how to deal with a cocky friend

[viking88]

ive known this dude for about 9 years and we have been very good friends for the last 6 years but he has gotten extremely cocky lately because of this job that his uncle gave him on a silver platter, he is making pretty good money but he acts like he earned the job he has. he never shuts up about it and when were around people its all he talks about... were both young guys so im sure thats why hes gettting all cocky but still...

he acts like he went to harvard law school and got a job working for goldman sachs or jp morgan, i work at a gym and he acts like im the loser and he makes all these indirect comments at me basically rubbing it in my face

how do i deal with this?

i mean if he kept it to himself and was humble about it i wouldnt mind but the rubbing it in my face non stop is starting to get to me..

[Times Roman]

If your friends don't add value to your life, then time for new friends.
Good luck!
---Roman

[cherrydrpepper]

HTFU / Shut up and lift

Just kidding

I dont know I have friends who are diks but not to me. Most guys outgrow the behavior you describe. What I would do is put a positive spin on it like "hey I mean I think its cool that you have this nice job but don't cut me down for what I can get" or something. I had a friend like you describe and acting like an asshole back to him was worthless because he was so lost in his own world he wouldn't connect A to B and realize he is doing something wrong and you are being a dik back to him for it. He was an I-can-do-no-wrong and the-world-revolves-around-me type. I have a friend who is ultra cocky and ultra confident but he doesn't cut people down or any of that grade school shit to pull it off and it works for him and he gets the girls and whatnot.

[Razor]

Slap him in his face and call him a bitch, that should do it

[Hazard]

I would just say "listen.... i'm happy for you and your job but don't cut down what I do man. Either have your uncle get me a job there or stfu....."

If he keeps it up..... stop talkin to him.

~Haz~

[Razor]

I would just say "listen.... i'm happy for you and your job but don't cut down what I do man. Either have your uncle get me a job there or stfu....."

If he keeps it up..... stop talkin to him.

~Haz~

Honestly I liked my recommendation better

[Eddie_m63]

Agreed, Perhaps he doesn't realized what he's doing, just talk to him.

[Hazard]

Honestly I liked my recommendation better

LMFAO! Yea that'll doit too I suppose.....

~Haz~

[Bryan2]

Just call him out every single time he does it.

Don't even let him slide one time

He will get the picture after you tell him he is a dueshe and it makes you not want to hang out with him because he is always negative

[xelnaga]

I'm with haz... If he's worth keeping around he deserves at least a warning. And by the way, when he's bragging about his job and cutting down yours , its not because he's feeling great. It's because hes insecure.

I don't know anything about you or him. But I suspect that you probably sat in the drivers seat of the friendship for more than a few years. You may not have noticed, but I bet he did.

You don't strike me as a jealous guy. So when your friend got the new job he really has to be overt to get the kind of reaction hes looking for.

If his behavior is rooted in genuine jealousy there's little hope for a genuine friendship.

[Vettester]

Agree with others ... Call him out on this and give him fair warning on the friendship if he persists.

[Razor]

Agree with others ... Call him out on this and give him fair warning on the friendship if he persists.

No bitch slap?

[DSM4Life]

[SlimmerMe]

What is he doing to rub it in your face specifically? what kind of comment?

Remember this: whenever someone feels a need to put someone else down they are threatened. Plain and simple. You must be threatening him some how some way.

[Times Roman]

What is he doing to rub it in your face specifically? what kind of comment?

Remember this: whenever someone feels a need to put someone else down they are threatened. Plain and simple. You must be threatening him some how some way.

or he felt threatened/inadequate in the past and is NOW compensating. Not all actions today have causes derived from today.

I kicked so many asses in highschool because i was picked on by bullies in elementary school.

[jasc]

Take him down a notch. Wait until he's acting all cocky n shows interest in a girl. Then go snatch her away.

Or..

Wait until u guys go out to the bar.. Get a big group of good looking girls around you guys. Let him brag about his big paycheck and even boost him up higher making it sound as if he's loaded. Get a table n bottle service n put him on the spot to cover it since he's soo wealthy. Either he'll cover it n learn a lesson about bragging about $ or he'll bitch out n look like a real ass for not paying after talking about his $ all night. Either way, maybe he'll think twice about talking about his $ to everyone.

[Vettester]

No bitch slap?

Yes, bitch slap him too if needed. Hell, bitch slap even if he cooperates ... Sounds like it's been coming to him for awhile!

[Hazard]

Take him down a notch. Wait until he's acting all cocky n shows interest in a girl. Then go snatch her away.

Or..

Wait until u guys go out to the bar.. Get a big group of good looking girls around you guys. Let him brag about his big paycheck and even boost him up higher making it sound as if he's loaded. Get a table n bottle service n put him on the spot to cover it since he's soo wealthy. Either he'll cover it n learn a lesson about bragging about $ or he'll bitch out n look like a real ass for not paying after talking about his $ all night. Either way, maybe he'll think twice about talking about his $ to everyone.

^^^^ I like this

~Haz~

[bikeral]

My first thought is to punch him in the nose real hard, preferable breaking his nose and make it real bloody. However violence does not solve anything...

So just give him a good hard kick in the a$$ when he's acting up and let him know why he is getting kicked.

[Razor]

My first thought is to punch him in the nose real hard, preferable breaking his nose and make it real bloody. However violence does not solve anything...

So just give him a good hard kick in the a$$ when he's acting up and let him know why he is getting kicked.

It doesn't? Wait what are we doing in afghanistan and iraq??? shiiittt

[JP-MAN]

talk to the man.

sounds like ur a little jealous of his job and increased income. dont hate cause he got it handed to him, just let him no that only jerkoffs insult and belittle their friends....

if u have been friends as long as u say there should be no problem with u putting it down to him....

[Razor]

Sometimes its better to lose a friend than keep one. Thats my experience

[JP-MAN]

agreed with that last statement.....sometimes its easier to let them go...

[AllAmerican-PCS]

Sometimes its better to lose a friend than keep one. Thats my experience

Best Advise here. Had a few friends like that and found out really quick how good it feels to ditch people like that. You don't need that in your life, only circle yourself with friends that are always there for you, listen, give good advise and TELL YOU WHEN YOUR WRONG AND F*CKED UP.

[jbm]

Bad idea!

[songdog]

Fuk the slap I wouldve hit him by now.But thats me and lawyers get expensive.

[Armykid93]

Fuk the slap I wouldve hit him by now.But thats me and lawyers get expensive.

Haha same

[Jessgirl]

If your friends don't add value to your life, then time for new friends.
Good luck!
---Roman

I agree, no excuse being young ......I personally wouldn't do that to a friend! Stay humble, look for other friends !