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We are all sluts Cal.... if given the opportunity.

I just found out the chinese girls are $100 a romp.... fuk that!

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We are all sluts Cal.... if given the opportunity.

I just found out the chinese girls are $100 a romp.... fuk that!

thats like $800 of their own money... funk dat!!!

[Shol'va]

So much for their line of sucky fukky five dollar, me love you long time. Inflation has hit everywhere

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Inflation does suck, what are your rates at now?

[Times Roman]

shol'va's rates?

isn't he up to $3 and a cup of coffee?

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shol'va's rates?

isn't he up to $3 and a cup of coffee?

I can only imagine what the cream for that coffee costs

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It's bovine lactose free cream.

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What is this thread even about?! This is just silly. I'm a member on several other forums and never have I encounterd such immature poop heads.

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What is this thread even about?! This is just silly. I'm a member on several other forums and never have I encounterd such immature poop heads.

And one would never have to be subjected to this crap if he or she did not choose to enter the Lounge section of this forum.

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And one would never have to be subjected to this crap if he or she did not choose to enter the Lounge section of this forum.

I'm joking. I called you guys poop heads for christ sakes! I'm a proud participator in threads meant for entertainment puposes only. Thought you'd have picked that up about me by now, kp. Kp, if you don't know me by now...you will never ever know me...

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if you don't know me by now...you will never ever know me...

right back at ya...

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I'm no longer on speaking terms w you. your in the dog house. talk to the hand...

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I'm no longer on speaking terms w you. your in the dog house. talk to the hand...

man, I built the doghouse... IM no stranger

[Shol'va]

man, I built the doghouse... IM no stranger

Pretty strange from this view KP...

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im just lost

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im just lost in space

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^heh nice one

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Eventually thread gets a penis in it.

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Eventually thread gets a penis in it.

seeems every thread turns homosexual these days

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It's ok guys, It wont make you gay...unless....

Straight, but fear of turning gay (Mind tricks?!)
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Post a reply 6 posts • Page 1 of 1 Straight, but fear of turning gay (Mind tricks?!)
by the0ffspring » Thu Mar 18, 2010 10:24 pm

Hi guys,

I am new to this forum and understand that as I have not helped anyone yet that you don't need to give me any advice but some would be greatly appreciated. There is probably a similar post on here but not everyones situation is the same.. Also by using wording such as "invading" etc i do not mean to offend any homosexual people, I have nothing against homosexual people, I have some homosexual friends, just for me right now I want to stay heterosexual. This is the first time I have ever consulted anyone about this.

I am a 19 year old straight male. I am not really sure how to explain it, but recently just in the last day or two I have had fears of becoming gay (not saying that is a bad thing I just don't want to be.) Breif history of myself:

I've never found a guy attractive the same way I have found a girl; I've never fancied a guy, only girls. Gay porn does not arouse me, gay thoughts do not and have never aroused me, I have only had sexual relationships with females, I am not aroused when I shower naked with my male peers say after a rugby game (showering with females would be a different story )

I could list other reasons why I believe I am straight, but that isn't the pupose of this post.

It's just I get these thoughts that I could turn gay, that I could suddenly start fancying other men and start getting turned on by gay things. I mean I can sort of look at another male and decide whether they're sort of attractive and think like "nice facial hair", "nice hair", "look at those biceps he's been to the gym" but it's natural for a heterosexual person to know whether someone of the same sex is good looking, right???

But thoughts like these have invaded my mind further and it's sort of depressing me a little bit, I haven't really been able to work today just because of these thoughts invading my mind that I could turn gay or bisexual. I understand sexuality is best described as a sliding scale and that you cannot turn bi or homosexual and that you discover it. I am pretty sure I am currently straight and don't have any hidden homosexual tendencies. Just through male banter a mate has kissed me on the lips once and I did not find this exciting/arousing/create any feelings (basicly I didnt like it). But more recently thoughts have led my brain to think out of curiousity, would I like to make out with/ do sexual things a guy? The answer is no I'm pretty sure I wouldn't. But then the thought occurs, what if that changes over my life? And then the further thought of just thinking of and allowing these questions and thoughts of sexuality might actually turn me towards actually being homosexual. I repeat, I have nothing against homosexuals when I say this. I am just scared that these thoughts that I am finding difficult to suppress could subconciously change my sexuality.. I know I sound like a nut case when I say this! But im the type of person who puts a lot of thought into everything and I know myself I think about some things far too much.

It sounds very over-dramatic and that my brain is just playing tricks on me, to the point where I am maybe thinking I have a slight OCD (I've had some symtoms and can easily get deluded into thinking something between me and a girl is there + I sometimes get much more upset over being rejected by a girl than I should) I was pretty depressed by these thoughts/curiousity about 7months ago but got over it. These thoughts just reoccured a few days ago.. This time last week I didnt have any of these thoughts and was actually probably just a little down from a girl I like making an excuse not to meet up for drinks.

Any help/ advice on how to deal with these thoughts would be appreciated and apologies if you feel you have wasted 2-3 minutes of your life reading this haha. Also has anyone else had this problem?

Yours mentally confusedly..
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Re: Straight, but fear of turning gay (Mind tricks?!)
by Chucky » Thu Mar 18, 2010 10:46 pm

Hi dude,

It was very intuitive of you to think that this is related to OCD, because I believe that - yes - it is indeed associated with it. The most general description for OCd is that a person gets a thought in their head and then fret/worry about it. The worry increases each time they think about it and soon it 'overruns' their thoughts, in an obsessional way. This is pretty much what has hapened to you, don't you think? My official diagnosis is OCD by the way, and I get many 'attacking' thoughts into my head each day that I try very hard to dismiss.

Anyway, I firmly believe that you are NOT gay, and that you won't become as such. I am 100% heterosexual (whatever that means..) but I have fantasised about gay sex in the past. This fact doesn't bother me, because I know other guys who have done the same. I'm not sure exactly how you can stop worrying about this, but maybe recognising that other heterosexual guys have gay fantasies will help you. The brain is a powerful thing and it sometimes 'brings' weird images/fantasies to the forefront of of thoughts.

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Re: Straight, but fear of turning gay (Mind tricks?!)
by Black Dove » Fri Mar 19, 2010 1:32 am

Since this is a recent occurrence, it could rectify itself, or you can try to deal with it by use of willpower. Some things you may be interested in trying are distracting yourself, mindfulness meditation, or making an attempt at not being afraid of these thoughts, because that's all they are. One of the reasons why they are so intrusive is because they are fear based. Get rid of the fear, and they don't hold much power.
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Re: Straight, but fear of turning gay (Mind tricks?!)
by the0ffspring » Tue Mar 30, 2010 2:59 am

Sorry I took so long to reply guys but thanks very much, I've overcome the issue for the time being. All it took was a flat party where I got very drunk and just really noticed that I have "lads banter" or "bromance" haha with male mates and that i pursue girls sexually. I'm certain I'm straight and by just meeting a girl at that party I have overcome the almost ocd nature of my mind for the time being... problem is this girl i've met and chat to every day and got with a few times even slept with... has a bf.. and now i feel a little bad for that. Oh wells...the0ffspring
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Re: Straight, but fear of turning gay (Mind tricks?!)
by Chucky » Wed Mar 31, 2010 9:32 pm

I'm glad that you're now okay with this. Regarding that girl, never mind that she has a boyfriend. She should have 'resisted' you, and the fact that she didn't might highlight that there's something wrong with her current relationship. Anyway, that's for a different thread. Ensure that the thoughts don't make you question your sexuality again. The brain is so creative... we should respect whatever it cooks up and brings to our forethoughts!

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Re: Straight, but fear of turning gay (Mind tricks?!)
by the0ffspring » Thu Apr 01, 2010 7:18 pm

Haha thanks Kevin, well I'll see how it goes. For anyone else that has had or is having the same problem as me, my advice is:

For Heterosexuals
Realise the "attractions" between the 2 sexes are completely different and that the opposite sex will have a sexual attraction. As far as I'm aware for heterosexuals, it is natural for someone to be not repulsed or unattracted by someone of the same sex more that the feeling of "attraction" should be neutral or almost neutral (on a sliding scale). This means that if you are curious as to what it may feel like, (e.g. homosexual thoughts) don't be stressed that there are no natural forces repressing these thoughts in your brain. To overcome any depressing thoughts this may create, you need to realise the attraction to the opposite sex is positive (sexual) where as to the same it is just neutral (not sexual, but not repulsive - if you get what i mean?).


To cut it short: just realise that you are aroused and sexually attracted to the opposite sex and that any "attraction" to the same sex is non-sexual and natural, otherwise how would same sexes mingle if we were repulsed by the same sex? So any curiosity is natural because as I understand there is nothing to repress it in your head. Go clubbing or go to a party, get drunk (completely take your mind off it) and (if you are heterosexual) just realise that you are "chasing" the opposite sex there (again I hope you get what I mean, I know i'm being quite ambiguous).


This may seem blatently obvious, but realising this has made me certain of my sexuality . Also this is just my theory, so obviously it's open to a lot of critisism. Also, this is for heterosexuals, if you are actually attracted sexually to the same sex then you aren't heterosexual. Also the explanation above is only for THOUGHTS in your HEAD.

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Good thing I never read that or I would have def raised the gay flag on him.

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