How do you feel about public humiliation for disobedient kids as punishment?

[austinite]

Curious what your thoughts are...

[bass]

humiliating the child may not be my way to get people's attention or to teach my child a lesson, but I give the mother credit for standing up for what she believes in. I believe our children are way too exploited sexually and that just not healthy for the child or the for society. we have way too many perverts running around and the last thing we need is to encourage them lust over our children. I know I am far from being perfect but still believe in morals and virtues.

[Megalodon6]

Bet she doesn't twerk anymore lol. I think this is could be good or bad depending on what the kid did. But in this case I think its ok

[austinite]

Yeah, I'm no psychologist, just wondering how this would impact an 11 year old girl. But I agree with bass, this generation is far too soft with kids. I mean, this is like being in heaven compared to what I went through when I was punished a a kid.

[knuckles69]

I take my hat off to parents like that. We are entering a generation of disrespecting, underachieving brats that have it so easy they take everything and everyone for granted

[Hazard]

I applaud the mom......


My gf thought if was funny one time to twerk infront of my daughter. She thought it would be cute to see her doit. I flipped the fvck out with her family there. It's cute when she's two but that shit continues and then you can't make em stop.

She gets how I feel and won't doit again. This shit just isn't acceptable IMO.

[FRDave]

I'm all for it. Embarrassment works. If you spank your kids these days is child abuse. Bunch of BS if you ask me.

The hardest thing my girl and I are having is how to punish the kids.

[Hazard]

I'm all for it. Embarrassment works. If you spank your kids these days is child abuse. Bunch of BS if you ask me.

The hardest thing my girl and I are having is how to punish the kids.

We 're in that stage right now..... My daughter is almost 2 and she's testing our authority every single day. She's trying to see what we're going to do. So it's time-outs daily..... Which actually have been working. Yesterday tho...... She got a spank on the back of her legs. She was acting like a little demon and when she threw the food on the floor I had it lol.

I NEVER hit her...... Which makes it all that much more effective when u need to give just a small sting on the legs.

We're doing the best we can.....

[crazy mike]

As a father of three, now adults, and grandparents of a 6 yr. old and a 4 yr. old we have learned that there is a happy medium between children. The scolding the spanking, and withheld toys etc....Each child is different like us adults. So the parent should learn by trial and error what does work.

You will learn from very early on what seems to work bets for each. As they grow the same methods may not work any more so we try other techniques.

Don't be complacent, take action and most of all GET their ATENTION and make sure they know, the why. ...crazy mike

OH on this. Good, it seemed to work and NO one was hurt except maybe ego/pride.

[Megalodon6]

My son is four and I'll tell him to do something and he'll just straight up look at me and say no lol. Whipping him does no good so I make him stare at the wall he freak in hates it. Guess just find something that works. But I hope he doesn't get worse as he gets older

[spywizard]

I used to make my daughter sit beside the tv so she couldn't watch / see it and then the family would watch her favorite show..

worked everytime..

[bass]

^^^ to a girl?! that cruel

[Brett N]

I have an 11 and 10 year old daughter.

I see nothing wrong with this but I really don't think my kids would do it because they learned a long time ago that if I say something, it is law. I have little tolerance for my kids being disrespectful to me or to themselves. I think this childs discipline problem started way before this twerking incident.

I never beat my kids like my dad did me, but I was never afraid to spank them for doing wrong. I caught a lot of crap from family and friends saying I should use timeout and count to 3 and blah blah blah. I'll tell you what, those family and friends have rotten kids and my kids are always told how good they are and they haven't been spanked for years.

Parents who say that they are afraid to go to jail are parents who are simply afraid to be the parent. Parenting is what is needed, my kids don't need more friends.

[Hazard]

I have an 11 and 10 year old daughter.

I see nothing wrong with this but I really don't think my kids would do it because they learned a long time ago that if I say something, it is law. I have little tolerance for my kids being disrespectful to me or to themselves.

I never beat my kids like my dad did me, but I was never afraid to spank them for doing wrong. I caught a lot of crap from family and friends saying I should use timeout and count to 3 and blah blah blah. I'll tell you what, those family and friends have rotten kids and my kids are always told how good they are and they haven't been spanked for years.

Parents who say that they are afraid to go to jail are parents who are simply afraid to be the parent. Parenting is what is needed, my kids don't need more friends.

This is how I'm aiming to be. Good job

[Lunk1]

I think its physiological abuse plain and simple. No one should degrade their child, much less in public. I believe in spanking but not in public. There is a line between punishment that teaches a valuable lesson and punishment that leaves a lasting mark (emotional or physical).

[crazy mike]

I think its physiological abuse plain and simple. No one should degrade their child, much less in public. I believe in spanking but not in public. There is a line between punishment that teaches a valuable lesson and punishment that leaves a lasting mark (emotional or physical).

Cool Lunk, I think that's more appropriate ! ^^^ good. ..crazy mike's, IMOP..

[Gaspari1255]

This twerking shit has been going on for years. When I was in high school, 10 years ago or so, we called it "grinding" or "making it clap" and there were broads doing it in grade school too. The problem is some rapper starts throwing the term "twerking" out there and kids start to think it's cool. They hear that their friends aunt didn't go to college and all she was twerk in Lil Waynes music video and makes maddddddd money. Hip-Hop is screwing up everything and I blame that scene once again for this new phenomenon.

Children need better role models then these hip hop "gangstas" who encourage them to mispronounce the English language/dress like a complete hoodlum...When I grew up I was looking up to guys like Arnold, Stallone, Van Damme, etc - not a bunch of derelicts with fitted baseball caps on backwards.

[Zodiac82]

I applaud the mom......

My gf thought if was funny one time to twerk infront of my daughter. She thought it would be cute to see her doit. I flipped the fvck out with her family there. It's cute when she's two but that shit continues and then you can't make em stop.

She gets how I feel and won't doit again. This shit just isn't acceptable IMO.

OOOOMMMMGGG I did the same shit when my girl did that years ago...I blew up...and like u said she thought it was cute...yeh it us NOW but when she 11 doin it in front of gods knows who...then it wont be "cute"

[Zodiac82]

here's another big ass issue I have and cant stand....the first thing that stood out to me and I started to mention in my last post before I had seen the vid...
whats the deal with LETTING. ur child..(an 11 yr old none the less) walk around with her shirt tied up in the back..as to say "hey look at me..im tryna show my ass off...take a look"...I really cant stand that and
I nipped that in the bud QUICK when my daughter tried it..
I think it rather sluty and damn sure dont want my daughter walking around like that

[ppwc1985]

I think it's taking it a little to far myself, how these kids today act so tuff but than you see how many suicides there are. We had a kid commit suicide first day of school here. I believe in punishment, but as fragile as girls feelings are today about being accepted and all I think your walking a fine line by dojng this. There is other ways to take care of it. Now as far as adults go, he'll yea make em stand out there. There is a judge, forget where but he does that to shoplifters and such.

[Hazard]

here's another big ass issue I have and cant stand....the first thing that stood out to me and I started to mention in my last post before I had seen the vid...
whats the deal with LETTING. ur child..(an 11 yr old none the less) walk around with her shirt tied up in the back..as to say "hey look at me..im tryna show my ass off...take a look"...I really cant stand that and
I nipped that in the bud QUICK when my daughter tried it..
I think it rather sluty and damn sure dont want my daughter walking around like that

I'm the same way.....

Dress like a slut, look like a slut, act like a slut....... What are the men in your life going to think? YUP...... She must be a slut.

That may not mean she is a slut...... It may not speak for her character..... But as a father I don't want my daughter going out and catching that kind of attention.

I'm a fvckin man..... I love big fat asses. I I said what went on in my mind when I see a fat ass walkin infront of me I'd get slapped. I'm not the only mthrfckr out there that would cruise for the whisker biscuit..... I know what guys think and what their after. I hope I raise my daughter with some brains.

[Zodiac82]

I'm the same way.....

Dress like a slut, look like a slut, act like a slut....... What are the men in your life going to think? YUP...... She must be a slut.

That may not mean she is a slut...... It may not speak for her character..... But as a father I don't want my daughter going out and catching that kind of attention.

I'm a fvckin man..... I love big fat asses. I I said what went on in my mind when I see a fat ass walkin infront of me I'd get slapped. I'm not the only mthrfckr out there that would cruise for the whisker biscuit..... I know what guys think and what their after. I hope I raise my daughter with some brains.

amen.....wanted to keep a serious undertone until I got to ur last paragraph...lmao

but yeh no need to draw unnecessary attention....like u said we men think..and I kno what we think...and no ones gonna look at her and think shyt bcuz of the way shes dressed

[Brett N]

It's sickens me to say it but I know I have checked out girls who were probably only 15 or 16 hindsight but from a distance they were dressed like 25 year old strippers. No way will my kid get clothes like that.

I really think it is time for this country (not sure of other ones besides US) for the parents to take back their parenting rights. Too many are willing to tolerate too much, next thing you know you are raising your 17 year olds kid so she can finish school. F*** that!!

[bass]

It's sickens me to say it but I know I have checked out girls who were probably only 15 or 16 hindsight but from a distance they were dressed like 25 year old strippers. No way will my kid get clothes like that.

I really think it is time for this country (not sure of other ones besides US) for the parents to take back their parenting rights. Too many are willing to tolerate too much, next thing you know you are raising your 17 year olds kid so she can finish school. F*** that!!

can we please start with Chin*... I mean California?

[Othello]

My boys are 11, 8 and 5.

I find the best is to deprive them from what they like best: PS3, comics, TV, visits to grandparents...when one gets grounded and the others no, punishment is double for him coz his brothers would be enjoying while hes in his room.

Spanking and such no longer work at their age altho my wife sometimes uses it...i prefer psychological punishments as they get the messsage thru better...

Even tho most kids their age have cell phonew, i made it clear it was not an option before 18th birthday. Call me a cave man but i survived 29 years of my life without it...so can they. I agree to many kids being spoilt by their parents these days and i see the results on the streets...

Im dreading the teen age years to be honest...Lebanon is facing a huge drug problem these days and im constantly worried abt this even tho we keep educating them abt the subject. I see myself conducting surprise and secret searches down the road...

[SexySweetheart]

I think if its not done in a seriously abusive manner then it's a positive thing.
Far as I'm concerned I'm encountering Way way way too many kids that are so young and yet feel so entitled and are treated like royalty that they have a warped completely worped sense of reality and s superior or G complex that's dumbfounding.
these little kids have attitudes utterly repulsive.
It seems like parents no longer want to be parental anymore.
Like they just are concerned with being their kids best friend and liked by their kids - just is no more discipline or punishment guidance or even natural consequence. And believe me its so detrimental not to have these things in their lives.

So public acknowledgment of wrong doing and the shame and remorse that comes with it ... Is positive IF not done in a deliberate attempt to hurt or scar or degrade the kid.

[unixpro]

I have 2 kids, and if they get really bad, my wife tell them, "lets go to the bathroom" this is the scariest thing she could tell them because that means catch a spankin.

works everytime, they say noooooo ill be gooooood.

problem solved.

[Hazard]

My boys are 11, 8 and 5.

I find the best is to deprive them from what they like best: PS3, comics, TV, visits to grandparents...when one gets grounded and the others no, punishment is double for him coz his brothers would be enjoying while hes in his room.

Spanking and such no longer work at their age altho my wife sometimes uses it...i prefer psychological punishments as they get the messsage thru better...

Even tho most kids their age have cell phonew, i made it clear it was not an option before 18th birthday. Call me a cave man but i survived 29 years of my life without it...so can they. I agree to many kids being spoilt by their parents these days and i see the results on the streets...

Im dreading the teen age years to be honest...Lebanon is facing a huge drug problem these days and im constantly worried abt this even tho we keep educating them abt the subject. I see myself conducting surprise and secret searches down the road...

Secret searches lmao hell yea

[Hazard]

I'm the guy that will remove the door from the hinges for a week if my daughter slams it.

If she has a car while living with me then ill be the guy who takes the wheels off if she abuses the privilege.

[austinite]

I'm the guy that will remove the door from the hinges for a week if my daughter slams it.

If she has a car while living with me then ill be the guy who takes the wheels off if she abuses the privilege.

It's funnier if you make where the door handle comes off when pulled.

[bass]

I think if its not done in a seriously abusive manner then it's a positive thing.
Far as I'm concerned I'm encountering Way way way too many kids that are so young and yet feel so entitled and are treated like royalty that they have a warped completely worped sense of reality and s superior or G complex that's dumbfounding.
these little kids have attitudes utterly repulsive.
It seems like parents no longer want to be parental anymore.
Like they just are concerned with being their kids best friend and liked by their kids - just is no more discipline or punishment guidance or even natural consequence. And believe me its so detrimental not to have these things in their lives.

So public acknowledgment of wrong doing and the shame and remorse that comes with it ... Is positive IF not done in a deliberate attempt to hurt or scar or degrade the kid.

well said Sexy, I agree with you. but here is how parents got to this point. listen and tell me who Harvey is talking about, what is the source of evil/destruction to our society/country?

Paul Harvey - If I Were The Devil 1965 - (BEST Restored Audio) - YouTube

[cgi]

Parents are definitely beign sissies these days. I don't know if I believe physical violence is the way to go. I'm not sure what my feelings are on public shaming either. I guess those are the options your reach when other preventative measures have failed. I think more important than anything a parent must be consistent and fair with their child. The child should know that if they take a certain action there will be a consequence. There shouldn't be random ad inconsistent punishments by a dumb parent, this will breed disrespect and no form of discipline in the child. If the parent is fair and consistent then you will have a good kid.

I'm not a parent but I've experimented tactics with younger folks and I can usually get them to be better behaved and obedient than their parents can. Some parents are just fricken lazy and don't want to spend the effort and time to raise a productive human being, especially the younger parents these days that post pictures of their kids on instagram and facebook every second with their new toys and stuff. They treat their kids like an accessory or toy, it's insane.

[Java Man]

When talk fails use force. Put her clothes back the way they belong, lock her wrists, put her in am arm bar and throw her in the car.

[GirlyGymRat]

I'm the guy that will remove the door from the hinges for a week if my daughter slams it.

If she has a car while living with me then ill be the guy who takes the wheels off if she abuses the privilege.

My dad took the door off the hinges when I locked it and wouldn't open it. I was 3. I got in trouble. There's something to be said about raising an independent daughter and you are in for some challenges.

I don't have any kids but am surrounded by gf who are raising their sons and daughters. None hit or spank kids however kids do know who is in charge, what the rules are, consequences for bad behavior and punishment is executed and reflects removal of privileges depending on what child luvs. Kids also know parents love them. They address me as Miss girlygymrat, extremely polite kids. I have observed my gf and husbands correct kids in front of me. The kids are embarrassed but the role of parents is to correct bad behavior.

On an aside. I was on flight in coach. Woman aside of me traveling with an almost 2 yo who was not so happy that her momma had to hold her. The mom kept apologizing to the daughter for not buying the daughter her own ticket. I couldn't believe it. The girl was kicking her feet squirming crying. Throwing toys screaming. Mommy was humiliated.

I am still bruised. Flight was FULL. I suggested to mom maybe meds would help. Meds for me. Lol

[Zodiac82]

It seems like parents no longer want to be parental anymore.
Like they just are concerned with being their kids best friend and liked by their kids - just is no more discipline or punishment guidance or even natural consequense.

this 100 times over...I tell my fiance she too worried about bein there friend instead of bein the mother which disciplines them....I couldn't care less if im "liked"....thats not my job as a father..my job is to give them guidance and make sure they go down the right path and do right