Need some relationship guidance please.

**lcstriker07** · 09-03-2008, 07:02 PM

I guess just make sure you really want her and you're not just chasing what you can't have like I always tend to do.

**Amorphic** · 09-04-2008, 09:31 PM

so it was her birthday today and she came over to talk and to get the gift i got her.

i made her a scrapbook with a lot of things relating to our relationship and a long letter inside it.

I'm really feeling at a crossroads here. our conversation was hard to get through. She says she wants to get her life in order and that she would pick me if it comes to it but i sense this hesitation in her that really makes me doubt it. Its playing with my head hard.

I think i need to take some time and really think about things, think about what i can accomplish with her and if she really wants to fight for me or stay in the easy situation shes in with the other guy.

part of me feels like this is the beginning of the final end, the other part of me feels so desperate to make it work.

***Doc.Sust*** · 09-04-2008, 10:42 PM

trust me, she isnt right for you. peole dont change and at 22 there will be a lot more drunk episodes .in time the feelings will pass.

if you really want to pursue this and dont want to listen the only thing u can do is nothing. step a way for it. do not try to do anything. tell her it lies in her hands. if she loves you she will find you. the more you try, the worse the odds are she will end up with you. i know it doesnt sound like it makes sense, but it works

**ghettoboyd** · 09-05-2008, 08:19 AM

not to sound gay but it sounds like you r a decent, carring, romantic, guy.there r girls out there that r dying to be treated different. you may want to try older chics(like25-30ish) who have been through a few bad relationships and would appreciate what you have to offer. plus thay already have there shit together.alot of girls at 22 just want there lives full of chaos and controversy(you know DRAMA)as much as i love looking at a 22yr old girl,as soon as most of them start talking,uggg.you nead a more mature girl bro.goodluck

**Amorphic** · 09-05-2008, 12:22 PM

thanks for the imput guys. if anyone else wants to chime in, feel free

**Amorphic** · 09-05-2008, 06:05 PM

so after a lot of thinking and talking with other people and listening to your guy's opinions i think i know what direction i will have to go.

I think whats best for me now is to focus on my own life, focus on my studies at school and live for myself. I love this girl and she knows i do and i know she loves me. If the time becomes right that the two of us can start a functional successful relationship, it will happen. She'll come to me when the time is right for her and when she has her life in order. For now all i can do is respect the situation and move forward. Hopefully i meet someone nice along the way to spend some time with in a casual relationship if i feel up to it.

for now i am just going to try and focus on myself, keep bettering myself and stay friends with my ex. I know this may not be easy all the time but if i keep my focus off her and on myself that when the time comes she may be right for me again. Hopefully this all works out for the best.

**Nitro29** · 09-06-2008, 06:00 PM

Very mature decision Amorphic, and I know it isnt easy. Tough, tough stuff.

Truth is, you cant control her, or how any of this plays out. But you were obviously smart enough to realize what you CAN control. YOU! And bettering yourself as you put it, and that is exactly the right attitude man. You do THAT, and you will either have this girl begging for you, or you will get yourself an upgrade. You really cant loose, smart move...Nitro

**JiGGaMaN** · 09-06-2008, 06:14 PM

This was a lot more satisfying than talking people out of doing a deca only cycle for sure. You are making the right choice. This is how the story turned out for me when i made the opposite choice: Girl ****ed me so hard it bruised my pelvis and woke up my neighbors. Then she stole my shitty ass cell phone (wtf?). Havent seen her since.

**Amorphic** · 09-06-2008, 06:55 PM

Originally Posted by Nitro29

Very mature decision Amorphic, and I know it isnt easy. Tough, tough stuff.

Truth is, you cant control her, or how any of this plays out. But you were obviously smart enough to realize what you CAN control. YOU! And bettering yourself as you put it, and that is exactly the right attitude man. You do THAT, and you will either have this girl begging for you, or you will get yourself an upgrade. You really cant loose, smart move...Nitro

Originally Posted by JiGGaMaN

This was a lot more satisfying than talking people out of doing a deca only cycle for sure. You are making the right choice. This is how the story turned out for me when i made the opposite choice: Girl ****ed me so hard it bruised my pelvis and woke up my neighbors. Then she stole my shitty ass cell phone (wtf?). Havent seen her since.

thanks guys i appreciate it. having your opinions and imput really helps