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[Eddie_m63]

So here's the question...my youngest sister 22 lives with me pays no rent no bills, do I have the right to question her whereabouts?

[kelkel]

No. She's an adult.

Not helping financially is a totally different conversation.

[austinite]

No. You don't.

[MuscleInk]

No. You have to respect her privacy and individuality. I agree with Kel though.....if she's not in school and working, IMO it would be only fair that she help with bills unless you have already told her she could live there for free.

When I was younger and lived at home, my father had a strict policy for the kids. If you weren't in school (college) you had to pay rent as long as you lived under his roof. At the time, it seemed unfair. I later found out that he put the money in a separate account and returned it to me/us when I moved out. It wasn't the money he wanted. He was just trying to teach his kids to be responsible.

[RaginCajun]

just ask her, she doesn't have to tell ya if she doesn't want to.

[Eddie_m63]

No. She's an adult.

Not helping financially is a totally different conversation.

Well she works but if something happens to her car I have to lend her money, so I don't know what she does with her money.

[austinite]

Well she works but if something happens to her car I have to lend her money, so I don't know what she does with her money.

Like kelkel said, financial concerns are a separate conversation that needs to be had. You have every right to ask for help, rent, etc... but this has nothing to do with how an adult spends their time.

[Eddie_m63]

Like kelkel said, financial concerns are a separate conversation that needs to be had. You have every right to ask for help, rent, etc... but this has nothing to do with how an adult spends their time.

I really don't need the money, but I know I would invest it/ save it more responsibly then her.

[cherrydrpepper]

Too vague and in general no. Some exceptions i.e. you found heroin in her room, she is hanging out with someone known to have an std or dealing drugs etc

[austinite]

This is simple. You 2 do not need to be roommates.

[Chx beach 79]

Is that you 2 in your avi? Lol... I lived with my brother when I was younger and things only got better when we both got our own places...

[Lunk1]

YES! You have the right to aske her anyhing you want. She has the right to tell you to kiss her ass! Then you have the right to tell her to pack her shyt..and that is about how I picture the conversation going

[MickeyKnox]

So here's the question...my youngest sister 22 lives with me pays no rent no bills, do I have the right to question her whereabouts?

Is this a serious question??

[AD]

i think its natural to ask if you're concerned.

[songdog]

No you dont but you can tell her to start to save some money.Beacuse you aint a bank and she needs to be better with her money.

[MickeyKnox]

Sure its natural, so are natural disasters.

[AD]

it might not turn out too bad if she knows you're asking out of concern. but if you try to restrict her, that may have a different outcome.

[cherrydrpepper]

Is that you 2 in your avi? Lol... I lived with my brother when I was younger and things only got better when we both got our own places...

You think a typical conversation is his sis tells him they about to get some ***** ? lol If so can I have your sister to be my sister lol

[kronik420]

So here's the question...my youngest sister 22 lives with me pays no rent no bills, do I have the right to question her whereabouts?

if your worried about her and where she is, just chuck a gps tracking device in her bag/car lol

also, your house your rules bro, you can make up whatever rule you want, and if she doesn't like it, she can always leave...

[cherrydrpepper]

I think we need a pic to make an informed decision

[MickeyKnox]

lol..

[red_hulk]

Where are you from? Since we're close in age, maybe I can help you track her whereabouts .

Just kidding, but no you really can't. But you can pry a little to make sure she isn't doing something stupid. That's my opinion anyway

[lovbyts]

YES! You have the right to aske her anyhing you want. She has the right to tell you to kiss her ass! Then you have the right to tell her to pack her shyt..and that is about how I picture the conversation going

This ^^^
You also have the right to charge her rent and not really doing her any favors especially if you think she is doing something wrong or unhealthy and defiantly not teaching her any responsibility. Basically you are enabling her to do whatever she is doing by no charging her rent so she doesn't have to work and be responsible so think about it from that point of view.

[Eddie_m63]

This is simple. You 2 do not need to be roommates.

Although we in the same house we still separated by a lot of walls lol.

[Eddie_m63]

Is this a serious question??

Of course, since I kind of acquired the dad role in the house I wasn't too sure of what to do here.

[Eddie_m63]

it might not turn out too bad if she knows you're asking out of concern. but if you try to restrict her, that may have a different outcome.

Is not about restricting her of anything but rather knowing where And with whom she's hanging out with.

[Eddie_m63]

if your worried about her and where she is, just chuck a gps tracking device in her bag/car lol

also, your house your rules bro, you can make up whatever rule you want, and if she doesn't like it, she can always leave...

She is using my older phone so I can easily track her location if needed