Should I send her Flowers?

[Eddie_m63]

Now i am not sending her flowers. I know she checks me out, she even asked my buddy about me, nothing much just "Haven't seen him around", that means almost nothing anyways. Actually i was thinking in putting my membership number on the card, leaving the last number as a question mark. I think there's some girls outhere that would appreciate flower, but that's just me. No flower to her, yet.

[Diamond*K]

Now i am not sending her flowers. I know she checks me out, she even asked my buddy about me, nothing much just "Haven't seen him around", that means almost nothing anyways. Actually i was thinking in putting my membership number on the card, leaving the last number as a question mark. I think there's some girls outhere that would appreciate flower, but that's just me. No flower to her, yet.

i appreciate flowers.

but good timing is everything.

[J-Dogg]

i a gree on sum point, but i hate when guys ask me out for drinks the 1st time around... it just says i wanna fuk and nvr call u again.

coffee is harmless.. its a friend thing.. nothing like a date thing. when he goes on the real date.. pffff.. drink away.

but the longer u wait the more she'll fall for you (longer u wait for sex i mean)

So you want to go out and get a few drinks some time?


But to OP:

You say the girl is out of your league, that's the wrong attitude. Even if you are not the biggest stud in the gym, town or state, you can create attraction with a girl with out it.

Girls like a guy who is able to hold a stable conversation, that the conversation is comfortable and flows. If you can do this, and interject some witty flirty comments, you can really land about any girl.

But this is not the movies, or a romance novel. If you send her flowers, it will not improve your chances any. Some girls might feel obligated to take you up on a "pity date" if you did it, but from that point on they would dodge you, and probably complain to her friends about it.

[calgarian]

Now i am not sending her flowers. I know she checks me out, she even asked my buddy about me, nothing much just "Haven't seen him around", that means almost nothing anyways. Actually i was thinking in putting my membership number on the card, leaving the last number as a question mark. I think there's some girls outhere that would appreciate flower, but that's just me. No flower to her, yet.

so half of your work is done for you now just start talking to her about other stuff then ask her out.

[Diamond*K]

So you want to go out and get a few drinks some time?


But to OP:

You say the girl is out of your league, that's the wrong attitude. Even if you are not the biggest stud in the gym, town or state, you can create attraction with a girl with out it.

Girls like a guy who is able to hold a stable conversation, that the conversation is comfortable and flows. If you can do this, and interject some witty flirty comments, you can really land about any girl.

But this is not the movies, or a romance novel. If you send her flowers, it will not improve your chances any. Some girls might feel obligated to take you up on a "pity date" if you did it, but from that point on they would dodge you, and probably complain to her friends about it.

lol.. no. but thanx

[chemicalromance]

Eddie_m63 I was in the same scenerio last summer. I would go to this small company for parts/equipment about three times/week. Each time would allot me about 5-10min of conversation with the really cute receptionist there. The time limit was almost a blessing because i wouldnt run out of things to say, kind of like your situation not being able to sit there and talk all day. It was usually 1/4 flirtatious and 3/4 interested in her, never really talking about myself. Finally i had a bunch of paperwork for her held together with a rubberband. I wrote my number on the rubberband and also wrote "call me!!" I told her to read over everything carefully and it worked!! That stupid rubberband worked, so bottom line just talk to the chick for cryn out loud.

[Eddie_m63]

ok guys here the update. Started talking to her, not much but i am there, from the looks of it it looks like she's not to interested, i'll keep on chatting here and there see how it all goes, man am i glad i don't love her.

[Bojangles69]

I want to send flower to this girl that works at my place(Workout place), she is nice, beautiful nice ass and all. She works in the front desk, i see her everyday, but rarely talk to her due to other members (always walking in/out). I don't know if she's got a bf, but for a few weeks i'd this idea of sending here something for Valentines (Quickly Approaching). She is out of my league, but at the same time flowers wouldn't hurt me that much as i wouldn't be asking here out right?

People have already discussed various reasons why not to do this. I will move on as this has been beaten to death.

ok guys here the update. Started talking to her, not much but i am there, from the looks of it it looks like she's not to interested, i'll keep on chatting here and there see how it all goes, man am i glad i don't love her.

Ok now great, you are focused on talking but now lets stop. What are you gonna do when you run out of things to say? Act akward? Nervous.

NOT just women, but women and men both are universally attracted to strong body language. Women much more so of course. Watch a show like Blind Date, all the guys who get dates have good bodylanguage.
Some of them talk like fvckn idiots too. Look at Frank The Entertainer on VH1, not a great example, hes an idiot, but has strong confident swagger. He just moves his body like "everythings alright and I'm the shit".
Watch people carefully. You know what I had a girl tell me after we'd been screwing for some time? She said the FIRST thing she was attracted to in me was the way I smile. **BODYLANGUAGE** this happens a lot more then you think.
Guess what else, I know EXACTLY how I smile, the way a lot of other men don't. Its strategy using bodylanguage. She said no matter WHAT she said to me, anytime I smiled, it was a weird half smile and I'd cringe my forehead. I know how I do it and I know it secretely pisses hot women off. Its JUST validating enough to pass for approval, but everything else says "you're nothing special" to them.

It made her almost chase me, it stimulated her in a way a full perverted smile from the average man would not. High status men often do this as well. Watch people.

All in all a woman will pay attention to what you say, but FEEL your bodylanguage as well. NLP says 93% of communication always happens nonverbally, while 7% is actual words.
Why can one man ask a girl to blow him and get sidechopped in the neck then kicked in the balls while another man
will get blown saying the same thing?

Its bodylanguage. Forget about words for now, say what ever feels normal, use voice tone, relaxedness, pace, confidence, slow movements, appear methodical and calculated, deliberate, you know how it is. You know intuitively how it works because you watch people seduce people all day to get favors. You see people doing the same things and getting treated differently. You can always SAY one thing but have your body SAY something different. When you realize women pay attention to undercurrences and overtones, you will realize how to attact them. Its not easy, but you will learn if your dedicated enough. Most "naturals" have just learned it quicker and younger.
There are also dedicated models to verbal seduction you can find. Some people criticize them because "they're not natural" but most great models all already backwards engineered from natural seduction. Thats how they surfaced in the first place. If you need a lot of help, check out David D and the M3 Model from TMM.

[collar]

this is one funny thread..
good entertainment.

But I will say know what you are doing, because you do go to that gym..

I would never get with any girl from same gym I go to, thats just a rule I follow.
That place is just for my training and thats it.

[Kratos]

creeper

[Eddie_m63]

this is one funny thread..
good entertainment.

But I will say know what you are doing, because you do go to that gym..

I would never get with any girl from same gym I go to, thats just a rule I follow.
That place is just for my training and thats it.

Might be funny to you but man there's nothing funny about it. By the way i am not planning on asking her out anytime soon, she would have to do/say something very interesting for me to ask her out. Then if something goes wrong i would still have to see her daily, don't want that right now.

[Kratos]

Might be funny to you but man there's nothing funny about it. By the way i am not planning on asking her out anytime soon, she would have to do/say something very interesting for me to ask her out. Then if something goes wrong i would still have to see her daily, don't want that right now.

better play it safe and jerk off the rest of your life

[Eddie_m63]

One more thing guys/girls i know this whole thing may sound funny or stupid to some of you but not everyone is as smooth when it comes to the opposite sex.

[collar]

eddie man, this is the lounge some guys are going have a laugh about it or make jokes.

we are all guys here well most of us, so you gotta understand when you ask for advice or you throw this sort of thing out there or make a thread about it.

You know you gotta expect some guys to take it lightly, also you should know this place by now .

but yes i also understand what you are saying some dont find it as easy as others.

but just take it easy man..

[lovbyts]

OK rule #1
NEVER date a woman from your work place.
Honestly, forget her unless she is a hoe you just want to bang and everyone else is getting a piece of it.
It will end badly.....

[bjpennnn]

OK rule #1
NEVER date a woman from your work place.
Honestly, forget her unless she is a hoe you just want to bang and everyone else is getting a piece of it.
It will end badly.....

wise words

[calgarian]

People have already discussed various reasons why not to do this. I will move on as this has been beaten to death.



Ok now great, you are focused on talking but now lets stop. What are you gonna do when you run out of things to say? Act akward? Nervous.

NOT just women, but women and men both are universally attracted to strong body language. Women much more so of course. Watch a show like Blind Date, all the guys who get dates have good bodylanguage.
Some of them talk like fvckn idiots too. Look at Frank The Entertainer on VH1, not a great example, hes an idiot, but has strong confident swagger. He just moves his body like "everythings alright and I'm the shit".
Watch people carefully. You know what I had a girl tell me after we'd been screwing for some time? She said the FIRST thing she was attracted to in me was the way I smile. **BODYLANGUAGE** this happens a lot more then you think.
Guess what else, I know EXACTLY how I smile, the way a lot of other men don't. Its strategy using bodylanguage. She said no matter WHAT she said to me, anytime I smiled, it was a weird half smile and I'd cringe my forehead. I know how I do it and I know it secretely pisses hot women off. Its JUST validating enough to pass for approval, but everything else says "you're nothing special" to them.

It made her almost chase me, it stimulated her in a way a full perverted smile from the average man would not. High status men often do this as well. Watch people.

All in all a woman will pay attention to what you say, but FEEL your bodylanguage as well. NLP says 93% of communication always happens nonverbally, while 7% is actual words.
Why can one man ask a girl to blow him and get sidechopped in the neck then kicked in the balls while another man
will get blown saying the same thing?

Its bodylanguage. Forget about words for now, say what ever feels normal, use voice tone, relaxedness, pace, confidence, slow movements, appear methodical and calculated, deliberate, you know how it is. You know intuitively how it works because you watch people seduce people all day to get favors. You see people doing the same things and getting treated differently. You can always SAY one thing but have your body SAY something different. When you realize women pay attention to undercurrences and overtones, you will realize how to attact them. Its not easy, but you will learn if your dedicated enough. Most "naturals" have just learned it quicker and younger.
There are also dedicated models to verbal seduction you can find. Some people criticize them because "they're not natural" but most great models all already backwards engineered from natural seduction. Thats how they surfaced in the first place. If you need a lot of help, check out David D and the M3 Model from TMM.

so ****ing true....I have told the same and I know how I smile one of that half smile half attitude ...you know how u want to say something really smart ass and u r not sure if you should say it or not.....I have that smile and it freaking works everytime I wanted it to work...

[Kratos]

OK rule #1
NEVER date a woman from your work place.
Honestly, forget her unless she is a hoe you just want to bang and everyone else is getting a piece of it.
It will end badly.....

everyone keeps saying don't sit were you eat...
first of all, he doesn't work there...he exercises there
gym is just one of the many places you typically go on a routine

so what the heck, why can't you talk to girls there? that's just silly.

can't as girls out at the gym cause I workout there

can't as girls out in my biology class cause I go there 3x a week and I'll have to see her the rest of the semester.

better not ask out a girl that works at the mall because that's where I buy my clothes.

if I ask a girl out at the supermarket, I'll end up starving to death cause I won't be able to buy groceries anymore.


wtf,
and when did trying to get to know a girl become shitting?
I understand not at work type of thing...only if you really love your job and don't want drama at the work place. But if you're a half way decent person, you should be able to take someone out from work, be decent to them and be civil at work after...so unless you like to cheat or treat women poorly it shouldn't be an issue. And if you're talking about a summer job that you're just working for some extra cash, why worry?

I went out with a chick that worked the front desk at my gym...it didn't work out. No harm done, I didn't have to change gyms. She still flirted with me when I scanned in. Eventually she went back to school and I didn't see her until last summer at a bar. We talked and hung out for awile, bought her a drink, danced...but left it at that.

Even if it goes horrible, like the worst you can imagine...who gives a fvck what some chick that works a 8 dollar an hour job at the gym thinks about you. Chances are she's gonna think a lot less if he keeps creepin, and giving stalker looks her way everytime he's in there.

[Eddie_m63]

eddie man, this is the lounge some guys are going have a laugh about it or make jokes.

we are all guys here well most of us, so you gotta understand when you ask for advice or you throw this sort of thing out there or make a thread about it.

You know you gotta expect some guys to take it lightly, also you should know this place by now .

but yes i also understand what you are saying some dont find it as easy as others.

but just take it easy man..

I know, no hard feelings. But is just funny, that's all.

[Eddie_m63]

I looked a little closer today guys and let me tell you i don't like her lips. I mean they're too small and not enough meat around. I'd never like girls with small lips, i don't know if they're good when getting a BJ or just my been too picky.

[Hoggage_54]

pics would help

[lovbyts]

everyone keeps saying don't sit were you eat...
first of all, he doesn't work there...he exercises there
gym is just one of the many places you typically go on a routine

so what the heck, why can't you talk to girls there? that's just silly.

can't as girls out at the gym cause I workout there

can't as girls out in my biology class cause I go there 3x a week and I'll have to see her the rest of the semester.

better not ask out a girl that works at the mall because that's where I buy my clothes.

if I ask a girl out at the supermarket, I'll end up starving to death cause I won't be able to buy groceries anymore.


wtf,
and when did trying to get to know a girl become shitting?
I understand not at work type of thing...only if you really love your job and don't want drama at the work place. But if you're a half way decent person, you should be able to take someone out from work, be decent to them and be civil at work after...so unless you like to cheat or treat women poorly it shouldn't be an issue. And if you're talking about a summer job that you're just working for some extra cash, why worry?

I went out with a chick that worked the front desk at my gym...it didn't work out. No harm done, I didn't have to change gyms. She still flirted with me when I scanned in. Eventually she went back to school and I didn't see her until last summer at a bar. We talked and hung out for awile, bought her a drink, danced...but left it at that.

Even if it goes horrible, like the worst you can imagine...who gives a fvck what some chick that works a 8 dollar an hour job at the gym thinks about you. Chances are she's gonna think a lot less if he keeps creepin, and giving stalker looks her way everytime he's in there.

My bad when I read it I kept reading where he WORKS, not works out...In that case go for it.

[calgarian]

I looked a little closer today guys and let me tell you i don't like her lips. I mean they're too small and not enough meat around. I'd never like girls with small lips, i don't know if they're good when getting a BJ or just my been too picky.

so after reading through 2 pages of shit ass comment that all u had to say......why dont u just say out loud that u are pansy and dont have balls to ask her out???
If I would made a thread asking for opinion it will be where do I start on the new girl front or back