WHEN IS IT GONNA BE GOOD ENUFF (the wife- just me?)

**--->>405<<---** · 12-05-2012, 07:05 PM

so im starting to get some crap from the wife about my dedication. shes saying i am transferring my alcohol addiction to bodybuilding and saying stuff like "youre injecting urself with all kinds of stuff" and "whats gonna happen when u get to 6% bf? r u gonna wanna get bigger then? when is it good enuff?"

also apparently ive been a little short tempered (which may be due to switching to subq injects cuz my free test at last blood work was 52 (8.7-25.6) ).. i was having E2 probs which seem to be gone now (yay subq!) but instead of converting to E from T i suppose it shot my test up. well ive reduced the dose but wondering if any of u guys get crap from the old lady or is it just me?

id also like to note the "injecting urself with all kinds of stuff" statement is prob cuz i started injectable L-Carnitine.

**lovbyts** · 12-05-2012, 07:24 PM

You could have an addictive personality and did just switch from alcohol to aas but that's not a bad switch especially since you seem to take under consideration your mood could he elevated

Try backing off cor a while. Not stopping, just not adding anything. Work on the relationship more also talking time to do things with the wife more so she does not feel left out.

**JD250** · 12-05-2012, 07:24 PM

Arguing with her is pointless, educate her. Why does she take an hour to get ready in the morning, put on make up, fix her hair, change clothes 3 times to find the right one, stare at her ass multiple times in the mirror? Truth is women do WAY more and spend WAY more to make themselves look and feel good than we do and if done right it doesn't have to kill you in the process.

As far as the original question..... that could be asked of anything in life, it never hurts to self evaluate from time to time.

**Times Roman** · 12-05-2012, 07:28 PM

my woman comments on "what is that stuff you put in your body". I patiently tell her, that i have a script, and abouut the peps, and the TB500. in one ear and out the other.

all i can say 405 is you are substituting a relatively unhealthy obsession with a healthy one. I'm a little like you. I don't do anything half assed. When i drink, let's kill the damn bottle, right? And don't let there be any beer in the fridge when the bottle is empty, cause those need to be drank too. Nothing worse than having a buzz, opening the fridge, and the damn beer giving you the stink eye! Same with exercise with me. So I know that when I'm in my exercise mode, I'm not in my drinking mode. I'm a little binary that way.

Just be patient with her. She probably doesn't fully understand. and you getting in really good shape could make her a little uncomfortable, since i'm sure other women are noticing you a little more, and if they are, i guarantee she notices the other women noticing you.

At some point, you will have to evaluate your goals, and decide certain limits. what you will and will not do. DNP for example (an easy one), you may decide that will never be something you will try. You may also decide certain limits when you cycle, like never exceed a combined one gram per week, or something similar. At some point, as you age, you will need to step back and say "good enough" and then maintain what you have. Unless you think a pro competition is in the cards for you somewhere down the road?

**--->>405<<---** · 12-05-2012, 07:40 PM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

You could have an addictive personality and did just switch from alcohol to aas but that's not a bad switch especially since you seem to take under consideration your mood could he elevated

Try backing off cor a while. Not stopping, just not adding anything. Work on the relationship more also talking time to do things with the wife more so she does not feel left out.

yeh i DEF have an addictive personality. no question there. i suppose i need to take her out more. when im on a diet i do not deviate which means we dont go out a lot for food. i suppose "all or nothing" best describes me and im usually exactly that. kinda like thanxgiving when i had 9 desserts LOL..

**--->>405<<---** · 12-05-2012, 07:42 PM

Originally Posted by JD250

Arguing with her is pointless, educate her. Why does she take an hour to get ready in the morning, put on make up, fix her hair, change clothes 3 times to find the right one, stare at her ass multiple times in the mirror? Truth is women do WAY more and spend WAY more to make themselves look and feel good than we do and if done right it doesn't have to kill you in the process.

As far as the original question..... that could be asked of anything in life, it never hurts to self evaluate from time to time.

LOL.. have u met my wife!? i think the only person on the planet more hard headed than myself is her! but yeh self-evaluation is a good thing. however i will not be derailed until i meet my goal. (Lord willing) but i will try to put more effort into her as well

**--->>405<<---** · 12-05-2012, 07:50 PM

Originally Posted by Times Roman

my woman comments on "what is that stuff you put in your body". I patiently tell her, that i have a script, and abouut the peps, and the TB500. in one ear and out the other.

all i can say 405 is you are substituting a relatively unhealthy obsession with a healthy one. I'm a little like you. I don't do anything half assed. When i drink, let's kill the damn bottle, right? And don't let there be any beer in the fridge when the bottle is empty, cause those need to be drank too. Nothing worse than having a buzz, opening the fridge, and the damn beer giving you the stink eye! Same with exercise with me. So I know that when I'm in my exercise mode, I'm not in my drinking mode. I'm a little binary that way.

Just be patient with her. She probably doesn't fully understand. and you getting in really good shape could make her a little uncomfortable, since i'm sure other women are noticing you a little more, and if they are, i guarantee she notices the other women noticing you.

At some point, you will have to evaluate your goals, and decide certain limits. what you will and will not do. DNP for example (an easy one), you may decide that will never be something you will try. You may also decide certain limits when you cycle, like never exceed a combined one gram per week, or something similar. At some point, as you age, you will need to step back and say "good enough" and then maintain what you have. Unless you think a pro competition is in the cards for you somewhere down the road?

good advice TR. and yes i would kill the bottle and the beer in the fridge! i have not cycled so theres no issue there yet. as far as the comp i seriously doubt it. i am just in competition with myself to prove this fat boy can get ripped! and maybe a little competitive with the guys in the gym to look the best and lift the most (which im def in the top 10 for both) and prob lift more than anyone else i know at my weight.

this cut im on is really working out well! im seeing new veins in the legs and new stuff popping out weekly!

**Lunk1** · 12-05-2012, 07:51 PM

She is right! They are always right lol. But really.,..with your history you have simply swapped out one addiction for another. It's who you are and it's how you will always live. I know a guy who was a hardcore meth user. He dropped it and started running. Guy turned into fkn Forest Gump. he would run and run and run. The 2st sign he was back on the shyt...he quit running.

It's important that she understand that it is who you are and that it's better you find healthy addictions than unhealthy ones...then remind her that she is your #1 addiction and take her to the bedroom, tie her up and do nasty, unspeakable things to her. Solid advise if I do say so...

**--->>405<<---** · 12-05-2012, 08:07 PM

Originally Posted by Lunk1

She is right! They are always right lol. But really.,..with your history you have simply swapped out one addiction for another. It's who you are and it's how you will always live. I know a guy who was a hardcore meth user. He dropped it and started running. Guy turned into fkn Forest Gump. he would run and run and run. The 2st sign he was back on the shyt...he quit running.

It's important that she understand that it is who you are and that it's better you find healthy addictions than unhealthy ones...then remind her that she is your #1 addiction and take her to the bedroom, tie her up and do nasty, unspeakable things to her. Solid advise if I do say so...

LOL.. 10-4 there buddy!

and yes i suppose she is right. i have swapped but better this than that!

**Armykid93** · 12-05-2012, 08:15 PM

Fvck, makes me wonder if my wife will be a pain in the ass about this stuff. I've told her i'm gonna use before we got married and she still married me lol so there's no excuse there on her part.

If agree with the previous comment about maybe some jealousy due to attention. Even from other males, if she is seeing people notice your changes she may be a bit jealous.

**GirlyGymRat** · 12-05-2012, 09:26 PM

405, i have seen this happen to guys on this board from time to time.....and maybe, just maybe, she is letting you know that she luvs you and it is coming across as whinning... i have an addictive personality, in fact most people do, but just don't like to admit it. replacing an unhealthy addiction with a healthy addiction is a better choice, but if this is consuming your life, them maybe pause and get what is most important into focus. Also, she could be somewhat concerned that your hottness factor is gonna be like a freakin radar signal to other women. she can't stop other gals from lookin but if you aren't looking as hot, she doesn't have to worry as much.....she twisted gal logic.

**Back In Black** · 12-06-2012, 03:02 AM

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Rationalisation

My Mrs doesn't give me crap about my diet, my TRT or whatever et else I choose to do, on occasion. BUT, I have to not let it consume me. If I was single I have no doubt that I wouldn't deviate on my diet and that I would have several cycles under my belt now.

As it is, I cheat meal with her every Saturday and occasionally lunch in the week.

I used to smoke and drink. She knows my lifestyle is healthier now. She doesn't share my passion for fitness/looking good and she loves food so she can't understand how I eat like I eat. But she complains she is overweight and will 'get back on it soon'.

I don't push her and she doesn't push me. Just a little bit of give and take works wonders, have that weekly cheat meal with her!

**alexISthrowed** · 12-06-2012, 03:14 AM

I struggled with some drug problems when I was 17-18 which I haven't really elaborated on here. Bodybuilding has helped me in so many ways. Am I addicted to bodybuilding? I would have to say yes. IMO if you have an addictive personality your gonna be addicted to something. Bodybuilding is a positive addiction as long as you don't let it get in the way of your relationships and personal life. I can honestly say if it weren't for having a great dad that never gave up on me and my love of bodybuilding I'd be dead/in prison/or a strung out bum at this point.

**Ernst** · 12-06-2012, 03:26 AM

Welcome to the new addiction. It's nice not hating yourself when you're sober, isn't it? I feel that.

Remember to let her know she's the most important thing to you and that you are motivated by your desire to be a better version of yourself not just for yourself but for her.

**cherrydrpepper** · 12-06-2012, 01:19 PM

Wow I had no idea so many people on here were like me. I have an intensely addictive personality and a pattern of switching from one thing to another. I try to keep bodybuilding in the slot and keep the bad ones out.

As far as your woman, with my last woman I was dominant in the relationship. When it got to a certain point I finally told her "I'm not going to have any more conversations with you about it (aas)". She has asked questions and I have stuck to that script. I enjoyed the relationship more after that. Marriage is a game I have not played though so I dunno.

**canesfan804** · 12-06-2012, 03:00 PM

I think sometimes they just need to vent and this was a easy target. My wife rarely gets agrivated with me (not that I dont give her reasons) but when she does what ever she is going on about is not the real prob most of the time. That may just be mine tho. As for the addiction thing, this is better as long as its not your #1 priority. Maybe take a couple days of just to show you can, but be sure not to even talk about the gym or you will play into her hand. Good luck