dating advice what happened??

[dan991]

i dont kiss and tell

What does your WIFE think about all this Gixx?

[Bigshotvictoria]

she is definately high class by what i no, her prestigous school and future job, what her parents do etc.. im not sure if shes high maintenence dont really seem like it though.

This just confirms my suspicion. Having rich parents that pay for a prestigious school doesn't make her high class, it just makes her privileged. Socioeconomic standing has nothing to do with being classy. Class is in the personality, not the parents check book.

[gixxerboy1]

What does your WIFE think about all this Gixx?

About what? That i work in a strip bar? She knows its a job and i come home to her every night.
She knows i worked in strip bars and clubs before and dated and was engaged to a stripper before. She doesnt care why would she. I dont care about her ex's

[Bigshotvictoria]

About what? That i work in a strip bar? She knows its a job and i come home to her every night.
She knows i worked in strip bars and clubs before and dated and was engaged to a stripper before. She doesnt care why would she. I dont care about her ex's

A friend of mine is security at the local strip club, let me be the announcer one day when the reg guy didn't show up. It was a lot of fun, but not something I could do as a regular job. i never realized how many creepy peeps come in on week days!!!

[gixxerboy1]

A friend of mine is security at the local strip club, let me be the announcer one day when the reg guy didn't show up. It was a lot of fun, but not something I could do as a regular job. i never realized how many creepy peeps come in on week days!!!

def can be. I worked in some shady ones. The one im at now is a upscale one. But we still get some freaks

[dan991]

So... how many of the girls in your strip club (or prior strip clubs) you to provide "additional services" for money? I've been to A LOT of strip clubs.... in Detroit its apparently the norm to solicit customers to join you in the VIP room (and I don't mean for dances).

[gixxerboy1]

So... how many of the girls in your strip club (or prior strip clubs) you to provide "additional services" for money? I've been to A LOT of strip clubs.... in Detroit its apparently the norm to solicit customers to join you in the VIP room (and I don't mean for dances).

I'm sure there are girls that do extra, I know some do. I dont ask. If they get caught they are fired at my place

[spiketannin]

This just confirms my suspicion. Having rich parents that pay for a prestigious school doesn't make her high class, it just makes her privileged. Socioeconomic standing has nothing to do with being classy. Class is in the personality, not the parents check book.

well she is privilaged. she is in law school, and seems to conduct herself with high class.

[dan991]

well she is privilaged. she is in law school, and seems to conduct herself with high class.

What? Who gives a shit what school she's in. "High class" has NOTHING to do with money, what school you go to, your background, etc. Being high class has to do with who you are as a person. I've met bum's with more class than some people.

Dude- this is a chick. She either likes you, or she wants to play games. If she likes you- you'll know because SHE puts forth the effort to spend time with you. If she doesn't- on to the next one.

[cherrydrpepper]

Dan I feel like you're talking about integrity and Spike is talking about class in the slang version of class the informal use of class. If we go to the dictionary definition Dan you are actually right but if we go to the slang version Spike is referencing its a totally different thing.

I live in a wealthy area. Some of the people in my neighborhood are multimillionaires and this is their 2nd or 3rd etc home in Florida. A few miles down the road is a Walmart with several trailer parks across the street that I sometimes visit because they are still open after midnight. Im sure some of the people frequenting it are hardworking Americans with a lot of integrity. I was in there tonight. I did not see anything resembling the urban dictionary (slang) defintion of class:

"class 328 up, 61 down

A person who is poised, graceful, mature, or exudes any of these qualities in dress, mannerism, language, and everyday life. Possesses excellent self-control, is gentle, soothing, and unoffensive.

Also used to refer to people or styles from the past; when copied, general impression of others upon seeing them is "classy", a reference to all things classic or that have class.
1. She was the epitome of class in the way she carried and presented herself.

2. They all agreed that the man who paid unwavering attention to his escort and stayed by her side all night had an unprecedented amount of class. "

3. Audrey Hepburn."

Not trying to disagree with anyone just feel like apples and oranges are being talked about.

[capetown]

K just got off work. Did he call or what? Does Lunk owe me 100 bucks??? By the way lunk, we made a bet but i forgot to tell ya.

[capetown]

Lunk? I know u read this!!

[cherrydrpepper]

Everytime you say Lunk it reminds me of a Presidents of the United States song

[capetown]

He's link, he's lunk , he's in ur head.

[cherrydrpepper]

My name is Forrest Lunk casually remarked

[ReX357]

My take:
She's young, she's a 10, guys fall all over her, she gets hit on nonstop and when she shows a guy interest they cling, don't be that guy.

She's used to always having the power and making people do what she wants. You need to flip this and gain control. She thrives on attention and when it comes easy she gets bored.

Make her work for it, act uninterested, make it seem like what you have going is more important than her. Play to your strengths and show you're that alpha.

Be confident and act like a dick at times, but also make her feel special.
You've already text her with no reply. Don't try to contact her again for a few days or even next "college night"

This.

Also I'd take it one step further, go to the bar and ignore her until she comes up to you. Make sure you're surrounded with other women and having an awesome time with your buddies. It'll piss her off and she'll come by at some point.

When she does, don't be a dick. Just smile confidently, ask her how she's been and end the conversation fast and go back to talking to other girls. It'll drive her nuts. Make sure you touch the other girls profusely (hand on the shoulders, pull the girls in close to talk to them in their ear, etc.).

Let her simmer for a bit. She'll most likely go talk to other guys to make you jealous. Ignore that. Keep talking to other girls. Don't stare at her. Don't worry about what she's doing.

After an hour or so of ignoring her, come across her in the bar and ask her to go do a shot. Be playful, act like the desperate texting didn't happen. I'd personally reverse the 'Hey beautiful' miss step by calling her a sh*t head or something similar. Make sure you do that with an evil smirk on your face.

"Hey sh*t head! :P Let's go do a shot."

This is the make or break time. You're gonna want to pick on her a bit. And then everytime you say something half ass rude, touch her and smile with an evil grin (Evil grin is key). Pull her in close when you talk to her and then look like you're staring at another chick when she talks. Act like you got ADHD. Make it seem like it's hard for her to maintain your attention. This is the push & pull thing. That confuses the f*ck out of them. Now you gotta make sure there is no doubt about your intentions. You're the f*cking man and if you're not f*cking her, you're f*cking someone else (or at least she has to think that).

At that point you'll already know if you're in or not. Now there's several ways to get her after the bar. Have a house party lined up and invite her over there. If there's nothing going on after, just go find her at the end of the bar and tell her to come home with you. Don't "ask" ever. Give "orders". You run the f*cking show. Not her.

BAD: "Do you wanna come over to my place and have some drinks?"

GOOD: "Come with me."

If she comes, good. Make sure you slam her in the wall and kiss her before you even get into your place. Girls like to be handled. Then you know what to do stud.

This is NOT fool proof. You will need to have the right attitude to pull this off and even with the right attitude this might be too far gone. Now keep in mind this stuff works with the younger 20-25 girls. I would play it differently with an older girl.

If she doesn't come, you tried your best and you had already crashed and burned way before that night. So don't worry about it too much. Don't text her again. If she doesn't talk to you, move on. Do not pursue a friendship with this broad.

Just my 0.02

[dan991]

All this is bullshit- fvck her fat friend and hurt her feelings. The last thing any hot girl wants is some dude she's semi-interested in fvcking her fat friend. That's like a kick in the vagina to chicks.

[Zodiac82]

lmao Evil Grin....I do that

[gixxerboy1]

Oh, you're the guy I give a $50 to; to look the other way in the VIP lounge.

Lol, $50 gets you a thanks and a smile thats it. And im faking both

[spiketannin]

Dan I feel like you're talking about integrity and Spike is talking about class in the slang version of class the informal use of class. If we go to the dictionary definition Dan you are actually right but if we go to the slang version Spike is referencing its a totally different thing.

I live in a wealthy area. Some of the people in my neighborhood are multimillionaires and this is their 2nd or 3rd etc home in Florida. A few miles down the road is a Walmart with several trailer parks across the street that I sometimes visit because they are still open after midnight. Im sure some of the people frequenting it are hardworking Americans with a lot of integrity. I was in there tonight. I did not see anything resembling the urban dictionary (slang) defintion of class:

"class 328 up, 61 down

A person who is poised, graceful, mature, or exudes any of these qualities in dress, mannerism, language, and everyday life. Possesses excellent self-control, is gentle, soothing, and unoffensive.

Also used to refer to people or styles from the past; when copied, general impression of others upon seeing them is "classy", a reference to all things classic or that have class.
1. She was the epitome of class in the way she carried and presented herself.

2. They all agreed that the man who paid unwavering attention to his escort and stayed by her side all night had an unprecedented amount of class. "

3. Audrey Hepburn."

Not trying to disagree with anyone just feel like apples and oranges are being talked about.

ya pretty much haha thx

[spiketannin]

This.

Also I'd take it one step further, go to the bar and ignore her until she comes up to you. Make sure you're surrounded with other women and having an awesome time with your buddies. It'll piss her off and she'll come by at some point.

When she does, don't be a dick. Just smile confidently, ask her how she's been and end the conversation fast and go back to talking to other girls. It'll drive her nuts. Make sure you touch the other girls profusely (hand on the shoulders, pull the girls in close to talk to them in their ear, etc.).

Let her simmer for a bit. She'll most likely go talk to other guys to make you jealous. Ignore that. Keep talking to other girls. Don't stare at her. Don't worry about what she's doing.

After an hour or so of ignoring her, come across her in the bar and ask her to go do a shot. Be playful, act like the desperate texting didn't happen. I'd personally reverse the 'Hey beautiful' miss step by calling her a sh*t head or something similar. Make sure you do that with an evil smirk on your face.

"Hey sh*t head! :P Let's go do a shot."

This is the make or break time. You're gonna want to pick on her a bit. And then everytime you say something half ass rude, touch her and smile with an evil grin (Evil grin is key). Pull her in close when you talk to her and then look like you're staring at another chick when she talks. Act like you got ADHD. Make it seem like it's hard for her to maintain your attention. This is the push & pull thing. That confuses the f*ck out of them. Now you gotta make sure there is no doubt about your intentions. You're the f*cking man and if you're not f*cking her, you're f*cking someone else (or at least she has to think that).

At that point you'll already know if you're in or not. Now there's several ways to get her after the bar. Have a house party lined up and invite her over there. If there's nothing going on after, just go find her at the end of the bar and tell her to come home with you. Don't "ask" ever. Give "orders". You run the f*cking show. Not her.

BAD: "Do you wanna come over to my place and have some drinks?"

GOOD: "Come with me."

If she comes, good. Make sure you slam her in the wall and kiss her before you even get into your place. Girls like to be handled. Then you know what to do stud.

This is NOT fool proof. You will need to have the right attitude to pull this off and even with the right attitude this might be too far gone. Now keep in mind this stuff works with the younger 20-25 girls. I would play it differently with an older girl.

If she doesn't come, you tried your best and you had already crashed and burned way before that night. So don't worry about it too much. Don't text her again. If she doesn't talk to you, move on. Do not pursue a friendship with this broad.

Just my 0.02

i was honestly thinking the same sorta gameplan but as these past couple days went by im starting not to give a f... but now its gonna be kinda entertaining to play this out and keep the thread updated to see what happens. im sure tuesday ill see her at the bar on college night and im pretty much gonna stick to something similar to this. i mite end up taking it too far flirting and ending up leaving with another girl haha. i guess that will still be ok.

[spiketannin]

update. k its tuesday college night and i decided to call her to tell her i was going and to see if she was going.. no answer. so i left a tx and asked her if they are going tonight and all she said was ya. so hmmm what should i do here playas this ones for the board lol, wonderin if i should even waste my time wit her tho cuz its gona b a lot of chicks there tonight.

[spiketannin]

but i would be lying if i said i didnt want to chat her up

[Lunk1]

update. k its tuesday college night and i decided to call her to tell her i was going and to see if she was going.. no answer. so i left a tx and asked her if they are going tonight and all she said was ya. so hmmm what should i do here playas this ones for the board lol, wonderin if i should even waste my time wit her tho cuz its gona b a lot of chicks there tonight.

She isn't in to you....drop it like a hot fkn potatoe!

[cherrydrpepper]

You basically got friend zoned or stay the f away from me zoned lol

Thats why you have to go at it like you are going to go after as many different girls as you can. If you want to have standards thats finebut you should still be talking to a half dozen "10s" if that is your game. Personally id rather have a "7" that doesn't have her head way up her ass and has an ok face with nice tits.

[dan991]

You basically got friend zoned or stay the f away from me zoned lol

Thats why you have to go at it like you are going to go after as many different girls as you can. If you want to have standards thats finebut you should still be talking to a half dozen "10s" if that is your game. Personally id rather have a "7" that doesn't have her head way up her ass and has an ok face with nice tits.

^^^^^ What he said. If she wanted you to go out with her tonight; she would've extended an invite before you even asked her about what she's doing.

[gearbox]

You gotta man up and move on...

[spiketannin]

yup you guys were pretty much right lol somewhere along the line i blew it cuz she was the one who wanted to exchange numbers in the first place. but i went to the bar with my buddies and we still had funn and met some cool people but she was there and we just avoided each other. she did seem very pissed off tho and kinda honestly looked like she was tryin to make me jealous. also when we moved to one side of the bar about 5min later her and her friend kinda came to the same side definately not close but seeable. anyways dont really matter i seriously dont care there is a girl at my school that im talking too anyways. but we shall see you never no lol ill let you no if the biatttch tries to contact me.

[dan991]

yup you guys were pretty much right lol somewhere along the line i blew it cuz she was the one who wanted to exchange numbers in the first place. but i went to the bar with my buddies and we still had funn and met some cool people but she was there and we just avoided each other. she did seem very pissed off tho and kinda honestly looked like she was tryin to make me jealous. also when we moved to one side of the bar about 5min later her and her friend kinda came to the same side definately not close but seeable. anyways dont really matter i seriously dont care there is a girl at my school that im talking too anyways. but we shall see you never no lol ill let you no if the biatttch tries to contact me.

You care... otherwise you wouldn't have started this thread. Nonetheless.... told you she is about games. Easy way to deal with games- don't play them.

[ReX357]

update. k its tuesday college night and i decided to call her to tell her i was going and to see if she was going.. no answer. so i left a tx and asked her if they are going tonight and all she said was ya. so hmmm what should i do here playas this ones for the board lol, wonderin if i should even waste my time wit her tho cuz its gona b a lot of chicks there tonight.

You should not of contacted her before hand. The point was to make it look like you had other girls on the go. You had already persisted too much over text / phone calls. You messed up before the night even started.

The whole point was to 'randomly' run into her while you're having a time with other hotties. Ignore her for a bit to show that she's not really important, then when she's doubting her attraction, you take her to do a shot and lay some game into her while acting like you don't care either way. Either your f*cking her or one of the hotties she's seen you hang out with. Even if the other girls are not as hot as her, it doesn't matter. It eats at her to think that you're going for someone else than her and makes her wonder what the other girl has that she doesn't.

Please learn for next time.

[Ajc330]

dude you dont need any game plan, or long thought out scheme to get this girl, that shit never works, just be yourself, if you are a nice guy and have a great personality and are smart, you can win her just by intellectual and thoughtful convo , bein confident in yourself is a must , muscles are a plus

[Ajc330]

also you dont need to make her jealous by talking to a bunch of other girls, thats just stupid, only insecure girls fall for that

[Ajc330]

garuntee i get bashed for what i said

[ReX357]

garuntee i get bashed for what i said

When you're dealing with hot 20 years old, you gotta play games. The only reason why I gave him a 'game plan' is because he's in a precarious situation and is not seeing straight since he's involved in the situation. This stuff should really happen naturally. If you're confident, and have a life, you will act like that naturally. But then she flipped the game on him. Girls are good at it. I've been a victim of it myself before. You have the upper hand and then all of a sudden they start detaching themselves and then you're like "What the f*ck happened? This girl use to power text me!". And that's when you make mistakes and start being overly available / needy / etc. Those are not attractive qualities in a male. That situation usually happens if you only have 1 girl on the go. Having multiple fixes that problem because you don't notice too much when one is trying to reel you in by being distant.

What you say no doubt holds true in general but not in that girls situation. He has messed up by being overly available and now he has to fix it. So he has to make calculated moves if there's even a slight chance she'll consider him again.

[RaginCajun]

nevermind

[Bigshotvictoria]

How is this still even going on!?! In the time you've wasted trying to figure out the blatantly obvious you could have nailed half a dozen girls, or met another that you like. Who cares why it's not happening!!!! Sh!t or get of the pot!!!!!

[Lunk1]

dude you dont need any game plan, or long thought out scheme to get this girl, that shit never works, just be yourself, if you are a nice guy and have a great personality and are smart, you can win her just by intellectual and thoughtful convo , bein confident in yourself is a must , muscles are a plus

also you dont need to make her jealous by talking to a bunch of other girls, thats just stupid, only insecure girls fall for that

garuntee i get bashed for what i said

Someone watched to many John Cusack movies in the 80's lol!

[ReX357]

How is this still even going on!?! In the time you've wasted trying to figure out the blatantly obvious you could have nailed half a dozen girls, or met another that you like. Who cares why it's not happening!!!! Sh!t or get of the pot!!!!!

I like your style.