Alright recently i was talking to my girlfriend about how i feel she isnt as sexual as she used to be. I mean i like being intimate often. I feel most of the time she just doesnt want it.

She complains all the time when i come on to her and she never comes on to me.

She is never wanting to explore new things in the bedroom either. Im not talking about crazy stuff, i mean she pretty much just wants to have sex and get off and thats it. When we first started dating she complained that i wasnt into the foreplay but now that i am she never wants to.

I asked if things had changed and she says no. I kept pushing the subject and she opened up a little. She said she feels dirty doing most things. She said it just doesnt feel right.

I never realized how sheltered she was. Maybe she was putting on a front at first but im not sure. She also said she thinks it has to do with a family friend from when she was younger.

This guy was married but always told her how she was beautiful and how he liked her so much. She was 10 or 11 and afraid to say anything. He was very touchy feely but never went past that. She didnt know any better because he didnt make it sexual. It would be hugs that were a little too much or hands rubbing on a leg. Well i guess she wasnt the only one and a girl that he full blown forced himself on that was only 113 finally said something.

I think him touching her affects how she feels now. Im not sure if this is the root of the holding back on her part because i mean when we go out drinking she opens up and does a lot more.

Has anyone else ever been in this situation?