girls are out to cheat on me

[kalspic]

every time i start seeing a new girl i get all worried and feel that they are out to cheat on me. when they decide to stay at home for the night i have a feeling that they are having other guys over or anyother time im not with them are spending it with another dude, and its driving me crazy.

am i just worrying too much or does anyone else feel like this?

[spywizard]

it's called empowerment..

you don't have it.. point being you need to not allow others to determine your worth or value..

why do you need a "girlfriend" date women, share your life.. but a commitment?? get over it, you don't need a promise from someone to prove that you have value as a human being..

sorry to be harsh but i hope you get what i'm trying to say.

[T-MOS]

sounds like you have insecurity issues, its YOU , not them....you need to work on that and not project it on them or you will lose them everytime

[warchild]

go over and snoop around her place just to be sure

[jbm]

^^ agreed

[BritishColumbian]

Set up some video survalance and put a tracking device on her. Park in the street an listen to her phone conversations and stuff. I know who your talking about and she cant be trusted!

[Immortal Soldier]

David Deangelo talks about this, its because right now in the relationship SHE has more VALUE than you. What that means is that YOU want her more than SHE wants you.

You think that if you aren't always at her place or with her she is banging a guy or participating in a gang bang. That shows a multiple amount of things, first of all it shows your insecuirty you dont think your good enough, second it shows you arent the dominant one in the relationship (not dominant in the manly sense, but dominant in VAULE).

Here's the problem with this if you let it get to you she will leave you. Let me explain why:

Girls don't like pussies they don't like guys who get all jealous and throw a hissy fit (dont confuse this with the fact that a certain times they dont want there guy to stake their claim) but someone who is needy and at her beck and call turns girls off.

For example, if you are in a bar and you go to the bathroom and come back and see two dudes hitting on your girlfriend and she is giggly like a schoolgirl what would most guys do?

They would get all self-denfensive, some would be aggressive and tell the guys to back off others will be rather quiet and nervous around her which shows her you are threatened by them and you think they could win her off. This is a big turn off to woman they think you are a wussy and it makes them like you EVEN LESS.

So what do you? You play it cool, you go up and just joke around and poke fun at how she cant guys away, if you show you are not threatened that shows to her you are in control and confident.

Also you have to build VALUE, make her be the one who wants to spend every minute with you and get jealous. Make her WANT you more than you want her, aka make her chase you, girls love the chase. Once they know they "got" the guy and have them wrapped around their finger they get bored rather quickly (this especially applies to 9's and 10's) so you always have to keep the game going unless you want marriage.

[jbm]

[kalspic]

thanks for all the advice guys. those were the respones i was looking for. harsh-no logical-yes. i don't let her see that i worry or am freaking out on the inside. idk my insecurity definatly is my week point.

[*RAGE*]

every time i start seeing a new girl i get all worried and feel that they are out to cheat on me. when they decide to stay at home for the night i have a feeling that they are having other guys over or anyother time im not with them are spending it with another dude, and its driving me crazy.

am i just worrying too much or does anyone else feel like this?

Hi sir, my name is doctor prone and I am here to help you. first get some test prop because you need something fast acting. I want you to inject 100mg ed, after the frist week I want you to go get a hammer and everytime you think a bitch is going to cheat on you I want you to hit yourself in the nuts. I am sure this will fix your problem...

remember if you are not married to them they are whores and they is a shit load of them out there so if one cheats fuvk it she a whore. If you are married to the then they are bitches and trust me they are a shit load of them out there as well......if a bitch or a whore cheats on you just find another one.....and someday you will find the one that will not make you feel this way.....or your nut will fall off...

[jbm]

Perfect example!

[powerliftmike]

If she does cheat on you, just dump her. Not a big deal. There are plenty of faithful girls out there are plenty of worthless ones. Thats one reason you should date around and get a feel for things.

But mostly remember: do not demand what you cannot take by force!!!!!! haha

[Exiled]

set one of these up http://www.dynaspy.com/product_info.php/products_id/28
get a voice recorder, make sure it has long batt life, set it up in her vent in a select room. Put a USB jumpdrive GPS tracker in/on her car.

All the advice I can give you.

[peachfuzz]

what does your girl look like?

If you want I will stop seeing her.

[kalspic]

what does your girl look like?

If you want I will stop seeing her.

that makes me feel better. not to much competition.

[peachfuzz]

glad i could help

[peachfuzz]

seriously tho. dont let your insecurities drive her away. if you are constantly keeping tabs on her because of it and she feels you dont trust her then this often can lead to the outcome you are most afraid of. only pearls i got for you man.

[higherdesire]

Look bro, she does know how you feel. She sees right through you. She told me so. If it is any consolation she said your name during sex the other night. She really does like you.

[higherdesire]

Kidding bro, but I used to have that a little. I hate to tell you it came true eventually. Stopped worrying about it and they stopped as well.

[kalspic]

^^^ haha nice. but yea just with all these respones i think my insecureties just went out the door.

[DEE151]

every time i start seeing a new girl i get all worried and feel that they are out to cheat on me. when they decide to stay at home for the night i have a feeling that they are having other guys over or anyother time im not with them are spending it with another dude, and its driving me crazy.

am i just worrying too much or does anyone else feel like this?

bro i hate to break the new to U but she is getting Pounded right now as we speak

[kalspic]

you too!!!! that makes you, higher and bc... damn im screwed. but on a more serious note, it buggs me and its been like this for awhile. maybe im just afraid to get cheated on or something.

[jbm]

I'm next in line....

[kalspic]

her vagina isnt a damn clown car. you cant stuff a bunch of people into that small of a space.

[jbm]

[Chitown Raider]

every time i start seeing a new girl i get all worried and feel that they are out to cheat on me. when they decide to stay at home for the night i have a feeling that they are having other guys over or anyother time im not with them are spending it with another dude, and its driving me crazy.

am i just worrying too much or does anyone else feel like this?

Do you first cheat on them, and think Karma is gonna come back to you?

[operationgetbig]

you need to get something on the side too if she is cheating. i feel like everyone is a cheater or at least wants to be. its human nature. just trying to spread the seed.

[kalspic]

Do you first cheat on them, and think Karma is gonna come back to you?

no i never cheated on any one, and dont plan on it. i was amazed when i moved to georgia from new york to see how many people have cheated/been cheated on. its like a requirement to live down here.

[collar]

insecurities man and self confidence.
You should be more confident with who you are and what you are as a person.
With the first post it dont speak so much about you and what you think of yourself.
Tuffen up bro.

[Chitown Raider]

no i never cheated on any one, and dont plan on it. i was amazed when i moved to georgia from new york to see how many people have cheated/been cheated on. its like a requirement to live down here.

You're a good man, you just gotta work on the confidence level. There's no reason you need to start thinking she's cheating on you unless she shows legitimate signs.

[Bojangles69]

every time i start seeing a new girl i get all worried and feel that they are out to cheat on me. when they decide to stay at home for the night i have a feeling that they are having other guys over or anyother time im not with them are spending it with another dude, and its driving me crazy.

am i just worrying too much or does anyone else feel like this?

Insecurities like this rarely develop by mere chance.

I have a feeling you either have a fvcked up relationship with your mother, some girl did something serious that traumatized you, ORRR this is the first time you've ever been involved in some sort of relationship.

Stop dating, find which ever problem it is, work on it, then try again. Otherwise youre doomed to a lifetime of insecure girls, insecure you, and lots of bullshit that will wind up shaving a few nice years off your life.

[kalspic]

i keep telling myslef to chill the fvck out, she hasnt done anything for you not to trust her. it helps for a little bit but then it comes back. reading all of your responses has given me a peace in mind.-thanks

[Bojangles69]

i keep telling myslef to chill the fvck out, she hasnt done anything for you not to trust her. it helps for a little bit but then it comes back. reading all of your responses has given me a peace in mind.-thanks

Dude reality predicts that ANY girl is capable of cheating or doing things you wouldnt even imagine they're capable of.
But in the end, even after and if they do, you're really not gonna be as fvcked up in the head as you think NOW you will be if it does happen.

You can lower the chances by being a decent judge of character, but even if she fvcked up and something happened, its really not gonna ruin your life. Its not the end all of human existence, its just some shit that happens in life.

Im starting to think the problem is the opposite of my last post, that MAYBE NOTHING has ever happened to you, maybe youve NEVER been cheated on and are scared of it for that reason, you dont know how your suppose to deal with it.
But in the end dude, its like anything else in life, its NOT SPECIAL. Shit happens and we get over it. Just stop making shit happen in your mind before it has in real life, otherwise you may find yourself actually nurturing the dynamics it takes for a chik to cheat on you.

[Tigershark]

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[bushido3374]

every time i start seeing a new girl i get all worried and feel that they are out to cheat on me. when they decide to stay at home for the night i have a feeling that they are having other guys over or anyother time im not with them are spending it with another dude, and its driving me crazy.

am i just worrying too much or does anyone else feel like this?

Glad to hear that you have a good sense of humor about it on this board.

I think several things could be at work. One, is that you've got some abandonment issues. Before you laugh at this, google it. It's really common with people that have come from addicted, abusive or neglectful parents.

Another possibility is that if you do have insecurities and self esteem issues (which is pretty much true in varying degrees for most people) you might be drawn to women who are untrustworthy. If you think this has been a reocurring pattern, you might consider that. Do they lie to you? Are you an effective communicator?

The last one is what everyone else was saying. If you can, just don't dwell on what might be a really irrational fear. Trust is such a huge part of a relationship.

[bushido3374]

Insecurities like this rarely develop by mere chance.

I have a feeling you either have a fvcked up relationship with your mother, some girl did something serious that traumatized you, ORRR this is the first time you've ever been involved in some sort of relationship.

Stop dating, find which ever problem it is, work on it, then try again. Otherwise youre doomed to a lifetime of insecure girls, insecure you, and lots of bullshit that will wind up shaving a few nice years off your life.

I just went back and read the other responses. I have to agree with this one. There's definitely some kind of baggage there, and if you don't address it, it will go unresolved and affect all of your intimate relationships.

The other post by Bojangles that mentioned becoming a good judge of character is also so damned important. There are women out there that will cheat on you. There are also women out there that just don't have it in their nature to be unfaithful. Learn how to distinguish between the two. This was something I had to learn the hard way, so I can empathize with your predicament.

[KatsMeow]

Hell I've always been cheated on in every relationship, but yet I still give new guys the benefit of the doubt, I'm a lot more guarded on who I date now though

[Lightsout2184]

i look at it this way never worry about something u cant control. no matter how much u worry or feel insecure it wont stop her from cheating. At some point in ur life ur gonna have to learn to trust someone.

[jbm]

[jbm]