Met a new girl. Advice needed urgently .. Please help!

[RaginCajun]

I completely agree with the idea of being yourself if you have endearing qualities. But to often the culture tells you to be you even if people don't want to be around you. My sister hangs around these fat bitchy girls at work that all they do is talk shit about people and about how they can't keep a man cause they "keep it real." How a guy should fall into line on this or that or else. My sister is a smart girl at times but being around that attitude she falsely believes that a guy should put up with her negatives or fuck him he's an asshole. Recently she was dating a really good guy, great job, no kids, good family, left her because she is a fucking slob!

My sister has her shit together expect for one thing. She is a fucking slob when she gets home. She owns her own house, has a masters degree and feels I guess this is enough. My brother and I try telling her that she lives like a disgusting slob and the first time anyone, not just a guy comes over they will instantly look differently about her.

She is really wrapped up on the whole millinial culture of being yourself no matter what. And to some degree I believe in that, but if you are a young person. Looking for love, maybe improve upon the less endearing traits so someone doesn't think you're a disgusting slob.

My brother and I have told her numerous times that if I guy walks into a house of a girl he's interested in and sees a house that looks like a group of hobos had an orgy after doing 10 loads of laundry and a Taco Bell run, they aren't going to be interested in you anymore. She just says she doesn't want to be with judgy people anyway.

I think this is the same for guys, you got to be yourself but improve on those qualities that make you less attractive to others.

can't disagree with that!

but is she hot???

[MuscleScience]

can't disagree with that!

but is she hot???

She's attractive, so my friends have told me

[RaginCajun]

She's attractive, so my friends have told me

Guess I will need to meet her and see this dirty house! I'll await your PM for her number

[hammerheart]

Guess I will need to meet her and see this dirty house! I'll await your PM for her number

+1

I might not mind a dirty house, unless it's compulsive hoarding.

[Obs]

+1

I might not mind a dirty house, unless it's compulsive hoarding.

If a chick has a dirty house when single, it is a sure thing she doesn't have her shit together enough to be in a relationship. Everyone I know in a shitty relationship or divorced/broke up, one of them or both of them are fucking lazy slobs.

[hammerheart]

If a chick has a dirty house when single, it is a sure thing she doesn't have her shit together enough to be in a relationship. Everyone I know in a shitty relationship or divorced/broke up, one of them or both of them are fucking lazy slobs.

I know, I can spot the signs. What I believe to be the best predictor is how the individual relates to his own family. Poor relationships with family is imo correlated to higher chances of toxic relationship with a partner.

[Obs]

I know, I can spot the signs. What I believe to be the best predictor is how the individual relates to his own family. Poor relationships with family is imo correlated to higher chances of toxic relationship with a partner.

Good point!

[KINGKONG]

I know, I can spot the signs. What I believe to be the best predictor is how the individual relates to his own family. Poor relationships with family is imo correlated to higher chances of toxic relationship with a partner.

Or if a girl doesn't take care of her kid/kids to me it's a sign of serious problems in the future..however dirty houses or smokers are dead to me right off the jump just because to me it's a turn off..

[Mooseman33]

If a chick has a dirty house when single, it is a sure thing she doesn't have her shit together enough to be in a relationship. Everyone I know in a shitty relationship or divorced/broke up, one of them or both of them are fucking lazy slobs.

so just having a dirty place is a sure thing to not having shit together. Buddy, there are a ton of chicks with great jobs that have shit together that are slobs.

we seem to be so quick to judge however hate when done to us.

[Obs]

so just having a dirty place is a sure thing to not having shit together. Buddy, there are a ton of chicks with great jobs that have shit together that are slobs.

we seem to be so quick to judge however hate when done to us.

I speak of a willingness to wallow in filth rather than fix the sittuation. A relationship with a slob will be just that, a mess. Jobs are all about the same, its what you do in the time that you aren't at work that makes a person successful.
A slob as far as I am concerned is a lazy failure.
A recovering addict will be told to get a job and an apartment and a plant. If they can maintain all those things for a year, they can get a pet, if they can maintain all those things and everything is in good order at work and home, plant and pet healthy and happy, they can think about dating now.
I think everyone should be held to those standards. Men too. Slothenliness is one of the seven deadly sins for a reason. Slobs do not have their shit together, they have just settled for their own half effort.
Not arguing cause I like ya, just saying my opinion and explaining the rules I live by.

[cousinmuscles]

To the OP, take the advice given to you in this thread. Also please learn to make use of paragraphs.

so just having a dirty place is a sure thing to not having shit together. Buddy, there are a ton of chicks with great jobs that have shit together that are slobs.

we seem to be so quick to judge however hate when done to us.

True, I work very long hours. I don't like bacteria so I do clean but theres always a pile of coins, a pile of cash, bills + other important papers, books, cables, blister packs of pills, supplements, my PS4, PC, laptop, two monitors et.c. all on one desk. Does it really make a difference in my life if everything was put in drawers and stuff like that? Yes, it would take much longer to find stuff, thus I would lose time.