Are AAS users selfish ?

**MR-FQ320** · 07-13-2011, 01:56 PM

How can a (wo)man be so self indulged in his/her lifestyle to give training and dieting 100% and give so much more to care about family and friends wholeheartedly ? It takes a lot of effort and spare time to live this kind of lifestyle, family cannot take a back seat.

Just asking the question, are AAS users selfish. ?

**Noles12** · 07-13-2011, 02:01 PM

My AAS use has not affected my relationships with my family or friends at all. I have spent time my whole life focusing on diet and training. I do not let it get in the way of my other obligations though

**gixxerboy1** · 07-13-2011, 02:15 PM

Originally Posted by Noles12

My AAS use has not affected my relationships with my family or friends at all. I have spent time my whole life focusing on diet and training. I do not let it get in the way of my other obligations though

me too. Its a hobby. i dont let it interfere with my life. If you are pro and making your living out of then its different.

**dec11** · 07-13-2011, 02:33 PM

sometimes we need to take a back seat and workout what is important rather than thinking of the next batch of food going down our necks. this lifestyle can and will get to most of us eventually

**dec11** · 07-13-2011, 02:37 PM

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**stack_it** · 07-13-2011, 03:23 PM

There's no reason you can't be a loving friend/family member and use aas or live a devoted training lifestyle. If you can't then you are just using that as your excuse for being a shitty friend/ family member.

**JohnnyVegas** · 07-13-2011, 03:28 PM

Being obsessed about exercise is its own issue. Those people would probably be obsessed with exercise and diet regardless of AAS usage. Having said that, my family doesn't sacrifice when I am on my diet, it just means my wife and I don't eat the same thing at night. And I lift four days a week for an hour, meaning my wife has a few hours a week to do stuff that I don't want to do. I suppose it would be more complicated if I had kids, but this doesn't seem like dominates my life, and it probably doesn't dominate the lives of most of the people here.

**baseline_9** · 07-13-2011, 04:07 PM

Nah, I dont let it get to me too much....

If I decide to compete things will change but TBH it comes down to your partner/ family.... If you explain that his is somthing you want to do and that your are going to dedicate your life so that you can compete they should support you. And if they dont then **** them!

I would say im less selfish when im on...

I am generally happier because I look better, im lifting more weight in the gym which gives you an ego boost (i dont care what anyone says about not having an ego, it still makes you feel good when ur strong and hitting PB's)

My GF likes the extra sex she gets as well while im on LOL.... And so do I

**pheenyx1** · 07-13-2011, 04:10 PM

Most people have some sort of interest/activity that they don't share w/ their family/partner. I think its healthy. Gives everyone a little breathing room.

**oscarjones** · 07-13-2011, 08:38 PM

I can see how if your diet starts interfering with your job or if you are spending all your money on your own food instead of feeding your kids/family, but to be honest, if your job doesn't allow you to eat, find one that does. Or, find a way around it with meal replacement shakes, or... IV nutrition lol....

Also, there's a thread in the diet section that has some tips for affording food.

**Shol'va** · 07-13-2011, 09:18 PM

Yep we AAS users are a selfish bunch. Not only that but we are also arrogant, conceited, condescending, aloof, self centered. No wait that's my ex. But seriously, Overall I think we are a good, helpful bunch of peeps.

**PitMaster** · 07-13-2011, 11:04 PM

I wouldn't go as far and say it's selfish for one to try and achive their goals. I have been in many relationships and when my lady at the time was trying to achieve her goals and get further in life. I would make sacrifices. To this day, when I train, aas or not the person that loves me and supports me would and does make any sacrifice as I have and will always do for her. When I feel good it reflects our relationship greatly and vice versa. It's not selfishness, I think it's more sacrifice, love and growth.

**Times Roman** · 07-14-2011, 01:04 AM

Yeah, I don't get the poing or the motive for this thread. I may eat more meals, and picky about what I eat, and on average, i may spend an hour or so a day working out.

my kids have seen me weightlifting for years, and it's just something that "dad does". I do it before work, so really, it doesn't interfere with anything the kids care about.

on the other hand, a healthy lifestyle is very contagious, at least in my family. My son, now 20, is a gym rat, eats a fairly clean diet, takes supplements, and lives a healthy lifestyle. About a year ago, just like his dad, he liked to drink, and did so regularly. But now, he understands the party lifestyle and the healthy lifestyle have a very difficult time co-existing, so now he doesn't drink except for an occassional beer or two.

My woman kinda goes through the motions of diet/exercise when I'm around, but I know she sluffs off when Im' away, else she'd be thinner....

So my point is, at least for me, it's about as selfish as any other hobby or activity that doesn't include the entire family.

But this activity does have a positive wripple effect....

**Tigershark** · 07-14-2011, 06:34 AM

My use has never interferred with my family life.

**Kawigirl** · 07-14-2011, 07:23 AM

Not sure if it's necessarily aas users..but the lifestyle can be selfish. I know I've gone through it myself

**paulzane** · 07-14-2011, 07:46 AM

I have never interfered with my family!!!!

**stevey_6t9** · 07-14-2011, 07:56 AM

Defiently selfish for me... Wont sleep at gf's unless i packed my food/ protein shakes.... leave friends at club to go out and eat subway and come back... spend money on food then other people... list goes on.

oh and also.

**Kawigirl** · 07-14-2011, 07:59 AM

Originally Posted by stevey_6t9

Defiently selfish for me... Wont sleep at gf's unless i packed my food/ protein shakes.... leave friends at club to go out and eat subway and come back... spend money on food then other people... list goes on.

oh and also.

Sounds all to familiar....

**stevey_6t9** · 07-14-2011, 08:04 AM

Originally Posted by Kawigirl

Sounds all to familiar....

friends?

**songdog** · 07-14-2011, 10:06 AM

My wife sometimes gets tired of chicken breast and brn rice.So I just make her something else.Most of my cardio and workouts are done when she isnt home.So I dont have a problem.Now come deer season.I am one selfish prick

And dont care!!

**Kawigirl** · 07-14-2011, 10:59 AM

Originally Posted by stevey_6t9

friends?

lmfao!!!

**wmaousley** · 07-17-2011, 03:09 AM

Originally Posted by MR-FQ320

How can a (wo)man be so self indulged in his/her lifestyle to give training and dieting 100% and give so much more to care about family and friends wholeheartedly ? It takes a lot of effort and spare time to live this kind of lifestyle, family cannot take a back seat.

Just asking the question, are AAS users selfish. ?

This is my hobby, not my families. SO no time is taken away from them! I have found a gym which has babysitting, baby pools, spa, adult pools, restaurants, hookah bars, so when I go to the gym, my whole family can go with me and there is something for everyone.

**Lord Humungous** · 07-19-2011, 09:13 AM

Depends.

For me, nope. But my family trains like I do. Hell my wife trains harder than me a lot of the time. I don't think it has anything to do with AAS use, unless you're naturally a douche and AAS just brings it out. Then things could get nasty.

For me I found that everything about my life and my relationships is better when I'm training hard. My head is clear, my body is sharp, and things just don't seem as bad. A vast majority of the stress gets relieved in the gym so there's not a lot waiting to explode at the dinner table....ya know?

But then I guess if you're young and aren't already in a family with that kind of support, it could be hell. But in that case, you're just around people that aren't "right" for your lifestyle. If they can handle it, cool. If not, well, keep on rolling. I don't believe your own well being and self image is worth sacrificing for someone else's shortcomings. If that comes across as selfish, then so be it. I just don't buy it.

I only have a problem when it crosses the line. Everyone has an ego, it's normal. The question is how large and pervasive it is to those around you. If people around you think you're a douche....you're probably acting like a douche. You'll know. If you're acting like some twatburger from Jersey Shore, you're a selfish douche.

I've just never had that problem. Bodybuilding makes me a LOT more chilled and happy about everything. I'm much more flexible and tolerant. Just don't shove a greasy double cheeseburger in my face every day, I ain't eating it. And don't plan something for the times I work out, I won't be there. Nuff said.

-LH