and fail out and waste all of daddy's money, then there are the people who moderate themselves and get work done, and play afterwards. Sometimes there isnt time to play.

Then there are the super genious people who are always wasted but get straight A's... I never understood that...

**rockinred** · 03-08-2008, 07:16 AM

dirtball, everyone has gone through this that grew up in that scene. you will have to do a little finding of yourself like you said or you will fall right back in it. I started doping and drinking when I was in 9th grade.... I was getting loaded in one way or another all through high school and when I went into the military I stopped... but I had a problem because those drugs defined who I was up in to that time. so i had to figure out who I really was without that in my life. I kind of felt like a kid again in a lot of ways...innocent. but that is what drugs and hard life get you.... I broke away from it and found a good women and settled.

I stopped drinking for 8+ years... get far away from tempting yourself till you are strong enough to keep it out of your life. You will be suprised at how many people don't live like that all around. find a women, find friends at gym, find friends at church.... you need to be content with your decision in order for you to move forward.. stop looking back. there is nothing in that life except trouble.. guaranteed.

**AaronJM1984** · 03-08-2008, 09:53 AM

Originally Posted by rockinred

dirtball, everyone has gone through this that grew up in that scene. you will have to do a little finding of yourself like you said or you will fall right back in it. I started doping and drinking when I was in 9th grade.... I was getting loaded in one way or another all through high school and when I went into the military I stopped... but I had a problem because those drugs defined who I was up in to that time. so i had to figure out who I really was without that in my life. I kind of felt like a kid again in a lot of ways...innocent. but that is what drugs and hard life get you.... I broke away from it and found a good women and settled.

I stopped drinking for 8+ years... get far away from tempting yourself till you are strong enough to keep it out of your life. You will be suprised at how many people don't live like that all around. find a women, find friends at gym, find friends at church.... you need to be content with your decision in order for you to move forward.. stop looking back. there is nothing in that life except trouble.. guaranteed.

good post!

**xlxBigSexyxlx** · 03-08-2008, 10:01 AM

Well, I still go out with friends and have fun, but have limits now. Back in highschool, I had no limits lol. And being 17 and in jail, Ive learned. As you grow up, your suppose to get more responsible and mature.

haha although highschool was fun....way too much fun. Im in college now and still have fun, but without half the stupid shit I use to do.

**wilson9d** · 03-08-2008, 10:11 AM

Originally Posted by dirtball_619

to Start off ive been 18 for 4 months.

All my peers that are supposedly my "friends" all say ive changed and im boring and have no life now that i dont wanna go out and get drunk with them every weekend.

These people are not your freinds!!!!!

I used to be all for going out and getting shit faced drunk, starting shit with people me and my friends didnt like, doing beer runs(robbery), and being overall a reckless teen.

There is nothing at the bottom of the bottle it is empty and meaningless.

But since ive turned 18, and realized the consequences for my actions are greater now. ive calmed down yet all my friends call it being dull, boring, have no life etc etc.

You are smart to learn this lesson now! Most people don’t learn until they are in there late 20’s. Let’s see who the losers are in ten years.

i was once told to involve myself with bigger people,therefor i know i have the capability of being bigger. not only with bb'ing but in real life.

Great advice, we are all individuals. But we emulate the people we are surrounded by. Successful people associate with successful people. Take this board for example bb’ers associate with bb’ers.

so where has this life decision landed me? sitting on my computer ranting about it and wondering if i really am being a loser. hmmm i just dont know what the fvck to make of this.

There are lots of successful people on here by the way.

i hope im not the only one that has experienced/experiencing this loss of friends due to wanting to turn my life around. But really ALL my friends are still into the party scene.

They are not friends, friend’s support you empower you and want what’s best for you. Those people do none of that. I am a better friend to you than they are.

which leaves me with no friends.... i mean who would want to go hang out with abunch of drunk people if your not drunk yourself.

I don’t associate with alcoholics; drinking is a stupid action. There is nothing good about it can you name one positive thing about it?

F*ck them your Meant for better things.

**wilson9d** · 03-08-2008, 10:14 AM

Originally Posted by tadpoleboyy

Then there are the super genious people who are always wasted but get straight A's... I never understood that...

sorry

**Lexed** · 03-08-2008, 10:31 AM

at 18 I stopped doing shit cause I knew know I was a adult and If I got caught I would be in serious shit. But once I went to college it all changed I became a teenager again

**maxex** · 03-08-2008, 11:39 AM

Let them call you what they want. You'll have the last laugh.

You're being a man. It's harder to do the rightthing then it is to fk up. I have 0 friends right now. Every single one of my friends are in the gutter somewhere. The calle dme a ***** every time they saw me, but now they never call me, because they feel like scumbags and wish they would have followed me.

Doesn't mean you can't go out and have fun though, I still find ways to release my negative energy. Go egg a house or someting.

**number twelve** · 03-08-2008, 12:36 PM

you dont need to be wasted party with your friends. everything in moderation bro

***El Diablo*** · 03-08-2008, 02:10 PM

Uve made the right choice, they prolly envy you for looking good this and that but will never ever admit to it. The will rather give you negative info... Personally dont i have time for alot of friends, my career is 1st, Body second , food third , and going out with friends about 10th inline. It seems to you that uve made a wrong decision but it will all pay off soon.......

El D

**dirtball_619** · 03-08-2008, 02:15 PM

thanks for all the responces guys.

No12- i know i dont need to be drunk to go out and party. but what fun is it to be sober around abunch of drunk ass teenagers? get what im saying here?

i appreciate all the feedback you guys have given me on my current situation i just wanted to here that wat im doing is right and that im not growing up too fast like everyone sais.

**High-roller** · 03-08-2008, 02:19 PM

I say I work out cause I don't want to be like my dad and have to worrie about my body when I am 50, I want to be 50 and in ok shape, Now I am not the one who really wants to live till I am 80 I say 80 is far enough. So from now and 50 I plan on being in shape.

**AaronJM1984** · 03-08-2008, 02:52 PM

Originally Posted by High-roller

I say I work out cause I don't want to be like my dad and have to worrie about my body when I am 50, I want to be 50 and in ok shape, Now I am not the one who really wants to live till I am 80 I say 80 is far enough. So from now and 50 I plan on being in shape.

The only guy that wants to live to be 80, is the 79 year old!, lol

**lotaquestions** · 03-08-2008, 03:04 PM

im kinda going through the same thing, except i kept the same friends still hang out with them all the time, just now instead of leading the heard i just sit back and watch them from a safe distance. im like the all time dd. i still like to drink but it is only around the house grillin or watching a ball game.

**legobricks** · 03-08-2008, 03:40 PM

I still party like a rockstar. But i make sure my meals are planned out up until RIGHT when i go out, then ill have a protein shaked primed for when im out, then possibly stop at a diner for a chicken dinner. Then make sure if im out late i still sleep in a bit to get the rest I need. Everytime someone says, dude ur lame if your not drinking, i usually end up pokin them in the gut and say, "Hmmmm, looks like the beer really did you well!" Hahaha usually gets a good laugh and shuts them up. LoL, no need to drink when the EYES of the women are looking at you. ITs well worth it IMO.

**browboy** · 03-08-2008, 04:07 PM

Dude, be true to yourself. Don't listen to all the immature crap that your friends or others around you are wanting to put on you. I takes a mature MIND to think the way you are thinking and that will be the very thing that takes you where you want to go. Your generation-and I say that cause I have a few years on you-is full of immature young adults who want to just sit back, play all day, and have everything handed to them. It just doesn't work that way. I see so many younger people who have worked for my company who have this sense of entitlement like I owe them something. I owe you a pay check at the end of the week when you have done a good job. That is all I owe you. I provide a great working environment with the opportunity to advance both positionally and financially if you take advantage of it and work hard. Most of the young guys we have had come through look at me and say, "I want what you have, but I don't want to have to work for it. It should just happen for me!" That is ridiculous thinking, but that is what is out there these days. I have busted my ass for many years to get where I am. Nothing worth anything comes easy. It's the hard work and dedication that will pay off in the end. No different than what we have to do even in the physical realm with body building. Dude, you are on the right track with your thought process. Some may say you are growing up to fast...thats not it. You see the future and you don't want to be one of the pathetic loosers living at home, with a sucky job, no girl, no money at 30 years old! Props to you bro!!

PM me if you want. I noticed we live in the same town!!