A quick note for anyone who wants to pm me relationship problems..

[Bojangles69]

I'm gonna try to keep this short.

People here who know me know I do not consider myself in anyway the only authority on relationship problems, just that I think I tend to care more than most people.
Some guys simply value my advice and others don't, perfectly understandable.

This has been a problem for quite some time but it usually flucuates. Overtime I can say I've prob ignored around maybe 15-20 stories guys have sent me about their relationships. (not that bad I know but its still not right imo)

These are all stories where the person sending them had to sit down for at least a good 30-45mins (who knows it could have took them 2 hours) to write out everything they did, just to send it so I could wind up ignoring them which then makes me feel like an ass. So I gotta change the rules up a bit (never really had any rules to begin).

Sometimes I can go weeks w/out getting a pm, most of the time I don't. But I notice certain guys just have this extra bit of logic to ask me first BEFORE typing their stories out, to see if I can even go over it in the first place. And other guys must just assume I'm a loser and never get pms from other people so they won't ask at all. I completely understand both perspectives, I'm just explaining how it is.

So I ask first, if you're going to take the time to write out a story, just do me a favor and ask me first if I can take a look at it. I WANT to get back to everyone, but I always can't. If you do this first, I can at least give you an idea of whether I'll get back to you today, or a week from now. Then you can decide whether its worth it or not to even ask.

I do not respond to "friends" any quicker then I respond to strangers/newbies. Thats cause if you send me 5 paragraphs of personal information about your life, I consider you ALL friends for having that kind of faith in me to seek advice in the first place. Really, its a compliment from everyone so I only pick and choose by date, not personal preference.

Also, this is another big problem.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not send me a story 5 mins after your relationship problems happen. Wait at least a day, or a few hours to cool down and organize your thoughts. Again this goes both ways but I see most guys because of this mentioning details that have absolutely nothing to do with their relationship. If you need to go off on a tangent thats fine, just remember WHY you're coming to me in the first place. Its not so you can vent, its so you can hopefully find some closure so you don't need to vent in the first place.

Whats worse is when I have a bunch of unresponded pms in my inbox and feel like I cant even go post in the lounge cause those guys who pmd me are gonna see me posting and think "why is he posting and not responding to the story I sent?" I will only take about an hour max answering pms a day (it could be just 1 pm) and after that I'll be in the forums posting. If you see me posting and I haven't got back to you yet, and you don't like that, theres not much I can really do or say. I need to think about other things besides relationships throughout the course of my day or I lose my fvckn mind.

So please, thats all I ask.
Any guys I have NOT gotten back to yet (I know who you are I didn't forget) if you STILL need me to get back to you please just sent a brief pm saying so. I know how these situations work and things can be a mess one day and back to normal the next.
Otherwise I'm gonna go finish up some from early last week.. and thanks.


ps I'm sure I won't get any pms now cause people are gonna think its too much bs but it really isn't. I'm just trying to make this whole thing less chaotic.

[RuhlFreak55]

mk...sooooo you failed in keeping it short goal.....

i don't have to worry...i only have one no stringies relationship

[Bojangles69]

mk...sooooo you failed in keeping it short goal.....

i don't have to worry...i only have one no stringies relationship

I do that more to remind myself before I start typing so it doesn't wind up being 3 or 4 pages long..

[energizer bunny]

LOL BO.....your version of short is my version of a book........JK

[Mooseman33]

BO- ur the best man.

change ur title to AR relationship doctor.....

keep doing ur thing bro..

[energizer bunny]

Bo.....i remember another thread.....you were unsure of what career/direction your degree would take you......you should be a relationship couseller/therapist whatever they are called.........

you seem to enjoy that sort of stuff.........hell you must do to invite everyone to cry on your PM shoulder.......

[energizer bunny]

BO- ur the best man.

change ur title to AR relationship doctor.....

keep doing ur thing bro..

gotta be better than loving poodles...LOL

[RuhlFreak55]

he has even attempted helping me....of course i didn't listen, but he did try

[energizer bunny]

Ruhl....your beyond help mate..........even Thor himself can not help you...LOL

[RuhlFreak55]

Ruhl....your beyond help mate..........even Thor himself can not help you...LOL

Thor would bring some virgin nymphos along

[Mooseman33]

for u to stalk....

[RuhlFreak55]

for u to stalk....

no, for me to rape

[stack_it]

Change ur title to "AR's love doctor"

[Bojangles69]

I would change my title but I know if I do its gonna provoke guys to challenge me a lot more then they already do.
And I'd have to treat everything a lot less casual then I do now.

Like right now I can fvck around with people and give them bs advice cause they think I'm a "poodle fvcker". If I do that with a proper title you'll see guys coming from everywhere saying crap like "you dont know what you're talking about, you're an idiot blah blah".
So I do it to actually stop people from taking me too seriously, which a lot of people already overdo imo.

[Bojangles69]

BO- ur the best man.

change ur title to AR relationship doctor.....

keep doing ur thing bro..

Thanks moose!!! I will my man..

[Bojangles69]

Bo.....i remember another thread.....you were unsure of what career/direction your degree would take you......you should be a relationship couseller/therapist whatever they are called.........

you seem to enjoy that sort of stuff.........hell you must do to invite everyone to cry on your PM shoulder.......

You're 100% correct.
When it comes down to it I really can't see myself doing anything but relationship counseling so it prob will manifest in my future somehow.

I think that thread was just more a random breakdown from always not having money..

[Hazard]

Maybe you can help me and a friend of mine.....

I don't know him in real life..... he's a friend I sometimes talk to on the internet. I'll blank out part of his name so no-one recognizes him..... it's D*m4L*fe.

My friend likes to pretend to be gay online..... I know "inside" he's really straight. I don't understand whats going on in his head to wanna pretend to portray a gay man on the internet..... maybe you can help me to convince him that this isn't healthy behavior..... I mean.... all he does all day is post pictures of men kissing other men. This madness has to stop before a mutiny happens.....


~Haz~

[Bojangles69]

Maybe you can help me and a friend of mine.....

I don't know him in real life..... he's a friend I sometimes talk to on the internet. I'll blank out part of his name so no-one recognizes him..... it's D*m4L*fe.

My friend likes to pretend to be gay online..... I know "inside" he's really straight. I don't understand whats going on in his head to wanna pretend to portray a gay man on the internet..... maybe you can help me to convince him that this isn't healthy behavior..... I mean.... all he does all day is post pictures of men kissing other men. This madness has to stop before a mutiny happens.....


~Haz~

Its ONE thing to pretend you are gay.

Its a whole nother issue when you pretend your a gay basher with a fake account named mecmuscle, send yourself degrading gay commentary, and then show it the world so they believe "oh maybe he really is gay.. other people seem to believe it".

The day DSM did that was the day I realized no amount of intervention could ever help him. lmao

[chicmagnet]

Thor would bring some virgin nymphos along

Thats kind of an oxymoron isn't it?? how would they know???

[lovbyts]

Thats kind of an oxymoron isn't it?? how would they know???

No, I had a GF for almost 3 years that was pretty much a nypho and a virgin. She gave great head ALL the time, loved receiving oral and finger play but would not do the deed until married. It's all good.

[DSM4Life]

If the b/f doesn't want anal but im in the mood, what can we do ?

[*El Diablo*]

If the b/f doesn't want anal but im in the mood, what can we do ?

Stick it in his mouth