Im not going to lie, I havent read half the postings in this thread but here is my take on cheating is that if it happens once (hopefully its just once)... and the couple "works things through" to stay together... it usually means it will happen again cause there were no serious reprocautions the first time so subsequent affairs are made easier... and no matter how much you want to forgive and forget, trust is not something that just re-appears.