Telling the wife

**Dodger Blue** · 02-08-2006, 07:25 PM

I'am still struggling with wether or not to tell the wife. I'am in my third week of a test enth, and eq cycle (and do have my nolvadex and clomid) Been married for ten years and know she wouldnt be thrilled with the idea. Any others been in the same predicament? Let me know what you think

**legobricks** · 02-08-2006, 07:34 PM

I would tell her if you know how she reacts. If you think she would kill you, skin your body, then make herself a stuffed YOU, then dont do it. Just keep telling her that its all creatine. Buuuut, 10years of marraige...I would tell her, ya gotta have some trust!

**Remington** · 02-08-2006, 07:34 PM

Should have told her right after u did the first shot.
Not the kind of secret u wanna keep from her.

**legobricks** · 02-08-2006, 07:35 PM

If she was a girlfriend, then i would say keep that sh*t to yourself. But the wife I would def. tell. I was just kidding bout my last post!

**Kale** · 02-08-2006, 07:37 PM

I dont tell mine because I am not interested in the shit I would get back.

**SwoleDogg** · 02-08-2006, 07:38 PM

dont tell , if you do, it will rip you apart!

**damiongage** · 02-08-2006, 07:39 PM

Originally Posted by Remington

Should have told her right after u did the first shot.
Not the kind of secret u wanna keep from her.

Gotta some what disagree here. Should of told long before you even ordered your gear. You are willing to jepordize her trust in you, and a 10yr mariage, over a few pounds of muscle??? I am also married (8yrs) I educated my wife and had her blessing before I started.

My sugestion is to stop you cycle, until you have her blessing or you are really willing to trash your relationship over your gera.....JMHO

**damiongage** · 02-08-2006, 07:41 PM

Originally Posted by SwoleDogg

dont tell , if you do, it will rip you apart!

Dishonesty, disception, and lies are better?

**sp9** · 02-08-2006, 07:41 PM

Telling anyone is a bad idea. Remember 50% of first marriages fail, 75% of second marriages (in the US). What you are doing is illegal drug use. A judge would look at it as if it was somethng like Heroin...people who don't understand, don't draw differences between one type of illegal drug and another as far as how they consider a person to be a drug user or not.

If you have children, or planning on havng any, this is another reason not to tell. Should your marriage fail in the future for some unforeseen reason you are putting your rights to see and spend time with you children at risk because your wife could bring up your drug use during the divorce proceedings which all go in the public record. Your employer, health insurance co. etc. could one day take a look at those records.

I always opt to tell no one, ever.

**Kale** · 02-08-2006, 07:42 PM

Originally Posted by damiongage

Gotta some what disagree here. Should of told long before you even ordered your gear. You are willing to jepordize her trust in you, and a 10yr mariage, over a few pounds of muscle??? I am also married (8yrs) I educated my wife and had her blessing before I started.

My sugestion is to stop you cycle, until you have her blessing or you are really willing to trash your relationship over your gera.....JMHO

Thats fine unless you have one that thinks she knows everything

**scotttiger54** · 02-08-2006, 07:45 PM

gotta agree w/ damion, you've already broke the rules, stop now and forget you ever started until you feel like being truthful

**damiongage** · 02-08-2006, 07:46 PM

Originally Posted by Kale

Thats fine unless you have one that thinks she knows everything

I am lucky i guess, however if I did not have her blessing....I would not have started. She means alot more to me than running the gear does.

**musselman** · 02-08-2006, 07:46 PM

i told my wife and pointed at my clean record at "knowing what I'm doing"...

so if you don't have the habit of doing stupid things... try to convince her that you got it all figured out...

**GQ-Bouncer** · 02-08-2006, 07:50 PM

Originally Posted by Dodger Blue

I'am still struggling with wether or not to tell the wife. I'am in my third week of a test enth, and eq cycle (and do have my nolvadex and clomid) Been married for ten years and know she wouldnt be thrilled with the idea. Any others been in the same predicament? Let me know what you think

lol, well if your worried about her opinion, i can tell you 2 obviously have a good friendship

i dont know what your morning routine is, but when you get up to make the coffee & you have the paper, quote a world political situation " Jesus christ.... 10 Guatamalen peacekeepers were killed in the Congo by drug dealers!!.... oh btw, i started doing steroids... JESUS CHRIST SADDAM HUSSIEN IS SUEING THE "COALITION OF THE WILLING".... oh hey, looks like the dodgers are predicting a good season... the dog looked pretty tired earlier, fatigue is a sign that he might have cancer.. looks like Bill had to pay the bookies 300 bucks for the superbowl, told him not to bet... "

that's how i always communicate if somethings important

**Kale** · 02-08-2006, 07:52 PM

Originally Posted by GQ-Bouncer

lol, well if your worried about her opinion, i can tell you 2 obviously have a good friendship

i dont know what your morning routine is, but when you get up to make the coffee & you have the paper, quote a world political situation " Jesus christ.... 10 Guatamalen peacekeepers were killed in the Congo by drug dealers!!.... oh btw, i started doing steroids... JESUS CHRIST SADDAM HUSSIEN IS SUEING THE "COALITION OF THE WILLING".... oh hey, looks like the dodgers are predicting a good season... the dog looked pretty tired earlier, fatigue is a sign that he might have cancer.. looks like Bill had to pay the bookies 300 bucks for the superbowl, told him not to bet... "

that's how i always communicate if somethings important

I fu cking love it !!!!

**scotttiger54** · 02-08-2006, 07:56 PM

Originally Posted by GQ-Bouncer

lol, well if your worried about her opinion, i can tell you 2 obviously have a good friendship

i dont know what your morning routine is, but when you get up to make the coffee & you have the paper, quote a world political situation " Jesus christ.... 10 Guatamalen peacekeepers were killed in the Congo by drug dealers!!.... oh btw, i started doing steroids... JESUS CHRIST SADDAM HUSSIEN IS SUEING THE "COALITION OF THE WILLING".... oh hey, looks like the dodgers are predicting a good season... the dog looked pretty tired earlier, fatigue is a sign that he might have cancer.. looks like Bill had to pay the bookies 300 bucks for the superbowl, told him not to bet... "

that's how i always communicate if somethings important

thats good stuff

**Deal Me In** · 02-08-2006, 07:57 PM

I'm just curious how you hide something like that from a wife. I'm not married but my roommate knows about my gear. I don't know how I would explain the vials of GH in the fridge and all the boxes of needles in my closet. A girlfriend who doesn't live with you, I understand.

I guess I'm just curious how you hide something like that from your wife. Plus, it has been my experience with women that I would rather tell them and get the fight over with then get caught lying.

Let me know how you hide that.

**Kale** · 02-08-2006, 08:05 PM

I keep mine at work locked up and shoot it there. There is an executive bathroom there. If I do do it at home I keep it in a GNC Mega Men bottle and that is put in amongst all my vitamins out in the open, I have about 10 bottles of different shit in my bathroom (we have seperate bathrooms) I dont do HGH because I can hide it in the fridge. I shoot when I get up which is an hour before she does.

**Teabagger** · 02-08-2006, 08:06 PM

You are playing with fire dude. I've been married for 27 years to the same woman and if I have learned one thing in all those years it is this...women don't ever, ever, forget a lie...never. They may forgive you...kind of...but they never forget. She will never totally trust you again in anything!

You have already started, you're early on in the cycle. If you think you can keep that a total secret for another 8 to 9 weeks...you may want to take a chance. I doubt you can though.

I would stop, never tell her, I say again never tell her. Bring up the fact of aas at sometime in the future and work to convince her its ok and its something you would like to try...only try..for a short time.

See, to her you are her security, father of her children, best friend, lover, etc..and in her mind you are fvcking with each one of those by doing aas...

DON'T CONFESS....it may be good for the soul...go see a priest...but it is hell on a marriage.

My 2 cents...good luck.

**aLLSTaRWRX** · 02-08-2006, 08:08 PM

Originally Posted by Deal Me In

I'm just curious how you hide something like that from a wife. I'm not married but my roommate knows about my gear. I don't know how I would explain the vials of GH in the fridge and all the boxes of needles in my closet. A girlfriend who doesn't live with you, I understand.

I guess I'm just curious how you hide something like that from your wife. Plus, it has been my experience with women that I would rather tell them and get the fight over with then get caught lying.

Let me know how you hide that.

i agree with this...how in the hell can you hide your cycle from your wife. I have all my stuff neatly sorted out and organized and stored in a safe location. I know she would find it, theres to much to hide!

I tried hiding it from her, but i couldnt anymore and had to tell her. She wasnt upset at the fact i was doing it...she was just upset i didnt tell her outright i was going to. Couple days later and she was fine of course, just some helpful advise.

**clipper** · 02-08-2006, 08:09 PM

I told mine see did not agree at first. But after some taking she said ok. But she still had some worries about the hole thing. They were the hole "roid rage " thing. And getting sick. So I told her if I got those things she clould say stop, and I would.

As for your situation, stop now and talk to her, she might surprise you about the hole thing. 10 years is alot of trust to give up.

**clipper** · 02-08-2006, 08:14 PM

I agree with tea bagger....never tell her....NEVER!!! Just stop and tell her you were thinking of trying it.

**goalseeker** · 02-08-2006, 08:20 PM

thats how I started.. told her I was thinking of trying it.. I let her have her little huff, then waited a week and said, you know, Im really considering it. then Alll I had to do was educate her, as a matter of fact I showed her this site after my 6 months of researching, and she understood how safe some of them are.. Plus I got 24 years with her under my belt, so I know how to shmooze her over...LOL But I made sure I told her..Thats one less thing she can yell at me about..LOL

BG · 02-08-2006, 08:25 PM

I hid the 1st one, was much happier when I told her about the second (well to her 1st

). Believe me, she'll know somethings up when test kicks in and your breaking her back in bed 7 days a week.

**DBflash21** · 02-08-2006, 08:39 PM

Originally Posted by sp9

Telling anyone is a bad idea. Remember 50% of first marriages fail, 75% of second marriages (in the US). What you are doing is illegal drug use. A judge would look at it as if it was somethng like Heroin...people who don't understand, don't draw differences between one type of illegal drug and another as far as how they consider a person to be a drug user or not.

If you have children, or planning on havng any, this is another reason not to tell. Should your marriage fail in the future for some unforeseen reason you are putting your rights to see and spend time with you children at risk because your wife could bring up your drug use during the divorce proceedings which all go in the public record. Your employer, health insurance co. etc. could one day take a look at those records.

I always opt to tell no one, ever.

Whoa bro that is a full on story. I'm not trying to sound like a jerk but for all that to happen is pretty far fetched IMO... "then this might happen...then you might go to court...then you might lose the rights to see your children" Anways, I've been with a girl for quite sometime (basically married) and I doubt a wife you've been with for 10 years is going to take this to court and try to screw you over if she really loves you. I know my girl wouldn't do that. It's not like you cheated on her, or commited such a terrible crime. I know they are illegal drugs and can be used in the same sentence as heroin, meth etc.. but I think his wife would forgive him, specially if he's only in his 3rd week. Well to wrap this thing up, tell her. Communicate. Say "hunny, I've started using steroids , I'm in my 3rd week, and I know it's not safe, but I wanted to run it by you anyways" At least you'll have it out in the open, and you can take it from there. Don't hide, like someone said what is a couple of pounds of muscle for your marriage? That is just my 2 cents, sorry if i offended anyone.

**TADOLFI** · 02-08-2006, 09:08 PM

Originally Posted by Teabagger

You are playing with fire dude. I've been married for 27 years to the same woman and if I have learned one thing in all those years it is this...women don't ever, ever, forget a lie...never. They may forgive you...kind of...but they never forget. She will never totally trust you again in anything!

See, to her you are her security, father of her children, best friend, lover, etc..and in her mind you are fvcking with each one of those by doing aas...

My 2 cents...good luck.

Nuff Said!
That is not just 2 cents brother - that is priceless!

**Igifuno** · 02-08-2006, 09:18 PM

I expected to see an array of different opinions on this thread.. and I wasn't let down.

All individuals and couples have their own personalities, some of which are dynamic in their own ways. I think this is an individual decision that no one can make for you.. for some, it would go over fine, for others.. fatal. I've been married for 7 years... she knows, doesn't like it but respects the fact that i told her and that i keep it to myself. She couldn't find my gear if she had to (i don't quite know how i'm going to handle the IGF-1 cycle coming up which needs refrigeration), i inject when no one is home if possible and if someone is home, in a locked bathroom with no evidence left behind. and i never talk about it unless she brings it up. to each his own though... it can be a tough decision.

**Grappler13** · 02-08-2006, 09:54 PM

I'm not telling and she sees me eat 7k calories/day, live at the gym, etc.. so the gains at least are backed up by my effort. And shit, everyone has secrets. I posted the same question a while back and got alot of the same responses as you. It's your wife so you decide. I'm not telling mine and if she asks, it'd be hard to lie to her face. She did once and I laughed it off and said I must really have good genes.

My wife got some boobs installed a few years ago and I can guarantee that she would see the gear differently although all she had to do was go to sleep for two hours and take vicodin for a week. Hell, I work my ass off for my gains even with a broken ankle mid-cycle and she put on more weight in the boobs that I have on the test-e. Don't tell. IMHO

**Unoid** · 02-08-2006, 09:57 PM

Originally Posted by damiongage

Gotta some what disagree here. Should of told long before you even ordered your gear. You are willing to jepordize her trust in you, and a 10yr mariage, over a few pounds of muscle??? I am also married (8yrs) I educated my wife and had her blessing before I started.

My sugestion is to stop you cycle, until you have her blessing or you are really willing to trash your relationship over your gera.....JMHO

The wife needs to be understanding also. If a man choses to increase his hormones by taking illegal drugs then its his business. A wife would understand why her husband might hid eit, she'd freak because she doens't know the truth about them.

theres a middle of compromise.

**Igifuno** · 02-08-2006, 10:09 PM

my wife looooooooooooooooooooves the sex enough when i'm cycling to deal with it... i'm a god damn animal...lol.

**sp9** · 02-08-2006, 10:21 PM

Originally Posted by DBflash21

Whoa bro that is a full on story.

I hear you, I am into risk management. Minimizing all aspects of risk.

Loose lips sink ships. Human beings follow human nature, which is to tell others about things they know that other people are doing illegally. Eveyone's choice with how they handle it. If no one knows what you are doing then there is no way it can leak. Love minimizing risk.

The percentages of marriages that break up that I spoke of are facts. Once two people are not getting along, things can spiral out of control. I am saying that a divorce will come up for many reasons, not steroid use . But once you get down to who gets, what in the settlement, child visitation and retirement investments, you better believe one person might use that illegal drug use info to bribe the other to get what they want.
No kids, no networth, nothing to worry about.
Kids or a hefty net worth from a life time of investing...lots to protect.

**kswat** · 02-08-2006, 10:47 PM

My wife is very luke warm to my aas usage. Kind of looks at it like a hobby that I have that she doesn't like, but she can't do anything about. It's a marriage, be open. If she hates the idea, then you can't do it again. Maybe she likes it and you're good to go.

**Igifuno** · 02-08-2006, 10:52 PM

Originally Posted by kswat

My wife is very luke warm to my aas usage. Kind of looks at it like a hobby that I have that she doesn't like, but she can't do anything about. It's a marriage, be open. If she hates the idea, then you can't do it again. Maybe she likes it and you're good to go.

like i said, all couples are different. my wife dosn't care for the idea, but i wouldn't stop. she would never demand i do, but if she did..... i don't think it would be a second before i told her that it wouldn't happen. its like me telling her to stop shopping.. not gonna happen.

**atomicpunk** · 02-08-2006, 10:56 PM

I can't speak from the marital standpoint. I have thought about telling girlfriends about it though. But, then I realize that would be as smart as telling them how many times I cheated on them. Some things can't be explained or rationalized. You made a choice and she won't understand. 1st because she's not you . 2nd because she's a woman. 3rd because of the media portrayal of steroids . DON'T SAY ANYTHING!!

**MorganKane** · 02-08-2006, 11:18 PM

Originally Posted by Dodger Blue

I'am still struggling with wether or not to tell the wife. I'am in my third week of a test enth, and eq cycle (and do have my nolvadex and clomid) Been married for ten years and know she wouldnt be thrilled with the idea. Any others been in the same predicament? Let me know what you think

Show her the HBO video.
It changed my wife for sure.
I also bought the Anabolic Steroids book and she has been reading it.
She will do my injections from now on.

**DBflash21** · 02-08-2006, 11:51 PM

Originally Posted by sp9

I hear you, I am into risk management. Minimizing all aspects of risk.

Loose lips sink ships. Human beings follow human nature, which is to tell others about things they know that other people are doing illegally. Eveyone's choice with how they handle it. If no one knows what you are doing then there is no way it can leak. Love minimizing risk.

The percentages of marriages that break up that I spoke of are facts. Once two people are not getting along, things can spiral out of control. I am saying that a divorce will come up for many reasons, not steroid use . But once you get down to who gets, what in the settlement, child visitation and retirement investments, you better believe one person might use that illegal drug use info to bribe the other to get what they want.
No kids, no networth, nothing to worry about.
Kids or a hefty net worth from a life time of investing...lots to protect.

Interesting. I respect that, and sounds very interesting and rational. Like you said human nature is to just believe what you want to believe and not look at other aspects. I wasn't trying to bash you, but good info!

Anyways, how could your wife/girlfriend/spouse ever prove it if it came down to a court room, or bribe? unless she took pictures or something, or they tested you right after a cycle there would be absolutely no proof. It becomes "he say...she say" so therefor I think you're good to go, and you might as well just tell her. If she decides to turn on you, just make sure you wait 3 months untill it clears out of the system. Did anyone ever think about that?

**sp9** · 02-09-2006, 07:24 AM

Originally Posted by DBflash21

Interesting. I respect that, and sounds very interesting and rational. Like you said human nature is to just believe what you want to believe and not look at other aspects. I wasn't trying to bash you, but good info!

Anyways, how could your wife/girlfriend/spouse ever prove it if it came down to a court room, or bribe? unless she took pictures or something, or they tested you right after a cycle there would be absolutely no proof. It becomes "he say...she say" so therefor I think you're good to go, and you might as well just tell her. If she decides to turn on you, just make sure you wait 3 months untill it clears out of the system. Did anyone ever think about that?

Let just say, I know this person, we can call her "sister". Well my sister and this other person "brother in law" were arguing, he said he would take custody of their 2 year old called "nephew". He uses a particular illegal drug. She made it clear to him that if he tried, his drug use would be brought into the legal discussions. Not only him but she knows several people who provide him with these drugs, and she would name them all. He promptly shut up about it. They have been together for over 10 years and as madly in love as some of you who now think there is no way your significant other would do anything to you.

Remember, even if you are doing online transactions, a wife/gf can find out emails, lists you may print out, take pictures of supplies, have a professional examine your hard drive, etc. All I am saying is be careful and if you tell no one, and act appropriatley, with any pieces of evidence you minimize anything coming back to haunt you later.

And remember, most non-violent criminals including people who use illegal substances are caught for one reason...they couldn't keep their mouth shut about what they were doing.

**Dodger Blue** · 02-09-2006, 12:39 PM

Thanks so much for the responses. I appreciate it

**LAW** · 02-09-2006, 02:15 PM

Originally Posted by sp9

Let just say, I know this person, we can call her "sister". Well my sister and this other person "brother in law" were arguing, he said he would take custody of their 2 year old called "nephew". He uses a particular illegal drug. She made it clear to him that if he tried, his drug use would be brought into the legal discussions. Not only him but she knows several people who provide him with these drugs, and she would name them all. He promptly shut up about it. They have been together for over 10 years and as madly in love as some of you who now think there is no way your significant other would do anything to you.

Remember, even if you are doing online transactions, a wife/gf can find out emails, lists you may print out, take pictures of supplies, have a professional examine your hard drive, etc. All I am saying is be careful and if you tell no one, and act appropriatley, with any pieces of evidence you minimize anything coming back to haunt you later.

And remember, most non-violent criminals including people who use illegal substances are caught for one reason...they couldn't keep their mouth shut about what they were doing.

Very well said. My son got caught because his buddy's x-girlfriend ratted . Now facing jail time and lots of $ for attorneys. I am so pissed at this bitch for doing that to my sons life.