Girlfriend left me this morning...moved out...

**thegodfather** · 07-13-2006, 07:32 AM

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**biglouie250** · 07-13-2006, 07:46 AM

hey man stay strong. someday whe will realize the mistake she made. youve been nothing but a positive influence on her and she chose drugs over you. its as simple as that. you deserve better and you will find better.

My HS girlfriend broke up with me my freshman yr in college, since then she was with guys that had a lot of drama, finally she got knocekd up and had a baby. we spoke about it and i warned her that the guy wasnt going to hang around. she told me that i was wrong and "just jealous" etc etc, and we didnt speak for like 2 years. she calls me about 3 months ago, basically saying that she was sorry for what she did, wanted me back since i was the only guy that treated her with repsect. She is in a custody battle with her ex-bf for the kid, and she gets no child support from him. long story short i told her to eff off becuase i have someone now that repsects me and that i respect. people dont realize they have a good thing until its gone.

**Timm1704** · 07-13-2006, 08:02 AM

Originally Posted by biglouie250

hey man stay strong. someday whe will realize the mistake she made. youve been nothing but a positive influence on her and she chose drugs over you. its as simple as that. you deserve better and you will find better.

My HS girlfriend broke up with me my freshman yr in college, since then she was with guys that had a lot of drama, finally she got knocekd up and had a baby. we spoke about it and i warned her that the guy wasnt going to hang around. she told me that i was wrong and "just jealous" etc etc, and we didnt speak for like 2 years. she calls me about 3 months ago, basically saying that she was sorry for what she did, wanted me back since i was the only guy that treated her with repsect. She is in a custody battle with her ex-bf for the kid, and she gets no child support from him. long story short i told her to eff off becuase i have someone now that repsects me and that i respect. people dont realize they have a good thing until its gone.

so true, that and 'the grass is always greener' are the two most accurate sayings out there in my opinion. godfather, you are better off without her. you say you love her, and nothing will ever change that. but i predict, as ive said exactly the same thing before, that in afew years down the road, you wont even feel a thing for her. its gonna suck seeing her **** herself up on drugs, but, buddy, its no longer your problem. stay strong dude

**STYLE74** · 07-13-2006, 08:10 AM

I agree with timm bro!! You can't help someone that doesent want to help themselves, you will be better off and i'm sure one day you will find someone who appreciates you more and you will be much more happier and you won't have to worry every time she goes out what she is doing and with who she is doing it, were here for you buddy!!

**biglouie250** · 07-13-2006, 08:11 AM

keep yourself busy, enjoy your friends company, have them over every night. do things so your mind doesnt start to think about her. feelings will fade soon. my post was in no way to suggest that bad things should or will happen to her but i do believe in karma and typically hurting yourself and those around you with drugs breeds bad karma.

**thegodfather** · 07-13-2006, 08:17 AM

Thanks guys I appreciate all your kind words....typing is about the only thing I can do right now...people call and I cant talk on the phone I just cant keep myself together...Im somewhat fine at the moment because im in total shock and dont realise shes gone....its gonna take a long..long... time for anything to fade as Im so use to her involved in every aspect of my daily life...not sure how ill sleep tonight without her next to me and then have a pit in my stomach when I wake up alone...Its hard to think that she wont be missin me as much as im missin her...

**crash187ct** · 07-13-2006, 08:19 AM

Not really much any of us can say about your situation. It sucks, is about as good of comment as we can give. I think it takes people like you to bring out the better in others, and you although you really don't see (and I can see why) but you tried. You gave the relationship your all, she obviously didn't care enough about it to choose between the two. Drugs (as sad as it is) won this battle, maybe even the war. With the mindset you're in, and your rare ability to respect girls...I see the future holding a big pond, maybe even a sea full of girls just waiting for the opportunity to meet someone that shares your dreams and your desires.

As corny as it all sounds, to sum it up, you tried, she failed (not you), and there will be others (probably better in some aspects).

**Smart@$$** · 07-13-2006, 08:39 AM

If you love someone set them free, if they love you they will come back.

Not much on consolation so in its stead I will give you tough love advice. Let her go. Rejection hurts but what doesnt kill you makes you stronger.

**crash187ct** · 07-13-2006, 08:42 AM

There is a difference between "setting someone free", and your drug addicted girl friend picking a fix over your relationship.

**thegodfather** · 07-13-2006, 08:56 AM

Originally Posted by crash187ct

There is a difference between "setting someone free", and your drug addicted girl friend picking a fix over your relationship.

lol thanks bro...first time i laughed today but thats the gods honest truth...you shoulda seen how pale and shitty she looked this morning..her pupils were tiny as shit...she was slurrin her words as shes screamin an tellin me how horrible i am to her an how bad i treat her...the best is she had her drug addicted scumbag friend with her who also chimed in about how 'controlling' i am and never leave them alone when there out by callin or textin.....

im in disbelief and shock right now....its not real to me yet....i guess because i dont know how to handle it... 6 years of history with her i mean its a lot to just take in and see it all go out the door in a matter of 30 minutes...then i had to deal with her saying how "DONE!!!" she is with me and my shit all teh while shes slurrin every word...

**crash187ct** · 07-13-2006, 09:03 AM

was she on drugs when you met her?

**thegodfather** · 07-13-2006, 09:26 AM

Originally Posted by crash187ct

was she on drugs when you met her?

I met her when I was 14 so no she wasnt on drugs when I met her...The person she is sober is not the person she is when shes on drugs..She is just so cold when shes like...and by "on" drugs i dont mean that shes on the drug 24 hours a day, im saying the times in between her next fix she is just cold and mean...

**QuieTSToRM33** · 07-13-2006, 10:22 AM

Stay strong man ........ u dont need a girl like that ....... trust me ive been down that road before ....... find urself someone who shares the same values as u

**taiboxa** · 07-13-2006, 10:24 AM

look on the bright side.. if ur still realitively young.. this will probably happen 2-3 more times in ur life..

i guess thats not really on the bright side isi t

**crash187ct** · 07-13-2006, 10:35 AM

Originally Posted by taiboxa

look on the bright side.. if ur still realitively young.. this will probably happen 2-3 more times in ur life..

i guess thats not really on the bright side isi t

**Big Broker 1** · 07-13-2006, 10:37 AM

life is to short to stress, if you truely treated her like gold than you have nothing to be sad about. Stay busy and move on this happens to all people and sometimes more than once..good look in the future

**Lavinco** · 07-13-2006, 10:46 AM

I'll have to read the rest later.

The title got me but I have to run.

Sorry to hear you are going through this breakup.

I'll have some more things to say later.

You situation sounds very similar to mine not too long ago.

**Smart@$$** · 07-13-2006, 10:48 AM

Originally Posted by taiboxa

look on the bright side.. if ur still realitively young.. this will probably happen 2-3 more times in ur life..

i guess thats not really on the bright side isi t

LMFAO

**Katelette81** · 07-13-2006, 11:00 AM

Just be worried that she might come crawling back! Be strong... know your worth.

**firmechicano831** · 07-13-2006, 11:53 AM

I think you will be better off. You will see that the ocean is full of beautiful fish.

**Smart@$$** · 07-13-2006, 01:23 PM

Originally Posted by firmechicano831

I think you will be better off. You will see that the ocean is full of beautiful fish.

Yeah but he aint close to the ocean and dont like fish.

**Timm1704** · 07-13-2006, 01:37 PM

Originally Posted by firmechicano831

I think you will be better off. You will see that the ocean is full of beautiful fish.

i love going fishing, i always throw them back in the water though, after ive put my hook in their mouth

**thegodfather** · 07-13-2006, 01:41 PM

not even considering 'other fish' at this point....feel empty inside ive been layin in bed all day i dont k now where my heads at right now...i think im gonna try an get out an stay busy...

**Smart@$$** · 07-13-2006, 01:56 PM

Originally Posted by Timm1704

i love going fishing, i always throw them back in the water though, after ive put my hook in their mouth

hahahaha

**thegodfather** · 07-14-2006, 12:27 AM

man im a total ****in mess right now....i was fine earlier i think because i was still in shock...but now its like settling in and im headed down that dark road that i dont wanna go down...i just dont know how to get a handle on all these emotions..

**PrairieDawg** · 07-14-2006, 12:47 AM

I know how you feel bro. I was there 2 weeks ago. After I found out about my girl and that other guy I was ****ing lost. It was the day before Canada Day and I left my parents place that night in a drunken mess right after I found out to drive to this town an hour away where alot of my friends were. I was on the highway at dawn in a BAD state of mind, by myself, drinking a case of beer and smoking a pack of smokes (I never smoke). I'm just glad I didn't get killed that night or hurt anyone else. No bitch is worth dying over. When I seen my friends when I got there it was worth it and I spent the next night sleeping on a trampolean with this chick after a party with her in her sleeping bag.

Anyways the point to my story is its been 2 weeks and I finally feel better about it all. I see I'm better off without those problems and I'll find someone without all the bull shit that came with her. Things will get better bro. I know it'll take longer than 2 weeks since you dated her for 6 years but trust me things will get better. Once she solbers up she'll realise what a great guy she lost and I bet she'll be crawling back. Good luck bro. I'm going through hard shit as well you're not alone. If you ever wanna talk about it just PM bro.

"Sometimes when you're holding on you never see the light."

**sofus99** · 07-14-2006, 01:53 AM

It takes a lot of willpower to break up with someone you love, and the fact that you are even able to do it is amazing, I am not sure I could do it. But it nevertheless shows that it is the right decision, because if it wasn't, and you love the girl, there would be no way in hell you could make such a decision.

Stay strong, especially when she comes crawling in a few weeks or months. Don't even consider taking her back unless she is 100% clean, but if she is and you still have feelings for her, consider giving her a second chance, but only if you feel certain she has learned her lesson and won't touch the drugs again.

**freakintraining** · 07-14-2006, 06:13 AM

i had a similar situation 2 years ago (minus the drug part) sounds funny but i got a dog to keep me company and within 6 months she moved back in and we are now married...so what im saying is let her figure out on her own but aqt the same time do your own thing

**Mizfit** · 07-14-2006, 06:15 AM

Guy seriously.. thinks look bad now, but in a little bit.. i bet you will be glad - at least she didnt bring u down with her

**thegodfather** · 07-14-2006, 09:13 AM

thank u everyone for the support u guys have no idea how much it means to me....my friends barely sympathise with me but u guys understand exactly how i feel...i can barely eat right now im losing weight as we speak but i just feel so sick to my stomach if i eat anything im gonna puke my guts up like i did last night...im physically sick over all this i dont know what to do..in any case thanks guys means a lot..

**magic32** · 07-14-2006, 10:09 AM

Originally Posted by taiboxa

look on the bright side.. if ur still realitively young.. this will probably happen 2-3 more times in ur life..

i guess thats not really on the bright side isi t

Tai,

...you really aught to be doing stand up somewhere.

Godfather,
Keep your head up, yeah you probably wish it would rain now so that the raindrops can hide your teardrops (The Temptations). But joy cometh in the morning.

You took a firm stand that required necessary actions, and though you'll miss the comfort of her familiarity, you'll also soon be able to take solace in novelty of another's arms.

And as Kate said keep this strength, so when she inevitably comes to herself and crawls back, you can make the hard, BUT CORRECT yet choice again.

M.

**Dave321** · 07-14-2006, 10:17 AM

you're young.... young enough to get over this and move on. I felt like my life was over at 18 when my gf of 2 years took off to the university of slutology and began studying horizontally. It gets better... TRUUUUUUUST me... you'll mature from this and learn from it as well.... the next "hotter" and "kinkier" chick will appreciate your experience. be strong.

**Juicy Sauce** · 07-14-2006, 10:19 AM

Originally Posted by thegodfather

thank u everyone for the support u guys have no idea how much it means to me....my friends barely sympathise with me but u guys understand exactly how i feel...i can barely eat right now im losing weight as we speak but i just feel so sick to my stomach if i eat anything im gonna puke my guts up like i did last night...im physically sick over all this i dont know what to do..in any case thanks guys means a lot..

listen bro. remain strong. no woman is worth your time if she makes you feel like this. you did the right thing. at first it doesnt feel right cause you feel alone with out her. but thats what you need right now. it will get easier with every passing day but not if you let her back into your life. the problems will start again. just hold your head up high since you did what you HAD to do.
and we will be here to help you through this.

**thegodfather** · 07-14-2006, 10:26 AM

thanks guys...i just need to try and get my life back in order somehow..im literally just pacing around the house not knowin what to do with myself because im so used to her and wakin up this mornin and her not bein in the bed was hard....it would be a lot easier if we were slowly going down the drain over a few months or something, but this shit literally took hold in 2 weeks and even so we were still on good terms but yesterday was just an explosion...she wants to talk shit out today with me, and im open to hear what she has to say because she hasnt cheated or anything like that, but im gonna be hard pressed to reconcile if i hear anything short of "ill start going to NA meetings"....i dont know but i cant have drugs in or near my life draggin me down..as much as i love her to death...

**Juicy Sauce** · 07-14-2006, 10:45 AM

hmm... it sounds like you want to let her back in. nothing has really changed. letting her back will only make you feel better right now but not in the long run. dont forget if she went down this path once she will most likely do it again. but now she knows she needs to hide it better from you. she is preventing you from having relationships with other bwoman that you deserve. giving into her will only show that you have a weekness and she can take advantage. i woul tell her that if she gets some help and stays sober for a month then you will consider.

**mavsluva** · 07-14-2006, 10:46 AM

Pain is temporary, but bad decisions can last forever. Allowing yourself to settle or adjust to someone elses unapproved lifestyle may work for you today, but the likelihood of it lasting forever is not very good. We as humans tend to do things out of character to adjust to situations to satisfy our immediate needs, rather than our long term desires.

The positive of this is that you're separating from this woman by having to only jeopardize your feelings. You would much rather have this happen now than to have it happen after being married for 10 years.

**thegodfather** · 07-14-2006, 04:03 PM

Originally Posted by mavsluva

Pain is temporary, but bad decisions can last forever. Allowing yourself to settle or adjust to someone elses unapproved lifestyle may work for you today, but the likelihood of it lasting forever is not very good. We as humans tend to do things out of character to adjust to situations to satisfy our immediate needs, rather than our long term desires.

The positive of this is that you're separating from this woman by having to only jeopardize your feelings. You would much rather have this happen now than to have it happen after being married for 10 years.

wise words....thanks guys...im no longer answering her calls and texts that keep comin in..

**Kärnfysikern** · 07-14-2006, 04:33 PM

You did the right thing bro. It hurts now but in a year you will look back at this as the best descision you could have made!

Since I grew up with a alcoholic dad I have NO respect for any addict of any kind. They all just try to make you feel like shit, trying to dump there problems on you. If you had stayed with her she would have broken you mentaly.

I realy hope for her sake that she can kicked the addiction out of her life. Only if she is clean and sober would she deserve the kind of great guy you seem to be.

If you ever need to vent some shit feel free to pm me. I might not be able to give much advice. But Il glady listen if it helps.

**lil-SLIM** · 07-14-2006, 04:59 PM

women are all the same man, happened to me too.. **** em i lost the love of my life but like other guys say we are young it will happen again just dont make any mistakes like i did i got picked up for criminal threat for talkin smack on the new boyfriend

if anyone asks what your going to do about it....just say im going to enjoy being single! -good advice i got

give it two weeks find some things to occupy your time other then alcohol and u will be fine, try hitting golf balls at the range, or bowling, or shooting range.....somthing to do that will take your mind off it and entertain ya for awhile

**thegodfather** · 07-14-2006, 05:58 PM

cant tell u guys how much i appreciate all your support it honestly makes me feel better...for hte last 3 weeks i have thought i was the crazy one...

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