Just made of those decisions thats so hard....

[Booz]

tell her to go fvck herself and have done with the two timing fvck..............

[Carlos_E]

Here I'll make it easy for you.

ATLANTA
Serving Fulton County
Emergency Mental Health Services
Fulton County Department of Mental Health
24 hours / 7 days
(404) 730-1600

[Carlos_E]

Text her back the phone number only. She'll call it thinking she's reaching you.

[Ih8urdsm]

Now i have decisions to make as far as if i want to stay in Atlanta or move back to Ny. I mean i really only came to atl so we could live together, and its cool and all, but i'd rather be in NY. I dont think i can afford to live in Ny right now though, even if i get a job transfer, i dont know if they would increase my pay enough for the cost of living for me to afford it. I Guess ill stick it out here, atleast till my lease is up next year and see what is in store for me if im single...

[Carlos_E]

If you seriously feel she will try to take her life call the police and paramedics and give them her address. Professionals should handle this. Not you.

[Nasser]

Hey Bro, please don't let the Suicide issue hang over you, she knows how you are, obviously caring and forgiving she's trying to get you to feel guilty. If she truly wanted to kill herself, she wouldn't tell you she would just do it and that would be it, she's hanging this "idea" over your head to make you give into what she wants..........don't do it bro!

I have never known anyone to try to kill themselves and not succeed more than once, she's playing more Emotional games Bro.

[Ih8urdsm]

Here I'll make it easy for you.

ATLANTA
Serving Fulton County
Emergency Mental Health Services
Fulton County Department of Mental Health
24 hours / 7 days
(404) 730-1600

done.

[Ih8urdsm]

If you seriously feel she will try to take her life call the police and paramedics and give them her address. Professionals should handle this. Not you.

I definitly would...but there is no address, this is her address..i thought about if i knew her liscense plate number i would report it with the threat, but i dont even know that...oh well

[Carlos_E]

done.

Good job.

[USfighterFC]

If you seriously feel she will try to take her life call the police and paramedics and give them her address. Professionals should handle this. Not you.

Agreed. It does leave you in a tight spot and it's not right.

[Carlos_E]

I definitly would...but there is no address, this is her address..i thought about if i knew her liscense plate number i would report it with the threat, but i dont even know that...oh well

I bet you money she's at that chicks place. She's manipulative. I'm sure when she found out you were done with her she ran to that woman and feed her a bunch of bullshit.

[Mizfit]

cut her off completely

[Ih8urdsm]

Well i know she called her cousin from here before she left to leave her stuff at his place, and left him a message, he lives about 40 minutes away...So i just called and left him a message on his cell, just telling him that i kinda kicked her out, found out she's been cheating on me for a while, and i just got a couple of text messages with suicide threats on them, so to keep an eye on her if she comes to stay there, or give her a call and make sure she is alright...

[Ih8urdsm]

and i dont know whats wrong with me, but i want to call her and see why she would say shit like that! i know i cant though.

[SVTMuscle*]

So what exactly defines two girls having sex? What actions are needed for it to be considered sex?


And more importantly, how come you didnt get in on some 3 way action before you kicked this slut out?

[Ih8urdsm]

I explained why i didnt do the three way, guess you didnt read that far yet

Sex to me with girls would require licking of the vagina's or one vagina...oral sex = sex....boobie playing/licking and fingering without licking = not sex...

just my opinion

[Carlos_E]

and i dont know whats wrong with me, but i want to call her and see why she would say shit like that! i know i cant though.

Do not give in. She does not respect you. Do you know why? Because you do not respect yourself. How do you expect someone to respect you when you don't respect yourself? Do not let her control or manipulate you!

[Carlos_E]

So what exactly defines two girls having sex? What actions are needed for it to be considered sex?

Thats a silly question. Here.

http://www.gaylifeuk.com/support/sexguide/

[Ih8urdsm]

So what exactly defines two girls having sex? What actions are needed for it to be considered sex?


And more importantly, how come you didnt get in on some 3 way action before you kicked this slut out?

and come to think of it, even if i did want a three way (again, the girl looks like a man, no joke...i'll post her myspace if i have to!)....i dont think this girl would have any part of it, like i said, she was with my girl, because my girl has been tellijng her she isnt with me. And when this girl found out i had sex with mygirl on saturday, she 'brokeup' with her too..although im sure they will get back together, because this girl "LOVES", my girl....and third this girl is a serious dyke..no penis for her, im sure not even in the same room...and since she thought my girl was her GIRLFRIEND, im sure she would not want me to touch her...

[Ih8urdsm]

Do not give in. She does not respect you. Do you know why? Because you do not respect yourself. How do you expect someone to respect you when you don't respect yourself? Do not let her control or manipulate you!

Thats definitly good advice. Sometimes you have to hear it from someone else ya know. Your a wise man Carlos

[Ih8urdsm]

Thats a silly question. Here.

http://www.gaylifeuk.com/support/sexguide/

Lol, for some reason i see something wrong with if your gay, needing a guide to know what to do!
jk, i know there are guides to everything online

Im not gay, but i would think i would know how to please a gay man! Eh, for some reason i think Carlos is gonna tell me otherwise

[Carlos_E]

Lol, for some reason i see something wrong with if your gay, needing a guide to know what to do!
jk, i know there are guides to everything online

That is true. If you have the same plumbing you should know what to do with it.

[Ih8urdsm]

lol, read my edit

[Carlos_E]

lol, read my edit

I'm not touchin' that post!

[Temptation]

If you're in a lease... breaking it is going to be costly, as is moving to NY. Good long term decision is to stay where you are, prep your company about your transfer request and keep your money tight. Maybe take on a part time job at a gym or bartending somewhere evenings/weekends to get some add'l cash flow to help with the move.

[Ih8urdsm]

she just sent me this text message:

"i dont have many regrets in my life but meeting u has to be in my top 5. Congrats 4 bein the only 1 besides my mom 2 make me wanna take my life. Ur Good. U cant wash ur hands enough to get my blood off them"

WTF am i supposed to say to that?? I mean its not easy to just sit back and ignore that shit

I feel like saying "cause me and your mom where the only 2 people not to let you get exactly everything you want!"

[Mizfit]

shes trying to manipulate you

[USfighterFC]

I feel like saying "cause me and your mom where the only 2 people not to let you get exactly everything you want!"

Dont say that...its not mean enough.

[Tbone1975]

That whole deal sucks Ih8urdsm, and I hope things get better for ya, and I'm sure they will. It's pretty cool though, I think you're getting quality advice from Carlos E and some of the other people on the boards. I would kick that bizatch to the curb and take pleasure in it. Messaging the suicide hotline to her covers your tracks. I don't even know if I would have done that, but it covers all angles. My mom was married to my dad for 41 years. They were separated for a few years in the 90's because mom found out he cheated on her back in the 80's and was still in close contact with the lady. That all ended though and they got back together a few years ago. Recently she found out he was cheating again with some piece of sh_t and she kicked his as_ right outta the fn' house with my full approval!

[Carlos_E]

Dont say that...its not mean enough.

Don't say that because ti's communication and that's what she wants. She can't manipulate you unless you talk to her.

[Ih8urdsm]

If you're in a lease... breaking it is going to be costly, as is moving to NY. Good long term decision is to stay where you are, prep your company about your transfer request and keep your money tight. Maybe take on a part time job at a gym or bartending somewhere evenings/weekends to get some add'l cash flow to help with the move.

Yea..i can get a transfer easily, but i didnt get into the money situation,a nd someone told me they wouldnt give me a cost of living adjustment with my current position...but they are looking to promote me in the coming weeks, and my stock would rise, so if i wanted to transfere i'd be much more valuable, and more of a chance they would give me a cost of living salary increase (thats what my boss told me yesterday)...for the time being, i knew i was going to kick her out, so i talked to him yesterday about upping my hours, so i can make some more money to pay the rent.

And i did close my old 401k, so i have enough money to live on for a while.
I could move to NY, and live with my mother, but im 27, been on my own since i was 18, so i dont really want to do that if i dont have to, and i cant really afford a decent place on my own in NY i dont think...i pay 725$ here, for a big 900sq. ft apt, with vaulted cealings, washer/dryer, garden tub, lots of amenities, and thats a lot. I have been told by many i can get a house, with a 2000$ down payment, and pay under 700$ a month mortgage in this area...so i might get this promotion and look into that.
Atlanta is growing so much i wouldnt mind owning a house, even if i was to move to Ny, i know i can sell it for a profit. Plus if i feel like it i could rent a room to one of my boys and get some $ from him...

[Carlos_E]

Thats definitly good advice. Sometimes you have to hear it from someone else ya know. Your a wise man Carlos

I know this because I have been through it. It took a friend of mine calling me a human toilet for me to realize how I was letting a guy treat me. People treat you the way you allow them to. If you respect yourself, they will respect you.

[Ih8urdsm]

its funny how many of you are from NY...cool!

I went to St. Johns University, and lived in Hillside for 5 years...other than that im from Long Island

[Ih8urdsm]

shes trying to manipulate you

I know and it sucks that for such a strong guy, im so f#cking weak. If that makes any sense....

and i dont think i always was..i think she's broken me down over such a long period i became so dependant on the relationship

[Ih8urdsm]

People treat you the way you allow them to.

she actually said that same thing one time after one of those previous times. she basically saying i let it happen. which i think is her way of telling me she can minipulate me. which doesnt speak much for me.

[Carlos_E]

i dont think i always was..i think she's broken me down over such a long period i became so dependant on the relationship

You were in an abusive relationship. Not physically but mentally. When you're in them for so long you start to think you deserve it or can't get any better. It's called battered wife syndrome.

[Ih8urdsm]

If you're in a lease... breaking it is going to be costly, as is moving to NY. Good long term decision is to stay where you are, prep your company about your transfer request and keep your money tight. Maybe take on a part time job at a gym or bartending somewhere evenings/weekends to get some add'l cash flow to help with the move.

i think the parttime thing might be best just to keep me busy..i know how i am, and i harp on things a lot more if im just sulking on my own or somecrap..i know the busier i am the better.

[Carlos_E]

which i think is her way of telling me she can minipulate me. which doesnt speak much for me.

This is your opportunity to prove her wrong and prove it to yourself. It's going to hurt for a bit but the longer you are away from her the more you will realize how much better you are without her.

Not constantly wondering what she's doing or who's she's with. Worrying if she's cheating on you or not. Worry if she's going to kill herself. All of that crap is off your shoulders.

[Ih8urdsm]

she's also been unemployed since january 1st, and did nothing around the apartment...no cleaning or anything...i would of appreciated to come home to a clean apartment or dinner or something everynow and then...never...i was the one working all day then coming home to make dinner while she sat at the comp on my space...It wasnt even like i would like her as a roomate. I know she is not the person i want to be with the rest of my life, so its better that it ends like this.

[Ih8urdsm]

Carlos send me a Pm, i want to show u something...NO NOT THAT! lol