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    Fiance thinks I have low t

    I guess she was reading about the symptoms of low T, now she is convinced, in her mind that I have low T. I think one of the reasons she thinks this is because sometimes I don't want sex more than twice week, maybe she would be happier if I wanted it 5 days a week. Anyway I guess the next step is to get the blood tested for T levels. If it does come back as low T, what is the current "standard" treatment, injection, patch, or gel?

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    Google and take the "ADAM" questionnaire and see how you do.
    Treatment can range from gels, creams, pellets (under skin) to injections.
    Let's not worry about treatment just yet. Take that quiz and if needed get the blood work listed in the Finding A Doc sticky thread. That's step one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kelkel View Post
    Google and take the "ADAM" questionnaire and see how you do.
    Treatment can range from gels, creams, pellets (under skin) to injections.
    Let's not worry about treatment just yet. Take that quiz and if needed get the blood work listed in the Finding A Doc sticky thread. That's step one.
    Thanks, I just took the questionnaire, the results were that I potentially have low T, so now I will proceed to find a Dr.

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    Aren't you just coming off a SARM cycle or something where you said you felt it shut you down?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Back In Black View Post
    Aren't you just coming off a SARM cycle or something where you said you felt it shut you down?
    Yes, but I dont think I got shut down too hard, I'm already feeling better than I was a few days ago on cycle. The fiance has been saying for a while that I am not sexually healthy. She just didn't know what it was until she read about low T. I answered the question the way I would have answered before my cycle.

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    I would just order the male hormone panel from private labs for $160 ish after 10% discount and have the results emailed to you. You can then take it to the doc after posting results here to see if there is a reason to move to the next step.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wannabebig2 View Post
    Yes, but I dont think I got shut down too hard, I'm already feeling better than I was a few days ago on cycle. The fiance has been saying for a while that I am not sexually healthy. She just didn't know what it was until she read about low T. I answered the question the way I would have answered before my cycle.
    BW is a great tool but if you are just getting off sarms you just need to be patient for a while. Buy some cialis, ride it out and get some BW in a few months.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wannabebig2 View Post
    The fiance has been saying for a while that I am not sexually healthy. She just didn't know what it was until she read about low T.
    Very rarely in a relationship do two people have the same libido. This sometimes leads the one with the higher libido to feel there is something "wrong" with their partner." Some people want it six times a day, others want it every six months, nothing "wrong" with either, but for peace of mind get some blood work.

    You say you don't want sex more than twice a week, but do you masturbate more than that?

    On any medications? prescribed or otherwise?

    How old are you guys?

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    Quote Originally Posted by wannabebig2 View Post
    I guess she was reading about the symptoms of low T, now she is convinced, in her mind that I have low T. I think one of the reasons she thinks this is because sometimes I don't want sex more than twice week, maybe she would be happier if I wanted it 5 days a week. Anyway I guess the next step is to get the blood tested for T levels. If it does come back as low T, what is the current "standard" treatment, injection, patch, or gel?
    Uhhh... I don't think there is anything wrong with sex two or three times a week. In my experience, this is common in long term relationships and marriages - probably even less often. And IMO, it's certainly not a determining indicator for low T! I'd say that wanting sex 5 or more times a week ought to be questioned. Have you had a talk with you girl about why she feels she needs sex this much?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Who_Am_I View Post
    others want it every six months
    What planet are they from?
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    never messed with sarms ....but Im guessing that there is a rebound effect.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kelkel View Post
    What planet are they from?


    Quote Originally Posted by btoma32 View Post
    never messed with sarms....but Im guessing that there is a rebound effect.
    There most certainly is a rebound if you will. They are suppressive in the doses we run them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Who_Am_I View Post
    Very rarely in a relationship do two people have the same libido. This sometimes leads the one with the higher libido to feel there is something "wrong" with their partner." Some people want it six times a day, others want it every six months, nothing "wrong" with either, but for peace of mind get some blood work.

    You say you don't want sex more than twice a week, but do you masturbate more than that?

    On any medications? prescribed or otherwise?

    How old are you guys?
    I'm going to get some blood work done, either through my Dr or private lab, after I finish my pct for my sarms cycle and then a few more weeks of being "clean". Hardly ever masturbate,maybe once every 3 weeks. I'm 42, she is 49.

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    My wife was also convinced that I had low t. But I went from wanting sex twice a day to maybe once a month or two just because I felt obligated.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mudpro97 View Post
    My wife was also convinced that I had low t. But I went from wanting sex twice a day to maybe once a month or two just because I felt obligated.
    Twice a day? How long were you able to keep this going?

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    There are a LOT of variables with all of this of course. Blood work will give you some of the answers of course.
    Also has anything else changed? Any emotional problems? Fighting? Stress? Loss of physical interest? External stimulation?

    There are a lot of things to consider. I know myself personally even though I may find someone very physically pleasing to the eyes if I have problems with them emotionally I'm really not interested physically. Towards the end of a relationship I just loose all interest in them physically, but not in sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 2Sox View Post
    Twice a day? How long were you able to keep this going?
    From about 16 to 23. She didnt always put out that often though. Sometime in between 23 and 24 my libido just went to zero.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wannabebig2 View Post
    I'm going to get some blood work done, either through my Dr or private lab, after I finish my pct for my sarms cycle and then a few more weeks of being "clean".
    No point in doing blood work before 6-8 weeks after PCT. PCT meds stay in system a longtime.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 2Sox View Post
    Uhhh... I don't think there is anything wrong with sex two or three times a week. In my experience, this is common in long term relationships and marriages - probably even less often. And IMO, it's certainly not a determining indicator for low T! I'd say that wanting sex 5 or more times a week ought to be questioned. Have you had a talk with you girl about why she feels she needs sex this much?
    IDK if I'd totally agree with this. It really depends on the individual(s) IMO. My Wife & I are thankfully on the same page Libido wise. It's not uncommon for us to have it (in some form) 4-5 times per week. Then again, depending on external factors such as work & other obligations it may only be 3 x per week for a stretch. Rarely drops below 4 x though...

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    Quote Originally Posted by wannabebig2 View Post
    I guess she was reading about the symptoms of low T, now she is convinced, in her mind that I have low T. I think one of the reasons she thinks this is because sometimes I don't want sex more than twice week, maybe she would be happier if I wanted it 5 days a week. Anyway I guess the next step is to get the blood tested for T levels. If it does come back as low T, what is the current "standard" treatment, injection, patch, or gel?
    I think that's bullshit if she has no clue how you're feeling inside and what your energy is like i have no clue how she would be able to determine such a thing. I think if you were to ever be able to check for yourself it should be based on your thoughts and how you've felt you've been able to progress in the gym and as far as fatloss well being and sex life because a wifes opinion does not trump all of those but maybe a blood test would just be good for you anyway to see where you're at with things

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    Quote Originally Posted by davidtheman100 View Post
    I think that's bullshit if she has no clue how you're feeling inside and what your energy is like i have no clue how she would be able to determine such a thing. I think if you were to ever be able to check for yourself it should be based on your thoughts and how you've felt you've been able to progress in the gym and as far as fatloss well being and sex life because a wifes opinion does not trump all of those but maybe a blood test would just be good for you anyway to see where you're at with things
    Because especially in a relationship, Women know everything. Have you ever convinced a woman she is wrong?

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    Quote Originally Posted by lovbyts View Post
    Have you ever convinced a woman she is wrong?
    Thats a big no-no. You cannot convince her with words.
    Just start staring at other girls ass and comment on the nice body chicks on tv have, finnaly made her catch you watching porn, anal porn.
    If you do it right she will stop harassing you with low t claims.

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    If your manhood works, why not give it to her? Just sayin', if the shoe was on the other foot, most of us would be talking sh1t about the girl for not giving it up... Even if you may not feel like it, man up and get it done.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lovbyts
    Because especially in a relationship, Women know everything. Have you ever convinced a woman she is wrong?
    Yes we do! And we spend most of our time plaining to men!

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    Give her a nice, elegant Ron Jeremy-style shilacking 2 let her know u still got some libido left in the tank

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    Quote Originally Posted by GirlyGymRat View Post

    Yes we do! And we spend most of our time plaining to men!
    See, I told you. It's a conspiracy I tell you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by davidtheman100 View Post
    Give her a nice, elegant Ron Jeremy-style shilacking 2 let her know u still got some libido left in the tank
    LOL I do still have some in the tank, but my desire has dropped since we first met. I would say it has dropped quite a bit in the last 6 to 8 months, I'm wondering if a drop in testosterone could happen that fast, from what I know test drops 1-3% after age 30.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wannabebig2 View Post
    LOL I do still have some in the tank, but my desire has dropped since we first met. I would say it has dropped quite a bit in the last 6 to 8 months, I'm wondering if a drop in testosterone could happen that fast, from what I know test drops 1-3% after age 30.
    Well if that's the case I'd say you do have a responsibility to find out if it is Test related as she thinks. Sorry to say, but if two people are not sexually compatible the relationship will likely not survive IMO...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr.BB View Post
    Thats a big no-no. You cannot convince her with words.
    Just start staring at other girls ass and comment on the nice body chicks on tv have, finnaly made her catch you watching porn, anal porn.
    If you do it right she will stop harassing you with low t claims.
    Perfect advice to have the woman we love respect us - and for a man to respect himself. Any more deep thoughts to offer, on which to base a lasting, meaningful relationship?
    Last edited by 2Sox; 06-12-2015 at 04:41 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 2Sox View Post
    Perfect advice to have the woman we love respect us - and for a man to respect himself. Any more deep thoughts to offer, on which to base a lasting, meaningful relationship?
    LOLs...

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    Quote Originally Posted by 2Sox View Post
    Perfect advice to have the woman we love respect us - and for a man to respect himself. Any more deep thoughts to offer, on which to base a lasting, meaningful relationship?
    Of course, theres always the soft alternative of replying: "How many days left to your period?"

    Lol

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    I go through the same a lot. New relationship, only see her 2 or 3 times a wk but get on it 2 or 3 times every time i see her.

    But lately, just not as interested. Not that i don't enjoy it, just too much work. Its not new anymore, not really exciting.

    So, time for the next. . Lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr.BB View Post
    Of course, theres always the soft alternative of replying: "How many days left to your period?"
    Lol
    Women read these posts. We don't want them to see us as misogynistic brutes.
    Last edited by 2Sox; 06-16-2015 at 10:03 AM. Reason: Clarification

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    misogynistic... Cool word, great effort in your response

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr.BB View Post
    misogynistic... Cool word, great effort in your response
    Thanks, man. Happy to be useful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr.BB View Post
    misogynistic... Cool word, great effort in your response
    And thanks for your toned-down response. Looking back on my post, I can see where it can come off as superior and "teachy" - and inflammatory. It just hurts to see this sort of talk go on. It doesn't do the relations between men and women any good and I tried to express that. Probably could have done a better job of it.

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    Its all good

    Even learned a new word

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr.BB View Post
    Its all good

    Even learned a new word
    Thanks. I just might go back and edit that post. It could use some humility.
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    Well I finished my pct for a sarms cycle I ran and I think I am back to my "normal" self, as far as libdo and erection go anyway, after our morning session today my fiance asked me if I took a Viagra, I told her I didn't, she said you must have taken something. I didn't even know how to respond to that.

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