Mom tells me she loves me?

**ChestNBack** · 06-22-2013, 02:38 PM

Serious question. I can't post this question on FB because I have family and my mom on there. I'm 31, the only child and my mom is single and stays alone. I moved to another state about 6 years ago. My mom is always texting me and telling me she loves me and asking if I'm okay because she doesn't hear from me too often. When I first moved out of state I made sure to call or text at least twice a week. Now I hardly hit her up. Always telling me she is concerned and worried. Bro I'm 31. A grown man. It annoys me when she does this. Am I ****ed up for feeling this way. If she had a man he probably wouldn't hit me up as much but I know she still would. The fact she is single though. I mean sometimes she will go a week without hitting me up but if I don't hit her up either she is texting me to call her so she knows I'm okay.

**Times Roman** · 06-22-2013, 02:51 PM

Really?

how long does it take to call or text?

cut your mom some slack and don't be so frugal with your affection and time.

you are her baby, she brought you into this world, and you should consider her feelings instead of only your own

there will come a day she is no longer around, and you will regret not having spent more time with her.

I'm 51 and I still call/visit my mom once a month.

**Times Roman** · 06-22-2013, 02:55 PM

...and besides, it's better than if she were to chase you around with a coat hanger threatening to perform a post birth abortion!!

**Hoggage_54** · 06-22-2013, 03:02 PM

Post some pics of her...

**MajorPectorial** · 06-22-2013, 03:09 PM

Shit. My mom calls me three days after my bday pissed as usual to wish me happy birthday. But then. I spent my life looking after the family. Sorting the home out. Looking after my bros n sis. Pulled everything out to try n help her.

Ur wingeing that she cares too much. R u 4 real?

I had to move on. N I'd give the world for a normal mum who gives a fuEURk.

Count ur blessings

**Bmwgirl11** · 06-22-2013, 03:29 PM

I usually spend my days wishing I could call my dad just to say I love you. Instead I carry a locket around my neck with his ashes in it. My hubby is the same. His mom misses him he doesn't call enough etc. point I'm trying to make is we never truly accept they will not be here one day to do theses things. Do not take the love of a mother for granted. No matter how old you all get you all are still our children. Even in your thirties. It could be worse, you can spend hour sessions with a psychologist trying to sort out your horrible mother problems or she could be gone.
My .2

**ppwc1985** · 06-22-2013, 03:35 PM

Dude, lost my mom a year and half ago and I wish she was bugging me all the time. Sounds like you have a caring mom, one day she won't be there. Take some advice cut her some slack, your her son.

**kelkel** · 06-22-2013, 03:42 PM

Your mom is lonely. She misses you. Stop being a brat and call her as much as it takes to ease her pain. You only get one mom and dad like TR said. Cherish them. Mine have been gone since the mid 90's and it sucks. Hell, it sucked even typing that last sentence.

Call her...

**austinite** · 06-22-2013, 04:19 PM

Some folks don't have a mother to call...

**--->>405<<---** · 06-22-2013, 05:19 PM

what all these guys said!

im 38yrs old and until i was 33, from age 14 on i spent my time hitting the bottle and pipe and streets as hard as i could! i neglected and used my parents for my benefit. keep in mind these parents were really my grandmother and step grandad..

since i got sober in 2008 i have spent the last 5 years trying to make up time missed with my parents. my mom now is 86 and my dad is 78.. i know like these guys above have said one day will come when i wont be able to pick up the phone and call or go over to their house. in light of this reality i call my mom everyday at least once and usually twice. my wife actually gives me crap about it but i dont give a damn because shes my mom and i love her, she has always been here for me every time i needed her and even though she is not my biological mother i look at her and love her as if she were. i cant imagine life without her, but i know that day is coming.

my dad just finished cancer surgery and i have had to assume the role of looking after my parents, which is what God intended by: Exodus 20:12 "Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you."

i definitely understand you not wanting your mom to baby you and that is fine and normal. let her know youre a grown man and redirect the nature of your calls to that of a man and his mother. let her know how ur life is going and ask how hers is. if she starts to baby you be firm, but respectful, and tell her u cant continue to be treated that way and u would appreciate it if she also assist in redirecting the nature of ur relationship. her caring about how youre doing is fine but there is a certain line that need not be crossed anymore. until she accepts you as a man u may have to be firm and end the conversation early due to the content of the call. she will get the point and i bet over time as long as u do it properly with love and respect she will make the adjustment. she is probably just used to your relationship being mother and child and needs a little guidance to mother and grown son. that is where u come in.. the way u handle it will be evidence to her that you are mature enuff to be treated like a grown man, provided u dont drop the ball and come across like an adolescent..

**canesfan804** · 06-22-2013, 05:38 PM

Well I have always been a mommas boy and we have always been tight. I do understand the feeling of you are grown up but you are still her baby and good moms worry. I talk to my mom atleast 3xs a week even if only for a coup mins. I moved 900 miles away a year ago and at times I miss my mom and stepdad really bad. I have to tell myself its whats best for my family because it has opened up the oportunity for me to be with my kids alot more. Once you have kids you will understand how she feels. Take time to call her and help ease her worries.

**scorpion62** · 06-22-2013, 05:50 PM

Originally Posted by chestnback

serious question. I can't post this question on fb because i have family and my mom on there. I'm 31, the only child and my mom is single and stays alone. I moved to another state about 6 years ago. My mom is always texting me and telling me she loves me and asking if i'm okay because she doesn't hear from me too often. When i first moved out of state i made sure to call or text at least twice a week. Now i hardly hit her up. Always telling me she is concerned and worried. Bro i'm 31. A grown man. It annoys me when she does this. Am i ****ed up for feeling this way. If she had a man he probably wouldn't hit me up as much but i know she still would. The fact she is single though. I mean sometimes she will go a week without hitting me up but if i don't hit her up either she is texting me to call her so she knows i'm okay.

et phone home

**Lunk1** · 06-22-2013, 08:36 PM

I'm with ya OP. My mom can be rather annoying and "needy". It doesn't mean I don't lover her but I don't have the need to speak to her daily or even weekly.

**Java Man** · 06-22-2013, 08:48 PM

I can't call my mom. They don't have phones in heaven, or at least I haven't been able to find the number. Be glad you still have a mother on Earth and that she cares. Some mothers don't care about their kids, and some kids don't have mothers that they can talk to.

You may be 31 but to your elders, youre always going to be a generation or more behind them - from their perspective 31 is a kid. You'll always be a kid to them. You'll get it when your kids are adults.

**stpete** · 06-22-2013, 09:58 PM

I don't talk to either of my parents. My Dad's cool but we just have conflicts all the time. My Mom only calls when she's drunk.

But yeah, i try to be as nice as i can as i know one day she won't be around. So i do pick up the phone when she calls and try to have a conversation. There's nothing wrong w/ talking to your Mother. Be cool.

**SexySweetheart** · 06-22-2013, 10:04 PM

Originally Posted by ChestNBack

Serious question. I can't post this question on FB because I have family and my mom on there. I'm 31, the only child and my mom is single and stays alone. I moved to another state about 6 years ago. My mom is always texting me and telling me she loves me and asking if I'm okay because she doesn't hear from me too often. When I first moved out of state I made sure to call or text at least twice a week. Now I hardly hit her up. Always telling me she is concerned and worried. Bro I'm 31. A grown man. It annoys me when she does this. Am I ****ed up for feeling this way. If she had a man he probably wouldn't hit me up as much but I know she still would. The fact she is single though. I mean sometimes she will go a week without hitting me up but if I don't hit her up either she is texting me to call her so she knows I'm okay.

your mommy misses you
she made you her world
and she revolved around you

your gone

now what is she to do

...till she finds her passion ( in a man or hobby that consumes her) you will continue to fill the void in her heart in her time in her mind...

maybe you could suggest to her dating? or if you know she has a talent for something suggest she join a group that also has that talent..

**lovbyts** · 06-23-2013, 12:41 AM

Get the point yet???

**ChestNBack** · 06-23-2013, 12:58 AM

Thanks guys. There were a few people who understood where I'm coming from. Sometimes I feel a line is crossed with her. But I will make an effort to call more

**Honkey_Kong** · 06-23-2013, 03:02 AM

Is your mom hot?

**marcus300** · 06-23-2013, 03:11 AM

Wait till your mothers not there then you will realise how much of a knob you are being

**DSM4Life** · 06-23-2013, 07:02 AM

I love you mom !

**spywizard** · 06-23-2013, 07:38 AM

Originally Posted by ChestNBack

Serious question. I can't post this question on FB because I have family and my mom on there. I'm 31, the only child and my mom is single and stays alone. I moved to another state about 6 years ago. My mom is always texting me and telling me she loves me and asking if I'm okay because she doesn't hear from me too often. When I first moved out of state I made sure to call or text at least twice a week. Now I hardly hit her up. Always telling me she is concerned and worried. Bro I'm 31. A grown man. It annoys me when she does this. Am I ****ed up for feeling this way. If she had a man he probably wouldn't hit me up as much but I know she still would. The fact she is single though. I mean sometimes she will go a week without hitting me up but if I don't hit her up either she is texting me to call her so she knows I'm okay.

don't worry one day she will be dead and gone and you will be alone in this world..

get the point?? being a grown man has nothing to do with her missing you, imagine if you had someone in your life that you loved so much that you did nothing for yourself, always giving and going without for that person, then one day that person just leaves, then they would "text" (what the fcuk is that) and then they just stopped calling all together..

Call your mom, tell her you love and miss her and thanks for being who she is..

Didn't mean to sound so blunt, maybe you need that

AD · 06-23-2013, 08:09 AM

Another case of not getting the answers you're hoping to hear.

**belva** · 06-23-2013, 08:29 AM

Your mom will not be here forever, so if she didn't do any harm to you just appreciate the time she's still here

**RaginCajun** · 06-23-2013, 08:49 AM

I just hugged my mom and told her I love her!

I'm 31, and I cherish every moment I get to have with my family. And I have a lot of families!

**diesel101** · 06-23-2013, 09:35 AM

Lost my mother to cancer when I was 28.I wish I had you're problem.

**tigerspawn** · 06-23-2013, 10:10 AM

Be grateful that your mom loves you and cares about you. How difficult is it to text her once a week?

**John Cluso** · 06-23-2013, 06:38 PM

Just tell her how you feel, but not to soon, maybe in a couple 2 or 3 months.

BG · 06-23-2013, 06:44 PM

I would rip your heart out with my hands if I could have 5 minutes with my mom. For real.

**GirlyGymRat** · 06-23-2013, 07:33 PM

My mom mails me am Easter basket. I am really going to miss her when she passes. Be thankful for a mother that cares...

**DSM4Life** · 06-24-2013, 07:34 AM

People say they would dread becoming their parents I told my mother I would be lucky/honored to be anything like her when I grow up.

**panntastic** · 06-24-2013, 07:41 AM

Mom kicked me out of home at 16
I told her her boyfriend was cheating on her and she never believed me.
Eventually she found out, took 2 years but she found out and the S.o.b got what was coming to him.
I never blamed her once he was a manipulative bastard and left her in lots of debt.
I helped her with her debt and life continued as normal.
If she never kicked me out I wouldn't be who I am today and for that I'm thankful.
I love my mom and no matter where in the world I go I let her know I'm safe.
After all she bought me into this world

**DOSA** · 06-24-2013, 07:43 AM

my mother is my best friend. I speak to her throughout each day.
I moved her in with me as she is 66 and did not prepare for retirement, its the best thing ever.
love every moment you have your mother....

**Blankinator** · 06-24-2013, 11:20 AM

Take 15 mins and call her once per week. Ask her how she's doing. Listen to her - whatever she has to say. Let her know you are doing okay and tell her you love her.

Once per day, take 30 seconds and send one single text reply to her.

She's your mother. Cut her some slack.

I bet if you start doing this, it won't take long before she backs off a bit.

**songdog** · 06-24-2013, 05:27 PM

Bro I wish I had a mother like that.You just don't know how lucky you are.Some day when she is no longer around and that phone rings.You will wish it was her.NO MATTER WAT YOU WILL ALWAYS BE HER BABY! Enjoy the time now bro because she wont be here forever.

**drake4243** · 06-24-2013, 06:14 PM

If you are 31 (Bro) haha why can’t you make this decision on your own ? Your mommy bugs you too much that sounds so hard what a tough situation you are in. She is your mother why not just appreciate her and learn a little patients like a 31 year old Bro should.

**capetown** · 06-25-2013, 02:02 PM

my mom passed away 2 years ago. Not a day goes by that I dont regret not having the time( so i thought) to call her or getting annoyed with her over stupid things.