Girl Wants To Come To Gym I Say No

[domeyeahaigh]

Whether its a gf or a friend or a sister..honestly...I don't want a girl to ruin my sanctuary time..

How do yall deal with a girl who wants to come to the gym with you but you would rather her not? Just tell her no? Sorry?

[Spears88]

I've had girls go with me befor trust me not fun unless they go do there thing while you do yours.

But to answer your question Im just up front and tell who ever I'm dating at the that time that the gym is my time and if you go I won't get a good work out.. Some take it well others get pissed but hey it's your time

[gixxerboy1]

i wouldnt tell her no. Either she is going to come and do her own thing. Or she will try and follow you around be bored and never go back. It better then getting in a fight

[JohnnyVegas]

I have spent a lot of time at the gym with my wife. As long as she can keep the pace high it is fine. I spot her while between sets. She does the same exercises I do. Easy peasy. I will sometimes do more machine work so all we need to do it move a pin rather than strip and reload weights. She is my wife...and worth it.

She will probably start going to the gym with me again when she is done with school in four months. I don't dread it. She knows if she cannot keep up that she needs to do cardio.

Also, she knows that there won't be much chatting. We both have our earphones in and I only pause my music if she has a question.

[boxa06]

When my girl first asked me I said fine but under the conditions that we train hard, keep intensity up and minimal chatting until pwo cardio. She took that on board and from seeing how serious I was about diet and training she accepted it and we've been training together now for 2 years solid! She now can do pull ups and everything its crazy! She even complains when the intesity drops. Anyway I think it can be really good training with your girl as long as you explain how it is up front so she can decide.

[tcw]

^^dayum...you got a hella of women there!

can she out bench you?

JK

No seriously...when there was a Gold gym in my area...i trained there...for years. There used to be a couple of BIG GIRLS (jacked,etc). One of them would hit the squat rack and load up the bar. 3 45's on each side....8 reps....butt to arse. I dropped my jaw when i saw that.....big fckin legs too! (dayum...i wish my legs where that strong....geez)

Needless to say....i never talked back to her...just smiled painfully, nodded and looked down every time we crossed paths (i always moved out of her way too...LOL).

[Standby]

i would say nah dont think so. and i wouldnt care if we fought about it

(with my current girl. if iwas dating a chick i knew was into it then it would be different)

[boxa06]

^^dayum...you got a hella of women there!

can she out bench you?

JK

Not quite lol but she does well for a lil 48kg girl

[slfmade]

My girl (BrownGirl) and I are on the same training program, diet, etc. It works AMAZING for us. It's extra accountability for both of us. There's been several times at the gym where I was DONE...EXHAUSTED...READY TO STOP. But I couldn't let my girl out-work me, so I powered threw it, and vice versa. Same with Dieting...We keep each other accountable.

We always hear guys on here complaining about their women yelling at them because they're upset they go to the gym instead of hanging out with them and what do we tell them? Drag your woman to the gym!!!

I love training with my girl...She wants results I as bad as I do and you can see it in her workouts.

[Gi812Many]

Mine came a couple times but stopped after every other guy bothered her. Back to her girl gym she goes

[Standby]

Mine came a couple times but stopped after every other guy bothered her. Back to her girl gym she goes

i like it

[SexySweetheart]

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[cherrydrpepper]

My girl and I have worked out a couple of times and it was kind of hot. She watches me lift and I watch her sexy legs and ass. Not to jack the thread but shes been pushing me for marriage cramming it down my throat. Today she says can we get engaged in the next 2 months. I don't know what to do. She goes "I'm looking through this victoria secret catalogue and my rack is just like some of these girls" and im thinking yeah it is thats why its so f ing hard to cut you lose ho lol

[slfmade]

We go together. And with the teens.
Sometimes svx with the teen’s cuz they poop-up before us and will ask when we will be done, that can get irritating but it’s not an everyday thing.
When it’s just Tigershark and I we try and sync our long weight days and shorter cardio days. He says he likes going with me and I don’t mind it...but I prefer going alone and not worrying about making him wait for me or vice versa.
I do like sneaking in some PDA while working out when the adrenalines flowing...it’s a nice spark

So it was you guys doing the wheelbarrow on the treadmill last week. I KNEW IT!!!!


the-wheelbarrow by slfmade, on Flickr

[cherrydrpepper]

The wheelbarrow? is that a real position i cant see that being comfortable. Ive done some shit but never that shit.

[Hazard]

I have spent a lot of time at the gym with my wife. As long as she can keep the pace high it is fine. I spot her while between sets. She does the same exercises I do. Easy peasy. I will sometimes do more machine work so all we need to do it move a pin rather than strip and reload weights. She is my wife...and worth it.

She will probably start going to the gym with me again when she is done with school in four months. I don't dread it. She knows if she cannot keep up that she needs to do cardio.

Also, she knows that there won't be much chatting. We both have our earphones in and I only pause my music if she has a question.

Dude.... your like AR's Dr. Phil. I might actually like women a little more if I had a relationship like yours LOL. Now if a thread called "who poops with their wife in the bathroom" pops up and you post saying you enjoy that with her too..... i'll die.....

~Haz~

[Gaspari1255]

Here's what I do: Go to the gym first by yourself, do your think, boom in and out. Then, that night or a few hours later, bring her back to yours, or go to her's, and help her train and motivate her. While she's in between sets, you could do a little ab work or something. This way you're giving her attention and helping her, and she's happy, but at the same time, you're not sacrificing your workouts either.

[fukngruvn]

My girl and I have worked out a couple of times and it was kind of hot. She watches me lift and I watch her sexy legs and ass. Not to jack the thread but shes been pushing me for marriage cramming it down my throat. Today she says can we get engaged in the next 2 months. I don't know what to do. She goes "I'm looking through this victoria secret catalogue and my rack is just like some of these girls" and im thinking yeah it is thats why its so f ing hard to cut you lose ho lol

you guys should def get married

[Bossman]

Each to their own. My wife trained with me years ago and was a very good training partner. Even though she was a fraction of my size I only trusted her to spot me. She knew me well enough to know when to help and how much. When she trained she also looked better and I appreciated that.

I've also trained with other competitive females and can say they have all been pretty decent training partners. They don't lift the same weight, but the intensity was still there.

She probably wants to go so she can share something with you that means a lot to you. Is she a serious GF or just a F*** buddy?

Now if you're hollering at other gym chicks, maybe you don't want your GF there? I can see how that would be a problem if you're a player. I'm not. I go to the gym to train, not hook up.

[JohnnyVegas]

Dude.... your like AR's Dr. Phil. I might actually like women a little more if I had a relationship like yours LOL. Now if a thread called "who poops with their wife in the bathroom" pops up and you post saying you enjoy that with her too..... i'll die.....

~Haz~

Ha! No, we only keep the bathroom door open when we pee.

I feel lucky to have the relationship I do. But, this is my second marriage. I did it all wrong the first time. I like to think I learned from my mistakes and picked a much better mate this time. The time I spend with her is usually the highlight of my day and it isn't because she is hot, hot, hot. It is because we have a ton in common, similar interests, work in related industries, like talking to one another and have never run out of things to say in the eight years we have been together. We don't have things to fight about because we are like-minded. It is all about compatibility. I learned that from a book I am embarrassed to say I read...but it turned out to be true. Should have read it before my FIRST marriage.

[spiketannin]

Whether its a gf or a friend or a sister..honestly...I don't want a girl to ruin my sanctuary time..

How do yall deal with a girl who wants to come to the gym with you but you would rather her not? Just tell her no? Sorry?

im the same way bro i dont want my girl comin wit me for alota reasons, like shes not serious at gym she wants 2 leave after 45 min, she stares at me the whole time plus i got dre beats and like to blast my musik n not be bothered.

[alexISthrowed]

Each to their own. My wife trained with me years ago and was a very good training partner. Even though she was a fraction of my size I only trusted her to spot me. She knew me well enough to know when to help and how much. When she trained she also looked better and I appreciated that.

I've also trained with other competitive females and can say they have all been pretty decent training partners. They don't lift the same weight, but the intensity was still there.

She probably wants to go so she can share something with you that means a lot to you. Is she a serious GF or just a F*** buddy?

Now if you're hollering at other gym chicks, maybe you don't want your GF there? I can see how that would be a problem if you're a player. I'm not. I go to the gym to train, not hook up.

I would do both, too bad there's only whales and old ladies at our gym!

[Razor]

Im lucky my gf goes to yoga and not to a gym so I never have to worry about her asking me.

[Times Roman]

i wouldnt tell her no. Either she is going to come and do her own thing. Or she will try and follow you around be bored and never go back. It better then getting in a fight

I agree

to op...
Only see things in black and white, huh?

I would not tell her no. She wants your attention, and share with you this experience. In all likelihood, unless she’s a gym rat already, she would lose interest after the first attendance.

Why be a hard ass?

[Knockout_Power]

depends how the situation comes about. If she wants to train, you have to accept your workouts will lag for a good week or 2 till she gets into the swing of a routine. Ive seen situations where they just want to be there to see what their "competition" looks like and thats just a fvcken disaster cause all they do is bitch about all the "sluts" and faketits walking around and you are honestly not even looking at it and it throws your routine off so bad.

[awms]

My gf comes to the gym with me but shes "hard core" for a girl so i dont mind all that much....If she was a cardio bunny then I wouldnt be that into it but since she knows her shit and she can spot me I like bringing her.

[Jessgirl]

Me and my man can appreciate this one so much.I have to admit I'm shocked on how many of the guys openly admit they enjoy working out with there partners !The gym is used differently by each individual.Some examples.....meat market (guys running on treadmill trying to talk to Hottie next to them),talkers ( group of people hovering around machine with towels and drinks on other bench knowing sure as $hit no 1 intending to use,watchers(both men and women after looking in mirror every five seconds,then looking around to see who is watching them)and I'll finish it with our favorite,couples(newly together or long time partners who can enjoy a passion or goal to get in shape and appreciate the time together! Not a knock to the loner,(THE ONE WHO JUST WANTS TO BE LET THE F**K ALONE ! Last but cannot forget the half hour,(guys that go do half hour full upper body for night out

[Hoggage_54]

[Knockout_Power]

I see your point, and I respect your opinion

[domeyeahaigh]

I agree

to op...
Only see things in black and white, huh?

I would not tell her no. She wants your attention, and share with you this experience. In all likelihood, unless she’s a gym rat already, she would lose interest after the first attendance.

Why be a hard ass?

Hehe. Assume that I am not banging her and do not want to. Also assume she is not a family member. Also assume that she is pretty, but that I am not attracted to her and mostly find her to be annoying. It really is true that personality can ruin an erection.

[lovbyts]

It all depends on the girl, her gym experience and relationship. Mine goes with me sometimes but she sticks mostly to the treadmill. She does some light weight work and I make sure she has good/proper form and doesnt worry about weight. She is only looking to tone a little. Luckily she doesn't really need it or at least not much. Ahhh to be 30 again. LOL

I may train her to spot and work with me eventually but that's a long way down the road. First I have to get to where I can work out properly again.

[SexySweetheart]

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[wmaousley]

Whether its a gf or a friend or a sister..honestly...I don't want a girl to ruin my sanctuary time..

How do yall deal with a girl who wants to come to the gym with you but you would rather her not? Just tell her no? Sorry?

Well I say yes to my wife for reasons I will point out:

1. If you say no, you leave a wide open area for your GF/wife to get fat, and when you ask her about it later she will tell you "you wouldnt let me go to the gym, so I got fat"
2. If you say no, she may never envolve you in things she likes to do which can cause you to distance yourselves away from one another.
3. If you say no, she may resent you for not allowing her to participate in your life and rebelling because she thinks you're trying to control her.

Man I could go on & on. Good Luck

[Sailor Moon]

I dont want my boyfriend with me at the gym. He thinks he knows the right answer to everything allllllllll the time.. Gym= ME TIME. I do it for me. Not for him or anyone else. ME.

[Eddie_m63]

I don't mind them, besides if I can train hard for five days straight I don't see the problem.

[Hazard]

Well I say yes to my wife for reasons I will point out:

1. If you say no, you leave a wide open area for your GF/wife to get fat, and when you ask her about it later she will tell you "you wouldnt let me go to the gym, so I got fat"
2. If you say no, she may never envolve you in things she likes to do which can cause you to distance yourselves away from one another.
3. If you say no, she may resent you for not allowing her to participate in your life and rebelling because she thinks you're trying to control her.

Man I could go on & on. Good Luck

Here is what I just got from your post.....

"I HAVE to let her come with me or she'll make me pay for it later......"

It's like choosing the lesser of two evils.....

~Haz~

[Gym_]

wouldn't worry me.,.. anyone wants to come work out the more the merrier.. as long as you don't mind working out at 3am i don't mind having you there

[BrownGirl]

I love having Slfmade at the gym with me..We definitely keep each other motivated when we're exhausted. When I feel like I can't even do one more rep, I just look at him and that motivates me to keep going so that I don't let him down. I know he wouldn't be disappointed in me or anything, but I just don't like being the one to give up.

If the person you're with at the gym isn't serious about working out or gets done fast and then pouts, I understand how it would be very annoying. We once had a couple of friends come with us once and one of them just pouted the whole time and the other complained about how the weights were too heavy. That wasn't any fun!

[awms]

Hers are my gf's lifts after training with me for 2 years.

At 5"3 115lbs

Squat 155lbs x 10

Dead lift 185 max

DB bench press 40lbs (80lbs total)

when we started training she was 130lbs and since she has added muscle I would say she has lost about 20-25lbs of fat and put on 5-10lbs of muscle....she looks great! she was not in bad shape before but now she has a body that makes guys drool! the first couple months i found it tough to train with her because she has no clue wtf she was doing but now its great! she is stronger then some of the guys at 115lbs lol and shes a damb good spot! lol

[Jessgirl]

You could not have said better unless you took from hallmark card ! I agree with you on your partner being your best friend as well. Going to gym together is amazing.....I understand to for those that need that alone time to. You and girl seem to have a wonderful marriage, good luck..... You don't see that to often these days