Figured you guys could help

[Hunter]

First off I lost my father who I was extremely close to earlier this year and I lost my grandfather about 4 weeks ago. Both where very very big supporters of my mma career. I feel kinda lost without them. I am still training but I dont know if I want to compete. Figured you guys might have some words of wisdom for me becouse right now I am on the fence.

[horse choker]

the best thing i could tell u bro is use your mma to get through this tuff time. this could be the edge u need to rip guys in the ring, all the anger and sadness u have punish your apponiant. i just hope u and i dont fight each other anytime soon.
I know its not the same but i just had to put my dog to sleep because she had cancer. that was really hard for me becuase it was the first person(sorta) i had to let go of. took all the anger and had the best workouts ive ever had. just remember that they were big supporters then and they still are.

[Lexed]

you should be using that as your advantage when your pounding somones ass

[test_cyp]

Sorry about your losses

Since they supported you, but no longer with you.....dedicate your training and the spirit of competition for them. You know it would make them proud to know you kept plugging away at a goal you set for yourself.

Hard times like these are what define us as a person. Stay determined and stay focused. Once you look back on things, I'm sure you'll have made the right decision.

[Patches24]

My take is that you should compete if it's what you want to do, regardless of what your relatives supported and whether or not they're still alive. If you had enough interest in this sport to get as far as you've gone (and I'm not sure how far exactly that is), any drop in interest might just be temporary. So I would tend to lean toward competing, if that's what you felt like doing before. Anyhow good luck with it all.

[jbarkley]

I'm really sorry to hear of your losses. You have dedicated the better part of your grown life to martial training....it's been obvious to me in watching your post that your heart is truly in MMA. I know as a father of grown men myself that you always want for your children the absolute best no matter what their goals are. No one is ever going to take the place of your Father of Grandfather, however I feel sure there are others out there that would love to see you continue with your fighting goals. I for one would love to see you compete and continue with your MMA goals. If I can ever help you with anything don't hesitate to ask.

[SMAN12b]

You know they are BOTH still supporting you, and they are watching you, so whatever you choose to do, they will be there smiling down at you or laugh-ing ....
Follow your heart, follow YOUR dreams and know they are never far from your side guiding you , nudging you when you feel like you can't go on....so just be open to their presence.......

Luv ya little brother........

[Logan13]

First off I lost my father who I was extremely close to earlier this year and I lost my grandfather about 4 weeks ago. Both where very very big supporters of my mma career. I feel kinda lost without them. I am still training but I dont know if I want to compete. Figured you guys might have some words of wisdom for me becouse right now I am on the fence.

what would they want you to do?

[Hunter]

what would they want you to do?

well of course they would want me to but logan its just not the same without them there. My dad was my wrestling coach so we where extremely close and my grandpa started me in boxing so we where close not to mention i worked with my grandpa my entire life its just rough.

[Quil]

Probably not a decision you're going to be able to make in a day, or even a week or a month. Take your time to decide.

Sorry to hear of your losses. Stay strong.

[armbar83]

hey bud, youve given me good advice in the past so ill try to do the same. i would tell you to try and separate these two aspects of your life. it will be difficult because they were a part of this aspect of your life but i think it would be best to try and work through the loss as best you can and then gauge where your at with fighting. imo the worst thing you could do is try to use the losses as some kind of motivation or something and keep dragging your hurt into each session in the gym and never really get the most out of it. if it was me id take a little time off. you sound kind of burnt out and its understandable, this is a tough f*cking sport we are a part of and it will wear you down emotionally. add on top of that losing two core people in your life and things can get confusing. take a couple weeks off, go on a fishing trip, try a new hobbie, do something creative, whatever...just try to get your mind off of training and the loss. after a week or so, youll get some perspective and know what to do from there, if your anything like me youll be excited to get back in there and bang a couple heads...

good luck man, seriously, pm me if i can help you out at all, maybe with a new hobby recommendation or something

arm

[Hunter]

I think I am going to put some new stuff on my truck. Do some cat fishing, maybe go out and party some show you city folk how we shoot whiskey(pot shot aimed at sman). I am going to take maybe like 3-4 weeks off and just think about my next step. Right now I am probably 3-4 years away from being ufc level. I have some other personal sh$t to sort out right now but unlike lawman or foska I dont keep a journal in the lounge so if I ever really get bored I will post up that cl&stter **** for you guys. I will keep running and lifting but really take some time from sparring and such just stop and think. Thank you all.

[Logan13]

well of course they would want me to but logan its just not the same without them there. My dad was my wrestling coach so we where extremely close and my grandpa started me in boxing so we where close not to mention i worked with my grandpa my entire life its just rough.

I do understand your dilemma and your sadness, but unfortunately there probably is no answer that will ease your grief. What motivated you to fight in the first place, was it for you or your dad and grandpa? I am sure that they would be proud of you regardless of your decision. Take some time off to reflect, just don't let time off make you lazy, seriously. I was the #1 155#'er for a local well-known team here in Iowa. I quit fighting in 1999, when my daughter was born and my career took off, with the plan to come back after awhile. I got lazy and awhile became 8 years.

[zimmy]

i know it's tough man....especially since training has so much to do with mental state... I'm not gonna say to train through it...or to take time off... i'm gonna suggest you that you do whatever your heart tells you to do. Listen to your heart man... it already knows what you want to do, just got to really hear.

good luck either way brother.

[rockinred]

Sorry to hear about your loss....

I was not into anything except lifting weights when I lost my daughter a while back and I needed to occupy my mind since then so I did not stop... things change and you change... there is no right or wrong thing to do.. my advice would be to not get into the MMA if your heart is not in it... getting knocked around (contact sport) because of lack of drive can make things worse and make you not feel so good about yourself.. I understand how you say "it is just not the same"...lots of things won't be the same.. Just try to be a better person from your experiences is all you can do in life..

You will know what to do in time...be strong.. God Bless.