broke up 2 years ago, still in love

[pasha]

So me and my ex broke up 2 years ago.. i still talk to her.. haven't seen her in a year.. i moved to a different state after the breakup.. but damn i still love her... is that normal? we where together for 6 years.. broke up because i did not propose to her.. she thought i was not going to.. but i was sooner or later.. also she became a christian and im not so she had a problem with me not converting to christianity.. does anyone else relate to this? should i try to get her back? i wanted to marry this girl i cant just forget about her.. breakups are tough, it feels like it happen yesterday... what are your thoughts? thanks

[RipOwens]

If you wanted to marry her, why didn't you propose? Being together for 6 years, it's not a shocker to see she wanted you to show her a bigger commitment.

[austinite]

Very normal. I married the love of my life once. After we divorced, I compared everyone to her. Always trying to find similar qualities in other women so that I can feel fulfilled. Life sucked forever it seemed. Exactly 10 years later, we rekindled. I had not seen her in 10 years, this was totally out of the blue. It took a couple months but I realized we're not compatible. That was when I got over her. I no longer had to think "What if".

Good luck man. Try this...

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[Lunk1]

It sounds cliché but...follow your heart!

[pasha]

yea i agree.. i was 25 at the time, i dont know i was scared i guess.. i was going to propose.. but i was taking too long really... i guess i was waiting for the perfect time in my life to propose.. i travel a lot for work, wanted to stay more at home, save more money for our future.. stuff like that.. i thought about it too much.. she wanted kids too.. that scared me.. but now im like damn what was i thinking.. she was great i should have proposed..now i want her back, not really sure how to do it..

[Lunk1]

yea i agree.. i was 25 at the time, i dont know i was scared i guess.. i was going to propose.. but i was taking too long really... i guess i was waiting for the perfect time in my life to propose.. i travel a lot for work, wanted to stay more at home, save more money for our future.. stuff like that.. i thought about it too much.. she wanted kids too.. that scared me.. but now im like damn what was i thinking.. she was great i should have proposed..now i want her back, not really sure how to do it..

I'd start by telling her this ^^^^^^^^^

[bdos]

Me and my girl are at 4yrs she asks me all the time i just told her my 10yr plan and seems to have settled her

[lovbyts]

The ones that get away are always the one you miss the most.

[DSM4Life]

Very normal. I married the love of my life once. After we divorced, I compared everyone to her. Always trying to find similar qualities in other women so that I can feel fulfilled. Life sucked forever it seemed. Exactly 10 years later, we rekindled. I had not seen her in 10 years, this was totally out of the blue. It took a couple months but I realized we're not compatible. That was when I got over her. I no longer had to think "What if".

Good luck man. Try this...

Estradiol, Ultrasensitive, LC/MS/MS (30289)

Very interesting. I think we all at some point compare partners to the "best" partner and ask, "Why couldn't this person be more like XXX"?

[Honkey_Kong]

So me and my ex broke up 2 years ago.. i still talk to her.. haven't seen her in a year.. i moved to a different state after the breakup.. but damn i still love her... is that normal? we where together for 6 years.. broke up because i did not propose to her.. she thought i was not going to.. but i was sooner or later.. also she became a christian and im not so she had a problem with me not converting to christianity.. does anyone else relate to this? should i try to get her back? i wanted to marry this girl i cant just forget about her.. breakups are tough, it feels like it happen yesterday... what are your thoughts? thanks

First of all, get marriage out of your vernacular. There is nothing to gain from marriage. It's an archaic institution that really is nothing but legalized prostitution in our post-modern era. You have no stroke over her, she's legally allowed to spend every dime you ever make and on top of that if you divorce (and statistics/precedence says you probably will), you'll be making payments on poon that you used to bang (alimony).

Next, sorry Dude, but you and her are broken up. It's over. It doesn't matter what the reasons were, but you and her just didn't work out. If that wasn't the case, you'd be with her right now. And you know what? You'll find other women. Some better and some worse than that broad. You should go out with a few of them. It'll help you get over that one.

I'd say bang her for old times, but you're having problems letting go as it is. You just need to move on.

[DSM4Life]

First of all, get marriage out of your vernacular. There is nothing to gain from marriage. It's an archaic institution that really is nothing but legalized prostitution in our post-modern era. You have no stroke over her, she's legally allowed to spend every dime you ever make and on top of that if you divorce (and statistics/precedence says you probably will), you'll be making payments on poon that you used to bang (alimony).

Next, sorry Dude, but you and her are broken up. It's over. It doesn't matter what the reasons were, but you and her just didn't work out. If that wasn't the case, you'd be with her right now. And you know what? You'll find other women. Some better and some worse than that broad. You should go out with a few of them. It'll help you get over that one.

I'd say bang her for old times, but you're having problems letting go as it is. You just need to move on.

I peg you for a romantic?

[Honkey_Kong]

I peg you for a romantic?

I actually am, as long as it doesn't cost me anything. Besides there's a difference between being a romantic and just being a fool. You know you have to let the past be the past. And it's hard to let go. I know about that way too well.

[austinite]

Very interesting. I think we all at some point compare partners to the "best" partner and ask, "Why couldn't this person be more like XXX"?

Is that all you ever think of? XXX ?

[DSM4Life]

Is that all you ever think of? XXX ?

Honestly? Yes.

[austinite]

Honestly? Yes.

Reported...

[DSM4Life]

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i agree with JOB. quit wasting time and overthinking it follow thru and tell her the truth!!! this way u will have no regrets man.. DO IT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

[jimmyinkedup]

Keep us posted. What are u going to do?

[AlinSR]

Love stinks.

[pasha]

thanks for all the replies from everyone.. it helps to get other views when figuring this kind of stuff out.

[SexySweetheart]

So me and my ex broke up 2 years ago.. i still talk to her.. haven't seen her in a year.. i moved to a different state after the breakup.. but damn i still love her... is that normal? we where together for 6 years.. broke up because i did not propose to her.. she thought i was not going to.. but i was sooner or later.. also she became a christian and im not so she had a problem with me not converting to christianity.. does anyone else relate to this? should i try to get her back? i wanted to marry this girl i cant just forget about her.. breakups are tough, it feels like it happen yesterday... what are your thoughts? thanks

Awwwww ty for this. Its refreshing to see romantic men on this site. all hope is not lost - men can have souls lol

I agree with some posts...if it was a special relationship you probably would have proposed way before 6 years and. Something held you back. Maybe it was her maybe it was you but it was something.

my personal experience is when there was someone you had a relationship with that had a deep impact-it is a best to cut all attachments strings and connections with them and not accept any communication from them. Basically need to pretend they don't exist and you not exist to them. Or else there's no opportunity to move forward... You're stuck in the past reliving the past you're comparing everything for the past.

[SexySweetheart]

I also wanted to mention that if you don't believe in marriage... Definitely let her go. Because even women who say they don't want marriage or don't believe in marriage... Its All crap we all do :-) sorry to tell you but yeah we all want that one special guy that is so in love with us they will dedicate themselves to only us. So if you don't plan on proposing anytime soon -most definitely cut her loose and cut the connection so she can move forward and find that one guy that will proclaim His love to her and dedicated his life to her and have a future with her.I have a friend from this site who recently got married and had a baby and she is in utteter bliss all because some guy didn't want that life with her. thier relationship ended and he's alone while she finaly has the love and family she always wanted. so you say you love her... And if you're notcraving to make her your wife for the rest of your life and be dedicated to only her then come to lose. Love her enough to let her be with someone that will give her that.
the best of luck to you and I hope whatever you decide works out best for you and whatever girl you and being with :-)

[Gaspari1255]

A break up is difficult. But my question to you is: What have you been doing the past two years in terms of dating? Did you make efforts to meet other women or just keep reminiscing about the past?

I think the fact that she got offended about you not wanting to convert to her religion is a little controlling and rude on her part. She really shouldn't be telling you what to do when it comes to things like that and it may be foreshadowing what would have happened in the future if you acted like a beta and granted her request. This really may have been a blessing in disguise and you don't know it yet. I'm starting to believe that shit happens for a reason, and that reason may take you a long time to figure out/accept.

I think your best option is to let it go and find someone who respects your life decisions and will stay with you no matter what religion you are or are not.