Why do people cheat?

[Flagg]

Cheating.

Not a nice word when you look at it and what it implies. Have any of you ever been cheated on? Have you been the cheater or have you been the other person (the one that the cheater is cheating with)?

Why do people do it?

There's a statement coined, "once a cheater, always a cheater". But I think that's an untrue statement. Well, it's not necessarily untrue, but it depends on the circumstances. There are basically two types of cheaters:

1) The Manipulative Cheater

2) The Unhappy Cheater

Once a cheater, always a cheater I think definitely applies to the first type. These are people that think they are clever and smart, and are totally apathetic to the people they are cheating on.

Then you have the second type, which are people that are desperately unhappy in their current situation. Prehaps they are in a abusive relationship, or there are kids involved, or they simply dont have the strength to end their bad relationship. So they seek out someone that will make them feel good again. These are people that are probably not repeat offenders.

Cheating isn't as black and white as people think.

[Dukkit]

I cheat because Im young, Im impulsive, I get bored easily.

If a girl annoys me, or gets me mad.... Ill go cheat.

If Im with someone for awhile and get bored, but still have feelings for them... Ill cheat.
That way I can keep the emotional connection with them, but find a new, exciting sexual connection.

There are many reasons to cheat.

[Stigmata101]

because they are life sucking, manipulative, lieing, pathetic, fake, low self esteem, dirty bitches

[Stigmata101]

except for my wife..............

[gym_junki]

except for my wife..............

lmao

[zimmy]

1 reason....they are cowardly

If they didn't want to settle...then they could just date around and it would be all open and woudln't hurt / toy with anybody... so if they are in a relationship to start we can rule that out and know that they want to be with someone exclusively.

So then the reason they cheat is simple...they are too damned cowardly to say "Hey i'm not really feeling this relationship anymore and think I need to break up" BEFORE THEY DO SOMEONE ELSE. I mean seriously how hard is it? People say "oh i was in the moment"...bullshit, call some one up when stuff is happening and say do it over the phone. But hey why do the honorable thing like that when you can sneak around like a little b*tch.

[gym_junki]

never cheated on a girl ever and i havent been cheated on well thats wat i kno. i wouldnt like to be cheated on so y should i cheat on her.

[gym_junki]

1 reason....they are cowardly

If they didn't want to settle...then they could just date around and it would be all open and woudln't hurt toy with anybody... so if they are in a relationship to start we can rule out that they want to be with someone exclusively.

So then the reason they cheat is simple...they are too damned cowardly to say "Hey i'm not really feeling this relationship anymore and think I need to break up" BEFORE THEY DO SOMEONE ELSE. I mean seriously how hard is it? People say "oh i was in the moment"...bullshit, call some one up when stuff is happening and say do it over the phone. But hey why do the honorable thing like that when you can sneak around like a little b*tch.

true

[MACHINE5150]

I cheat because Im young, Im impulsive, I get bored easily.

If a girl annoys me, or gets me mad.... Ill go cheat.

If Im with someone for awhile and get bored, but still have feelings for them... Ill cheat.
That way I can keep the emotional connection with them, but find a new, exciting sexual connection.

There are many reasons to cheat.

I used to be exactly like this when i was younger, but i had been cheated on twice.. one girl ended up marrying the guy, the other was a sex machine (threesomes galore (: ) so when she cheated on me i wasn't to upset because technically i cheated on her with her and another woman several times so i couldn't bitch too much..

i cheated on the first one and told her because i felt guilty..

Now that i am older i feel that people should always be honest with eachother.. When you decide to become an adult you put away childish things..

[Hazard]

I've been the cheater..... I've been cheated on..... and i've been the one someone cheated with lol.

Dukkit pretty much summed it up really..... It's NOT black and white at all. Sometimes you love the emotional connection that you have with someone and you don't want to let that go. However..... they aren't filling your sexual wants or need..... so you find it somewhere else without having to destroy the emotional connection.

Also, I saw a study where they linked cheating to a gene. I'll have to see if I can find it..... but guys who had a certain gene were vastly more prone to cheating than those without it.

~Haz~

[zimmy]

I've been the cheater..... I've been cheated on..... and i've been the one someone cheated with lol.

Dukkit pretty much summed it up really..... It's NOT black and white at all. Sometimes you love the emotional connection that you have with someone and you don't want to let that go. However..... they aren't filling your sexual wants or need..... so you find it somewhere else without having to destroy the emotional connection.

Also, I saw a study where they linked cheating to a gene. I'll have to see if I can find it..... but guys who had a certain gene were vastly more prone to cheating than those without it.

~Haz~

yah and fatties say over eating is a gene...and some people say criminal mentality is a gene...I mean hey, why try to do the right thing if we can just blame it on gene's.

[Hazard]

They linked being gay to lack of the FucM gene

~Haz~

[Hazard]

If you don't believe it's true..... volunteer yourself for the human study in korea and allow them to remove the gene and see what happens

~Haz~

[Mr.Rose]

I got cheated on three times in a row all with serious GF's. I gave up on love. Now I'm a whore.

[Mr.Rose]

If you don't believe it's true..... volunteer yourself for the human study in korea and allow them to remove the gene and see what happens

~Haz~

You turn into cal?

[Shol'va]

Cheating.

Not a nice word when you look at it and what it implies. Have any of you ever been cheated on? Have you been the cheater or have you been the other person (the one that the cheater is cheating with)?

Why do people do it?

There's a statement coined, "once a cheater, always a cheater". But I think that's an untrue statement. Well, it's not necessarily untrue, but it depends on the circumstances. There are basically two types of cheaters:

1) The Manipulative Cheater

2) The Unhappy Cheater

Once a cheater, always a cheater I think definitely applies to the first type. These are people that think they are clever and smart, and are totally apathetic to the people they are cheating on.

Then you have the second type, which are people that are desperately unhappy in their current situation. Prehaps they are in a abusive relationship, or there are kids involved, or they simply dont have the strength to end their bad relationship. So they seek out someone that will make them feel good again. These are people that are probably not repeat offenders.

Cheating isn't as black and white as people think.

You can add one more to your list....The Revenge Cheater!

[Shol'va]

They linked being gay to lack of the FucM gene

~Haz~

I'm gay and have plenty of FucM genes in me. If I had my way I'd FucM you too.

[Hazard]

I'm gay and have plenty of FucM genes in me. If I had my way I'd FucM you too.

LMFAO! I literally just laughed out loud hahaha

~Haz~

[DSM4Life]

If I followed my D*** I would stick it in anything. I love having sex just as much if not more than most men. Are there times where I might get a dry spell from sex because of work/stress/whatever? Sure. Does that give me a excuse to cheat ? No.

I have guys outright tell me "I know your in a relationship but I would fool around without telling anyone." When stuff like this happens I use my brain, unlike most simple men. Why risk a 4 year loving relationship for a one night stand. If your willing to take that chance you don't love your partner, no if and's or buts about it.

[zimmy]

If I followed my D*** I would stick it in anything. I love having sex just as much if not more than most men. Are there times where I might get a dry spell from sex because of work/stress/whatever? Sure. Does that give me a excuse to cheat ? No.

I have guys outright tell me "I know your in a relationship but I would fool around without telling anyone." When stuff like this happens I use my brain, unlike most simple men. Why risk a 4 year loving relationship for a one night stand. If your willing to take that chance you don't love your partner, no if and's or buts about it.

If you are having a dry spell...just use lube! DUH

[DSM4Life]

If you are having a dry spell...just use lube! DUH

Or spit.

[Shol'va]

If I followed my D*** I would stick it in anything. I love having sex just as much if not more than most men. Are there times where I might get a dry spell from sex because of work/stress/whatever? Sure. Does that give me a excuse to cheat ? No.

I have guys outright tell me "I know your in a relationship but I would fool around without telling anyone." When stuff like this happens I use my brain, unlike most simple men. Why risk a 4 year loving relationship for a one night stand. If your willing to take that chance you don't love your partner, no if and's or buts about it.

So profound.

[D3m3nt3d]

Well...if my wife did cheat, which physically I don't too much feel she did, emotionally, now that may be another story. But you never know. I would have pegged her as the unhappy cheater, which she made it obvious she was unhappy the last several months. Of course you were, school was almost out and you had no reason to use me anymore

Altho she would have been the Unhappy Cheater, it was definitely a repeat offense. She did the same thing with her first husband, if you want to call 2 months of being married a marriage.

[Diamond*K]

i cant sleep with 2 guys at the same time.... even if it wasnt serious....

i've been in the position b4 where i felt neglected in a relationship and possibly cheated on.. so i started to fall for another guy and we kissed. i wasnt havin problems for sexual reasons.. it was more about not feeling loved so getting it from sum1 who does. but its not in my trait to do so... i get bad nightmares and usually end both relationships....

[Knockout_Power]

yah and fatties say over eating is a gene...and some people say criminal mentality is a gene...I mean hey, why try to do the right thing if we can just blame it on gene's.

I have a not getting laid gene... its a perfectly legitmate claim...

[Knockout_Power]

I got cheated on three times in a row all with serious GF's. I gave up on love. Now I'm a whore.

definately a respectabel pursuit... I am jealous

[Diamond*K]

kp... ur makin me feel bad for you.....lol

[Knockout_Power]

i cant sleep with 2 guys at the same time.... even if it wasnt serious....

i've been in the position b4 where i felt neglected in a relationship and possibly cheated on.. so i started to fall for another guy and we kissed. i wasnt havin problems for sexual reasons.. it was more about not feeling loved so getting it from sum1 who does. but its not in my trait to do so... i get bad nightmares and usually end both relationships....

I hear ya on this one... even after 3 years with my ex of limited to no sex life and then the last 13 months of none at all I still couldnt bring myself to go find someone just for the sake of sex.

[Knockout_Power]

kp... ur makin me feel bad for you.....lol

right on, sympathey..... but try not to, we all make our own choices

[Diamond*K]

right on, sympathey..... but try not to, we all make our own choices

lol.. so ur choosing to not have sex??

[Knockout_Power]

lol.. so ur choosing to not have sex??

heh, no, I meant going so long in a bad situation and not cheating just for the sake of sex...

Im not sure if there are any rules about how long you should wait after a long relationship to get re-released back into the wild for a new and hopefully more adventurous endeavor

[Shol'va]

heh, no, I meant going so long in a bad situation and not cheating just for the sake of sex...

Im not sure if there are any rules about how long you should wait after a long relationship to get re-released back into the wild for a new and hopefully more adventurous endeavor

KP just give in and go Bi that way you'll have twice as many chances of picking up a date on friday and saturday nights.

[Knockout_Power]

KP just give in and go Bi that way you'll have twice as many chances of picking up a date on friday and saturday nights.

nice, twice as much rejection... where do I sign up?

[DSM4Life]

nice, twice as much rejection... where do I sign up?

But your also doubling your odds of getting laid !

[Knockout_Power]

But your also doubling your odds of getting laid !

I poop just fine thank you...

[Diamond*K]

I poop just fine thank you...

just move here girls are sluts...

[Shol'va]

I poop just fine thank you...

you don't have to be on the receiving end of it you know, unless you just prefer that end...but considering some of your threads I'd say you've been on the receiving end for years.

[Knockout_Power]

you don't have to be on the receiving end of it you know, unless you just prefer that end...but considering some of your threads I'd say you've been on the receiving end for years.

wow, just wow... no one has been brave enough to go there yet... I appreciate your honesty

[Knockout_Power]

just move here girls are sluts...

sounds like fun... got any blind friends?

[Diamond*K]

sounds like fun... got any blind friends?

lol ur not ugly.. trust me when me and standBy take u out.. u'll love it here