Sabotage by a Spouse or Significant Other

[lovbyts]

OK, Ill send them your way when I'm done.

[jsanman]

to me it sounds like she has a case of learned helplessness. As in shes felt defeated in trying to overcome her obesity so often that she subconsciously does not see a way out of it.
have you a local planet fitness ? it may be a small step to helping her get into the gym mindset, they place is far from the gym but the warm envirment helps neewbees get comfortable with weights and machines, everyone is fat there no one looks like they lift so new people never feel out of place
maybe you may want to also help with the groceries, it she cant help but enduldge herself in food find her food that is more nutritious and has less calories, many people who suffer from obesetiy have hyper eating because their food lacks micronutrion causing their bodies to feel like they are starving for food, when really they are starving for micronutiants

[Bert]

She sounds like a keeper to me. I wish someone cooked me food like that.

[trikydik]

I'll take the one on the right AND the one on the left.

- they look like teenagers... LOL

[gixxerboy1]

I never had a girlfriend try and sabotage me. Must like me going to the gym.
Now my wife is more into the gym and eating healthier then me. Im the bad influence

[DontTaseMeBro]

I think the sabotage thing is pretty common and usually unintentional. My first wife did the same.

Maybe try explaining why its important to you and adjusting things so yo can include her. Didn't work for me, but might help. In the end, where I was going, she couldn't follow We had to part ways after 9 years.

Good luck.

[trikydik]

came home from the gym tonight to fudge smothered short bread being baked.
drank my protein shake and grabbed a glass of tea to wash it down....