Help with girl and life lol

**fattymcbutterpants** · 03-11-2010, 12:42 AM

Ok so just about my entire life i have assumed/planned on going to college as a single man so i can have the full college experience and have lots of fun and all.

Well so its senior year now and im going out of state for college next year ( a few months away) and i meet this girl. She is absolutely amazing, without being too mushy no girl has ever come close to making me feel like she does. We have been friends/ kinda talking for awhile but just started actually dating recently.

So a little background, I have kinda been around the block for just being a senior lol. Probably been with more girls than i ever should have, but most of them havent meant much just kinda random hookups as bad as that sounds. Well ive kinda been wanting to get away from all that it has gotten me a little bit of a bad rep but mainly all that just seems kinda immature now.

But anyways so in short i am pretty sure i love this girl. I dont mean like cute little kid love lol but legitimately love her. The thought of going away to college honestly makes me feel helpless and tears me up. I am not normally a very emotional person at all and hardly ever get attached is why im writing all this.

But so basically guys I just wanna know what your opinions are, no matter what I am going to this college. But do you all think I should try to make this long distance relationship work? Im looking for some input or experiences on all this. We would be about 4hrs away.

I know im not that old and im by no means saying im ready to get married or anything, but she is the type of girl i can legitimately see myself marrying and wanting to spend the rest of my life with. She isnt one of those girls i want to let slip through my fingers

**LiftedDuramax2007** · 03-11-2010, 12:44 AM

If you arent the gullible type you will be able to tell if she "truly" feels the same way you do or if she just puts on an awesome act.
Theres no reason to get married, atleast know the chick for a year without any problems that dont make you change your mind of wanting to spend the rest of your life with her.

How long did you say youve been with her and how long have you known her?

**fattymcbutterpants** · 03-11-2010, 01:09 AM

No trust me im not the gullible type if anything im normally the kinda guy that doesnt like settling down with 1 girl or anything. But i want to get away from that kinda and she is absolutely amazing. No girl has ever made me feel like she does. We have only been together for a little while. I just met her back in november. To be honest she makes me want to be a completely different person than I have been and just be with her. Depending on how well everything goes over the summer will ultimately decide i guess.

**DarnGoodLookin** · 03-11-2010, 08:07 AM

I'm in a long distance relationship right now for roughly the past two months, and there is two more to go. Things got a little stressful cuz of the distance, but they are all good now. If you do decide to do a long distance relationship, at least you are only 4 hours away. In my particular situation seeing her is not possible. So IMO its def doable and worth a shot if you really love this chick.

**AnimalJ** · 03-11-2010, 08:11 AM

I hated this stage. You were born alone and you will die alone. If you do time youll do that alone to. Enjoy her company love is great, dont lose yourself. You must look out for YOU because at the end of the day wre all humans and we are here for US. Love well, Laugh well, live well but do not lose sight of YOU i cant stress this enough. BE well.

***D7M*** · 03-11-2010, 08:37 AM

No offense, but you sound infatuated.

Go to college, if it's only 4 hours away, try to make things work with her.

If it doesn't work out, then she wasn't "the one",

and there will a hundred other women for you on your campus.

**alexISthrowed** · 03-11-2010, 08:38 AM

Once you get to college you will forget all about that girl. Just keep her around so when your back in town for the holidays you have some poon.

**Bossman** · 03-11-2010, 09:15 AM

Don't let this chick in anyway sidetrack your future. Long distance relationships don't work IMO. Tell her you'll look her up when you come back to town. Most likely she'll be fvcking someone else.

All woman are whores, don't forget that!

**LatissimusaurousRex** · 03-11-2010, 09:20 AM

4 hours isn't far, you could easily make that work.

Plus if she bones other dudes you'll know she's just a whore like the rest of em, 4 hours isn't far, if she can't handle it or you can't handle it then it isn't love. You should probably put it a little more eloquently to her though...

**alexISthrowed** · 03-11-2010, 09:30 AM

Originally Posted by LatissimusaurousRex

4 hours isn't far, you could easily make that work.

Plus if she bones other dudes you'll know she's just a whore like the rest of em, 4 hours isn't far, if she can't handle it or you can't handle it then it isn't love. You should probably put it a little more eloquently to her though...

She will bone other dudes, unless shes a plumper. In that case your fine.

**fattymcbutterpants** · 03-11-2010, 10:09 AM

If i do attempt to make all the long distance stuff work and some other guy did that i would more than likely beat them without mercy with a baseball bat unless they had no clue she was dating me then i would just use my fist lol. But for real she isnt the cheating type of girl either. Awhile back a guy cheated on her I know and it tore her up so bad, and she talked to me about all that before we even started dating how if i ever was to cheat on her she wanted me to be able to be honest and just come out and tell her

***D7M*** · 03-11-2010, 10:25 AM

Originally Posted by fattymcbutterpants

If i do attempt to make all the long distance stuff work and some other guy did that i would more than likely beat them without mercy with a baseball bat unless they had no clue she was dating me then i would just use my fist lol. But for real she isnt the cheating type of girl either. Awhile back a guy cheated on her I know and it tore her up so bad, and she talked to me about all that before we even started dating how if i ever was to cheat on her she wanted me to be able to be honest and just come out and tell her

they all are, dude.

sooner you understand that the better

**calgarian** · 03-11-2010, 10:27 AM

my 2 cents...kill the girl and live ur life happily ever after,,,,,,Sorry I am bitter these days when it comes to girls

**alexISthrowed** · 03-11-2010, 10:30 AM

Originally Posted by fattymcbutterpants

If i do attempt to make all the long distance stuff work and some other guy did that i would more than likely beat them without mercy with a baseball bat unless they had no clue she was dating me then i would just use my fist lol. But for real she isnt the cheating type of girl either. Awhile back a guy cheated on her I know and it tore her up so bad, and she talked to me about all that before we even started dating how if i ever was to cheat on her she wanted me to be able to be honest and just come out and tell her

This is just stupid. You never want to risk your future for a girl. If she cheats on you then just break up with her. Dont go catch an assault charge over some whore. Guys will never turn down a girl and if some hot girl with a bf was trying to fvck you, you wouldn't think twice about it. The guy may have no idea she is even seeing someone. I can almost guarantee that if shes good looking and your 4 hours away shes gonna be sucking some d.

**Schmidty** · 03-11-2010, 12:32 PM

Originally Posted by fattymcbutterpants

If i do attempt to make all the long distance stuff work and some other guy did that i would more than likely beat them without mercy with a baseball bat unless they had no clue she was dating me then i would just use my fist lol. But for real she isnt the cheating type of girl either. Awhile back a guy cheated on her I know and it tore her up so bad, and she talked to me about all that before we even started dating how if i ever was to cheat on her she wanted me to be able to be honest and just come out and tell her

i didnt know there was a type that cheated lol im pretty sure they all do

**awesome1** · 03-11-2010, 12:47 PM

when i went off to college i had a similar situation man. From everything I went through, here is what i learned. Very simple:

step 1: leave for college

step 2: discontinue relationship (or it will end itself eventually)

step 3: be glad that you did because there are so many hot girls you meet freshman year at college. After you break up with this chick later on down the road you will be kicking yourself for not living it up freshman year because you were in a long distance relationship.

Look man, you are probably only 18 right? im only 21 and I can tell you that what I thought was love when I was a senior was not at all. Things change when you leave your home city and start meeting people from lots of other different places.

just my two cents, disregard if you want

**JScondition** · 03-11-2010, 01:22 PM

It seems like this girl is your first "love" even though you've been with a lot of others. From experience... there is always someone better. You think she is perfect, but you have not seen the world yet. I say let her go... you will find other fish

**powerliftmike** · 03-11-2010, 01:59 PM

Dont beat anyone up because YOUR girl back stabbed ya bro.

This shit happens all the time, boyfriends dont want their girl to go off to college and move away and vice versa. Many settle for a local community college selling themselves short just to stay close. It almost always ****s you over in the end, my ex did this even.

You can still have plenty of fun in college dating someone back home, not sure where you got the idea you cant. But be very careful and dont put so much weight on her. Keep an open mind and open options.

**Hate Being Small** · 03-11-2010, 02:23 PM

[QUOTE=D7M;5103377]they all are, dude.

sooner you understand that the better[/QUOT

Couldn't agree more

**fattymcbutterpants** · 03-12-2010, 12:39 AM

Well i still have all summer to decide on all this, but we kinda have a pretty trusting relationship so its not like we would be holding each other back so much just more keeping each other from doing other people lol. So im thinking I will see how it goes coming back a couple times a month since its not too far of a drive and I will just see how it goes. I mean its worth a try

**warchild** · 03-12-2010, 01:01 AM

Originally Posted by AnimalJ

I hated this stage. You were born alone and you will die alone. If you do time youll do that alone to. Enjoy her company love is great, dont lose yourself. You must look out for YOU because at the end of the day wre all humans and we are here for US. Love well, Laugh well, live well but do not lose sight of YOU i cant stress this enough. BE well.

very well said sir

**warchild** · 03-12-2010, 01:03 AM

Originally Posted by cgb6810

Don't let this chick in anyway sidetrack your future. Long distance relationships don't work IMO. Tell her you'll look her up when you come back to town. Most likely she'll be fvcking someone else.

All woman are whores, don't forget that!

so true, we must teach this young lad fattymcbutterface this about women

**warchild** · 03-12-2010, 01:06 AM

Originally Posted by fattymcbutterpants

Well i still have all summer to decide on all this, but we kinda have a pretty trusting relationship so its not like we would be holding each other back so much just more keeping each other from doing other people lol. So im thinking I will see how it goes coming back a couple times a month since its not too far of a drive and I will just see how it goes. I mean its worth a try

your setting yourself up for a heartbreak, but hey what do the rest of us older guys on here know anyways

**Noles12** · 03-12-2010, 04:12 AM

I would never try anything long distance. go to college and have fun. trust me you will have a lot more fun if you dont have to worry about someone else 4 hours away.

also off topic but noticed you said you are a senior in highschool and have been a member for two years. are you 18 yet?

**fattymcbutterpants** · 03-12-2010, 10:33 AM

Yes Noles I am 18 i got kicked off a long time ago though for not being 18

**BgMc31** · 03-12-2010, 01:44 PM

I'm the flipside of all the bitterness on this thread...LOL!!! I married my high school sweetheart. Spent my freshman year in college 4.5hrs away from her. She moved up to where I was after my freshman year. She kept me focused on what was important (school and football). We both graduated from college in 3.5yrs. It was because of her that I realized my dream of becoming a professional football player, she's given me 3 beautiful children (one national merit scholarship winner, and two athletic phenoms) and we've been together now for almost 20yrs. So I am living proof that it can be successful...

Now I'll be honest, we've had our ups and downs early but all relationships do. But it was never because she cheated or anything. It was the pressures of being young parents and being a high profile athlete. But we are better for going through those tribulations.

Good luck.

**Immortal Soldier** · 03-12-2010, 05:59 PM

Love sucks, can't live with it and can't live without it.

**Bossman** · 03-13-2010, 07:10 AM

Originally Posted by BgMc31

I'm the flipside of all the bitterness on this thread...LOL!!! I married my high school sweetheart. Spent my freshman year in college 4.5hrs away from her. She moved up to where I was after my freshman year. She kept me focused on what was important (school and football). We both graduated from college in 3.5yrs. It was because of her that I realized my dream of becoming a professional football player, she's given me 3 beautiful children (one national merit scholarship winner, and two athletic phenoms) and we've been together now for almost 20yrs. So I am living proof that it can be successful...

Now I'll be honest, we've had our ups and downs early but all relationships do. But it was never because she cheated or anything. It was the pressures of being young parents and being a high profile athlete. But we are better for going through those tribulations.

Good luck.

Just staying married for any length of time nowadays is highly unlikely. I know, I've been married 27 yrs. And young kids maintaining a long distance relationship is even more unlikely.

Have your fun with her this summer, and then set her free!

**redz** · 03-13-2010, 09:30 AM

College is a wild time man, you don`t want to waste the oportunity to do some pu$$y crushing.

**lovbyts** · 03-14-2010, 04:42 AM

You are 18??? OMG dont even worry/stress about it. NO one should be in a SERIOUS committed relationship until they are at least 25 and then no even think about marriage until they are 30.

You and all your feelings are still in the infantile stage. You will disagree now but in 20 years you will say Yeah he was right. LOL