girlfriend wont get wet

**Beefyman** · 09-04-2006, 02:29 AM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

Just spit on it and carry on soldier.

OMFG that was soo ****ing funny i just spit water all over my damn desk!!!

**cbear** · 09-04-2006, 08:45 AM

we had a huge arguement about the s decline in intercorse over the last few months. she got really upset, after the crying and throwing things we had geat sex. I tryed more foreplay and allowed her to guide me as to what she wanted. She was still complaing it was uncomfrtabel afterwards. we will see if she is responcive to what we talked about, if she itsnt itll b another 10 days b4 we do it again.

**Mizfit** · 09-04-2006, 08:58 AM

Could be medications.

douching too much can cause dryness as well...

What types of soaps or clensers does she use?

**STYLE74** · 09-04-2006, 09:02 AM

I wouldn't use KY products, i have heard that they can cause yeast infections. Get some Zestra!! www.zestraforwomen.com

**STYLE74** · 09-04-2006, 09:14 AM

Check out this site also, maybe it will help. www.sexysexpert.com

**powerliftmike** · 09-04-2006, 09:24 AM

im assuming this is not post-pregnancy? cause that happens during that time. i would go to a doctor and rule out any infections. if he rules them out and doesnt offer any help then try some clomid.

**FLBMWMech** · 09-04-2006, 12:51 PM

I hear theres a new PRESCRIPTION female aphrodesiac (dubbed "female viagra") coming onto the market in the near future.. maybe theres hope

Originally Posted by cbear

First off i would appreciate serious responces only. I have been with my girl for a year now and this weekend was our aniversery. Our sex life has suffered for the last for the last few months. She has complaind that sex is uncomfortable and she has had a problem getting wet. She may be horney but her body is just unresponcive. Its like she impotent. Does anyone know why there is a disconnect between her mind and body and is there anyting i can do to fix this problem. I dont want 2 cheat on her.
she is on ortho low, since janary. She has also had a yeast infection as well as a urinary tract infection since january. Sorry if that is tmi but i really need some kind of explanation. We live together and sleeping n the same bed every night with someone that does not want to be intiment it hard.

**Johny-too-small** · 09-04-2006, 01:03 PM

I know for a fact that in many cases, if a woman's bf% is very low they will not be very "wet."

I have known several very athletic women that "absorb" or burn their period. They still have a cycle but their bodies are running with such a low bf% that this occurs.

If your lady is very active, very lean, and or has lost weight, this may be the cause. I, however, have no scientific proof only experience.

Good Luck

**Superhuman** · 09-04-2006, 01:15 PM

spend more time warming her up, and whisper into her ear before you even touch her. maybe she's not getting enough time to get wet? i don't know, i've never really had that problem with a girl. if it's emotional then it's something she will have to fix herself. for a while I couldn't stay hard when having sex with other girls (when I was with my ex) because I felt so bad about it. the mind definitely has control over the body!

***Narkissos*** · 09-04-2006, 01:27 PM

Originally Posted by cbear

First off i would appreciate serious responces only. I have been with my girl for a year now and this weekend was our aniversery. Our sex life has suffered for the last for the last few months. She has complaind that sex is uncomfortable and she has had a problem getting wet. She may be horney but her body is just unresponcive. Its like she impotent. Does anyone know why there is a disconnect between her mind and body and is there anyting i can do to fix this problem. I dont want 2 cheat on her.
she is on ortho low, since janary. She has also had a yeast infection as well as a urinary tract infection since january. Sorry if that is tmi but i really need some kind of explanation. We live together and sleeping n the same bed every night with someone that does not want to be intiment it hard.

I think some of the responses may've missed this.

I know a girl like this... She admitted that it feels like her mind and body are never on the same wave length. She gets hella horny, but it's like her lower body doesn't know.

Could be a lot of reasons for this... some pharmacological like mentioned above.. some physical (like trauma).. some emotional.. like associative behaviours

Check out the OBGYN to establish and treat the cause of the dryness... Then you two will have to deal with the mental response to sex.. cus the recent inability may've caused her thought process to associate sex with discomfort etc.

Good luck man.

Nark

**cj1capp** · 09-04-2006, 01:58 PM

so many here take it as a joke it must suck to have a partner that is unreceptive. vaginal dryness is a real problem. here is some info i cut and pasted in case you did not use the link i provided.

What is vaginal dryness?

Vaginal dryness occurs when a woman has less normal lubrication in her vagina. This problem may be intermittent or continuous.

What causes vaginal dryness?

Vaginal dryness is usually caused by changes in the level of oestrogen in the body. (Oestrogen is the hormone responsible for female sexual development.) For example, a woman's oestrogen levels drop around the time of the menopause, and this frequently results in vaginal dryness.

There are a number of other situations where vaginal dryness can occur, including using particular contraceptive methods, such as the diaphragm (cap) or the oral contraceptive pill. Some vaginal infections or allergic reactions may also result in vaginal dryness.

Can vaginal dryness affect your sex life?

Yes. Most women will experience some sort of vaginal dryness while having sex at one time or another. This may be because they are not relaxed during sex, for example if it is their first time having sex, or they may not be sufficiently aroused to produce vaginal lubrication. This can make sex uncomfortable or painful.

While this may occur in any woman at any time, it is a constant problem for women who suffer from chronic vaginal dryness, for example after the menopause.

What is the treatment for vaginal dryness?

The treatment of vaginal dryness depends on the cause. If low oestrogen levels are the primary cause, that is if a woman is experiencing the menopause or afterwards, replacing the oestrogen is an effective treatment. HRT may be taken in tablet or patch form and has the additional benefit of treating other symptoms of the menopause. If vaginal dryness is the only complaint your doctor may recommend applying an oestrogen cream to the vagina. It can take four to six months to reverse this condition, whichever treatment is chosen.

In the meantime, simple water-based lubricants are helpful in relieving the sensation of dryness. These are available in your pharmacy. It is also important to avoid chemicals such as deodorants or deodorized panty liners, as chemicals make the problem worse.

Is there anything I can do for vaginal dryness during sex?

Yes. If the problem is that you are not getting aroused enough before sex, discuss this with your partner. You may simply need to spend longer at foreplay.

Simple water-based lubricants are also very helpful.

If the problem is of recent origin or does not resolve with simple measures, visit your doctor for advice, as it may be a sign of an underlying infection or allergy.