Have you noticed that the older you get the less you care?

**SomeRandomGuy** · 10-15-2010, 07:39 PM

I swear, with every year that passes, I give less and less of a fvck. It's just the same old sht every f'n day. When I was young I used to be passionate about everything. Now I could really care less. Every time I say anything I wish I had just said nothing. Just keep doing the same thing every day like a robot.

**sixoner** · 10-15-2010, 09:15 PM

yeah i dunno bro..i just made another lap around the sun today and the thrill aint gone for me just yet

do some different shit or just less of the stuff you dont give a fuk about..keep it simple

theyre throwing a birthday shindig for me at the bar down the street i'm really not feeling that i mean i don't even wanna go....but i guess i'll go down there and get a blow job

see thats how that works......all of a sudden i'm feeling it

**dec11** · 10-15-2010, 09:33 PM

at 35yrs old ive whittled it down to family, music, gym, tinkering with sports cars and my pets. happy with my lot

**DSM4Life** · 10-16-2010, 08:19 AM

Who gives a @#$#

**LGM** · 10-16-2010, 09:08 AM

Sounds like a rut. Time to break the cycle dude. Travel, try something new.

**NVR2BIG1** · 10-16-2010, 09:26 AM

I've found as I get older life does become more routine, rewarding things come less frequently but they're 10x bigger. ie; watching your kid walk for the first time or say "daddy" or maybe going someplace special like camping in the mountains or something you've never done b4. Try breaking out of your comfort zone a little and do something new. Hell, if your single join a singles chat online, if your with someone, take them someplace and forget bodybuilding the 2-3 days ur there. When you become that guy who doesnt give a **** anymore your just like everyone else, there is nothing about you thats special, nobody gives a shit

**ReX357** · 10-16-2010, 09:29 AM

You guys need some projects to keep you on your toes. Try quitting your job and starting a business. Now there's some thrill for you.

**scorpion62** · 10-16-2010, 02:41 PM

Originally Posted by ReX357

You guys need some projects to keep you on your toes. Try quitting your job and starting a business. Now there's some thrill for you.

Thats what I have done at 47 my own business and as you say Rex what a thrill.Same sh1t differant day goes out the window

**steroidsarebad** · 10-16-2010, 03:25 PM

I used to be really into politics and was majoring in Political Science/Sociology. Now I could care less for the most part, the older I get the more I am starting to just care about me and my loved ones. I am growing to be more and more cynical.

**bjpennnn** · 10-16-2010, 04:28 PM

Originally Posted by dec11

at 35yrs old ive whittled it down to family, music, gym, tinkering with sports cars and my pets. happy with my lot

sounds amazing bro

**SomeRandomGuy** · 10-16-2010, 06:16 PM

It just seems as you grow older that everyone around you becomes more self-serving, self-seeking, self-centered. Even when they outwardly portray altruism, there's really only a selfish goal behind. Even people who do selfless things, only do them to live vicariously through the other person's gain, possibly because they see some of themselves within that person. This could apply to parent/child relationships, which would also explain favoritism. No real connection between anyone to yourself that isn't governed by the rule of reciprocity. Everyone's their own individual enterprise, and no real depth of interpersonal connections can truly exist.

OK, I got 3 hours of sleep. I'll try again tomorrow.

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**bigboomer** · 10-16-2010, 06:27 PM

Ohh shit I posted on the wrong thread..

**terraj** · 10-16-2010, 07:19 PM

I'm at 40s door, life is good. Living aboard, and moving again soon keeps things fresh for us.

**Flagg** · 10-16-2010, 07:22 PM

Originally Posted by SomeRandomGuy

It just seems as you grow older that everyone around you becomes more self-serving, self-seeking, self-centered. Even when they outwardly portray altruism, there's really only a selfish goal behind. Even people who do selfless things, only do them to live vicariously through the other person's gain, possibly because they see some of themselves within that person. This could apply to parent/child relationships, which would also explain favoritism. No real connection between anyone to yourself that isn't governed by the rule of reciprocity. Everyone's their own individual enterprise, and no real depth of interpersonal connections can truly exist.

OK, I got 3 hours of sleep. I'll try again tomorrow.

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By that statement, the quest for happiness is fueled by selfish reasons, ergo, to be happy is to be selfish?

I'd rather be friends with the guy that'd help a mate in need, even if its for vicarious reasons, than the arsehole that just wants to fvck your girlfriend.

Altruism>>Apathy, even if both are driven by selfish desires.

**stevey_6t9** · 10-16-2010, 07:52 PM

Originally Posted by dec11

at 35yrs old ive whittled it down to family, music, gym, tinkering with sports cars and my pets. happy with my lot

im sorry to hear that

**Ernst** · 10-16-2010, 10:22 PM

Really OP? I find it's just the opposite. I used to not give a damn about anything or anyone, including myself. Now as I grow older I have ideas and goals I never could dream of before. True, I may have nothing much to show for it all now, but now achieving the things I want seems possible, and I have made good headway. In fact, I only wish my life was longer and I aged slower. I can finally begin to appreciate what I have.

Life can be difficult, unfair, and cruel; even more so when we allow it. LGM and NVR2 are right. You need to do something and break out of your prison. Take it from me, I just walked out on my job and my girlfriend not two weeks ago... and you know what I feel? Relief. Those were not easy choices by any means.

**SomeRandomGuy** · 10-16-2010, 10:57 PM

Yeah, probably should just better sleep before I post anything.

. Should have let this thread die, what was I thinking? Public introspection. That's unnecessary as it is embarrassing. I'm gonna quit crying now and stfu. Adapt or die, mf! Thanks for the kind words, though. Don't let my cynical world viewpoint rub off on ya

. I don't really believe my own beliefs most of the time, they're subject to change depending on mood.

**lovbyts** · 10-17-2010, 01:17 AM

Originally Posted by steroidsarebad

I used to be really into politics and was majoring in Political Science/Sociology. Now I could care less for the most part, the older I get the more I am starting to just care about me and my loved ones. I am growing to be more and more cynical.

That's because as you get older you realize that pretty much nothing you say/do makes a difference and it's pretty much all pre determined.

It makes more sense to care about YOU and family and to get the most out of what you can instead of trying to fix the broken system that is broken because they (whoever that is) wants it that way.

I think I care about things just as much but what I care about has changed. It's the bigger picture and the sh*t that use to get me upset, worked up or excited I just let it slide now.

I dont think he was saying he is stuck in a rut or he doesnt care about anything anymore. It sounded more like priority's have shifted.
I agree though with who said change things up and travel. I was stuck in the rut of going to Mexico, Hawaii, Bahamas, the NORMAL vacation spots but then I did Asia and it was a whole new world. Real eye opener and a lot of fun. It made me re evaluate what I though was important in life and make some changes.

**Dont wanna be old** · 10-17-2010, 07:08 AM

Originally Posted by SomeRandomGuy

I swear, with every year that passes, I give less and less of a fvck. It's just the same old sht every f'n day. When I was young I used to be passionate about everything. Now I could really care less. Every time I say anything I wish I had just said nothing. Just keep doing the same thing every day like a robot.

There has been a couple times when I swear I have lived this day before . I try to think what I can do to change the outcome .

Then again , I think the life of a cereal killer sounds rewarding . I wish I wasn't lactose intolerant .

**MACHINE5150** · 10-17-2010, 07:28 AM

Originally Posted by scorpion62

Thats what I have done at 47 my own business and as you say Rex what a thrill.Same sh1t differant day goes out the window

yup.. i can second this.. read a book called "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" that was what i first thought about when i read this thread

**SomeRandomGuy** · 10-17-2010, 04:58 PM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

That's because as you get older you realize that pretty much nothing you say/do makes a difference and it's pretty much all pre determined.

It makes more sense to care about YOU and family and to get the most out of what you can instead of trying to fix the broken system that is broken because they (whoever that is) wants it that way.

I think I care about things just as much but what I care about has changed. It's the bigger picture and the sh*t that use to get me upset, worked up or excited I just let it slide now.

I dont think he was saying he is stuck in a rut or he doesnt care about anything anymore. It sounded more like priority's have shifted.
I agree though with who said change things up and travel. I was stuck in the rut of going to Mexico, Hawaii, Bahamas, the NORMAL vacation spots but then I did Asia and it was a whole new world. Real eye opener and a lot of fun. It made me re evaluate what I though was important in life and make some changes.

Have you ever thought that you would care, but have conditioned yourself not to because there's never any positive effect arising from it? How the only time people pretend to care is to ingratiate themselves because they have something in mind that they'd like from you or for you to do for them? Only exception being smalltalk, where your responses are so knee jerk automated that you don't even have to think about them? Reminds me of 'Welcome to the Machine' by Pink Floyd.

**zaggahamma** · 10-17-2010, 10:49 PM

i think it is a rut...hate those...would be nice if EVERYONE can just start a business lol

**boz** · 10-18-2010, 12:13 AM

I think its depression. Maybe see your doctor.

**lovbyts** · 10-18-2010, 06:40 AM

Originally Posted by SomeRandomGuy

Have you ever thought that you would care, but have conditioned yourself not to because there's never any positive effect arising from it? How the only time people pretend to care is to ingratiate themselves because they have something in mind that they'd like from you or for you to do for them? Only exception being smalltalk, where your responses are so knee jerk automated that you don't even have to think about them? Reminds me of 'Welcome to the Machine' by Pink Floyd.

NO I dont think so. I sort of have a problem of not caring about the positive outcome of things as much knowing what I do for someone is is because it's the right thing to do and it's just who I. That being said I guess just recently I have been TRYING to look at things a little differently and no be so quick to CARE so much and do so much for everyone else because I am noticing that I have spent a LOT of time doing things for other people and not getting the things done I NEED to do and I keep getting further and further behind with no or little help coming back my way...

**SomeRandomGuy** · 10-18-2010, 11:40 PM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

NO I dont think so. I sort of have a problem of not caring about the positive outcome of things as much knowing what I do for someone is is because it's the right thing to do and it's just who I. That being said I guess just recently I have been TRYING to look at things a little differently and no be so quick to CARE so much and do so much for everyone else because I am noticing that I have spent a LOT of time doing things for other people and not getting the things done I NEED to do and I keep getting further and further behind with no or little help coming back my way...

This reminds me of a song called: 'Live And Let Die'. Your first sentence is in need of serious grammatical reconstruction, but I understand what you're saying. I was brought up instilled with helping others selflessly as a character trait. After being forcibly raped in the ass repeatedly without lubricant over the years, I've resigned myself to a much more callous approach. I know, the metaphorical imagery is colorful, but I feel it is accurate symbolicalness. Keeping in mind that if what you were doing was truly altruistically benevolent, then you should not mind the lack of reciprocation. But you do, and this proves my original point about human nature.