It's 2:39 AM and I'm feeling pretty damn lonely.

**jay94** · 06-24-2014, 12:44 AM

You guys probably don't know this, but I live in Quebec and it's the national holiday day here. All of my friends are out celebrating getting drunk and high and laid BUT I didn't go with them, instead I'm alone at home. Don't have a girlfriend either, and most of my family is on vacation. Why didn't I go with them? Well, because I knew that if I did, I would end up drinking alcohol. I always say that I won't drink, but I always end up doing so anyway because of our peer pressure, so I simply don't go out anymore, or at least not very often. I decided to stop drinking a few months ago because I think it's unhealthy and also because I wanted to get more serious about bodybuilding, and it's cutting season for me so I would simply hurt my weight loss gains and regret it afterwards.

I know I'm doing it for all the right reasons and that, in order to get results that others don't, you have to do things that others won't (such as not drinking), but still, it's pretty hard to be home all alone on a day of celebration.

That's all. Just wanted to share this with you guys.

**lovbyts** · 06-24-2014, 01:30 AM

Well since you knew you would give in to peer pressure yeah it's probably a good thing you didnt go. Dont let that keep you from having a good time and eating food that is not 100% healthy all the time, you need to enjoy life also or it's all for not.

A drink once in a while is also fine as long as you dont over do it but if you know you wont stop then it's good to just refrain. It's funny, once in a while I will have a drink (not get drunk) 4 or 5x a week for a couple of weeks and then start to wonder if I'm drinking to often then I will go a couple of weeks without having a drink not even thinking about it. It's good to at least be aware of how much you drink or dont.

I just got back from BC today

Happy Discovery Day

**MuscleInk** · 06-24-2014, 01:36 AM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

Well since you knew you would give in to peer pressure yeah it's probably a good thing you didnt go. Dont let that keep you from having a good time and eating food that is not 100% healthy all the time, you need to enjoy life also or it's all for not.

A drink once in a while is also fine as long as you dont over do it but if you know you wont stop then it's good to just refrain. It's funny, once in a while I will have a drink (not get drunk) 4 or 5x a week for a couple of weeks and then start to wonder if I'm drinking to often then I will go a couple of weeks without having a drink not even thinking about it. It's good to at least be aware of how much you drink or dont.

I just got back from BC today

Happy Discovery Day

I'm that way with Asian women. I have to avoid them or the rails come off and I make a lot of reckless decisions. I blame the Asian girls and those damn Asian pheromones they release. I'm simply helpless!

**jay94** · 06-24-2014, 02:03 AM

Originally Posted by MuscleInk

I'm that way with Asian women. I have to avoid them or the rails come off and I make a lot of reckless decisions. I blame the Asian girls and those damn Asian pheromones they release. I'm simply helpless!

Lol not sure if serious. I must say, the only women that I still find attractive even if they don't lift are the Asian ones. I'm not sure why o_o

**MuscleInk** · 06-24-2014, 02:09 AM

Originally Posted by jay94

Lol not sure if serious. I must say, the only women that I still find attractive even if they don't lift are the Asian ones. I'm not sure why o_o

Oh I am completely serious. I don't have yellow fever....I have the yellow PLAGUE. I have absolutely no will power with hot Asian chics - and yes, the ones in the gym are very distracting.

It's the damn asian pheromones I'm telling you. It's like their venom!!!!!!

**jay94** · 06-24-2014, 02:15 AM

Originally Posted by MuscleInk

Oh I am completely serious. I don't have yellow fever....I have the yellow PLAGUE. I have absolutely no will power with hot Asian chics - and yes, the ones in the gym are very distracting.

It's the damn asian pheromones I'm telling you. It's like their venom!!!!!!

Man I feel you lol. I'm moving to Shanghai in a couple years, after college. I can't wait to see pretty Asian girls everywhere.

**kronik420** · 06-24-2014, 02:47 AM

Originally Posted by jay94

You guys probably don't know this, but I live in Quebec and it's the national holiday day here. All of my friends are out celebrating getting drunk and high and laid BUT I didn't go with them, instead I'm alone at home. Don't have a girlfriend either, and most of my family is on vacation. Why didn't I go with them? Well, because I knew that if I did, I would end up drinking alcohol. I always say that I won't drink, but I always end up doing so anyway because of our peer pressure, so I simply don't go out anymore, or at least not very often. I decided to stop drinking a few months ago because I think it's unhealthy and also because I wanted to get more serious about bodybuilding, and it's cutting season for me so I would simply hurt my weight loss gains and regret it afterwards.

I know I'm doing it for all the right reasons and that, in order to get results that others don't, you have to do things that others won't (such as not drinking), but still, it's pretty hard to be home all alone on a day of celebration.

That's all. Just wanted to share this with you guys.

this is why im glad i didn't start 'body building' until i was 22-23..

party'd hard from 17-21, your missing out on the best time of your life jay94..

**jay94** · 06-24-2014, 03:02 AM

Originally Posted by kronik420

this is why im glad i didn't start 'body building' until i was 22-23..

party'd hard from 17-21, your missing out on the best time of your life jay94..

Meh, I don't know man... I did party hard for a while but it didn't really make me happy. I was only a little less depressed, but still depressed. Working hard towards the body of my dreams is what makes me happy.

**kronik420** · 06-24-2014, 03:06 AM

Originally Posted by jay94

Meh, I don't know man... I did party hard for a while but it didn't really make me happy. I was only a little less depressed, but still depressed. Working hard towards the body of my dreams is what makes me happy.

then go for it

**lovbyts** · 06-24-2014, 03:36 AM

Originally Posted by MuscleInk

I'm that way with Asian women. I have to avoid them or the rails come off and I make a lot of reckless decisions. I blame the Asian girls and those damn Asian pheromones they release. I'm simply helpless!

LOL and you know I have the same problem. I make it 100x worse this weekend going to BC. I went with the wife to a little gathering that was 80% Asian/Filipino women/girls. Yeah it was a tough weekend.

**jay94** · 06-24-2014, 03:42 AM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

LOL and you know I have the same problem. I make it 100x worse this weekend going to BC. I went with the wife to a little gathering that was 80% Asian/Filipino women/girls. Yeah it was a tough weekend.

BC a.k.a Asianland. It's so close yet so far away from where I live. In the same country but still a 6 hour flight to get there.

**diesel101** · 06-24-2014, 06:25 AM

Good for you OP sounds like you made the right decision.

**DeniZen** · 06-24-2014, 07:18 AM

learn how go out and not drink. It's easier than you think. Plus its fun to watch your drunk friends make asses of themselves.

**kelkel** · 06-24-2014, 07:53 AM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

LOL and you know I have the same problem. I make it 100x worse this weekend going to BC. I went with the wife to a little gathering that was 80% Asian/Filipino women/girls. Yeah it was a tough weekend.

Take me with you guys next time.

**MuscleInk** · 06-24-2014, 07:56 AM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

LOL and you know I have the same problem. I make it 100x worse this weekend going to BC. I went with the wife to a little gathering that was 80% Asian/Filipino women/girls. Yeah it was a tough weekend.

BC is great - my favorite province. I told my HAW I'd take her there eventually......but in hindsight, now I'm thinking that might be like taking sand to the beach.

**noon** · 06-24-2014, 08:25 AM

I got nuthin...

**lovbyts** · 06-24-2014, 08:51 AM

Originally Posted by MuscleInk

BC is great - my favorite province. I told my HAW I'd take her there eventually......but in hindsight, now I'm thinking that might be like taking sand to the beach.

Well I have to say at least mine was probably in the top 5% in looks but still.... I was having a difficult time not starring at a couple though. One was a dead ringer for an ex of mine although she was Thai and this one was a couple of years younger and there was another one I would like to be future ex.

Another nice thing about Asian/Filipino gatherings, there is always a LOT of food.

**Rwy** · 06-24-2014, 09:32 AM

Drinking absolutely sucks. I went out Saturday night and got ripped. I am still hungover. I barely ate anything on Sunday and have eaten like complete shit Monday and Tuesday.

Try out all those online dating sites. Everyone dates through the internet. I would have been banging girls every night if those sites were around in my hey day

**MuscleInk** · 06-24-2014, 09:33 AM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

Well I have to say at least mine was probably in the top 5% in looks but still.... I was having a difficult time not starring at a couple though. One was a dead ringer for an ex of mine although she was Thai and this one was a couple of years younger and there was another one I would like to be future ex.

Another nice thing about Asian/Filipino gatherings, there is always a LOT of food.

I'd be like a bobble head doll with my head bouncing all over the place looking at every Asian chic that walked by. lol

**Honkey_Kong** · 06-24-2014, 03:27 PM

Originally Posted by jay94

You guys probably don't know this, but I live in Quebec and it's the national holiday day here. All of my friends are out celebrating getting drunk and high and laid BUT I didn't go with them, instead I'm alone at home. Don't have a girlfriend either, and most of my family is on vacation. Why didn't I go with them? Well, because I knew that if I did, I would end up drinking alcohol. I always say that I won't drink, but I always end up doing so anyway because of our peer pressure, so I simply don't go out anymore, or at least not very often. I decided to stop drinking a few months ago because I think it's unhealthy and also because I wanted to get more serious about bodybuilding, and it's cutting season for me so I would simply hurt my weight loss gains and regret it afterwards.

I know I'm doing it for all the right reasons and that, in order to get results that others don't, you have to do things that others won't (such as not drinking), but still, it's pretty hard to be home all alone on a day of celebration.

That's all. Just wanted to share this with you guys.

Jay, you don't need to drink when you go out with your friends to have a good time. But if that's what they want to do and you have goals of bodybuilding, what I suggest is that you make some new friends. Believe it or not, there are other guys out there that have the same interests and goals as you. It might take some effort, but it'll be worth it.

Now as far as it being late at night and you're all alone, either get to bed or try out one of those dating sites and see if you can get some chick to come over.

**Times Roman** · 06-24-2014, 04:37 PM

maybe we can send Shol'va over and give you a big wet kiss?

**Bigshotvictoria** · 06-24-2014, 08:00 PM

Originally Posted by jay94

BC a.k.a Asianland. It's so close yet so far away from where I live. In the same country but still a 6 hour flight to get there.

Not BC, Just Vancouver. I was the only white guy on the east side.

**Hazard** · 06-24-2014, 09:28 PM

Originally Posted by Rwy

Drinking absolutely sucks. I went out Saturday night and got ripped. I am still hungover. I barely ate anything on Sunday and have eaten like complete shit Monday and Tuesday.

Try out all those online dating sites. Everyone dates through the internet. I would have been banging girls every night if those sites were around in my hey day

X2 with this advice.....

I don't really have fun drinking. If I have more than a few beers I get super tired. I hate the feeling of being drunk anyways. I don't like looking "fvcked up" around people. I'm always aware of my surroundings and like to keep as much control of my situation as possible. I can't just "let go" and drink till I can't walk and have fun doing so.

In regards to the dating sites..... I only tried em when I was 18-20. Got laid pretty easily..... Especially with milfs lol. In hindsight I was kind of naive tho. I went to quite a few houses without anyone knowing I was going. Anything coulda happened and no one would know what happened to me.

**jay94** · 06-25-2014, 02:07 AM

Originally Posted by Hazard

X2 with this advice.....

I don't really have fun drinking. If I have more than a few beers I get super tired. I hate the feeling of being drunk anyways. I don't like looking "fvcked up" around people. I'm always aware of my surroundings and like to keep as much control of my situation as possible. I can't just "let go" and drink till I can't walk and have fun doing so.

In regards to the dating sites..... I only tried em when I was 18-20. Got laid pretty easily..... Especially with milfs lol. In hindsight I was kind of naive tho. I went to quite a few houses without anyone knowing I was going. Anything coulda happened and no one would know what happened to me.

My problem is, I'm not really interested in sex. I know it sounds strange, but I've been aware of this problem since I was 18 or so. Even younger, I always heard my friends talk about sex and it didn't appeal to me very much. There's a lot of girls that I find intelligent and attractive, but it never makes me want to get in bed with them. Don't want to turn this into a sex discussion lol but... I don't watch a lot of porn either, I just don't get turned on, ever.

And in case you're wondering, I'm not a virgin either. I've had a few times, but it was never because I wanted to, it was simply to please others. Personally, I've never gotten anything pleasurable out of having sex.

**Honkey_Kong** · 06-25-2014, 02:28 AM

Originally Posted by Hazard

X2 with this advice.....

I don't really have fun drinking. If I have more than a few beers I get super tired. I hate the feeling of being drunk anyways. I don't like looking "fvcked up" around people. I'm always aware of my surroundings and like to keep as much control of my situation as possible. I can't just "let go" and drink till I can't walk and have fun doing so.

In regards to the dating sites..... I only tried em when I was 18-20. Got laid pretty easily..... Especially with milfs lol. In hindsight I was kind of naive tho. I went to quite a few houses without anyone knowing I was going. Anything coulda happened and no one would know what happened to me.

Yeah, what if DSM tricked you in to going to his house?