Taking a girl I've never met before on a dinner date, very nervous...

[BrownGirl]

Don't be nervous....just be yourself. Make jokes....(Appropriate ones of course), ask open ended questions like S4MS said and just have fun. She'll pick up on the fact that you're enjoying yourself and in addition to that being a compliment to her, she'll loosen up and have fun too. Good luck and I hope you have a fabulous date!

[gixxerboy1]

bahahaha thats awesome. I'd totally dig a bald girl with bling and a thunderbird.

Do you mean keep texting in general to a min? Or just post date "how was it" text to a min?

dont ask how it was. dont ask if she wants to go out again. You can text her that you had a good time and cant wait to see her again or something similar.

[SexySweetheart]

NNNNOOOOOO kisssss lol dont do it! ...ou want to leave her thinking.. she will have this on her mind...
so he doesnt just kiss EVERY girl he is into
is he into me?
i realy was hoping he would kiss me
i wounder if he will kiss me on the next date?
will he ask me for another date?
...all good stuff .

IF you like her ... go in slow for a FULL BODY hug, sounds lame but a tight long hug with your whole body in her space is golden esp if you have the moochizmo to lightly touch her knee or shoulder or elbo during the night before hand

and IF your into her plz plz plz for the love of gawd do not wait to call her after the date ...no text, call her. just say how you had a good time or whatever and you like her company blah blah blah and have to go to bed now but wanted to wish her good night (keep it VERY short)

[Charlie6]

Thank you browngirl =) i'll definitely follow that advice. and gixxer, I'll do just that! I'm gonna head there 20min early and have a glass of wine then text her and say "just so ya know, I'm here"

[SexySweetheart]

be there waiting for her is a classy move ( order a soda or water) dont ask her out again during the date... she may feel obligated to sy yes even if in side shes secretly chanting for the waiter to hurry up so she can go home lol

[Charlie6]

NNNNOOOOOO kisssss lol dont do it! ...ou want to leave her thinking.. she will have this on her mind...
so he doesnt just kiss EVERY girl he is into
is he into me?
i realy was hoping he would kiss me
i wounder if he will kiss me on the next date?
will he ask me for another date?
...all good stuff .

IF you like her ... go in slow for a FULL BODY hug, sounds lame but a tight long hug with your whole body in her space is golden esp if you have the moochizmo to lightly touch her knee or shoulder or elbo during the night before hand

and IF your into her plz plz plz for the love of gawd do not wait to call her after the date ...no text, call her. just say how you had a good time or whatever and you like her company blah blah blah and have to go to bed now but wanted to wish her good night (keep it VERY short)

really? that won't be a bit too heavy to call her after? I feel like she may see that as awkward, but i'm willing to try it!!! And I'll give her a nice hug at the end. I'll make lots of sexy eye contact and be very engaging

[gixxerboy1]

be there waiting for her is a classy move ( order a soda or water) dont ask her out again during the date... she may feel obligated to sy yes even if in side shes secretly chanting for the waiter to hurry up so she can go home lol

we have complete different opinions on how to date lol

[SexySweetheart]

nix the text that you there...she allready knows your gonna be there and she be feeling rushed getting ready.
just chill and enoy the place till she shows...parous the menue, talk to staff maybe ask for a flower for your table ...

[Charlie6]

you don't think i should be waiting for her gixxer?

[Charlie6]

nix the text that you there...she allready knows your gonna be there and she be feeling rushed getting ready.
just chill and enoy the place till she shows...parous the menue, talk to staff maybe ask for a flower for your table ...

alrighty. when she calls to say she's there, I'll tell her i'm at the bar. should I leave the bar to find her, or have her come to the bar? I can leave my wine on the bar to meet her, then get it as we walk to the table. Should I meet her outside or just tell her to come in?

[gixxerboy1]

you don't think i should be waiting for her gixxer?

thats the only part i agree on

[Charlie6]

lol ok good.

[SexySweetheart]

gixx... im sure we do baaahahaha ... but realy and truely...if she likes you for you ~ no matter what you do she will prob have fun and want to see you again <3
Im just saying from a ladys point what I have seen/ been threw.. these are the golden nuggets combined that we all like/ want/ wish we had from a first date and after all, the 1st date does set the tone for tolerance of future idiocraties lmao

why not set your self apart from all the other duds.. yes duds, that have taken her out, leave a higher standard for any followers to be compaired against (if there is ever anymore) ...

[Charlie6]

sexy will you marry me?

[gixxerboy1]

gixx... im sure we do baaahahaha ... but realy and truely...if she likes you for you ~ no matter what you do she will prob have fun and want to see you again <3
Im just saying from a ladys point what I have seen/ been threw.. these are the golden nuggets combined that we all like/ want/ wish we had from a first date and after all, the 1st date does set the tone for tolerance of future idiocraties lmao

why not set your self apart from all the other duds.. yes duds, that have taken her out, leave a higher standard for any followers to be compaired against (if there is ever anymore) ...

i agree with you on that, but if she goes for a kiss and he doesnt respond that will ruin it for her.

[gixxerboy1]

well im off to the gym. Good luck tonight. and remember when you kiss her grab her ass real good. lol

[Charlie6]

HAHAHAHaha thanks for all your help man, all of you actually. You have all relieved my anxiety. totally. You have no idea how much this has helped.

Now go **** shit up in the gym

[Charlie6]

I'll leave my glass of wine at the bar and ask the bartender to have it sent to our table when we sit....how about that?? I'll go to the door and meet her instead of having her come to the bar to meet me

[SexySweetheart]

i agree with you on that, but if she goes for a kiss and he doesnt respond that will ruin it for her.

^ naaaw... all deends on approch
if she goes in for a kiss just hold her and say how you like her and stuff, you want to get to know her more and are looking foreward to seeing her again.

Tiger tried to kiss me on our 2nd date after I made an @ss outof myself with guitar hero... I just leaned back with a teasing smile and said that I like you so far but we realy just met. I would like to see you again, if thats ok.....


and now were married BAAHHAHAHA

[Charlie6]

I won't tell him.

[DSM4Life]

Make sure you rub one out beforehand.

[Charlie6]

Make sure you rub one out beforehand.

I was waiting for your advice, old friend You remember who I am, right?? I don't wanna get too too relaxed beforehand, so I'll hold off.

[DSM4Life]

I can understand wanting to not be to relaxed but you don't want awkward boner.

[Charlie6]

this is true, ANDDDDD i am on test. but too late now, i'm nervous enough to where i wouldn't be able to relax and get a boner. but when I'm with her, if my knee touches her knee or something...i'm not gonna be able to get up from the table

[Hazard]

^ naaaw... all deends on approch
if she goes in for a kiss just hold her and say how you like her and stuff, you want to get to know her more and are looking foreward to seeing her again.

Tiger tried to kiss me on our 2nd date after I made an @ss outof myself with guitar hero... I just leaned back with a teasing smile and said that I like you so far but we realy just met. I would like to see you again, if thats ok.....


and now were married BAAHHAHAHA

I'm with gix on the kiss thing..... If she goes in for a kiss he almost HAS to respond with a kiss. Not doing so will come off bad IMO..... plus.... once he heads down the "i wanna take it slow" road..... it'll take him a year to get laid. I'm not saying he's looking for just that.... but once he;'s comfortable with her he's gunna wanna move faster i'm sure and she might blow up his spot.

I say if you feel a connection..... you've thrown out feeler touches (her hand, her knee, her lower back) and she responds well..... a kiss wouldn't hurt. If you didn't kiss her on the 1st date - it's okay..... for the most part. You'll have to reassure her that you really enjoyed the date and you'd like to see her again..... then get a kiss on the 2nd date.

~Haz~

[lovbyts]

OK if it's not to late my .02.
#1 make sure you jack it before you go. If you are still interested in talking to her, make a connection then you know it's not just because you are horny and want some. LOL Yeah I got it from a movie with Adam Sandler. Yeah make sure you know where the excess went. LOL If you have seen it you know what I'm talking about.

Make sure you talk about her mostly. All woman like to talk about them-self, to know you are interested about her, not just yourself.

You will know if she is interested. I agree with dont try to kiss on the first date, that is so high school; unless you KNOW there is a connection and she is really into you. One sure (90%) way of knowing this is if she it touchy feely. If she starts touching you while talking, laughing, touches your hand, shoulder, arm then she is indeed interested. If she starts leaving her hand on your arm then she is in the mood to hook up and then the ball is in your court. It's up to you if you do or not and it could go either way from there.

Good luck and have fun. Be careful about the laughter thing. I remember once I was trying to think of things to say and decided to tell a joke. 1/2 way through a Pollock joke it downed on my her last name was Kawsawski. You want to talk about awkward silence and going blank.... hahahahaha it was perfect, she started laughing about 10 seconds later due to my silence, lack of words and obvious embarrassment and then said BTW, I was adopted and I'm not Polish. It was all good and we dated for a few months after that.

[warchild]

just talk about yourself all night and how cool you are. that is a winning gameplan

[Jessgirl]

then have a glass of wine before you leave the house.

Try two lol,just relax and be confident !Be yourself and if its meant to be it will be:-) Good luck

[Charlie6]

You people all ****ing rock. I got all worked up for nothing because she didn't even show. Reservations were at 8, I was there at 730, she texted (Thats right, texted in stead of called) saying her grandpa had a stroke and she had to go to the hospital. I tried calling, but she ignored - she coulda been a mess,I guess - then i texted her saying omg i'm so sorry, i hope he's ok, call me when you can so I know YOU'RE ok. She didn't but thats ok. If she's lying about this, she'd be a horrible person.

But in the end, I stayed at the wine bar and met a very nice couple who shared their pizza with me. We ate pizza and drank wine and had a hell of a time!

Thanks again people

[DSM4Life]

You people all ****ing rock. I got all worked up for nothing because she didn't even show. Reservations were at 8, I was there at 730, she texted (Thats right, texted in stead of called) saying her grandpa had a stroke and she had to go to the hospital. I tried calling, but she ignored - she coulda been a mess,I guess - then i texted her saying omg i'm so sorry, i hope he's ok, call me when you can so I know YOU'RE ok. She didn't but thats ok. If she's lying about this, she'd be a horrible person.

But in the end, I stayed at the wine bar and met a very nice couple who shared their pizza with me. We ate pizza and drank wine and had a hell of a time!

Thanks again people

Did you at least rub one out when you got home?

Oh and BTW, she is lying. If it was something that serious you would have gotten a phone call not a text message. She is immature.

[Honkey_Kong]

You people all ****ing rock. I got all worked up for nothing because she didn't even show. Reservations were at 8, I was there at 730, she texted (Thats right, texted in stead of called) saying her grandpa had a stroke and she had to go to the hospital. I tried calling, but she ignored - she coulda been a mess,I guess - then i texted her saying omg i'm so sorry, i hope he's ok, call me when you can so I know YOU'RE ok. She didn't but thats ok. If she's lying about this, she'd be a horrible person.

But in the end, I stayed at the wine bar and met a very nice couple who shared their pizza with me. We ate pizza and drank wine and had a hell of a time!

Thanks again people

That sucks, but at least it ended up alright. Plenty of other fish out there. What were you looking for in this chick? A girlfriend? Or just an easy lay? The beauty of that OkCupid site is you can hit up a hundred girls at once and have a whole bullpen going at once. If one broad stands you up, no worries, just time to get Ms. 2nd place a shot.

[SexySweetheart]

Crist! you ARE a great guy ! LOVE the attitude of not letting a random chix ruin your nght! such a rear thing to have the personality/mind set of rolling with it and making the best of your place an time!
with such a possitive vibe like this ~there is no way in hell your no going to attract a awsome lady that appreciates it!


my motto after a date that was a dud ..."NEXT" ...lol as send in the next contestant hahahaha

a date is an intrview to see if that persons what your lookin for, and IMO it sounds like you were looking for a girl that would have called you at some point to update you, out of curtisy....looks like she failed.

thanks for the update ~ I for one was a little invested an curious about how it went

HAPPY HUNTING

[paulzane]

You people all ****ing rock. I got all worked up for nothing because she didn't even show. Reservations were at 8, I was there at 730, she texted (Thats right, texted in stead of called) saying her grandpa had a stroke and she had to go to the hospital. I tried calling, but she ignored - she coulda been a mess,I guess - then i texted her saying omg i'm so sorry, i hope he's ok, call me when you can so I know YOU'RE ok. She didn't but thats ok. If she's lying about this, she'd be a horrible person.

But in the end, I stayed at the wine bar and met a very nice couple who shared their pizza with me. We ate pizza and drank wine and had a hell of a time!

Thanks again people

Did you have your first threesome?

[Charlie6]

That sucks, but at least it ended up alright. Plenty of other fish out there. What were you looking for in this chick? A girlfriend? Or just an easy lay? The beauty of that OkCupid site is you can hit up a hundred girls at once and have a whole bullpen going at once. If one broad stands you up, no worries, just time to get Ms. 2nd place a shot.

I was pretty much looking for a girlfriend. I've had my flings and I think I'm getting to the point where I'm looking for something a little more. And definitely - she's not the only girl I'm talking to on there, but she was the only one I really wanted to date. The rest are all just back-and-forths.

I heard about some site where you "check in" telling where you are and if other people are logged in they can see where you are. And if you're close to someone whose pic looks cute you can meet up. I don't know what it is, tho.

Crist! you ARE a great guy ! LOVE the attitude of not letting a random chix ruin your nght! such a rear thing to have the personality/mind set of rolling with it and making the best of your place an time!
with such a possitive vibe like this ~there is no way in hell your no going to attract a awsome lady that appreciates it!


my motto after a date that was a dud ..."NEXT" ...lol as send in the next contestant hahahaha

a date is an intrview to see if that persons what your lookin for, and IMO it sounds like you were looking for a girl that would have called you at some point to update you, out of curtisy....looks like she failed.

thanks for the update ~ I for one was a little invested an curious about how it went

HAPPY HUNTING

Yeah I figure I might as well keep my spirits high. Life is short, after all. Sometime I gotta make sure I don't set myself up to be let down. I protected myself this time. I agree with just moving on and finding someone else.

Did you have your first threesome?

Nah, they have a 2 year old at home and they wouldn't have energy for that. But I would have for damn sure.

[Hoggage_54]

Did she ever text back?

[Charlie6]

not yet, and its 230 in the afternoon. I wanna send her a text saying "So I WAS stood up" but I figure she's not worth it. Like I discussed with Sexy, there are plenty more fish in the sea and its not worth my time or effort

[BrownGirl]

So sorry she didn't have the courtesy to call you. I like your attitude though....You'll find a great girl. Keep your chin up and roll with the punches!

[Charlie6]

Thanks BG I will indeed!

[Hoggage_54]

Like others are saying, plenty of fish out there... I've been doing the online thing for a while and I've met my fair share of interesting people.. The fact that this girl would come up with a story of a family member having a stroke to get out of a date shows just how immature she is.

[gixxerboy1]

if she text you. Just respond "no problem i had a great time at the restaurant im going out with the bartender tonight"