Marriage question

**Neevor** · 09-13-2010, 12:25 PM

Originally Posted by Hazard

- you can sleep with as many women as your dick can handle.

^^^^ nuff said

~Haz~

This is what you should be doing DP.

Originally Posted by run_n_fool

There are a lot of good answers in here and some pretty funny ones too. Having been married for a while now, if I were single I would not consider marriage unless I had been with a woman for 2 years.

Bingo Run'n.

Originally Posted by cherrydrpepper

I haven't even gotten my hand close to her snatch.. she's a good girl

I'm 29.. ive had sex with 7 people.. uh.. I dunno I was never good with women until recently. Recently im really good with women in my opinion even better than some of my rediculously good looking friends. I'm just worried I'll fk this thing up with this girl and end up with some girl whos good looking but a fkn bitch.. waste the next 15 years of my life with her.. etc etc. I'm really attracted to this girl cause she's good looking but shes a dork which is how I see myself. Like I asked her what she did yesterday she was like "I played guitar hero with my friends" lol

So I am nuts about my gf and like her quite a bit. She is the ultimate good girl, blond haired, blue eyed sweetheart who sends thank you notes for everything and talks to everyone. She's sitting here reading this with me and her comment was "I'm a good girl and I still want it." Seriously dude, you need to **** her a few times before you start thinking long term. What if she doesnt give head, or doesnt let you cum in her. Weak.

Also, 7 chicks man? Really? I'm 29 (as of Sept 6th, thanks in advance for the happy birthday wishes) and I nailed 7 chicks in one week earlier this year. You need to up your game a bit IMO. Once you are at a point where you are presented with many choices, then start picking. Until then, work on your ability to attract.

Oh, my gf says make sure she cooks for you. Thats her .02

**ghettoboyd** · 09-13-2010, 12:28 PM

Originally Posted by spywizard

Those are the times that marriage is the most needed and helpful.. brotha you are missing out..

right on bro agreed 1000%....ya ya i know where ruining this thread....

**Hazard** · 09-13-2010, 12:31 PM

Originally Posted by spywizard

Those are the times that marriage is the most needed and helpful.. brotha you are missing out..

Those times are directly related to being married for me..... had I not gotten married I wouldn't have 90% of the problems I have now. I should have listened to my father, my grandfather, my friends, and my co-workers..... I thought I was going to be the exception because my girlfriend was perfect. I proposed.... everything was fine. We planned the wedding..... everything was fine. We got married and shit started going downhill within 6 months.

~Haz~

**ghettoboyd** · 09-13-2010, 12:54 PM

im sorry to hear that bro but it happens....like ive said before i got lucky i know that more than anybody but i also put in the effort to make it work as dose my wife...you both have to want it to work...

**Shinalynn** · 09-13-2010, 01:07 PM

Ok so ya I have to post here and give my two friggin cents.. It isn't about MARRIAGE its about WHO you marry. Have the same views, compliment each other, make sure both of you know how to give and take. Sometimes, you just KNOW. There are always going to be troubled times, but if it isn't worth fighting for, it isn't worth having.

**Hazard** · 09-13-2010, 01:37 PM

see..... here's my thing.....

I met my wife when I was 14 and she was 13. We dated for 3 years and only seperated because we were so young. We said if it was meant to be..... we'd find eachother again. We remained very very close friends for many years before getting back together. It wasn't planned.... we just started gravitating more towards eachother..... hanging out more, talking on the phone more, etc. Before we knew it we were back together - still as crazy in love as we were before..... we never lost it. Everything was fine when we moved in together, everything was perfect when we bought a house together, everything was fine when we were planning our wedding. Once I was "locked in" after the wedding - that girl that I knew and loved for 9 years changed. I still love her..... I don't think i'll ever not love her - but shes run me through the ringer so many times now that it's almost impossible for me to believe in marriage.

~Haz~

**cherrydrpepper** · 09-13-2010, 02:21 PM

Originally Posted by calgarian

dude u have some issues

Its the gun you use to drop those hoes you tag and bag.. sorry if it wasn't self explanatory

**calgarian** · 09-13-2010, 02:35 PM

Originally Posted by cherrydrpepper

Its the gun you use to drop those hoes you tag and bag.. sorry if it wasn't self explanatory

i dont need a gun........i got my charms i am hoping that u know what charms means it got nothing to do with screwing the drunk chicks.....

**zimmy** · 09-13-2010, 02:35 PM

Originally Posted by Hazard

Whats funny is everyone I know who is married complains about the same shit..... I don't even know why we bother getting married at all. It really is more trouble than it's worth......

Marriage:
- Costs a lot for a reception
- Costs a lot to get divorced
- She gets half of everything if it doesn't work
- you can't sleep with any other woman
- you have to get her input on everything because you're a "team"
- you have to share living space with her
- you have to deal with her bitching about not wanting to watch sports
- you might hafta watch shows like dancing with the stars
- you see her face when you wake up, when you come home, when you goto bed..... oh and when you wake up again.
- you get a mother-in-law
- you get to restrict your spending while she increases her budget
- you'll have to be ready for her to change her mind on whats acceptable and whats not. (i.e. Steroid use )
- you inherit all her debt

Bachelor:
- you do what you want - when you want and answer to no woman.
- you can sleep with as many women as your dick can handle.

^^^^ nuff said

~Haz~

EVERYTHING is flipped for my wife and I. I should note that she didn't want to get married at all. She was happy with just co-habitating permanently.

- Costs a lot for a reception (She wanted a court wedding...I WANTED THE BIG WEDDING...and got it)

- She gets half of everything if it doesn't work (She had a house, car, motorcycle when I married her...I had nada)

- you have to get her input on everything because you're a "team" (she always just says "well what do you want to do")

- you have to deal with her bitching about not wanting to watch sports (hate sports except MMA...but we dont' watch tv anyway)

- you might hafta watch shows like dancing with the stars (I like dancing with stars! And america's got talent :P)

- you see her face when you wake up, when you come home, when you goto bed..... oh and when you wake up again.(i'm pretty clingy...I even follow her when she goes outside to smoke...she might have this complaint about me)

- you get a mother-in-law (RIP)

- you get to restrict your spending while she increases her budget (she's very frugal...helped me pay my cc's off first and we are now gonna work on hers...she also doesn't give me a hard time about NOT being frugal)

- you inherit all her debt (we had the same debt...now we will both be debt free)

So the only one that really applies to me is

- you'll have to be ready for her to change her mind on whats acceptable and whats not. (i.e. Steroid use)

I think that's all women. But it's like Shinalyn said earlier...it's not about the marriage it's about WHO YOU MARRY.

**Flagg** · 09-13-2010, 04:31 PM

I can understand people being jaded after having a bad marriage, and it's easy to make excuses, but never easy to find the reason.

Marriage is a two way deal. Some of you make out as if it's always the woman that "drives the man" to do this or do that.

**ghettoboyd** · 09-13-2010, 05:15 PM

Originally Posted by Hazard

see..... here's my thing.....

I met my wife when I was 14 and she was 13. We dated for 3 years and only seperated because we were so young. We said if it was meant to be..... we'd find eachother again. We remained very very close friends for many years before getting back together. It wasn't planned.... we just started gravitating more towards eachother..... hanging out more, talking on the phone more, etc. Before we knew it we were back together - still as crazy in love as we were before..... we never lost it. Everything was fine when we moved in together, everything was perfect when we bought a house together, everything was fine when we were planning our wedding. Once I was "locked in" after the wedding - that girl that I knew and loved for 9 years changed. I still love her..... I don't think i'll ever not love her - but shes run me through the ringer so many times now that it's almost impossible for me to believe in marriage.

~Haz~

so im asuuming then that you have shared your feelings with her about this and she hasent made an effort to try to make you happy..... or are you just letting it build up and harboring resentment toward her without ever giving her a chance to make things better...im just curious cus if youve made the effort then i understand your feelings and they are probably justified....regardless im sorry your so frustrated...

**Hazard** · 09-13-2010, 05:25 PM

Originally Posted by ghettoboyd

so im asuuming then that you have shared your feelings with her about this and she hasent made an effort to try to make you happy..... or are you just letting it build up and harboring resentment toward her without ever giving her a chance to make things better...im just curious cus if youve made the effort then i understand your feelings and they are probably justified....regardless im sorry your so frustrated...

I don't tell her we are in debt because of her..... but she already knows it. I've defiantely expressed my feelings to her and i've gone above and beyond to save our marriage 3 times when she had substance abuse problems. I pretty much kick myself in the ass for staying with her a 3rd time when all I hear come out of her mouth is "I need more clothes" - it's like...... god damnit woman..... we need you to get a fvcking job and start doing your 50%......

~Haz~

**Hazard** · 09-13-2010, 05:28 PM

Oh and to top it off.....

How on earth is it ok for her to abuse alcohol and pain meds and yet govern what I put into my body? Furthermore..... she used to take care of herself and go out and have fun with friends. Now she sleep till 1pm, goes to the gym, cleans the house at 11pm,and gets pissed off at the way I eat - she hates my workout schedual - she hates when I go out with friends......

I can keep going if you want me to LMAO

~Haz~

**Hazard** · 09-13-2010, 05:29 PM

Oh and..... none of this happened until a few months after marriage.....

~Haz~

**PistolStarta** · 09-13-2010, 05:40 PM

Haz....sadly I dont think think you're the minority anymore.

**Hazard** · 09-13-2010, 06:21 PM

Originally Posted by PistolStarta

Haz....sadly I dont think think you're the minority anymore.

Oh I know it man..... one of my best friends is going through it. His wife (gf at the time) was a clean girl..... had her own set of friends, enjoyed going out on weekends. He got married and bought a house..... now she leaves the place a mess...... and she wants his ass at home with her ALL THE TIME. If he goes out..... they fight for 2 days..... lmao

~Haz~

**Atomini** · 09-13-2010, 06:36 PM

The only thing I am married to is my C7A1 assault rifle, and my aspiration to be a research scientist.

No woman gets in the way of those 2 things.

**stack_it** · 09-13-2010, 06:47 PM

Originally Posted by PistolStarta

Haz....sadly I dont think think you're the minority anymore.

I'm in the boat with him but luckily didn't get married. It was a 7 year relationship involving a house and a good deal of money.

**lovbyts** · 09-14-2010, 12:39 AM

Originally Posted by Hazard

Oh and to top it off.....

How on earth is it ok for her to abuse alcohol and pain meds and yet govern what I put into my body? Furthermore..... she used to take care of herself and go out and have fun with friends. Now she sleep till 1pm, goes to the gym, cleans the house at 11pm,and gets pissed off at the way I eat - she hates my workout schedual - she hates when I go out with friends......

I can keep going if you want me to LMAO

~Haz~

I was right, you do/did know my first wife.... Not so much the alcohol abuse but pain meds... yes and crack cocaine, lots of debt. I tried several times to get her to clean up and she would for a while but each relapse it kept getting worse.

After my daughter was born (during one of her dry spells) she jumped back on the crack. I told her that was it. It's one thing to let her screw up my life but I could let her take my daughter down also.

1 1/2 years of court battle and I FINALLY won custody. She had visitation every other weekend. She died from accidental suicide 2 weeks later. All that work and money spent for nothing......

**D3m3nt3d** · 09-14-2010, 06:55 AM

Does anyone really need my opinion on this? lol

I married what I thought was 'the one'. She seemed to be the total package, looks, personality, same interests etc..this is when we first met.

Once she broke off our engagement by text message and went running around with her still legal husband that should have been the end, huge red flag. However, I was in love with her and I figured everyone makes mistakes. Afterall - we didn't breakup with intentions of ever getting back together again.

So, we got back together, things seemed perfect. Suddenly it went south out of nowhere, and well everyone knows my story. Turns out she ended up in school for 2 yrs with a dude who she had been screwing in bubble baths 6 yrs before, and hadn't seem him since supposedly. Was it because of him or because she has always had the track record to be happy and run? Who knows...but it has definitely scarred my view on marriage.

**cherrydrpepper** · 09-14-2010, 08:16 PM

Hey thanks for all the replies guys. I think this makes post 100. I had a bunch of individual replies typed up then I copied a youtube link and f'd up what i was trying to do (I usually reply to a post, copy that, hit the back button, reply to the next one, copy that whole thing, back button, etc)

Thanks I mean you guys really helped me. I would never go into marriage without a lot of different things like talking about personal space and being able to go out with friends. Personal growth. Etc.

**big_ron** · 09-14-2010, 10:00 PM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

I was right, you do/did know my first wife.... Not so much the alcohol abuse but pain meds... yes and crack cocaine, lots of debt. I tried several times to get her to clean up and she would for a while but each relapse it kept getting worse.

After my daughter was born (during one of her dry spells) she jumped back on the crack. I told her that was it. It's one thing to let her screw up my life but I could let her take my daughter down also.

1 1/2 years of court battle and I FINALLY won custody. She had visitation every other weekend. She died from accidental suicide 2 weeks later. All that work and money spent for nothing......

wow now thats a story.
i feel bad reading all this because im going through a break up right now! we broke up sat, just because we cant pull our shit together and get along, both young im 21 shes 22, i could go on about it, but im trying to forget about her, this will be the 1st day i would not have had contact with her, which is hard for me, because when sum1 is there all day everyday then suddenly there not... its hard... feel kinda shit tho because im struggling with it because its my 1st break-up and im devo'd even tho it was my choice.
and all you guys have been through alot worse.

any tips for the break-up im not doing to good

**ReX357** · 09-14-2010, 10:29 PM

Originally Posted by big_ron

wow now thats a story.
i feel bad reading all this because im going through a break up right now! we broke up sat, just because we cant pull our shit together and get along, both young im 21 shes 22, i could go on about it, but im trying to forget about her, this will be the 1st day i would not have had contact with her, which is hard for me, because when sum1 is there all day everyday then suddenly there not... its hard... feel kinda shit tho because im struggling with it because its my 1st break-up and im devo'd even tho it was my choice.
and all you guys have been through alot worse.

any tips for the break-up im not doing to good

Go to the gym. It'll keep your mind off of it.

Plus you need to get super swole for the next girls.

**big_ron** · 09-14-2010, 10:38 PM

easyer said than done, i find it hard enough to stay at work let alone train, i trained once but just really didnt want to be there

**ReX357** · 09-14-2010, 10:43 PM

Originally Posted by big_ron

easyer said than done, i find it hard enough to stay at work let alone train, i trained once but just really didnt want to be there

Yeah, time heals everything. Just remember not to get so emotionally involved with the next one, it makes it easier.

**big_ron** · 09-14-2010, 10:46 PM

yeah i will deff be more cautious and careful next time around.
i just wont to skip this whole time or wish it never happened

**lovbyts** · 09-14-2010, 11:30 PM

Originally Posted by big_ron

wow now thats a story.
i feel bad reading all this because im going through a break up right now! we broke up sat, just because we cant pull our shit together and get along, both young im 21 shes 22, i could go on about it, but im trying to forget about her, this will be the 1st day i would not have had contact with her, which is hard for me, because when sum1 is there all day everyday then suddenly there not... its hard... feel kinda shit tho because im struggling with it because its my 1st break-up and im devo'd even tho it was my choice.
and all you guys have been through alot worse.

any tips for the break-up im not doing to good

The best way to get over a girl is to get ON another one.

What food group kills the sex drive in women, Causes thyroid malfunction and massive weight gain, causes extreme hormonal imbalance causing excessive aggression and outburst of rage?
See below

Wedding cake...

**big_ron** · 09-14-2010, 11:45 PM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

The best way to get over a girl is to get ON another one.

What food group kills the sex drive in women, Causes thyroid malfunction and massive weight gain, causes extreme hormonal imbalance causing excessive aggression and outburst of rage?
See below

Wedding cake...

i know what your saying, but i do not feel like it at the moment, sorta want to take my own time moving on that way

**BOOST** · 11-25-2010, 02:08 PM

Married here 17 years and soon to be divorced. We married young and I married a party girl after I got older and the drinking slowed down and I was more into looking good and staying fit, I realized we have nothing in common at all. She has very little respect for me as a man, I always hear how thats my job to pay 90% of the bills, support her ass, etc. Sex that turns into a job after a while on there end, there is always a excuse or its meeting me in the bathroom real quick and that shit gets old. I will say this, if you have someone you really love..get a prenuptial marriage. If she is not interested, then you can kinda understand she has other motives to marry you. And ALWAYS look at her mother, your wife will soon be just like her mother in many cases. The apple never falls far from the tree. I look at my mother n law and cant stand her, shes a total bitch/nasty women not to mention looks like a dried up prune.

**calgarian** · 11-25-2010, 02:55 PM

Just wondering what happened to Cherry dropper....did he finally had sex and dies of excitement??

**40plusnewbie** · 11-25-2010, 03:18 PM

I fell in love with her. First time in love @ age 35. Bedding different women all the time went from being exiting and me thinking I was the man to me not really being interested in doing that any longer, I preferred spending time with my gf, who later became my wife.

**D3m3nt3d** · 11-26-2010, 07:28 AM

Originally Posted by BOOST

And ALWAYS look at her mother, your wife will soon be just like her mother in many cases. The apple never falls far from the tree.

Yeah...I didn't do this because my wife always said she wanted to NOT be like her mother - where do I stand now? Getting divorced in only 2 yrs. So this is SOLID advice!

Her mother - married and divorced 3 times, 3 kids by 3 fathers, engaged I dunno how many times, drug my wife home to home, man to man

My wife - married and divorced 2 times now (her first marriage was 2 months), 2 kids by 2 dads, 2 other pregancies, drug her son home to home man to man. I was the 4th guy she lived with since her son was born and he was 4 when we got together!

Now since I put her through school, atleast she doesn't have to depend on living with a man now - she can afford her own place. I don't really think she could do that before, the only time she got her own place we started dating in a week and I was helping pay her bills from the start being the nice guy. Never again.