My GF rant.

[cfiler]

I need some opinions to see if I'm in the wrong.

This is what happened:
It was Sunday, my GF's birthday. I cooked her breakfast, and we played some boardgames all day. She opened my gifts after breakfast. I had bought her a set of earings, Underworld 2, and and Ipod Nano.

All day, no-one called her, or did anything to wish her a happy birthday.

But I had arranged a party for her with my family. My parents took us all out for dinner, cake, and bought her a gift.

We stopped at my brother's appartment on the way to the restaurant. I had made a comment about how his appartment was much brighter than my GF's, and that maybe we should consider moving.

MY GF took it as an insult. I was trying to explain that it is just that we have no natural light, and mentioned afew other problems with the appartment.

When we were at the restaurant, infront of all of my family, she called me a "****ing looser." And she made a comment later on about how she "should trow me out, since I never clean up."

I didn't want to cause a scene. So we left the restaurant, and I told her that it was unacceptable. She doesn't think she did anything wrong, because I don't clean enough, and I "started a fight" about the appartment. Even though I was just trying to give my brother a compliment.

We are engaged, but after the disrespect she showed me infront of my family, I am having MAJOR second thoughts. Is she going to act like that again? Is she going to do that to me infront of our kids, or to our kids?

Unless she comes to her sences tonight, and does some major sucking up to make me feel better... I'm going to be out of there.

[Mizfit]

In some ways she may have felt you did the same to her , at your brothers- we are only hearing your side.

ask her why she made the comments- when yuo have calmed down

[Natty99]

Thats fvcked up bro, to dis you in front of the fam like that. Unfortunately it is very difficult for people to change who they are!

[chest6]

I think she just took it wrong and ran with it without really listening to you..

[Mizfit]

Thats fvcked up bro, to dis you in front of the fam like that. Unfortunately it is very difficult for people to change who they are!

I think she was offended by something he had done and was still a litle unsettled...

You have to put the whole thing into perspective. You can't look at it as an isolated incident and look at it as it is conencted with what he said at his brothers. If she did in fact feel he had disrespected her, she might have been quite hurt.

[Mizfit]

Talk to her first and ask questions before you judge her

[spound]

I think she just took it wrong and ran with it without really listening to you..

yea, and not to mention she was probably already upset since no one haad called her or done anythign for her besides you....just took it out on you a little bit unintentionally

[Timm1704]

i couldnt give a crap if nobody had called her all day, she should not have called you a 'fvcking loser', especially in public, infront of your family at that. you have obviously upset her, but she has been out of order. if a girlfriend of mine called me a loser and was being serious, id dump her right there

[scriptfactory]

I think she was offended by something he had done and was still a litle unsettled...

You have to put the whole thing into perspective. You can't look at it as an isolated incident and look at it as it is conencted with what he said at his brothers. If she did in fact feel he had disrespected her, she might have been quite hurt.

Spoken like a true female. The only problem is women are NOT rational! 98.5% of them are emotionally unstable. He said that MAYBE they should move into another apartment due to the lighting, etc. A response like calling him a f-ing loser in front of his family is beyond rude. My woman and I get in stupid arguments all the time but she would never pull some stupid crap like that.

My advice: have a discussion with her. If she doesn't apologize or at least acknowledge that she acted wrongly then you might need to take a step back from this relationship for a while. Divorce sucks...

[Mizfit]

Spoken like a true female. The only problem is women are NOT rational! 98.5% of them are emotionally unstable. He said that MAYBE they should move into another apartment due to the lighting, etc. A response like calling him a f-ing loser in front of his family is beyond rude. My woman and I get in stupid arguments all the time but she would never pull some stupid crap like that.

My advice: have a discussion with her. If she doesn't apologize or at least acknowledge that she acted wrongly then you might need to take a step back from this relationship for a while. Divorce sucks...

This is his version of the events..

Not as they actually occured..w hich is why i suggest he go and talk to her.. two sides to every story...

if the event took place EXACTLY.. as he stated.. then yes there is a problem.. but i'm not sure it did...

We don't have her side

[scriptfactory]

This is his version of the events..

Not as they actually occured..w hich is why i suggest he go and talk to her.. two sides to every story...

if the event took place EXACTLY.. as he stated.. then yes there is a problem.. but i'm not sure it did...

We don't have her side

True. I just don't know how her version of the story could change the facts that much. He wasn't talking about her crappy furniture or fat ass in front of her brother, at least I don't think so. Maybe he said something else that he isn't telling us, which is possible.

[Mizfit]

True. I just don't know how her version of the story could change the facts that much. He wasn't talking about her crappy furniture or fat ass in front of her brother, at least I don't think so. Maybe he said something else that he isn't telling us, which is possible.

Women tell a lot of extra detail and men tend to leave some out.. in my experience....

[BARLOW]

mmm
u ****in loser mizfit...
see how did it feel?
i embarass u infront of this ar family...

[Mizfit]

mmm
u ****in loser mizfit...
see how did it feel?
i embarass u infront of this ar family...

hmmm but u said my cloths weren't good enough and that i wasn't wearing the right perfume

[BARLOW]

ur canuck ass stinks too its stinking up my myspace
i gotta get some airfresherner on that bitch...ill do that now...

[Mizfit]

ur canuck ass stinks too its stinking up my myspace
i gotta get some airfresherner on that bitch...ill do that now...

I'm going across the border for some BO protection ASAP!

[BARLOW]

u have a new comment miz

[bigbouncinballs]

i don't care the situation, if a gf/fiance calls me a fookin loser at a family function she's out. period.

[Doc.Sust]

she didnt say "fckn" loser in front of your family did she? were they her actual words? if so ,that is VERY disrespectful in front of your family

[Mizfit]

she didnt say "fckn" loser in front of your family did she? were they her actual words? if so ,that is VERY disrespectful in front of your family

I'm reading his account of the events and it doesn't read right.. which is why i question it's 100% accuracy..

What male says to his brother.. your apartment is so much bright than my girlfriends, we should consider moving.. etc...

[HORSE~]

Who cares you dont call someone A f#cking looser in front of his or her faimly

That's F#CKED up no matter what if she had A problem she should have brought it up before or after the gathering

[Andorious]

I'm reading his account of the events and it doesn't read right.. which is why i question it's 100% accuracy..

What male says to his brother.. your apartment is so much bright than my girlfriends, we should consider moving.. etc...

well it may not be word for word, to me it makes sense if u replace "gf" with her actual name which he probly used. seems like he was jus making a comment tht they should look for another/better place. seems weird she would take tht as a personal attack on her, and i dont think there's any excuse for swearing at u in front of ur parents. esp. if they're all taking her out for dinner. I mean, sure ppl get in shity moods but she needs to be able to keep quiet long enuf to atleast yell at u in privacy if she really has to. and i think tht needs to be explained to her. causing a scene is just so immature

[Panzerfaust]

Don't air you dirty laundry in front of people, they have their own shit to deal with. I would have flipped my ****ing lid though..that's crazy.

[Bojangles69]

I need some opinions to see if I'm in the wrong.

This is what happened:
It was Sunday, my GF's birthday. I cooked her breakfast, and we played some boardgames all day. She opened my gifts after breakfast. I had bought her a set of earings, Underworld 2, and and Ipod Nano.

All day, no-one called her, or did anything to wish her a happy birthday.

But I had arranged a party for her with my family. My parents took us all out for dinner, cake, and bought her a gift.

We stopped at my brother's appartment on the way to the restaurant. I had made a comment about how his appartment was much brighter than my GF's, and that maybe we should consider moving.

MY GF took it as an insult. I was trying to explain that it is just that we have no natural light, and mentioned afew other problems with the appartment.

When we were at the restaurant, infront of all of my family, she called me a "****ing looser." And she made a comment later on about how she "should trow me out, since I never clean up."

I didn't want to cause a scene. So we left the restaurant, and I told her that it was unacceptable. She doesn't think she did anything wrong, because I don't clean enough, and I "started a fight" about the appartment. Even though I was just trying to give my brother a compliment.

We are engaged, but after the disrespect she showed me infront of my family, I am having MAJOR second thoughts. Is she going to act like that again? Is she going to do that to me infront of our kids, or to our kids?

Unless she comes to her sences tonight, and does some major sucking up to make me feel better... I'm going to be out of there.

im gonna try and keep it simple **f_cking loser* = PEACE BITCH
but the fact remains she is a woman, people get emotional and make mistakes. if it was me since i would not have wanted to raise a scene at the restaraunt i would have got up and left and not called her untill she apologized. so you asked will she do it again in the future? and i would submit that since you didnt draw the line that night (or probaly in the whole history of the relationship) she'll continue the behavoir unless YOU change YOURS and stop letting certain shit fly in the relationship. dont always feel compelled to fix things verbally, the best solution to a lot of problems is so simple people never do it, just walk away, especially when someones being deragatory, belligerent, and a straight up bitch.
On a deeper level maybe she was having second thoughts before you and her "f_cking loser" comment is a way of sorting out her own confusion by dumping her shit on to you and letting you sort out her issues. It could have been a million things but ultimately she sounds like an emotional woman who lacks a bit of class, so just know what your signing up for before you dive in. jomo.

[LetsGetItOn]

Yea I mean we are only hearing your side of the story, but definately after what you did for her all day and then for her do say that at dinner infront of your family, that is no respect at all. Give her some time, see if you two can talk it out and hear each other sides, but if she still gives you the I still did nothing wrong attitude...this will definately happen again, and I'm sure you two love each other, but nowadays love can change quickly...and it might be better getting out sooner then regretting it later for staying with it when you see the signs and have some doubts. You got to make sure man, good luck.

[cfiler]

Since I have moved into her appartment, I have been compaining about how dark it is. It's a very depressing place. She has painted the appartment, and made it to her liking; so by putting down the appartment, she feels like I am putting her down. It's a basement appartment, with barely any natural light. It is right beside the landlords appartment, so we have to be extra carefull about making noice. It's near a train-track so it's also extremely noisey.

Well, I've mentioned that I've wanted to move for afew weeks to her, and that I am unhappy with the appartment. When we were at my brother's appartment, I was trying to give him a complement about how nice his place was. I had said "It is nicer than our appartment, we should consider moving into here." I had also talked about pricing, and other info. My GF just took it as a slap in the face. When we were driving to the restaurant, she was very defensive. and I had mentioned that I thought that our appartment was a dump, and that I needed something with actual light in it.

What bothers me though, is that she did not have the respect for me, or my family to act like she was happy. Instead she embaresed, and ruined the evening for everyone. She could have yelled at me in private at home, but instead she threw a temper tantrum like a five year old.

She wants to work things out, so we are trying. It's alittle hard, because she has lost all my trust and respect.

[scriptfactory]

What bothers me though, is that she did not have the respect for me, or my family to act like she was happy. Instead she embaresed, and ruined the evening for everyone. She could have yelled at me in private at home, but instead she threw a temper tantrum like a five year old.

She wants to work things out, so we are trying. It's alittle hard, because she has lost all my trust and respect.

That's the main problem that I see, as well. Good luck, man. You're going to need it because working through this problem is going to be tough...

[firmechicano831]

If my gf did that to me I wouldn't probably talk to her for a long time. Don't try to blame your self or find an excuse. You tried to be as polite as you could in explaining what you thought and never went over board. I think it was disrespectful for her to talk to you like that infront of your family and friends. I would have dumped her ass right there. Remember that blood is thicker then water and she is water right now. Family always comes first and what you should do is appolagize for putting her place down but tell her that you need something different and that the next time she yells at you or disrepects you in front of anyone she better start packing her bags because your not going to put up with her shit.

[USfighterFC]

Regardless of not hearing the other side of the story, you dont call someone a fvckin loser in front of their family.

[bor]

i couldnt give a crap if nobody had called her all day, she should not have called you a 'fvcking loser', especially in public, infront of your family at that. you have obviously upset her, but she has been out of order. if a girlfriend of mine called me a loser and was being serious, id dump her right there

agreed

[Kale]

Since I have moved into her appartment, I have been compaining about how dark it is. It's a very depressing place. She has painted the appartment, and made it to her liking; so by putting down the appartment, she feels like I am putting her down. It's a basement appartment, with barely any natural light. It is right beside the landlords appartment, so we have to be extra carefull about making noice. It's near a train-track so it's also extremely noisey.

Well, I've mentioned that I've wanted to move for afew weeks to her, and that I am unhappy with the appartment. When we were at my brother's appartment, I was trying to give him a complement about how nice his place was. I had said "It is nicer than our appartment, we should consider moving into here." I had also talked about pricing, and other info. My GF just took it as a slap in the face. When we were driving to the restaurant, she was very defensive. and I had mentioned that I thought that our appartment was a dump, and that I needed something with actual light in it.

What bothers me though, is that she did not have the respect for me, or my family to act like she was happy. Instead she embaresed, and ruined the evening for everyone. She could have yelled at me in private at home, but instead she threw a temper tantrum like a five year old.

She wants to work things out, so we are trying. It's alittle hard, because she has lost all my trust and respect.

There you have it in a nut shell. Move out and move on brother !!!!!

[Mizfit]

You said she lost all your trust and respect.. as Kales said.. that says it all...

But please note people how his second account of events changed a bit.. notice the conversation on the way too the restaurant. Someone else had stated previously that maybe she said these things in front of his family on purpose .. I kind of a gree now...

[Flagg]

Mate, you either want to patch things up with her or you dont. You're coming out with all this stuff now about how you dislike the apartment..why did you guys move into there in the first place if you never liked it?

[Flagg]

Ahh I see, you moved in with her. Well, how come it was good to move in with her then if the place is apparantly so dingy now?

[scriptfactory]

Ahh I see, you moved in with her. Well, how come it was good to move in with her then if the place is apparantly so dingy now?

He has outgrown the apartment. It happens sometimes. My woman and I were entirely happy with our old apartment at first but we eventually outgrew it and now have a house.

[Homeguard]

Because you live wit hher she OBVIOUSLY feels like she can talk to you as she wants. She believes she has you over a barrel.

Nobody should control anybodies life, be it financial, verbal or emotional.

My opinion "Walk now bro' because you will do anyway, one day"

[animator]

i don't care the situation, if a gf/fiance calls me a fookin loser at a family function she's out. period.

He's right. It is just as important as how you "fight" as how you get along. Look, my marrige isn't perfect, but we've never said anything like that to each other , let alone in front of her family, in 10 years of marrige.

Name calling is lame, but something that vile is a sign of a problem. Imagine when you get married ! Whoa....

[cfiler]

I haven't decieded yet if we are going to stay together. I'll be with her in the mean time, but I'm not going to limit myself to her at this point. If I need to be alone, or with friends, then I'll do that.

[cfiler]

You said she lost all your trust and respect.. as Kales said.. that says it all...

But please note people how his second account of events changed a bit.. notice the conversation on the way too the restaurant. Someone else had stated previously that maybe she said these things in front of his family on purpose .. I kind of a gree now...

Yes, I did leave out some details in my first post, I didn't figure it would effect anything, but I added them later just incase.

[RA]

Did she ever do anything like this in the past? How long have you been together? It was total bullshyt but I would need to know more before saying walk. Sometimes you can give people a second chance if that is not normally in their character..